New To The Boards

Hey guys. I'm new to this board and I'm very happy that I found it. I just started getting into astrology and I'm certainly a cancer. Wow! My mind is a bit cloudy right now, so please bear with me. I just got out a relationship with an Aries woman. I got my heart broken and feel absolutely horrible right now. My head is cloudy, I'm withdrawn, not doing the things that I like in life. I didn't know how darn selfish Aries can be. I guess I should have done my research before dating her, lol. For the first time in my life I really gave someone my heart and now it's shattered. I know it takes two to make a relationship work. However, the Aries woman that I was with was very needy and drained me beyond belief. I helped her in so many ways and when I needed her the most, she was in total disregard of my feelings. The rejection kills. I'm angry, sad, elated, but most of the time I'm very sad. Things are pretty hard right now. I'm in grad school and working full time, so I haven't had time to absorb it all right now. My mood swings are horrible. I don't know how long this will last for. I hope it doesn't last for longer than 3 months. I know Cancers are sensitive and this is what scares me. This could last a long time if I let it. I just don't know how to cope with it. I would appreciate any advice. I know my post is very scattered and that's because my mind is pretty scattered right now. That heavy feeling in my head will not go away. I'm having a hard time accepting being a Cancer. I hate being sensitive, moody and not being able to trust. People have to earn my trust, I just don't give it away. I do like that aspect of myself and I'm glad that I'm intuitive. I knew that I shouldn't have jumped into this relationship with her because I saw some signs that warned me off. The emotions were just too strong. I wish I could give me details as to what happened, but I'm not ready yet. Have to trust you guys, lol. Would appreciate any feedback or maybe email addresses. I'm living in a new place and sometimes feel alone. Thanks for any help.

awww, poor you. *hugs* Feel better?

Awww, Dylann!

I feel heartbroken for you! Actually, I am heartbroken, but by a Cancer guy. I wish I could see the qualities in him that you have. If I let him really get to me, this will be the third Cancerian giy to break my heart. I am feeling just like you. I cannot forget about him and he seems to be enjoying my pain. I have never told him my feelings for him and I will not risk doing so either. Just the same way you need to establish trust and security, I do too. I feel that the more feelings invested in someone, is the more heartbreak that follows. I wish you all the best, and things will brighten up for you. Please feel free to call upon me for support.

Hey Dylan,

I know exactly how you feel mate. Just Been there. Exact same horrible moodswings you mentioned. I was depressed for the past few weeks. Big Time.

But I've managed to get out of it - you need to put one thing in mind. There is no good that can come from being sad. Let's face it, there really is nothing you can do about the past, and reliving the past is only going to cause more pain. There is no point in imagining the future, because it hasn't come to pass. The only thing we can do is live the present. For cancers from what I have seen, this is the biggest challenge, we love to dream about the past and future.

Don't get me wrong, I'm still wounded, but you gotta let the grief/sadness go soon, otherwise youre never gonna meet the right gal, waiting for you to smile that bright smile at her 🙂

- Later

I too had an same xperience. Tried to stand upto her but realised soon. I felt she was far ahead of me. But there are limits of every person. I was fully drenched in her and she just got out of the way like there is no one like her.But i understood ...better late than never. But still today i try to remember her as a good person occasionally thinking of her as opposite.Reading on personal xperiences really help no. Great satisfaction comes from within.

I appreciate the input and advice. I'm just starting to realize who I really am now. I've always pushed it away. Sometimes it takes something like this to really to a look at yourself. Trying to live in the present and stay away from the past and the future. I've only really loved two women in my life and I know I love her so much. Been dreaming about her for the past month. I don't do it on purpose. I also fantasize that one day we'll meet up again and try to make things work. Holy crap...I'm definitely a masochist! I'm going to take the advice on these boards because it will only help me. I hope that this experience makes me stronger and I know it will. The only way it will help is if I truly learn from it. I also wish that I'm not truly in love with her because I don't want to go through life knowing that and not be with her. Does time really heal for Cancers? Or do we never really forget and those feelings remain powerful?