question for cansir (Page 3)

cansir - I KNOW you're right.
it IS all very confusing though :0)

I think your in for an emotional ride if you allow this guy to be in your life and not much of a pleasurable one, he has emotions that he hasn't let go of which is a RED flag...fyi no one said he didn't like you, were saying that he isn't that into you, atleast not enough to pursue a relationship, thats a sure signal to keep your distance.

i know it can be if you let it. just give it time, go with the flow, and see what happens :-)

tiki i think she knows that since she knows he has some serious concerns. i think xangelfishx was just trying to see where this guy might be coming from. she seems to be smart enough to let time be her ally..

I understand what your saying cansir but I don't believe in telling people what they want to hear, she's been patient and he moved on to someone else which means he really wasn't that into her. Come on Cansir, keep it real LOL!! Your a man and you know how men can be and this guy clearly saw an attractive woman but didn't feel it enough to pursue her any further than getting immediate gratification from all that attention giving he was giving.

Some men truly are like that, they like to see the effects they have on women and give women attention but have no intentions of it being more than that.

Tikki
Dayyuuum, U B laying it down don't U. I guess XF, will get the msg at some point in her life. I am done.

i don't think i am telling her what she wants to hear. i am saying not to jump to conclusions and for her to try and understand what the situation is with this guy. we don't know the true interaction between them. it could be more than we know but that isn't for us to figure out. we are just giving her our opinions on the situation and she can take it or leave it. one thing i learned is that no matter what anyone tells us we are going to do what we want anyway. that is just human nature. i am sure he saw an attractive woman and right now in his life he probably isn't ready for that. we have to remember she is his sisters friend. that weighs a lot in his decisions because it wouldn't only affect him but ultimately his sisters relationship with xangelfishx. there is a lot more going on here than just than just something cut and dry like he likes her or he doesn't.
i think immediate gratification and the need for attention works for both genders. how many times has a male been to a club where a woman gives him attention in order to get her drinks paid for with no intentions of giving him her number or anything else. they are both showing interest but each has their own agenda. it works both ways and is not just a cancer thing. this is human nature so tiki i think you are looking at this one sided. it is a matter of seeing what is going on in his life at the moment and why he is making the decisions he is making. there are plenty of gray areas here..

okay cansir I see your point but I honestly feel this guy isn't going to produce anything due to him not even calling her once, its cool that he backed off b/c his sister is involved but to not even call and say hey listen your a wonderful girl but it would be in my interest not to pursue this with you due to this fact and then turn around and give him her number and nothing came of it from that point.

I dunno, I personally feel like he's not into her but again I see your point of view and you make very valid points.

tiki i totally understand what you are saying and in the end he might not. but right now with the information given it sounds like he has bigger issues one being his financial status. we hate feeling insecure in all areas of our lives and that is a big one. as for him not calling, we cancers are not direct enough to call and say hey i like you but..we just don't operate like that because if we did and it started a confrontation we would be very uncomfortable. so i think the reason he hasn't called her is because he is still feeling things out. i can guarantee he has sat at home and looked at her number and probably has been very close to calling her. but his better judgement has stopped him because of his sisters and xangelfishx relationship. if he is close to his sister i bet that is what is stopping him. he is obviously showing interest in her by hugging her and opening up a little to her. if i just thought of some girl as just another girl she would not even have a chance at getting to know me. i would make that perfectly clear to her by my actions. it would probably be a hi, how are you doing and nothing more. tiki i see where you are coming from as well and i don't want xangelfishx to get her hopes up either but realize there are other factors involved that might be holding him back right now..

Thank U kel19.

C here is another male. I know my stuff. Don't let him drive U crazy. U drive HIM crazy. Make him work 4 that thang! LOL! Don't bet nothing on his potential. And don't tell him butter if he is not telling U butter! Period. Don't let him lure U in with his charm.

I'm sorry - but I keep seeing people type "butter"....what does that mean ?

SHI-

oh okay

kel19,

tell us more about ur scorp girl. i'm a scorp involved with a cancer guy and i can say she's doing this to u because she's definately interested and she knows how to keep u interested. best advice i can give the both of u is to continue to challenge each other and u 2 will be incredible together.

don't let her get away!

nevermind kel, i see u posted on the scorpio board, i'll talk to u there

here we go...