Sex on the first date.........

I am trying to find out how the Cancer male feels about a girl who has sex on the date? Please give the pros and cons of each. And what has been your experience with a Pisces female. Did it last? Why or Why not?

i totally agree with vanessa

I agree as well that it depends on the individual, not the sign. HOWEVER, if I was on a first date with someone I was extremely attracted to and they were very good looking, i'd go for it.

IF they like the girl I don't think they'd put much thought into it, wouldn't label the girl a slut. Just by spending time with her I'm sure they'd be able to read into her actions. That's not the problem though, I think the issue is whether sex is all he wanted and the risk is that he wasn't sufficiently interested in the girl to consider taking it further... dunno.

I do remember asking my crab if he thought I was easy the first time we hung out alone... at night... hadn't even kissed yet lol In retrospect I was painfully naive maybe... yeah anyway. I'm not sure why I asked, I thought that maybe HE thought that I was easy (for some odd reason) and would have sex with him so I wanted to start off making it clear that it wouldn't happen lol jussssssst in case 😛 He responded by saying that if he thought I was easy we'd be in the back seat by then... well he hadn't even tried so how would he know?! Ok forget that, it was all too obvious that I had no experience with boys whatsoever back then... so that didn't make me easy or not easy... I could have very well been a 'potential' slut LOL

But judging from the cancers I've met and even my bf I'd say that it wouldn't be a big deal to them if they developed an interest in the girl. They're very perceptive and would be able to judge if a girl is ummmmm slutty?... not depending on whether they slept with them on the first date or not.

I remember talking to my friend about this a while back and he said that it wasn't in the numbers or in the time frame in which a girl gave it up but WHY. Said if a girl has been with men who she truly cared about, loved or was in a relationship with it didn't matter to him... BUT if it's none of the above, a girl has no problem sleeping around with random men who she has no feelings for he wanted nothing to do with her. It's coming from a Sag male but for the most part I think it's a shared view.

This is quite tricky...

I hear many men say..."I wouldnt mind, it just lets me know she knows what she wants"...BUT..

I have also seen many men throw it right back in the persons face in the end..."She's a HO, I had sex with her on the first date"....

Its your decision as a woman...(MOST) men wont pass up sex ever...

TC, pardon me for asking but why did you wait so long to have sex with your cancer friend?

I mean I can be patient too.. but you guys must have had some superhuman self control to wait that long. I know for me that the longer I wait, the more I want it. Much less so that i'd be able to control myself if I was with the girl I liked, in my "domain", at night and alone with her..

Oh and a girl isn't a slut if she has sex on the first date.. if she does it on a regular basis.. maybe then her moral standards are indeed compromised.

Thanks to everyone who posted thier insight here. I guess I should hsve mentioned that it had been at least 4 months since me and my last bf had sex, so I guess i was feeling a little horney...anyways he thought it was a wonderful expierince so i'm ok with that and he wants to see me again. Any suggestions? Just to keep the conversation going....lol

I guess my morals are...extremely old-fashioned. I'm a cancer male, and I think I do have great self-control, and it is certainly something I look for in a "worthy female." I will not even consider dating someone I consider slutty...I guess for me sex and love are completely inseparable. I am more than willing to wait, which is apparently the extreme minority.

Actually that was a first for me. And it felt akward at first but of course at that point I was in too deep (no pun intended) so I went with it. Obviously it bothered me which is why I posed the question in the first place. Because I do care about him, but I don't want to have relations I want a relationship with him.

"TC, pardon me for asking but why did you wait so long to have sex with your cancer friend?"

- To me, sex isn't something to play with, it's serious and if I'm going to have sex with someone once I want to have sex with them many times... in a relationship. I'm not having sex with anyone on the first date or the 50th date for that matter unless we are official, period.

I waited with him because I hadn't known him that long, didn't have feelings from him right from the start, I didn't want my first to be just some random guy PLUS like I said, we didn't have a relationship... things just have to progress and develop, that's how I see it... and yes, thank you I am super human 😛

"i can only tell you from a guy perspective. whatever you do in the beginning sets the pace of the relationship."

- I completely agree with this.

- To me, sex isn't something to play with, it's serious and if I'm going to have sex with someone once I want to have sex with them many times... in a relationship. I'm not having sex with anyone on the first date or the 50th date for that matter unless we are official, period.

/Well.. i'd think by the 50th date it's pretty much official.. then again who's keeping track?/

I waited with him because I hadn't known him that long, didn't have feelings from him right from the start, I didn't want my first to be just some random guy PLUS like I said, we didn't have a relationship... things just have to progress and develop, that's how I see it... and yes, thank you I am super human

/Hey, I totally understand.. everybody does it at their own pace. I actually like a girl who takes her time and is patient and consistent. Not sure that i'd win a test of wills though. BTW, while on the subject, how do you rate us crabs in the sack?/

"Well.. i'd think by the 50th date it's pretty much official.. then again who's keeping track?"

-- Exactly 😛

"BTW, while on the subject, how do you rate us crabs in the sack?"

-- Well just today I was talking to a libra friend who just started seeing a Cancer and she told me how sexually attracted she was to him. I guess maybe I didn't help any when I mentioned once hearing that he was really good in the sac lol

I have no comparisons against my crab BUT if I am to rate crabs from my experience with my bf... I will give Cancer a 10! Yessssssssssss lol I gather that if a guy can make it enjoyable enough the first time (aside from what you CAN'T control) he must be great right? hehehehee 😉

No complaintsssssssssss. It's weird because when talking to other chics about this stuff, they don't seem as satisfied and sometimes have a lot of complaints of their men. But not moi, if anything... don't ask me unless you wanna hear me brag 😉

Ok I guess what I really like is that willingness to satisfy, to know everything I like, what I want... I guess he centers a lot of attention on me and what I like, considerate, loving, very good with hands (I luvvvv hands) skilllled tongue (me luvs), skills... knows what, where, how etc. From talking to other chics I get that their 'encounters' are a bit on the speedy side? And then their men sound like their so tired afterwards... well my crabby has lots of stamina! And if I'm **** hungry and ravenous jr is up and ready to go in no time! !!! Jr is always such a turn on lol Not to mention what a handsome fella that is 😉

Whewwwww ok I'm sounding like a perv now so I better stop here 🙂 My friend dated a crabby a while back and although he was an arse she had no complaints in that department... so it's just my guess that cancers basically make good lovers...

... and then...
2 thumbs up 🙂

I have no compliants! I am actually looking forward to my next session. It's like poetry in motion. Deep Waters with Crab and Pisces. Wouldn't you agree?