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G'night Amsole! We'll keep the weirdo lights burning lol
Posted by MoonArtist
lol CC, you're cracking me up!No, ScorpFish, I have a super high sense of justice and fair play. I'm always willing to figure out where miscommunication and misunderstandings went awry, and if they're someone I love and trust then they get even more of that. But betrayal on the order of cold, calculating and brutal is an instant closed book, you're out, drop dead for all I care, it's over. And that comes with a huge dose of looking at past repeat offenses of smaller proportions, etc. It's true that Cancers don't forget. We remember just about everything when it comes to people and relationships.
Yeah, I know what you mean and feel the same way.
Were you to have a misunderstanding with someone you were falling for, and he were to give you some space to think things over and he re-engaged you quietly and thoughtfully, would you re-consider him as a potential love interest?
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Hell yes I'd still consider him, and depending on how/what the misunderstanding was about I'd probably be jumping out of my skin and getting all worried/upset on what was taking so long for him to contact me. I may or may not let you know how anxious I had been, though. lol
So you would keep it a secret that you missed him??
What if the misunderstanding was about space and stuff?
I know Crabs want lots of space sometimes, but I didn't know it was that significant of an issue until she told me she wanted time away.
When I gave her a week off with NC, I contacted her today and she was responding within 10 mins of each text. But she is acting nonchalant and keeping things simple as a response. But her timing is what I am paying attention to here, especially since she didn't ice me out completely. Nor is she making me wait long for her responses at all. Is that good?
Depends on how much I liked him. It also depends on a persons full chart. I'm a triple cancer with a venus in leo...sooo, safe to say I'm generally moody but super upbeat but ultra loving and demonstrative to those I care about unless I'm in a dark and moody place and then the whole world will feel it and it depends on how bad the dark mood is as to how long it lasts but generally I'm in an upbeat rather bouncy mood and if that's the case and I really care about someone then they'll figure out very fast just how much I missed them and it's bound to be slightly messy.
Crabs like space and we don't like space. It's a catch 22. We like space when we're frazzled or in a dark mood. We also want to be doted on and babied a bit. But we don't want to be treated like a baby. We might be prone to pouting.
I'd say it's fairly good that she's responding quickly enough.
Also it is tough being a Cancer guy in the US. Men here are oppressed here emotionally and have the wrong definition of masculinity. I think it takes guts to be this emotional and yet not be afraid of it.
Posted by Ruh
Also it is tough being a Cancer guy in the US. Men here are oppressed here emotionally and have the wrong definition of masculinity. I think it takes guts to be this emotional and yet not be afraid of it.
Amen to that!
Posted by ScorpioFish
So you would keep it a secret that you missed him??What if the misunderstanding was about space and stuff?
I know Crabs want lots of space sometimes, but I didn't know it was that significant of an issue until she told me she wanted time away.
When I gave her a week off with NC, I contacted her today and she was responding within 10 mins of each text. But she is acting nonchalant and keeping things simple as a response. But her timing is what I am paying attention to here, especially since she didn't ice me out completely. Nor is she making me wait long for her responses at all. Is that good?
Oh sweet Fishy. LOL at you creating this thread.
You are too funny.
Posted by ScorpioFish
So you would keep it a secret that you missed him??What if the misunderstanding was about space and stuff?
I know Crabs want lots of space sometimes, but I didn't know it was that significant of an issue until she told me she wanted time away.
When I gave her a week off with NC, I contacted her today and she was responding within 10 mins of each text. But she is acting nonchalant and keeping things simple as a response. But her timing is what I am paying attention to here, especially since she didn't ice me out completely. Nor is she making me wait long for her responses at all. Is that good?
Oh sweet Fishy. LOL at you creating this thread.
You are too funny.click to expand
I am grateful for your and everyone's help.
I asked her to keep Monday night free since there is a concert I want to take her too.
Hopefully she goes with me.
Please say a prayer for me, haha.
🙂
No, ScorpFish, I have a super high sense of justice and fair play. I'm always willing to figure out where miscommunication and misunderstandings went awry, and if they're someone I love and trust then they get even more of that. But betrayal on the order of cold, calculating and brutal is an instant closed book, you're out, drop dead for all I care, it's over. And that comes with a huge dose of looking at past repeat offenses of smaller proportions, etc. It's true that Cancers don't forget. We remember just about everything when it comes to people and relationships.
^^ I resemble that..
Posted by CluelessCancer
Gnight Cardboard. Make sure not to wet yourself up. Might accidentally tear a piece off.
I dare you to say that to my face instead of hiding behind a computer screen since that's all you ever do. Maybe you should get a job, lazy ass fat fuck.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Gnight Cardboard. Make sure not to wet yourself up. Might accidentally tear a piece off.I dare you to say that to my face instead of hiding behind a computer screen since that's all you ever do. Maybe you should get a job, lazy ass fat fuck.
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Its off its meds again.
Better for you to block and ignore it.
Man this girls go at it. We guys just sit back on this board sighing haha.
Damn right I'm crazy.
Posted by Amsole11
Damn right I'm crazy.
I wasn't calling you crazy.
I'm calling the individual you quoted crazy.
Well I guess we both are :p
Haha it is okay I enjoy it. We need a mud wrestling match in here in panties and bras.
No, ScorpFish, I have a super high sense of justice and fair play. I'm always willing to figure out where miscommunication and misunderstandings went awry, and if they're someone I love and trust then they get even more of that. But betrayal on the order of cold, calculating and brutal is an instant closed book, you're out, drop dead for all I care, it's over. And that comes with a huge dose of looking at past repeat offenses of smaller proportions, etc. It's true that Cancers don't forget. We remember just about everything when it comes to people and relationships.
^^ I resemble that..
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My male twin lol
Posted by Ruh
Haha it is okay I enjoy it. We need a mud wrestling match in here in panties and bras.
hmmm...this has fun potential.
Posted by ScorpioFish
So you would keep it a secret that you missed him??What if the misunderstanding was about space and stuff?
I know Crabs want lots of space sometimes, but I didn't know it was that significant of an issue until she told me she wanted time away.
When I gave her a week off with NC, I contacted her today and she was responding within 10 mins of each text. But she is acting nonchalant and keeping things simple as a response. But her timing is what I am paying attention to here, especially since she didn't ice me out completely. Nor is she making me wait long for her responses at all. Is that good?
Oh sweet Fishy. LOL at you creating this thread.
You are too funny.I am grateful for your and everyone's help.
I asked her to keep Monday night free since there is a concert I want to take her too.
Hopefully she goes with me.
Please say a prayer for me, haha.
🙂
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Good luck! I hope it goes well 😄
No, ScorpFish, I have a super high sense of justice and fair play. I'm always willing to figure out where miscommunication and misunderstandings went awry, and if they're someone I love and trust then they get even more of that. But betrayal on the order of cold, calculating and brutal is an instant closed book, you're out, drop dead for all I care, it's over. And that comes with a huge dose of looking at past repeat offenses of smaller proportions, etc. It's true that Cancers don't forget. We remember just about everything when it comes to people and relationships.
^^ I resemble that..
My male twin lol
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🙂
Posted by CluelessCancer
Gnight Cardboard. Make sure not to wet yourself up. Might accidentally tear a piece off.I dare you to say that to my face instead of hiding behind a computer screen since that's all you ever do. Maybe you should get a job, lazy ass fat fuck.
hahahhahahhahah cardboard.
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:p
Posted by ScorpioFish
So you would keep it a secret that you missed him??What if the misunderstanding was about space and stuff?
I know Crabs want lots of space sometimes, but I didn't know it was that significant of an issue until she told me she wanted time away.
When I gave her a week off with NC, I contacted her today and she was responding within 10 mins of each text. But she is acting nonchalant and keeping things simple as a response. But her timing is what I am paying attention to here, especially since she didn't ice me out completely. Nor is she making me wait long for her responses at all. Is that good?
Oh sweet Fishy. LOL at you creating this thread.
You are too funny.I am grateful for your and everyone's help.
I asked her to keep Monday night free since there is a concert I want to take her too.
Hopefully she goes with me.
Please say a prayer for me, haha.
🙂
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Thank you Fish 😄
PM'ed my response.
Never tell to keep a day open, ask if she is available that day.
Remember you have not established a relationship with her yet.
So no assumptions, you are still in discovery mode.
I wish you the best Fish. 🙂
Cancers are underdogs? I thought everyone liked us! And who wouldn't!
But....but....We're sooooo LOVEABLE!
My goodness, I am gonna have some drinks tonight.
The good news is that my JUN 26 Crab won't leave me alone.
Just need her to get away from that Libra boyfriend, and the rest will be history.
I won't break them up, though. She has to make that decision.
Ohhhhhh, there's a boyfriend!! Hmmmm....
How long have they been dating? How long have you known her?
Posted by MoonArtist
Ohhhhhh, there's a boyfriend!! Hmmmm....How long have they been dating? How long have you known her?
A couple weeks, and I am not dating her you silly. I am being her friend and talk to her.
JUL 20 Cancer sat with me tonight, and we talked for 30 straight minutes.
I am in love with her, but I don't know what to do.
I followed everyone's advice, and apologized for the "order" text message I sent earlier today.
Did my apology cause her to sit with me tonight?
What is my next move?
Oooo la la! You have it bad, my friend! This is a good thing, though. Soooo, looks like things are progressing nicely, she obviously liked your apology. Don't worry too much about competition in the form of Libra, I think water always goes for water if the choice is there, but I might be biased. For your next move, just be yourself. Go with the flow. Throw that irresistible water charm out there. You know how it's done: funny, smooth, flirty, deep, oozing chemistry and sex appeal. Maybe the non cancer water signs will down play it and try to deny it exists but as a Cancer I'll say it for you all: we're sexy and we know it!
Really, just be yourself and let the magic happen.
Posted by MoonArtist
Oooo la la! You have it bad, my friend! This is a good thing, though. Soooo, looks like things are progressing nicely, she obviously liked your apology. Don't worry too much about competition in the form of Libra, I think water always goes for water if the choice is there, but I might be biased. For your next move, just be yourself. Go with the flow. Throw that irresistible water charm out there. You know how it's done: funny, smooth, flirty, deep, oozing chemistry and sex appeal. Maybe the non cancer water signs will down play it and try to deny it exists but as a Cancer I'll say it for you all: we're sexy and we know it!Really, just be yourself and let the magic happen.
Should I call jul 20 cancer on the telephone tomorrow?
we had such a nice reunion of sorts this evening.
jun 26 cancer is my buddy, and I don't mess with her relationship to libra.
should I call jul 20 cancer and ask if we can go to church together again?
I would! And if you sense the attraction is mutual she'll be delighted. 😄
Posted by MoonArtist
Oooo la la! You have it bad, my friend! This is a good thing, though. Soooo, looks like things are progressing nicely, she obviously liked your apology. Don't worry too much about competition in the form of Libra, I think water always goes for water if the choice is there, but I might be biased. For your next move, just be yourself. Go with the flow. Throw that irresistible water charm out there. You know how it's done: funny, smooth, flirty, deep, oozing chemistry and sex appeal. Maybe the non cancer water signs will down play it and try to deny it exists but as a Cancer I'll say it for you all: we're sexy and we know it!Really, just be yourself and let the magic happen.
Should I call jul 20 cancer on the telephone tomorrow?
we had such a nice reunion of sorts this evening.
jun 26 cancer is my buddy, and I don't mess with her relationship to libra.
should I call jul 20 cancer and ask if we can go to church together again?
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NO!!! Stop chasing her. Let her come to you if she is interested.
She knows how you feel. Be polite, work your charm. But don't flirt with her.
I thought she was older, she's 23 years old, she's not going to respond to the deep, sincere, assertive approach.
Keep it light, and a tad bit distant. Make her work to get your attention.
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.
I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
Posted by Ruh
Haha it is okay I enjoy it. We need a mud wrestling match in here in panties and bras.hmmm...this has fun potential.
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Hell yeah. How about a chocolate milk wrestling match in a little kiddy pool.
Posted by Ruh
Also it is tough being a Cancer guy in the US. Men here are oppressed here emotionally and have the wrong definition of masculinity. I think it takes guts to be this emotional and yet not be afraid of it.That's true. Somewhere along the line, alpha and beta got all mixed up.
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Right the masculine and feminine is not in your body parts rather your heart, soul, and mind.
No, ScorpFish, I have a super high sense of justice and fair play. I'm always willing to figure out where miscommunication and misunderstandings went awry, and if they're someone I love and trust then they get even more of that. But betrayal on the order of cold, calculating and brutal is an instant closed book, you're out, drop dead for all I care, it's over. And that comes with a huge dose of looking at past repeat offenses of smaller proportions, etc. It's true that Cancers don't forget. We remember just about everything when it comes to people and relationships.
^^ I resemble that..
My male twin lol
Must be fraternal twins, cause you don't look like an old used Bacon wrapped date.
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Hahahha lol it is only hard because of the staleness hahahahahahahahaha
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
You are confused because you are over thinking Fish.
It's up to you to decided which advice you would take.
I am on the side of thoughtful, sweet, and charming. I do not like to see anyone hurt, esp. at the hands of me. I do know a female who is a downright nasty, crude, and vulgar being. I have a tough time saying words that are harsh sounding. I think bodily functions are private, whereas this one cancer chick is the opposite. It's not all based upon the sun sign but the whole chart and also who raised you. Now, don't get me wrong, I can be a force to be reckoned with if need be. Usually, I am a sweet and kind. I am all for etiquette and quite despise those who lack manners. I have to male cancer friends who are the epitome of sweet. I have come across a couple bitter ones and let me tell you, they are quite nasty.
I shy away from nasty people because I don't want to get pulled into that kind of vacuum.
If there is someone in your life that does not bring you joy, chuck em with the rest of the garbage.
Cheers~
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
The one that wants you to call, call. The one that wants you to be silent, send her ass into a black hole oblivion. There's no confusion there.
Posted by Ruh
Haha it is okay I enjoy it. We need a mud wrestling match in here in panties and bras.hmmm...this has fun potential.
Hell yeah. How about a chocolate milk wrestling match in a little kiddy pool.
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Chocolate milk or chocolate syrup? 😉
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
It depends on her personality. Myself, if I really like a guy and there's chemistry then I'm completely open and eager for the contact. If I'm not feeling the connection and really don't want a guy to pursue me then he won't get my time and attention.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
It depends on her personality. Myself, if I really like a guy and there's chemistry then I'm completely open and eager for the contact. If I'm not feeling the connection and really don't want a guy to pursue me then he won't get my time and attention.
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Then why the hell did she sit with me last night? Of all the places she could have sat, she sat with ME. Oy!!!!!!
And why did she get involved in the conversations I was having with the guy sitting next to me, when she originally was part of another conversation and switched over into mine?
Dammit.
Posted by Ruh
Haha it is okay I enjoy it. We need a mud wrestling match in here in panties and bras.hmmm...this has fun potential.
Hell yeah. How about a chocolate milk wrestling match in a little kiddy pool.
Chocolate milk or chocolate syrup? 😉
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Both every kind of chocolate form that can be used for fun hahahha
I think Cancers can be sweet or demonic depending on their moods if they haven't learned to ride their emotional waves. I think that's where the "bad crabbie" syndrome comes from. I agree with "CluelessCancer" that it's really a (bad) defense mechanism but it also makes for a toxic environment. When I get down, I retreat to my shell because I know if I don't I'll turn into the "Cancer bitch on wheels" who drives everyone away. And I love my friends and don't want to drag them into my under toe.
Posted by Este8
I think Cancers can be sweet or demonic depending on their moods if they haven't learned to ride their emotional waves. I think that's where the "bad crabbie" syndrome comes from. I agree with "CluelessCancer" that it's really a (bad) defense mechanism but it also makes for a toxic environment. When I get down, I retreat to my shell because I know if I don't I'll turn into the "Cancer bitch on wheels" who drives everyone away. And I love my friends and don't want to drag them into my under toe.
Lets be careful not to use the idea of defense mechanism as an excuse for bad behavior.
There is a distinct difference.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
It depends on her personality. Myself, if I really like a guy and there's chemistry then I'm completely open and eager for the contact. If I'm not feeling the connection and really don't want a guy to pursue me then he won't get my time and attention.
Then why the hell did she sit with me last night? Of all the places she could have sat, she sat with ME. Oy!!!!!!
And why did she get involved in the conversations I was having with the guy sitting next to me, when she originally was part of another conversation and switched over into mine?
Dammit.
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Obviously she likes you on some level.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
It depends on her personality. Myself, if I really like a guy and there's chemistry then I'm completely open and eager for the contact. If I'm not feeling the connection and really don't want a guy to pursue me then he won't get my time and attention.
Then why the hell did she sit with me last night? Of all the places she could have sat, she sat with ME. Oy!!!!!!
And why did she get involved in the conversations I was having with the guy sitting next to me, when she originally was part of another conversation and switched over into mine?
Dammit.
Obviously she likes you on some level.
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I think on some level isn't enough for what he wants.
She may like him but not nearly as intensely as he does.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dammit, now I am just confused, haha.I have one Crab telling me to call her, and another Crab telling me to be quiet.
Help....
It depends on her personality. Myself, if I really like a guy and there's chemistry then I'm completely open and eager for the contact. If I'm not feeling the connection and really don't want a guy to pursue me then he won't get my time and attention.
Then why the hell did she sit with me last night? Of all the places she could have sat, she sat with ME. Oy!!!!!!
And why did she get involved in the conversations I was having with the guy sitting next to me, when she originally was part of another conversation and switched over into mine?
Dammit.
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Because she was in a bar and her girlfriend was sitting there too. Right?
I think you are attaching to much symbolism to her actions.
When all she is doing is chatting and being friendly with group members.
At this point you will have to look for signals indicating she would like to spend time with you.
Has she given you that signal?
I think you have to be patient and wait this out.
In a way, you are both right. But she did lean toward me while I was sitting there, and she did place her leg close to mine. I believe this is called modeling behavior in terms of non-verbal cues.
She also found her way into conversations that she was previously not part of, and she also asked me astute questions.
I am going to pretty much go NC at this point, and see what happens.
I wouldn't call it "intensely," but there is a certain weight that is lifted when she is around and we both have this magnetic feeling whenever in each other's company.
There is nothing I can do at this point, as I am simply not interested in pushing this any further.
Hopefully she comes around as you said, and I will continue to stay positive and confident about life.
Well, if she's giving you subtle clues and they seem positive then it won't hurt to stay in contact and have a few more casual encounters.
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Yeah, I know what you mean and feel the same way.
Were you to have a misunderstanding with someone you were falling for, and he were to give you some space to think things over and he re-engaged you quietly and thoughtfully, would you re-consider him as a potential love interest?