The Awful Crab Club now in session (Page 3)

Good call, MoonArist.

I have completely abandoned the concept of texting.

From this point, it is only the occasional phone call and I leave a voice mail if she does not answer.

Our friends are going with me to the shooting range on Saturday, and we are having dinner together on Saturday night as well.

There is our church on Sunday evening, as well. If she does not return my call, should I go to church anyway?

Also, there is trivia on Monday, and Tuesday is softball game.

Our friends will attend all events, so it should be fair to assume that she will get the word from them as well as from my voicemail invite the other night.

I don't want to call her anymore, since the phone call last night was an invitation to these events.

Just wait it out at this point, right?

Thank you again.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Este8
I think Cancers can be sweet or demonic depending on their moods if they haven't learned to ride their emotional waves. I think that's where the "bad crabbie" syndrome comes from. I agree with "CluelessCancer" that it's really a (bad) defense mechanism but it also makes for a toxic environment. When I get down, I retreat to my shell because I know if I don't I'll turn into the "Cancer bitch on wheels" who drives everyone away. And I love my friends and don't want to drag them into my under toe.

Lets be careful not to use the idea of defense mechanism as an excuse for bad behavior.
There is a distinct difference.

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I hear you and you're right...a reason is not an excuse. But there are reasons why people behave badly and we wont ever grow in wisdom or choose more wisely if we don't understand why. Of course, more often than not, we have to learn thru suffering, what not to do. Anyway, good point.

Fish

How do you get along with Scorpio women?

Maybe this would be a better match.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Good call, MoonArist.

I have completely abandoned the concept of texting.

From this point, it is only the occasional phone call and I leave a voice mail if she does not answer.

Our friends are going with me to the shooting range on Saturday, and we are having dinner together on Saturday night as well.

There is our church on Sunday evening, as well. If she does not return my call, should I go to church anyway?

Also, there is trivia on Monday, and Tuesday is softball game.

Our friends will attend all events, so it should be fair to assume that she will get the word from them as well as from my voicemail invite the other night.

I don't want to call her anymore, since the phone call last night was an invitation to these events.

Just wait it out at this point, right?

Thank you again.

Wow! Looks like the green light is on. 😄
Yes, go to church even if she doesn't...then she'll hear about it or ask and it won't look like you're only there for her and that you do have a life with or without her. I don't see why you can't give a short call/text just to shoot the breeze and ask how she's doing. Show's you care and are thinking of her.

If you can't handle us at our worst, then GTFO....

I think would be for any sign though not just cancer

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Posted by ScorpioFish
Good call, MoonArist.

I have completely abandoned the concept of texting.

From this point, it is only the occasional phone call and I leave a voice mail if she does not answer.

Our friends are going with me to the shooting range on Saturday, and we are having dinner together on Saturday night as well.

There is our church on Sunday evening, as well. If she does not return my call, should I go to church anyway?

Also, there is trivia on Monday, and Tuesday is softball game.

Our friends will attend all events, so it should be fair to assume that she will get the word from them as well as from my voicemail invite the other night.

I don't want to call her anymore, since the phone call last night was an invitation to these events.

Just wait it out at this point, right?

Thank you again.

Wow! Looks like the green light is on. 😄
Yes, go to church even if she doesn't...then she'll hear about it or ask and it won't look like you're only there for her and that you do have a life with or without her. I don't see why you can't give a short call/text just to shoot the breeze and ask how she's doing. Show's you care and are thinking of her.

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I do care very much, and you are right.

While I didn't hear any response from my text on Tuesday night, I did leave a voicemail for her on Wednesday night. Today, I invited her and some of our friends to the target range tomorrow, as well as for dinner that evening.

I am trying to apply subtle, yet consistent, acknowledgements to her. You are right in that it lets her know that she is on my mind.

Tonight, should I stay quiet and see what happens tomorrow and Sunday?

Here is the thing. She is very, very spontaneous. She sometimes shows up for stuff without telling me what is happening, so I think I should just be quiet at this point.

Hopefully she shows. Please say a prayer for me.

"Today, I invited her and some of our friends to the target range tomorrow, as well as for dinner that evening."

What I meant to say was I sent her and some of our friends a FB notification about the group events.

No calls or texts from me today, and I stayed quiet yesterday too.

Crab girls,

Be honest.

Do you or anyone you know fall into the categories described in these articles?

http://www.ghettogenius.com/2011/12/advice-column-who-dat-attention-whore.html<BR>
http://postgradproblems.com/instagram-and-the-female-douchebag/

Fish, I take it things still aren't going to well with the 20 year old.

Hey, yeah, it's interesting.

JUN 26 Cancer is 21 and much more mature than JUL 20 Cancer.

JUL 20 Cancer turns out to be a pathological liar and an attention whore, per some people who know her.

JUN 26 Cancer is with the Libra still, so nothing but friendship will be offered to her.

Ah, you Cancer girls keep confusing the crap out of me.

In my experience, there are two types of Cancers that I've met.

The first type:

Caring, kind, hardworking, loyal, good people with a dark side* 🙂

For example, my sister's best friend is a Cancer. She is the youngest of 3 girls, and has a tight family unit. Good socialization, popular, and pretty. She's caring, nurturing, and sweet. As long as you're nice to her, she'll be nice to you. I've known her for over 15 years, not super close, but I like her.

I have heard my sister say she can get grumpy sometimes for no reason, but I don't have enough details on that.

The second type:

Moody, needy, attention seeking, selfish, hypocrites, insecure, manipulative, and petty*

These are the Cancers that I've met whom I do not get along with at all.

Mainly because of the moodiness and insecurity which is projected onto the innocent people around them. I've had Cancers strike out at me because I wasn't giving in to their advances and wants. Super controlling and needy right off the bat.

I will give them a certain number of chances and then cut off contact, though they always come back, but by then I'm so done because I feel insulted (Leo Moon).

Examples:

- Cancer guy left me at a club with his friends, and walked home because men were hitting on me at a club.(first time out as friends* One week later he apologized and invited me to his family birthday dinner to meet his mom and sister.

- I know Cancers have highly changeable moods, and I try to be understanding with it. I would have plans to do something with my friend, and know that at any minute, he could feel like staying in. Which was fine with me although it's freaking selfish when you think about it because it's my day off too. Even still, I let him decide.

However, before we meet up, the conversation goes like this:

Him: Are you happy to meet me?
Me: Yes of course
Him: Really? Why?
Me: Because you're fun to hang out with. (thinking that's the end of it)
Him: Fun how?
Me: Hard to pinpoint, but it's a good thing.
Him: Give me some examples.
Me: Well I don't know you that well yet, but you seem fun and interesting. Why do you ask?

This goes on for another 20 min, back and forth.

- Same Cancer was sick and I was a good friend and visited him bringing tea and treats. When I became sick on a day we were going to chill and watch a movie (no major plans), he got huffy and didn't ask me if I needed anything. WTF is this kind of selfish behaviour?? 😢

I want to hear more about the good Cancer.
You spent half a page on the bad one.