The Dance of the Cancer/Taurus (Page 2)

lol true.

I wouldnt say sensitivity is the downfall of the Cancer, its the indirectness that kill me. I love how sensitive the cancer man is, its so cool when he can tell me how he's feeling and show it, his pouty face and silly grin.

lol awwwwwww, my cancer frined was giving me his puppydog face lol, i have never gotten that form him before, it was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo cuutteeeeeeee...

oh shit, i almost totally bruised his ego. i apologize if this is too graphioc..... but, okay fine its too graphic nevermind.

anything that does not start out right does not end out right,lol. What about the middle,lol or halfway near the epicentre. Nahhh things can be worked out. But we are sensitive but hey everyone sensitive,lol. Touch a nerve or two and you will see all kind of sensitivity,lol. Sweet fatale mmmm mmm mmm i can stare at ur pic whoooolllee day. I think ur boo does u know but he probably shame to say so. Have u taken a pic together sweet fatale. JUst take a day and both of you just go to the beach or a park. SOme goooood fresh air would uplift the spirits.

You're so sweet BK, that's an excellent suggestion but it seems like his time it all taken. I might suggest that we go chill at the park, maybe walk his dogs, that WOULD be nice. I LOVE that Tarus Riley song so much I put it on my MySpace page. I dont think I could ever swear off Cancer men.

cancer lady - if we bulls weren't so stubborn we couldn't deal with the cancer indecisiveness...but as it is we just aren['t willing to give up ! I know I'm not....damn cancer.....got me all worked up and doesn't give a damn..... *sigh*

You're right and yes she does don't say that. I know it might appear that way but everynight I'm sure she lies in her bed and thinks of you, but she'll probably never tell you that. Yes now sense you guys have said it I guess I can admit too Cancer being indecisive. Which is hard for the Cancer to except because we suppose to have it together and we do *wink wink* lol.

BK I don't think you understood what I meant. Things can be worked out and you should try and work things out while in a relationship. However the flow of how things start will be the determining factor on how things end up in the relationship. In LLT's case she had a man Cancer had a woman but they messed around but she wants a serious relationship with the Cancer. How would a serious relationship emerge from a relationship that was just based on sex. It wouldn't, which is why when he came over and she didn't want to have sex he left. What else would he want from her when thats what was given at the start. He got everything upfront without being in a committed relationship so why would he want one from her. See what I mean. Or he could make LLT his girlfriend and within a week of the relationship he'll be cheating on her guarenteed. How things start will make or break a relationship thats also were the saying "how you get em is how you lose em" comes from.

"You're right and yes she does don't say that. I know it might appear that way but everynight I'm sure she lies in her bed and thinks of you, but she'll probably never tell you that. Yes now sense you guys have said it I guess I can admit too Cancer being indecisive. Which is hard for the Cancer to except because we suppose to have it together and we do *wink wink* lol. "

was that to me? if it was I think you meant *HE*....but in any case I doubt he lies in bed at night and thinks about me.

Oh yes sorry I meant "he" my typing gets head of my thinking sometimes lol and why don't you think he would be thinking of you and you're a pisces right?

It doesn't matter, I'm sure you know your Cancer guy.

lol Merc shut up. Do Cancers sit around and think about people lol? I figure he's too busy to think about me, unless I call him and he's like "Hayyyy!!" then I know he was kinda looking forward to a call. Hard to read a crab that doesnt want to be read unless you get some direct eye contact.

Yes we ponder, our minds are always at work our shells cover alot so all the mushy stuff we do you wouldn't think we did because if we'd let you know then you'd probably take it and run with it, so we can't give you that much rope, you might hang yourself.

I was thinking thats the reason why the Cancer Im interested in DOOESNT give me anything to go on, because he's scared to give those things because I'll take advantage of it not because he doesn't WANT to do them.

Exactly!!

so I really do have to just wait unil he trusts me and we move forward or he tells me nothing is going to happen?

Well Merc there is a difference between a friend and someone you want affection from. Of course I have FRIENDS when they dont get in contact with me Im like "oh well", but if there is someone that is more than a friend and I want them to be more than a friend and they aren't affectionate I start to think that surely their feelings have changed and being that I want them to like me Im not happy with a change in feelings. Stop acting like a hard a $ $ and try being human, I hope no one is buying the "untouchable Merc" front.

Yes SF. He'll come around when he's ready not before and in the mean time pay attention to his actions and you'll know exactly where you stand with him until he decides to make things offical. Merc thats not nice! I agree with living your life though. The worse thing you can do is make a person the center of your life. Its attractive when you have other things going on like hanging out with friends, and other interest. That lets a person know that they are wanted but not needed by you. Everyone wants to be wanted but when you start to feel like you're needed by someone especially someone you're not in a serious relationship with it becomes a smoothering thing and thats when you hear those famous words "I need space" but as long as you are having a life outside of the person you're interested in then they feel comfortable with knowing their wanted by you but don't have any handcuffs on.

Seems like the guy Im talking to got shaken when I started spending less time at home. It meant cutting conversations short and doing more things he had to wonder about. Now of course that isnt stopping me from doing me, but it can be a catch 22. lol A lot of guys in my past admitted they liked me because I was like a rock: strong, steady, and always there. I wasnt a fluttering butterfly that they watched move in grace through the world on her own whim to return as she wishes. Im still trying to find a balanced point between the two.

Yeah I've already done that Merc. Im not one to spend the rest of my life chasing wind, but I do want to show that I can be loyal and dedicated.

everytime i come back to the wall, i wanna shoot myself for making a move on the cancer male. i called him this morning, to apologize for the night ebfore( i thought i calle dhim, but he said i didnt, and i wa slike: okay koool, nvm then have a good day at work.)
then i called him again jus 15 minutes ago, becuase i was wiating for the library to open. and he snapped on me saying: are you oging to start this agian?
me: what?
him: callin me everyday...
i got defiensive... yada yada... then said.. wut happened to ebing nice?
him: IM AT WORK.
im like: okay thas fine, thas why i asked if YOU can talk, if not then jsu say no.
hes like: okay goodbye

i was fuming. i wnated to send him an angry message , but i didnt, i thought its better i jus take wut he said into consideration, and give him space.
but it bothers me that i can only talk to him liek once a week.
Cuz i talk to ppl alot everyday. im very social with my close friends.

from now on, i am not bringing my cell phone with me NE WHERE! lol

LLT....really Hun. Its hard to tell you to leave him alone and Im pursuing a guy too...but Hun really are you not getting the hint? Not only is he seemingly not interested in you, but he isnt very nice or close mouthed about it. Honestly, I almost wish I heard the things from the guy I want so I could really walk away knowing where we stand...listen to what he's telling you and take it to heart!!!

😢 it hurts

its going to hurt, but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger...and smarter and wiser. Thats life Hun, but getting your dignity and self respect back should mean enough to you to go through the pain. Really you're chasing a guy that didnt respect you enough to make you more than a girl on the side. He wont even be your friend but he'll have sex with you? Are you really feeling that low that you would not only let someone put you in that position but PURSUE it? You're worth more and if you dont act like it no one else will!!!

I know it hurts but you're killing your self esteem in the process. The more you obsess over this guy the lower and lower your standards are getting. Don't call him anyone more and go out and have some fun and meet some new people that can put a smile on your face and not have you upset. You're only setting yourself up to attract losers if you keep lowering your standards for this guy.

Im almost tempted to tell you to get off this board, you arent dancing with the Cancer, you're letting him walk ALL over you...

Really I would never tell you to get off a board but seriously Hun...you have to stop, you're starting to make me wonder if you're a glutton for punishment or just sadly dull. Taking into consideration how this man treats you it shouldnt be hard to leave, or even hurt to leave.

oh god your all right. i never used to be like this either.
i have to get over this idea in my head that leads me to believe his opinion of me matters.
it doesn't.
im glad i didnt send him an angry message. that woulda just showed him how much his words affect me.

okay then, i will leave.

Even if his opinion of you does matter, what would you rather him see you as: an obssessive bothersome woman with no self respect and low standards or a strong woman who got tired of his bullbutter, pulled herself up, left him in the dust and did her thing? Girl Im a taurus born on the same day as you and I LOVE when guys see that Im strong and I know for sure who I am and what I want. Of course it intimidates a lot of them, but if they cant handle it its best they get out of the kitchen.

YOU are the one that needs to think about why and how his words affect you and if you WANT them to have that affect on you. You actually have the power to decide how things affect you. At first it takes a conscious thought process to stop an initial reaction and begin the reaction you desire, but after a while you just begin the reaction you desire without having to think bout it. EVERYTHING SEEMS BEYOND YOUR CONTROL UNTIL YOU LEARN HOW TO CONTROL YOURSELF!!!!.

LLT...I just said i would never seriously ask you to leave....relax and stay.

well, i learne dhow to contorl my impulsive anger atleast.
lol now i gotta learn to let go of an unhelathy thing.

its been going round and round in circles for over a year now, its never going to get any better becuase both parties have to wnat it. and time and time agian he's proved and said that he will not make any effort in trying to be my friend, or lover. my persistancy will have to channel itself on another project from now on.

doesnt help that im PMSing lol
sry SF, im cranky these past couple of days.

girl your crank aint botherin me lol. Naw really you should WANT something better, something different, and you said it, something more healthy. I hope want day soon that you really decide that you want something else and you're tired of this mess.

Yeaaaah puppy dog plus DOG SHYT emabarassin to say the least merc. Yeah Taurus riley is ringing out my ears right now,dat song is playing all over he damn place it even on my phone. Tauruses always want something more and cnacer lady you can have sex from da get go and still end up all right. You cna have sex in the middle of the relatiosship and it gets focked up.SO all in all is just of a matter of knowing each other wants and needs. And if you really are into each other then listen to timbaland song"THE WAY I ARE" and yes i do music ..... and nex big tune MOVADO"squeeze bress". DXP git a chatroom and and a dj booth pleeassssseeeeeeee.

"Oh yes sorry I meant "he" my typing gets head of my thinking sometimes lol and why don't you think he would be thinking of you and you're a pisces right?"

no - I'm a taurus - and because he isn't MY cancer guy - I just wish he was.

that's okay blackknoxx....you can love on sweetest all you want..... THIS bull isn't jealous :0p

lol BK, I LOVE that you do music cuz thats how I get deep messages across too. check out "If You Ask Me To" By Patti LaBelle, that is so how I feel about this Cancer Im dealing with. Problem is...I dont think he'll ever ask.

He will when he's ready and sure he wants you and no one else. It takes us a while but the bull is the same. You guys don't rush into anything. You know we're indecisive but when it comes to love thats one thing we want to make sure we're sure about, thats why it takes time for us. Once we make up our minds about who we want to call our own theirs no turning back after that. We want to make sure its going to work out, we don't take heartbreak well at all. I love music too. There are lots of songs that remind me of my bull and he has songs playing, (you know how you can call someone and while the phones ringing you're hearing music) he always has a song describing how our relationship is at that time or how he feels. When he was trying to tell me how he felt about me of course he couldn't say it verbally so he put Brandi Carli "The story" on his phone. I was in tears when I heard it. SF listen to it! Its sooo sweet.

I listened to the song and it was very sweet. He seems to be very thoughtful just like me. I've always put songs on my online profile that reflect how Im feeling, sometimes about the Cancer guy.

Yes he's a sweetie, how do you put music on your profile? I want to do that too.

i dont think you can put music on your DXP page, but I have it on BP and MySpace. Let me check to be sure tho

thanks syzygy.... and yes, thas wut ive been doing, i hopped irght on the bike and did a vigorous workout. it felt great. now i got today planned out between hmwk, and exercise.
feels like a week has lreday went by since ive talked to him, but it was jus yesterday. lol
but im back on track. i figure, i cnat contorl the situation, i can only contorl my reaction.

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyy CL, you CAN put music on your page, just find a html code for it (SomeCodes is a good site) copy and paste it into a field on your page and it will be on there.

Ok cool let my try it.

OMG, I just took a step and went all in for this cancer. The angle that I came at I think he'll let me know where we stand, so this could very well be the crushing of my heart lol (i know im being dramatic). But I'd rather know where we stand and be able to do something then stand safe and never know.

Yep you bulls are great at playing it safe and not wanting to take a chance, but good could come out of it, we'll just have to wait and see. Maybe this is what he's been waiting for all along, never know.

Im so nervous right now waiting for his reply. i dont know if this is what he has been waiting for or if he thought I was asking for advice about pursuing a guy because i was finally going after someone else and he was happy to that I would be leaving him alone.

Oh no. Well lets wait and see what he says.

lol dont you like how I just automatically jump to the worse case scenario, sometimes I can be so pessimistic but it kinda cushions the falls in life and sweetens the rises. Are there any benefits to being optimistic?

Dayum, he ran from the convo (I know Im being dramatic). Basically I asked how to let a guy know I really like him if I've tried everything. He said hit him in the head with a hammer and drill it in his head. I asked if he could stand the pain if I did that. His reply was Im not the one that has to worry about that. My reply was yes you are...but he signed off, he never even read my reply....so he doesn't even know that he's the guy Im asking him advice about...so now I have to wait until he does sign back on and read the message. Oh the torture.

Sure. Being safe limits you and you should want to always go for your full potential.