The Dance of the Cancer/Taurus (Page 3)

Oh I get tortured by my bull, but I'm use to it now, so it'll bother me for like a quick second then I'm over it.

so close yet so far. I REALLY hope he isnt upset thinking I like some other guy tho. I know for him to be upset he would have to care and I dont want to assume that he does, but how could he just get to the climax of the convo then leave!! Just one message away from maybe getting some kind of clarity and its back to waiting. Ok so Im probably rushing things and I know I just need to be patient..but why...is this...taking...so long!!!! It didnt take anytime for us to talk like old friends, to joke and laugh like best buddies, and even get some secrets out in the open...why is it taking so long to find out if im wasting my time pursuing more or not.

Thats giving you everything. He doesn't want to give you everything. He wants to wait till he feels its best for him or something he wants to do but when he's ready to do it. At times we think the sun rise and sets on our butts lol.

I see...and he has such a cute butt too. lol Im ok tho, I'll just let it go, because even if he does see the message he probably wont reply, not to something that direct and clear.

The more you push the further away he's going to go. Just wait he'll come to you once he feels you're not applying any pressure for him to do so.

well i asked him previous to how I should pursue the guy if i should pursue the guy and he said if its what I want then go for it...I said how should I go for it, he said hit him in the head with a hammer and drill it in there...smh maybe he really did think I was talking about someone else :o(

SF - Be patient and don't think negatively or stress yourself.

One of the reasons besides being busy that he could have logged off after he asked was it him could be because he might be worried just as much as you about your reply. Why else would he just log off when you are about to respond? I myself would be very nervous in that situation.
Another possible reason is so that he can think of a response to both scenarios (if it him -vs.- if it is someone else)

like I said Im cool on it, no stress I'll just see what happens but I wont worry about it. There are a lot of what ifs right now so there is no sense on dwelling on one or the other. I dont have a choice but to be patient so...thats what I'll do lol. And on goes the dance

I'm dancing along side you lol

lol always glad to see other couples on the floor.

I kind of have this picture in my head of your crab sitting there typing his response, his heart racing thinking "yay she DOES want me!" and thena split second after he sends the message panic strikes and he thinks "oh no...what if it's NOT me?? I can't handle that...what did I do... I better go I don't want to hear the response..." and he's OUT

Im thinking the same thing Angel. Or he catches an attitude as his usually does and his last comment is more sarcastic chagrin than it is genuine advice. And he's upset and he walks away from the PC and swears he'll never look back for me.

HE CALLED ME!!!!!!!!!!
i was on his porch tlkaing to his sister, about frineds sex, you know, women stuff. and his bedroom is right ontop of the porch.
ne way, i went home....as im wlaking, he calls my cell, and he asks: did u talk to my ex?
i said: no, i ahvent talked to her in years, y?
him: i heard u guys talk on the porch
im like: okay? we werent tlaking bout u or ur gf.
him: r u sure? i heard u.. bla bla bla
me: im sure, dont worry, i was tlaking bout my frineds.. bla bla
him: dont talk to her
me: i kno that, dont worry.
him: okay
me: are u okay?
him: yah
me: okay
bla bla, hung up

and i found out that hes totally crushed right now. his sis told me his gf ended it with him, he says he doesnt know why, he cried, has no firneds either, they "backstabbers"
and hes lonely.

sad thing is, hes a good perosn inside, but hes selfish to the bone..
he used ot tell me he woudl tlel his gf not to cry to him, that he doesnt care bout her stupid problems ( not a good thing)
and he treated his frineds like shit, and they just stood up to him, and got payback ( he had it coming)

anywayz, i dont need to get mixed up with his shit right now, hes obviously falling apart, if he wnats a firned, i will be there for him, but he said he doesnt, soooo im not gunna get mixed up with all his moodswings, he will bring em down with him.

lol he's grasping at straws girl, dont waste your precious time or emotions on him, he's just reaping what he's been sowing. He'll get over it and be better (hopefully) for going through it. You cant be a good person inside and be selfish, thats like saying "my best friend killed my favorite pet today"...thats NOT a BEST friend

I don't know - you know him, I don't - but I don't think it was sarcastic - I think he told you to "pound it in his head" because he was trying to encourage you to reach out to him...... but like I said he may have panicked at the last minute

no i mean his final word when i asked him "if I did that do you think you could stand the pain" was "hell...im not the one that has to worry about that" THEN he left

okay - but that might have been him fishing for you to say that it WAS him....then he panicked when he realized "what if she means someone else?"

Yeah i think so too, thats why I responded by telling him that it was him, but by that time he bailed. I thought I was so close to getting the air between us cleared, apparently not. I guess its just not time...its like Groundhog Day, maybe next time I'll do it right and he'll know and believe how I feel about him lol

well eventually he'll log on again....will the message still be there? I know when I send a message on yahoo messenger to someone offline they get it when they log on

yeah its on a system like private messages here. But I think by then he might have lost the nerve to reply so Im not even really looking forward to a response to it, he might already be too far in the shell.

well if it was me the next time I saw him on I would ask " so when you say to pound it in your head with a hammer and nail are you trying to tell me I'm trying too hard? or do you really want me to do that?"
but that's just me.... I'm REALLY shy, but once I take that first step I'm in perpetual motion.

Why are there so many taurus/cancer problems? There's enough written here to write a book.. just kiss and make up and start preparing for Halloween.

Im too scared that it would hurt more than help to bring it up again. See him and I are more alike that we are different. If he is scared that Im talking about someone else Im just as scared that he hopes I'm talking about someone else. I want to bring it up but I dont want to pressure him into telling me and I dont want to seem desperate. I guess this is a good point to clarify that in this Cancer/Taurus dance it takes both partners to keep it going. I might mention it again tho, even if he doesnt reply. lol I love his hair so maybe I'll say "so could I drill it in your forehead? You know I REALLY LOVE your locs." Thats bringing it up, letting him know it is him, but its also joking enough that there is no pressure. Gosh I miss him so much.

lol SRG, maybe if I ever get this cancer we can write a book, being that we both love reading and writing. I think this board is so long because there is an undeniable taurus/cancer connection that isnt at all easy to figure out.

Not easy to figure out? For me, taurus's are the easiest of all people to understand. Everything you need to know right in front of you. I guess i'd have to be in your shoes to understand because otherwise I can't comprehend what can possibly be the problem.

oh im real easy to figure out and im honest and he's easy to figure out and he's honest, its the connection thats hard to figure out. Its like fitting the 2 together. We have the same worries and we have the same worry about being rejected so we worry about worries and do little else.

SF, what you need is a beach with a pina colada in your hand to clear your head..

SRG - these are tame problems - I think the point is more that we are here trying to understand and taking our frustrations out HERE rather than on these men - or just plain up and walking away.
We bulls LOVE you crabs - even you, you scorp chasing rascal you.........

although I'm all for the beach and the pina colada - better yet make it a whiskey sour....or jack straight up.....

Don't be hatin ladies.. I never give up chasing the scorps. When i'm ready to settle down its be back to the taurean charms.

no ones hatin'

BUT.... you play around like that and no taurus woman will want you :0p

Pfft.. thats just a theory. Taurus women can't get enough of me. My programming is only pro-scorp right now.. mostly likely when i'm done with my fun I will end up with a taurus. I hope I do.

lol I LOVE Pina coladas. Im a taurus with a scorp rising...irresistible. lol Yeah these are very tame problems. This man has invaded my thoughts. Im not desperate or obsessive, but I just want it so bad Im a wreck. There are like 5 other guys I could talk to and I would trade them all in happily for this one guy. We're great as long as we act like friends. And I mean act in every sense of the word.

I love vodka martini's.. like James Bond.

SRG - you're wasting your time hun - find yourself a nice bull and settle in.....

SF - yeah I'm a scorp rising too.....and I completely understand how you feel about your cancer.... mine isn't even MINE and I can't get him out of my head!

LOL - we're both taurus with scorp rising - SRG You can't handle US !!

vodka - ewwwww....... Whiskey !!!

There is nothing I can't handle.. I have mars in scorpio, moon in capricorn and venus in cancer so you ladies are CANNON FODDER for me

Whiskey.. I learned from a young age not to drink that axle grease

lol vodka is only good in margaritas or with a lot one pineapple and cranberry. Not that I drink that much, but I taste. I dont have a cancerian liver so I cant drink that hard stuff to often anyway.

Im so glad someone is feeling my pain Angel. A man so right for me, surely he must see that he was made to be mine (spoken like a true Taurus)

I have a cap moon too, lovely!

TOO MUCH BURN FOR YOU ? THE WHISKEY THAT IS......

ohhh....you so could not handle the two of us...we're goddesses

Only time i'd use whiskey is if my car ran out of gas in the middle of nowhere.

what's with hiding your comment—

Im so glad someone is feeling my pain Angel. A man so right for me, surely he must see that he was made to be mine (spoken like a true Taurus)

LMAO - too damn true........
Yeah I feel ya.....

No ladies it is you that don't understand what you're dealing with.. i'm a machine

lol shoot if whiskey cost less than gas maybe I should buy it in bulk. Oh yeah we're goddesses, ask somebody lol.

I hide it because I have to.. where the edit button?

can't take the heat.....that's why they call it firewhiskey dear...

what sort of machine?

but what did you write that needed hiding? if we can talk about the size of my breasts I'm sure whatever you wrote couldn't be that bad !