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Wow CL this sounds pretty serious!

He sounds sorta immature about the whole thing...had you been together as a couple for a long time? Or was it more like a casual dating situation?

I mean, had he ever made a verbal commitment to you prior to his present irresponsible behavior over the whole affair?

I know all about single motherhood (I am one) and believe me one ALONE is no walk in the park. I sure hope you have a support network around you.

C-lady,

First off congrats on the double 🙂... Secondly, when it comes to p-man ask yourself some questons before you act this way or that... 1. Are you willing to deal with him flying off the handle and making you feel like crud everytime there's a bit of a shocker? 2. Can you handle his flip flopping of emotions when it comes to situations? 3. Can you handle (cause I've notticed you mentioned it)being another one of his babys momma? It doesn't sound to me that he's ready for a total commitment. And last but not least... 4. Are you willing to work with him, if these are things he decides to work on it all for you +2—
I'm not saying that things aren't possible and to drop him like a bad habit, but make sure to have a clear perspective of who he is, and if you can deal with it, before you give him so much merit. As it stands right now, I don't see that he has given you enough to work with...

Take care and good luck!!!
Storm

Well Lindall...

We were casually dating for over a year and he decided to make it a couple thing after I told him he wasn't the only person I was dating. We might have been a couple for maybe three months then I turned up pregnant.

About the verbal commitment thing...he has apparently been telling me what he thought I wanted to hear instead of the real deal, so I can never tell because he flip-flops so much, I can't keep up!

As far as the support, I am going back to Indiana where my family is for at least 2-3 years...I have my mother, father, two sisters, and a host of friends so I should be okay! THanks for caring!

Okay Storm...

1. Sometimes I can deal with a little anger because I go off the handle myself so I can't fully expect perfection from him when I am not there myself. I usually let things build up until I can't take it anymore, then I explode. All this craziness has chipped away from my love for him and I still have plenty and probably could take alot more, but I refuse to. Why hurt myself & my kids in the long run? But I get the point of you asking that.

2. I could handle alot more of his BS if he was physically around more. We never seem to have these problems until he disappears for weeks at a time and I get so lonely that I flip out and there we go!

3. LOL I really don't have a choice now, but it does kinda piss me off that he gave his other b-moms a chance first he was with 9 yrs, second 7 yrs...but he is ready to write me off immediately...kinda hurts too.

4. Well I can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. I can't show someone what real love is if they keep pushing me away when I show it to them. I've noticed over the last few months that the only time he responds positively is when I go nuts and tell him to kiss off...I can't be in another relationship like that. There will always be a place for him in the kids life, no doubt...but until he SHOWS me he is truly ready to be there for me physically and emotionally (not just talk about it) then I have no choice but to move on. Which I have done this weekend...he has been calling but I won't get caught up in his lies again. It's all about SHOW and PROVE now.

Thanks for caring and thanks all others for reading throught the befuddlement that is my life. LOL He is still SOOOO cute though...I still love me some him, but don't tell him that!

CL

Cancerlady,

I am a 30 yr old single mom & love my daughter & the sperm-donor 'father' but he --though sweet & cute--was a bunch like this guy you are dealing with.

I am just grateful I got my education first. I only wish I'd waited for a more stable type of man.

You already know you have choices; I just hate to see a smart pretty young lady tied to someone so immature for life. He is already upsetting you & you know your emotions are passed on through the womb to the baby.