Was Cancer Man Playing Me?

Can anyone offer any info/advice as I am head over heals in love with this Cancer and don't know if he has been playing me...
Met online 5 months ago and there was an instant connection for me, but I kept quiet about it, and just started out texting, he sent some text's saying how his feeble attempts were maybe pigtail pulling as I was pretty and had very kissable lips etc. (I know it sound creepy but in context with the other text's in between it wasn't)
anyway it progressed to where we met up and started a physical "thing", neither of us said relationship or friends with benefits or anything, but we would literally spend up to 8hrs a day every day messaging each other, both initiating contact so it wasn't one sided, in between work hours, spoke about anything and everything, met his parents, told me about his childhood, I spoke to him about my life and family and friends
he bought me small gifts, I cooked him food
he used to reach out and grab me when I walked past, very huggy and physical and kiss passionately

then on Oct 29th last year we had this lovely day out, I slept over his, we kissed goodbye next day, nothing was different, then the next day I heard nothing from him which given how frequent we used to text was worrying
well days turned into weeks and the contact I had was bare minimum, one word answers or just showing up he had seen the text's but not replying, I could see he was online so didn't know hat I had done
sent him really long message asking what was up and for him to show some courtesy and at least tell me what I had done to warrant this sudden change. he said he was unwell had lot on (which I know he did he was starting his nursing course and was still working 14hr days) but that he had been thinking and that he wanted us to remain friends but no longer physical (obviously I had fallen for him by now and was devastated, nut respected his wished to remain friends

All of Nov he was distant, and into Dec, then the week before xmas he turns up with gifts for me and my daughter from him and his parents... the contact over xmas was through text and he seemed to be getting back to his normal chatty self
then NYE he invites himself over as his original plans to go up a mountain had fallen through due to bad weather...
then as midnight approaches he starts to tell me how he has met someone, and that he doesn't know how he feels about her etc...

that was 7 days ago and I am still crying over this man, as that night he turned

sorry posted it before finishing it
it should finish as
that night he turned around and told me he had never had romantic feelings for me and he just saw me as a friend, his best friend

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Posted by Welshcakes
don't know if he has been playing me...we met up and started a physical "thing", neither of us said relationship or friends with benefits or anything,


he said he was unwell had lot on (which I know he did he was starting his nursing course and was still working 14hr days) but that he had been thinking and that he wanted us to remain friends but no longer physical (obviously I had fallen for him by now and was devastated, nut respected his wished to remain friends


then as midnight approaches he starts to tell me how he has met someone, and that he doesn't know how he feels about her etc...

that night he turned around and told me he had never had romantic feelings for me and he just saw me as a friend, his best friend

that seems pretty straight forward. you took a risk sleeping with a man hoping it would turn into a relationship. Especially a Cancer, they don't usually start undefined, physical relationships with people they are really interested in.

You had a nice experience, enjoy the memories but don't drag it out because you caught feelings while he didn't.

I'm sorry it's hurting but he's being very honest with you. It baffles me how people can't seem to wrap their heads around that honesty. Always looking for hidden reasons or flaws in the Cancer personality over why they weren't the "one". Of course they're flaws, I mean he could have told you from the start that this was a friendly, casual thing... but it's your vagina... maybe you should have asked him about his intentions before letting his penis enter it.

This is not sign specific, it's females in general. It really saddens me how casually women will sleep with a guy then turn around and say they were played. If you're having casual sex... please expect CASUAL! In this day and age when sex seems to be an ice breaker... how the hell can you think yours is something special? Every female has got the bits for sex, you know. Shit is so backwards...

Have some dignity though and don't beg, text, send more messages, keep phoning or try to continue a friendship if you have feelings for him.

Consider it a life lesson. Lets hope you're a fast learner.

"but it's your vagina... maybe you should have asked him about his intentions before letting his penis enter it.

This is not sign specific, it's females in general. It really saddens me how casually women will sleep with a guy then turn around and say they were played. If you're having casual sex... please expect CASUAL! In this day and age when sex seems to be an ice breaker... how the hell can you think yours is something special? Every female has got the bits for sex, you know. butter is so backwards..."

Thanks for the reply, maybe I should have stated he was the first person I slept with in 7 years, after ending my marriage... I don't just open my legs for anyone, I cant and wont sleep with someone unless I have feelings for them...

I was just looking to see if this was a "general" cancerian man behaviour but anted to explaint he situation

1) he hasn't been playing you. That's the cancer man way.

2) yes, he was honest....but after months of silence. THAT is not mature honesty, but definitely a wake up call.

3) you have to tell a cancer man you want him with WORDS. He will gladly go thru the motions because playing house is what cancer man wants...but if you havent claimed him, he's going to continue looking for the next best thing.

4) nip this in the bud now and cut ties with him. You have feelings for him, he doesn't reciprocate. You'll never be just friends with him, but he'll continue to take advantage of friendliness if you let him while he's searching for his one. And he's already decided that's not you. It won't change. The moment has passed.

The odd part is you met his parents. At some point, he saw something in you to let you in that far. And that sucks. Cancers are the embodiment of double standard. He needs you to verbalize your intent, but he will go about showing his through actions. Major actions to them. But what sucks is that if you don't know them we'll enough to know their MO, you'll miss out on something amazing. Catch 22 for sure.

I got lucky... My cancer and I were friends...then hook up buddies....then he disappeared for a year over something I did that irked him, unbeknownst to me. Then, he showed up again after a year... But that is not the norm! I can only think that I made a strong enough impression before then...and from what he's told me, it was essentially my honesty and being up front about how I felt. So let that be your lesson. Don't play house. Be upfront. They treasure that more than anything, and want to be wanted more than anything.

phEnyxBull876 - Thank you for the reply, i appreciate it, and for generalising Cancer man's actions instead of just having a go at me

Guess I have to say goodbye to my best friend (a that is what he feels like) x

Cancer man here...for me if I sleep with you on the first night then that's all it is...I am really not attracted to easy women I like a challenge. You have to understand we are natural born charmers.. so we will go through all the motions opening doors gifts kiss on the forehead everything even if its just for a 1 nighter..hope this helps!