what should I do?

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capricorngirl85
@capricorngirl85
10 Years

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I starting talking to this guy a month ago and he’s ignoring me! He basically pursued me, he would text me everyday if I called him he would answer on the first ring. We would hang out I would sleep over his place he was clingy loving cuddling and would hold me while we were sleeping. when I wasn’t there he would text saying “why are you not here on side of me”. At first I didn’t really take him serious but then I started to really like him, I started to give him what he was giving me in return. So about the last week into this month intuition kick in telling me something was right that he was starting to act funny with me. He wasn’t calling or texting as much so I asked him about it he said it was my imagination I said “ok”. We talked a couple times after that making plans to meet up. When the date and time came he would flake but I didn’t say anything about it until he started randomly out of the blue ignoring me. I sent a video expressing how I felt about what he was doing, texted and called a few times got nothing. What should I do?
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CalmCrab22
@CalmCrab22
10 YearsCancer

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Few reasons
- we have something unrelated & need to fix it so we can be around you & be happy not show you our pouty side ( males are more sulkers)
- we are overwhelmed by emotion & need to step back to chill for a sec
- you could have COMPLETELY accidentally offended him & he knows he can/will get over it but needs a min to do so.
- if he isn't relationship ready he may not want to move things to quickly & to avoid hurting you is trying cool things down

Whatever the reason I promise if he continues to think you're around the corner waiting then he has no reason to hurry back bc your not leaving & if you contact to much it's a huge turn off!
(Cancer lady dating cancer man--- yes I'm stuck jumping his cancer hoops too don't feel bad it's normal)
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capricorngirl85
@capricorngirl85
10 Years

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@calmcrab22 29 both of us. No I'm known him for about a year we met through a mutual friend. While out at a party mutual friends were having he flirted and danced with me. He ask me for my number I didn't give it to him so he gave me his. I never used it and ended up seeing him again at a club where he works. After leaving the club he gets in contact with me on my Instagram so I decided to go ahead and call. We met up a couple of times but mostly we talked on the ph for long periods and he would always text me. While talking the ph hung up I called back no answer text no response so I didn't worry about it went on with my life. We ended up talking again we were suppose to meet up and eat but he stood me up when I ask him about it he said he fell asleep I didn't respond and we stop talking again I went on because I don't like being stood up. So this time we starting talking again and things went further. We spent time together at his place he text me everyday he was very cuddling affectionate. He would say things like why are you not here sleeping on side of me or i havent seen you in 5days if i want to stare at you i will. We did get intimate once and it was me who made that move he never tried to sleep with me. After the intimacy I had to go so he walk me out hugged and kissed me. He sent me a text with ☺ and kisses faces saying goodnight and he text me goodmorning the next day.
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CalmCrab22
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10 YearsCancer

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Cancer men typically don't settle so young.
Sounds just like my BFF & how he did girls.
Tbh I wouldn't put your heart into settling down with him for a few years.
Feel free to keep him as a friend maybe fwb but he isn't joint to settle &def not working in the club. My BFF worked in clubs for years as a DJ and I was so blessed not to be more than friends bc he did damage to girls but not intention.
I think we cancers tend to get our needs met and it's not a deep thing. We just need to fill a void because we are so needy.
I got over this veal years ago but only bc of extreme life situations. Most don't until mid 30s, later if ever.

Not trying to hurt you but trying to save you hurt.