I starting talking to this guy a month ago and he’s ignoring me! He basically pursued me, he would text me everyday if I called him he would answer on the first ring. We would hang out I would sleep over his place he was clingy loving cuddling and would hold me while we were sleeping. when I wasn’t there he would text saying “why are you not here on side of me”. At first I didn’t really take him serious but then I started to really like him, I started to give him what he was giving me in return. So about the last week into this month intuition kick in telling me something was right that he was starting to act funny with me. He wasn’t calling or texting as much so I asked him about it he said it was my imagination I said “ok”. We talked a couple times after that making plans to meet up. When the date and time came he would flake but I didn’t say anything about it until he started randomly out of the blue ignoring me. I sent a video expressing how I felt about what he was doing, texted and called a few times got nothing. What should I do?
what should I do?

Stop all contact & he'll be back 1week max
@calmcrab22 I don't understand why he randomly starting standing me up and ignoring me

Few reasons
- we have something unrelated & need to fix it so we can be around you & be happy not show you our pouty side ( males are more sulkers)
- we are overwhelmed by emotion & need to step back to chill for a sec
- you could have COMPLETELY accidentally offended him & he knows he can/will get over it but needs a min to do so.
- if he isn't relationship ready he may not want to move things to quickly & to avoid hurting you is trying cool things down
Whatever the reason I promise if he continues to think you're around the corner waiting then he has no reason to hurry back bc your not leaving & if you contact to much it's a huge turn off!
(Cancer lady dating cancer man--- yes I'm stuck jumping his cancer hoops too don't feel bad it's normal)
- we have something unrelated & need to fix it so we can be around you & be happy not show you our pouty side ( males are more sulkers)
- we are overwhelmed by emotion & need to step back to chill for a sec
- you could have COMPLETELY accidentally offended him & he knows he can/will get over it but needs a min to do so.
- if he isn't relationship ready he may not want to move things to quickly & to avoid hurting you is trying cool things down
Whatever the reason I promise if he continues to think you're around the corner waiting then he has no reason to hurry back bc your not leaving & if you contact to much it's a huge turn off!
(Cancer lady dating cancer man--- yes I'm stuck jumping his cancer hoops too don't feel bad it's normal)
@calmcrab22 i really like him and hope I didnt blow by calling texting and even sending a video left him know how I felt after the fact. Its been its been almost two weeks since ive last tried to contact him and all most 3 weeks since he called or texted me.
@calmcrab22 sorry I didn't proofread it before posting it

So just to clarify known him 4 weeks haven't heard from him in 3 weeks?
So you really only talked 1 week?
Have you had sex?
So you really only talked 1 week?
Have you had sex?

What are you ages?
@calmcrab22 29 both of us. No I'm known him for about a year we met through a mutual friend. While out at a party mutual friends were having he flirted and danced with me. He ask me for my number I didn't give it to him so he gave me his. I never used it and ended up seeing him again at a club where he works. After leaving the club he gets in contact with me on my Instagram so I decided to go ahead and call. We met up a couple of times but mostly we talked on the ph for long periods and he would always text me. While talking the ph hung up I called back no answer text no response so I didn't worry about it went on with my life. We ended up talking again we were suppose to meet up and eat but he stood me up when I ask him about it he said he fell asleep I didn't respond and we stop talking again I went on because I don't like being stood up. So this time we starting talking again and things went further. We spent time together at his place he text me everyday he was very cuddling affectionate. He would say things like why are you not here sleeping on side of me or i havent seen you in 5days if i want to stare at you i will. We did get intimate once and it was me who made that move he never tried to sleep with me. After the intimacy I had to go so he walk me out hugged and kissed me. He sent me a text with ☺ and kisses faces saying goodnight and he text me goodmorning the next day.
@ksamcancer lol what kind of advice is that?! This guy was amazing I really enjoyed spending time with him and he just stopped all contact like I did him something.

As CalmCrab22 mentioned, he could have something going on in his life that demands his focus. We're not the best multitaskers. Another possibility is he's seeing or talking to someone else. Some Cancer men are players, so be careful. Bottom line: when a Cancer ignores you, ignore him back. Carry on with your life and see what happens.
@calmcrab22 OK thank you for you advice

Break into his house, shove a stuffed bunny into a boiling pot. Profit.

Cancer men typically don't settle so young.
Sounds just like my BFF & how he did girls.
Tbh I wouldn't put your heart into settling down with him for a few years.
Feel free to keep him as a friend maybe fwb but he isn't joint to settle &def not working in the club. My BFF worked in clubs for years as a DJ and I was so blessed not to be more than friends bc he did damage to girls but not intention.
I think we cancers tend to get our needs met and it's not a deep thing. We just need to fill a void because we are so needy.
I got over this veal years ago but only bc of extreme life situations. Most don't until mid 30s, later if ever.
Not trying to hurt you but trying to save you hurt.
Sounds just like my BFF & how he did girls.
Tbh I wouldn't put your heart into settling down with him for a few years.
Feel free to keep him as a friend maybe fwb but he isn't joint to settle &def not working in the club. My BFF worked in clubs for years as a DJ and I was so blessed not to be more than friends bc he did damage to girls but not intention.
I think we cancers tend to get our needs met and it's not a deep thing. We just need to fill a void because we are so needy.
I got over this veal years ago but only bc of extreme life situations. Most don't until mid 30s, later if ever.
Not trying to hurt you but trying to save you hurt.

Posted by KsamCancer😆 😆 😆
Stop all contact, tell him you hate him, shit on his doorstep, burn his house down, and kill his parents.
Then he will come back
@calmcrab22 I started to feel like conversations had and the time spent wasn't genuine he just used me and he didn't really like me after all.
@cheekyfaerie yes very charming! Being around him felt great attentive affectionate gentlemen suave for sure. I was so confused as to why he would just all of a sudden starting treating and handling me in such a way. I guess he just did enough to get what he wanted and was like ✌
@arielle83 yes saying he agrees to meet up but stands me up he's just like the other guys and that this was a game he lied to kick it with me. I know now that it was probably not a good idea but hey you live and learn

Yes, ignoring them really helps. Then they run back with flowers and the bottle of your favourite wine.

Sucks I know but at least you're not wasting forever hoping for the impossible

When's his bday and what's his overall placements?
@aquarius09 07/21 placments?

Posted by capricorngirl85Go to cafeastrology. Input his birthday and let us know his placements (overall chart). Go under free charts or readings, something to that effect.
@aquarius09 07/21 placments?

Welcome to the club....enjoy the ride.....it will always be like this until you put your foot down.. And even after that..

Yep one day he says he loves and then 3 days keeps silent and all "I can't see you"
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