Confused please help.

So yesterday he called and finally he talked and said he's in a spot where he's looking for a new job and probation blah blah so it's why he hasn't been catering to my needs. He also said the phone we had together stopped working so he threw it away...what the hell!? It's an iPhone and I told him in the beggining to guard it and if it didn't work it has insurance. Well he said we weren't talking and coincidentally it stopped working right after we split and thought I did something to it. So now no phone and still paying a monthly plan for it. I asked if he wanted a phone back and he said yes when I called the replacement fee was outrageous so... He said he would call today but after I complained about how he hurt me by throwing the phone away and knowing damn well all I had to do was take it to the store to fix it he said he did it on purpose but only because it wasn't working. We exchange words and I said no problem. It was my fault. He read the text never repsonded and never called and still waiting which I'm sure he won't plus he said he had to work tonight anyways. But then he liked my posts... And have been liking my posts for the past three days and he NEVER does. The one he liked today said.

People are going to hurt you Wether you know it or not you just need to make sure you're being Loyal to the right person and not #stupid.

We are broken up but now on speaking terms and it's weird. I have no clue what to do. Meanwhile I'm carrying on with my life though I want to run at him and scream I love you come back. And I'm the one who said it was over after he said he didn't want a relationship. But now I know why he said that And I miss him but I'm scared.

Should I express my feelings or hold off and let him come? Ugh I miss him damn

How old is he?

Posted by BlackMamba
I'm so glad there's women like you for men on probation. I'm not joking. Everyone needs love. I could not and would not.

Anyways you shouldn't be paying for anything. Let this fool get his own phone and phone plan. He sounds like an idiot.

I feel like you're settling

My blood is boiling from reading what he did. Dude just trash $ 600-700 device. Wtf... But then again Ill call bullshit on that. I feel like he lied... Just saying

Posted by Honeybunniie
How old is he?

36
Lol

Posted by BlackMamba
I'm so glad there's women like you for men on probation. I'm not joking. Everyone needs love. I could not and would not.

Anyways you shouldn't be paying for anything. Let this fool get his own phone and phone plan. He sounds like an idiot.

I feel like you're settling

Ok I feel the same. And he knew and everyone knows an iPhone is like a baby... Smh. I'm gonna continue to move forward.

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Posted by BlackMamba
I'm so glad there's women like you for men on probation. I'm not joking. Everyone needs love. I could not and would not.

Anyways you shouldn't be paying for anything. Let this fool get his own phone and phone plan. He sounds like an idiot.

I feel like you're settling

My blood is boiling from reading what he did. Dude just trash $ 600-700 device. Wtf... But then again Ill call bullshit on that. I feel like he lied... Just saying

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I'm feeling the same way. Not sure what to make of that. Trying to get a reaction from me? I don't know

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Posted by Honeybunniie

Posted by BlackMamba
I'm so glad there's women like you for men on probation. I'm not joking. Everyone needs love. I could not and would not.

Anyways you shouldn't be paying for anything. Let this fool get his own phone and phone plan. He sounds like an idiot.

I feel like you're settling

My blood is boiling from reading what he did. Dude just trash $ 600-700 device. Wtf... But then again Ill call bullshit on that. I feel like he lied... Just saying

He probably sold it. Wtf

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At this point ...I fussed him out and it's like he's angry that I'm accusing him. He thought I was purposefully spitting him cause the last time I picked up the phone broke the phone got in and exposed his mess lol. I promised not to do it again but I'm sure he's weary (I won't be doing it again).

Posted by BlackMamba
Look you seem like a really bright woman...I feel like mentally your day and night.

Stop dealing with these ashhy azz niggahs

Taurus sun and moon it's hard to move on. And it ain't like I don't have options. Im fixated. It'll take time but I will. He keeps coming back.

Keep it moving. The phone story sounds like a lie.
And fb doesn't mean anything.

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Posted by BlackMamba
Look you seem like a really bright woman...I feel like mentally your day and night.

Stop dealing with these ashhy azz niggahs

Taurus sun and moon it's hard to move on. And it ain't like I don't have options. Im fixated. It'll take time but I will. He keeps coming back.

I know that feeling. Leo moon. I'll never let go. Do you see these tabernacles. That's me and you baby. Tears. 😭

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Waaaaaaah ðŸ'¦ðŸ'¦ now kumbayah lol ...geez I'm so stupid though. I'm done.

Posted by Arielle83
He sold it for cash.

I agree

Posted by mgmtlove
Keep it moving. The phone story sounds like a lie.
And fb doesn't mean anything.

Thank you. I shall.

I just ended it and asked him to call me to do it right...he stop responded. Typical coward. I'm moving on.

Posted by Arielle83
My husband went to prison and he told me never believe what a guy says to you while he's hanging in there.

Thank you. I'm glad I asked cause something wasn't right. I've blocked all contact period.

Posted by Impulsv
He sold the phone for money

Yes I believe that now. Goes to show he didn't care about me like I thought and it's ok. His loss

Omg Shan,

I understand how much you love him. But please consider yourself as well and do favor.

Posted by M143
Omg Shan,

I understand how much you love him. But please consider yourself as well and do favor.

Thank you

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Posted by Arielle83
My husband went to prison and he told me never believe what a guy says to you while he's hanging in there.

OMG - that explains a few things. You actually married a convict?
So really, that's ALL you could find was a criminal convict? God some women are so F'n hopeless.

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-_- well aren't we judgmental. Be slow to judge dear. I know ppl who went to jail for petty stuff but they were good ppl. There are thousand of ppl who are "losers" that haven't bn to jail. Never judge the book by its cover.

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Posted by Finbuff

Posted by Arielle83
My husband went to prison and he told me never believe what a guy says to you while he's hanging in there.

OMG - that explains a few things. You actually married a convict?
So really, that's ALL you could find was a criminal convict? God some women are so F'n hopeless.

-_- well aren't we judgmental. Be slow to judge dear. I know ppl who went to jail for petty stuff but they were good ppl. There are thousand of ppl who are "losers" that haven't bn to jail. Never judge the book by its cover.

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Amen to that

I mean 8 months? Why so long? Wasn't he tired of the charade? Ugh! Anyways I blocked him since this post and I've heard from a friend that he's been down and in his shell. I think he did this be has he's uncertain of his future and don't want me to suffer. I feel he pushed me away because he felt not worthy. Nonetheless... I'm moving on. I don't indulge in things that I don't see will last because I have a hard time moving on. It's gonna take a minute to even indulge in a man again.. Ugh.

Funny you say classy people? I am that...but then again you really don't know a person unless you get to know them and not based on one post (rolled eyes, turned over facing opposite direction).

Posted by Arielle83
Eww the racist and homophobic fucks are on this thread now. I'm out.

Nooo. If rather them to leave. Look ok g down upon others is so unattractive. Please ignore the hypocrites

So I went on his social media page (I'm a Taurus we stalk social media lol) sue me. and it said...I'm supposed to be in love by now in a status. He's the only person I've ever understood before. It's not a status (everyone who commented thinks it is, he didn't like their comment which means they didn't get the meaning) yeah I know I analyze a lot. but it's actually a clip from a Jamie fox song. Listening to the song it says all the bells and whistles he should have given me by now but afraid??!! Anyways...still I won't contact him. He doesn't want me and I need to get that. Why do I feel such a connection for him. I've never felt this for anyone. Not even my ex husband. It hurts. I'm hurt. Vodka anyone lol.

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Posted by Finbuff
@Pisces15, do your due dilligence with men and don't settle. Don't give up your body until you know the person and they open up their life to you.

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That's the thing, I didn't give my whole body to Cancer guy I dated! He asked, I said no because I wasn't ready!? Now, POOF heard nothing!? I asked where are things going after that because I was so confused, and he just went weird on me! Ignored me for a whole month, I reached out, trying to coax, but it's awkward and 1/2 hearted from him. As a resul, I'm now just very negative / upset / annoyed with the opposite sex?! 😢 And I feel hurt after 5/6months.

I'm a very guarded woman, classy, don't put out and I'm just me - I'm fun, can at times be quiet when I'm with someone I don't know very well, but I can open up to them given the chance. BUT I just find it incredibly difficult to find a decent, honest, genuine guy to accept me for me and want to spend time with me. Instead every dick just wants sex on the get go and I am sick of it - there is more to me than p u s s y!

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Yes I get it...I didn't give sex either but after a week boo. He's back

Posted by Shaniajam
So I went on his social media page (I'm a Taurus we stalk social media lol) sue me. and it said...I'm supposed to be in love by now in a status. He's the only person I've ever understood before. It's not a status (everyone who commented thinks it is, he didn't like their comment which means they didn't get the meaning) yeah I know I analyze a lot. but it's actually a clip from a Jamie fox song. Listening to the song it says all the bells and whistles he should have given me by now but afraid??!! Anyways...still I won't contact him. He doesn't want me and I need to get that. Why do I feel such a connection for him. I've never felt this for anyone. Not even my ex husband. It hurts. I'm hurt. Vodka anyone lol.

you want him because he doesnt want you.

“A lot of people get so hung up on what they can't have that they don't think for a second about whether they really want it.”
”• Lionel Shriver, Checker and the Derailleurs

Go re-read every thread you have made... do you really want this drama? Love is not this hard.

Posted by Finbuff
You don't go to PRISON in the US unless your a big time weed dealer or get caught with a massive quantity which implies you are dealing.

Ladies don't settle for the losers in life, there's too many good men that don't have their pants hanging down on their ass and all tatted up line some pseudo wannabe rapper. Find some men with education and a good job it's a fine place to start! And I'm not talking high school Ed or GED. College

You my sir are living in a bubble. the USA HAVE brainwash u. I know ppl who were in a car with a person who was only smoking a joint and they BOTH WENT TO JAIL. Don't be ignorant to the perception that the control masters of the USA want u to believe. There are ppl who the police just pick on and set them up and sent them to jail. I do not smoke or like weed but there is nothing wrong with it. Stop being a ignorant judgmental prick. Also what if I told u that the worst and disgusting losers are the ones in corporate America with master degrees? Who have power and abused it? There are CEO WHO RESIGN bc they are committing crimes but they have the money and connects to avoid jail.... Sit down with that bullshit please. Losers come in all shape in forms.

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Posted by Shaniajam
So I went on his social media page (I'm a Taurus we stalk social media lol) sue me. and it said...I'm supposed to be in love by now in a status. He's the only person I've ever understood before. It's not a status (everyone who commented thinks it is, he didn't like their comment which means they didn't get the meaning) yeah I know I analyze a lot. but it's actually a clip from a Jamie fox song. Listening to the song it says all the bells and whistles he should have given me by now but afraid??!! Anyways...still I won't contact him. He doesn't want me and I need to get that. Why do I feel such a connection for him. I've never felt this for anyone. Not even my ex husband. It hurts. I'm hurt. Vodka anyone lol.

you want him because he doesnt want you.

“A lot of people get so hung up on what they can't have that they don't think for a second about whether they really want it.”
”• Lionel Shriver, Checker and the Derailleurs

Go re-read every thread you have made... do you really want this drama? Love is not this hard.

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You're right. I haven't contacted him and I plan to stay clear and move on

Posted by Koniucha
You really need to step away from the social media.

Easier said than done but I am trying

Shaniajam, I'm glad you did this.
It takes a lot of courage to leave a guy you once cared very much. Applause for you.

Posted by maomao
Shaniajam, I'm glad you did this.
It takes a lot of courage to leave a guy you once cared very much. Applause for you.

Thank you so much.

Posted by Finbuff

Posted by Honeybunniie

Posted by Finbuff
You don't go to PRISON in the US unless your a big time weed dealer or get caught with a massive quantity which implies you are dealing.

Ladies don't settle for the losers in life, there's too many good men that don't have their pants hanging down on their ass and all tatted up line some pseudo wannabe rapper. Find some men with education and a good job it's a fine place to start! And I'm not talking high school Ed or GED. College

You my sir are living in a bubble. the USA HAVE brainwash u. I know ppl who were in a car with a person who was only smoking a joint and they BOTH WENT TO JAIL. Don't be ignorant to the perception that the control masters of the USA want u to believe. There are ppl who the police just pick on and set them up and sent them to jail. I do not smoke or like weed but there is nothing wrong with it. Stop being a ignorant judgmental prick. Also what if I told u that the worst and disgusting losers are the ones in corporate America with master degrees? Who have power and abused it? There are CEO WHO RESIGN bc they are committing crimes but they have the money and connects to avoid jail.... Sit down with that bullshit please. Losers come in all shape in forms.

Don't have to type in all caps to make me read. Yeah, if you can't afford legal representation, guess what, you will go to jail if you are complicit in a crime. News flash - don't hang with criminals, and don't look like some thug criminal with your greasy hair, pants on your azz and rapper hat turned backwards. And we aren't talking about jail, the comments were about PRISON. A whole entirely different league of low-life scum bag.

Talk about brainwashed, you think some CEO with a Masters or PHD is the predominant criminal in this country? These are the people that have the INTELLIGENCE to make corporate American run! (Me included) Go participate and you'll have a different opinion. Not sure why I bother, you'll just sit in the ghetto the rest of your life and make excuses for the "repressed black man". God it's so old to hear the excuses for my entire life. Nothing ever changes for you people because YOU DON"T WANT IT TO! You're fine sucking off the government and the taxes I pay every year. Ah shit...why the hell bother. I got work to do. Flame away

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Lol yet u respond... U humor me. And just to educate u , I have never grew up or live in a ghetto. I have come from a mid class family. I dnt currently live in a ghetto. So I laugh at ur sad yet empty stereotype. No one cares that you are in corporate America. U are slaving for someone like the rest of us. Please g

Kill yourself

This is Internet. No one cares when they log off. Such a dumbass

Posted by Honeybunniie
This is Internet. No one cares when they log off. Such a dumbass

Lmaoooo

Posted by Finbuff

Posted by Honeybunniie
Kill yourself

I care - because I make ALOT of money that allows me to quit working in 3 years.
And the best part about that is - no more payroll taxes, so I won't have to support the low-life unproductive, unmotivated losers, that do nothing but suck off the government tit, and show up at ALDI with their food stamps to buy lobster tail and steak.
Hi-life....OUT!

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Damn.. Aldi's sells lobster tail??

Since we still going on here lol I guess I'll update my stalker stance... New status from him "my mind is playing tricks on me" song from ghetto boys. If you watch the video and words there's the second verse about being locked away kid being a bastard woman being down but thinking she not blah blah which fits us pretty well. Still ive been MIA. But you guys can continue this rant lol. Interesting ‚‚‚‚

Oh and this whole song? Sums him up? He's always been paranoid. Yet I must move forward.

Posted by Shaniajam
Since we still going on here lol I guess I'll update my stalker stance... New status from him "my mind is playing tricks on me" song from ghetto boys. If you watch the video and words there's the second verse about being locked away kid being a bastard woman being down but thinking she not blah blah which fits us pretty well. Still ive been MIA. But you guys can continue this rant lol. Interesting ‚‚‚‚

Oh and this whole song? Sums him up? He's always been paranoid. Yet I must move forward.

I think you're reading too much into it now. Half the world is posting lyrics from this song - cause it is Halloween.

I know the urge to stalk, lol...but if you're going to do it, then just leave it at that - cause "moving forward" doesnt include analyzing everything little thing that's said and making it about you.

If he's not coming after you specifically and saying things about you specifically, just let it go and move on foreal.

Chances are he knows you're snooping/stalking as well...

Posted by iPootMagic

Posted by Shaniajam
Since we still going on here lol I guess I'll update my stalker stance... New status from him "my mind is playing tricks on me" song from ghetto boys. If you watch the video and words there's the second verse about being locked away kid being a bastard woman being down but thinking she not blah blah which fits us pretty well. Still ive been MIA. But you guys can continue this rant lol. Interesting ‚‚‚‚

Oh and this whole song? Sums him up? He's always been paranoid. Yet I must move forward.

I think you're reading too much into it now. Half the world is posting lyrics from this song - cause it is Halloween.

I know the urge to stalk, lol...but if you're going to do it, then just leave it at that - cause "moving forward" doesnt include analyzing everything little thing that's said and making it about you.

If he's not coming after you specifically and saying things about you specifically, just let it go and move on foreal.

Chances are he knows you're snooping/stalking as well...

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Honey it's for laughs please move along

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by Shaniajam
Since we still going on here lol I guess I'll update my stalker stance... New status from him "my mind is playing tricks on me" song from ghetto boys. If you watch the video and words there's the second verse about being locked away kid being a bastard woman being down but thinking she not blah blah which fits us pretty well. Still ive been MIA. But you guys can continue this rant lol. Interesting ‚‚‚‚

Oh and this whole song? Sums him up? He's always been paranoid. Yet I must move forward.

That's my song tho

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I like it too...good lyrics 👌ðŸ¾❤

Honestly, I haven't been checking or even on social media except that once and like I said its easier said than done I'm proud of myself for not contacting him so I dont need I'll judgements just "opinions" thanks.

I hope no one fits these shoes one day. Ugh. Bye.