What the heck, talk about wishy washy.

I have a cancer man and we have been going strong inseparable for the last 8 months all of a sudden the tells me he don't have time for a relationship because of work but when he comes to town he wants to spend time with me and when he is away he calls ever other day. Told me one time "I don't know what you are doing to me but i can't seem to stay away"

Then he says again he don't think we would make it. but still calls and text just to tell me how his day is going and to see how my day is going and by the in of the convo i am reminded in some way that we are not going to be anything more than friend.

Well yesterday I sent him and email letting him know how much I love him and he know it because he told me he can feel it with out me telling him, but I have to let go or i will seriously get hurt. I haven't heard anything from him no response or anything. Do you think I will hear from him again.

Posted by busyeyes88
Are you crazy? He is crapping all over you with his mind games and you condone his behaviour by sending him a heartfelt l love you message . Before you tell him to fuck off and delete him number —!!!!!

I must be crazy...lol

yeah gurl, he's trying to work out his issues through you.

Hes trying to really gauge through some backwards ass dance to see if you really like him or not. he scurred. Thats why hes giving you the hot n cold behavior.

you havent heard anything because he is working real hard to fulfill his self fulling prophecy.

this could go one for quite some time and really cause some emotional havoc on your end.

its up to you if you want to dance this tango or not.

Posted by DMV
yeah gurl, he's trying to work out his issues through you.

Hes trying to really gauge through some backwards ass dance to see if you really like him or not. he scurred. Thats why hes giving you the hot n cold behavior.

you havent heard anything because he is working real hard to fulfill his self fulling prophecy.

this could go one for quite some time and really cause some emotional havoc on your end.

its up to you if you want to dance this tango or not.

As hard as is it, I think I am just going to let go and really move on. I don't have time for games. It is his lost and trust me he knows it. I am sure I will heard from him again after he realize I am really gone.

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Posted by DMV
yeah gurl, he's trying to work out his issues through you.

Hes trying to really gauge through some backwards ass dance to see if you really like him or not. he scurred. Thats why hes giving you the hot n cold behavior.

you havent heard anything because he is working real hard to fulfill his self fulling prophecy.

this could go one for quite some time and really cause some emotional havoc on your end.

its up to you if you want to dance this tango or not.

don´t tell a girl, that a guy is "scurred", ´cause we all know, where that gets her: trying to "save" him, and help him overcome hos fears. Telling a girl that is actually one of the worst things, you can do.

I don´t know what his deal is, and you´re probably never gonna find out. Real life.

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Please dont censor me, I will say what I feel.

Posted by deedee1270

Posted by DMV
yeah gurl, he's trying to work out his issues through you.

Hes trying to really gauge through some backwards ass dance to see if you really like him or not. he scurred. Thats why hes giving you the hot n cold behavior.

you havent heard anything because he is working real hard to fulfill his self fulling prophecy.

this could go one for quite some time and really cause some emotional havoc on your end.

its up to you if you want to dance this tango or not.

As hard as is it, I think I am just going to let go and really move on. I don't have time for games. It is his lost and trust me he knows it. I am sure I will heard from him again after he realize I am really gone.

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he will come back around and it will be up to you if you want to dance or not.

You have feelings so its not that easy to just bounce.

The next time you guys talk, clearly explain to him that his actions will cause him to lose you. How you feel and what you want. Then see if the behavior changes. If not, then you know what to do.

Thanks DMV, I just don't think it is worth it anymore I really just wanted some thoughts he will have to work hard to get me know i warned him that ones im gone i am gone i don't go backwards. he is the third Cancer man i have dealt with and all of them when i really say i am gone start begging me to come back I just recently had on propose to me but my heart just is not in it anymore.

I really appreciate all of you input.

Thank you Arielle83 I appreciate what you are saying and i have been very supportive but when you till me you can't be in a relationship with me because you don't think I can handle the fact that you have to leave all the time and then tell me that you may be moving back home and don't want to hurt me but i find out that you back on the dating site with a commit like "never to far for the one" it makes me wonder what is really going on and when i ask you about it all you have to say is " Does it really matter, I told you i may be going back home" but on you site distance is not a factor because your never too far for the one. all that tells me is i am not the one and i need to bail

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Posted by deedee1270
Thanks DMV, I just don't think it is worth it anymore I really just wanted some thoughts he will have to work hard to get me know i warned him that ones im gone i am gone i don't go backwards. he is the third Cancer man i have dealt with and all of them when i really say i am gone start begging me to come back I just recently had on propose to me but my heart just is not in it anymore.

Sounds like you're willing to make it a game when all the dude said is he can't get into a relationship now because he's got too much work going on. Well I guess that just proves you would suck at supporting him when he's stressed.

Like I say, a cancer tells you what's up and then the women get their egos crushed and wanna play distant. Money and work are a mans PRIDE. You aren't even important enough to make him bail on that.

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Thank you Arielle83 I appreciate what you are saying and i have been very supportive but when you till me you can't be in a relationship with me because you don't think I can handle the fact that you have to leave all the time and then tell me that you may be moving back home and don't want to hurt me but i find out that you back on the dating site with a commit like "never to far for the one" it makes me wonder what is really going on and when i ask you about it all you have to say is " Does it really matter, I told you i may be going back home" but on you site distance is not a factor because your never too far for the one. all that tells me is i am not the one and i need to bail

sounds like hes really attracted to you but there might be something about you that just wont convince him or dosent let him see himself w you in a relationship. try to figure it out. and you know maybe talk it out, but not in an agressive or insecure way

how many times do I see cancerians only using people for their emotional needs? been with one of those! ugh RUN AWAY FAST