what's more painful?...

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by ariesheart on Monday, April 4, 2016 and has 12 replies.

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@SassyKiwi
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by RumiL
I imagine boyfriend would be my best friend 😢

Clearly that'd be a double whammy if you lost one or the other. I guess if you're about to settle down, it'd be ideal if your SO was your best friend.

For me best friend status requires at least a few years. To reach boyfriend status it doesn't take nearly as long. So best friend.

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@Cancer061986
11 Years

Break up with bf hurts more immediately but best friend for me lasts for years.

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@Zanbee
12 Years

About two - three years ago, my ex had just broken up with me.
And my best friend at the time of (12 years) was getting annoyed that I was talking to other friends about the breakup.
Like, she hated that I would get her advice and then someone else's...
I was talking about the breakup a lot and it annoyed her.
The next day, my Aunt passed, so I was even more emotional.
And my friend wanted to have this major confrontation with me.
I told her I couldn't do it. She deserved the talk when I'm not so hysterical.
She flipped out, told me I was a shit friend, and she hasn't spoken to me since.

I think overall, losing her hurt more, than my ex in the long run.
We were friends since elementary school.
I didn't expect a betrayal like that, so...

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@ariesheart
11 Years

Posted by Zanbee
About two - three years ago, my ex had just broken up with me.
And my best friend at the time of (12 years) was getting annoyed that I was talking to other friends about the breakup.
Like, she hated that I would get her advice and then someone else's...
I was talking about the breakup a lot and it annoyed her.
The next day, my Aunt passed, so I was even more emotional.
And my friend wanted to have this major confrontation with me.
I told her I couldn't do it. She deserved the talk when I'm not so hysterical.
She flipped out, told me I was a shit friend, and she hasn't spoken to me since.

I think overall, losing her hurt more, than my ex in the long run.
We were friends since elementary school.
I didn't expect a betrayal like that, so...

Ouch. I'm sorry