Yet another Help with a Cancer Man thread...

I very recently met and have embarked on a journey of exploration with a wonderful, beautiful, compassionate, nurturing, creative Cancer man. (He works in the entertainment industry, I work in the Healing Arts). We've decided to only be with each other while we're building and exploring the possibilities of the relationship. The energies between us are amazing! He says he finds me to be extremely soothing and comforting. When I'm with him, I feel totally safe and secure. As for the Bedroom stuff...WOW!

He's given me every indication that he's hoping this develops into a long-term situation, and I have no reason (other than my own insecurities) to doubt what he says. I actually like that I don't talk to him everyday, because I know that it's because he is creating his amazing art. (this is his Career, and he's quite successful) I hate talking on the phone and really enjoy having my "me" time. So far, so good.

However, tonight I am a little beside myself. We were supposed to get together last night, but he had to cancel due to a legitimate health issue related to an accident he had a few months before we met. I sent him an email before I went to bed (didn't want to call in case he was sleeping) just asking how he was feeling and if there was anything he needed. I told him I'd try to check in with him today before I went to work. Today I called, no answer. Left a VM asking about how he was doing and said that if he felt up to it he could call me later. I haven't heard back yet.

My gut is telling me that he's just withdrawing because he's feeling under the weather and I should give him space and let him heal on his own and he'll call me when he's feeling better or if he needs me. However, because I do work in the healing arts, I really want to make sure that he's healing well and help the process along. But I really don't want to be too pushy and smother him, either.

How should I proceed with this situation?

Thanks for any insight.

If it helps any, I am a Pisces.

He just called! He's going to be having surgery early this week and is feeling horrible. He told me he doesn't want to be seen by anyone right now, but would be in touch and for me to keep in touch with him as well. I offered my services as a trained professional for when he felt up to it, probably sometime next week.

/panic averted.

🙂

Thanks, leokitten! It's good to know my instincts were correct!

Most men tend to cope with problems by withdrawing. They don't like to talk about their "weaknesses". I have a Libra friend (much older than you) who is dating a Cancer guy who actually has cancer. He refuses to tell her when he feels rotten.

NaughtycalEnchantress,

Your Cancer man will be just fine. He's just feeling sick and it's very normal for anyone who's sick to feel a little cranky. Cancers are crab and when we feel sick, we're most definitely crabby!

So don't blame yourself for anything...he's just not feeling 100% and you've done nothing bad.

I think you two will work out wonderfully. Cancers and Pisces are such a beautiful match and a great team -- especially a mature pair like yourselves who can respect each other's need for a little space and be considerate and understanding of each other's needs.

I hope his surgery works out well and that you two can continue your journey together.

p.s. So the bedroom stuff was WOW?? Darn, I have yet to get anywhere near the bedroom with a Pisces -- I'm a Cancer so I guess I'm really missing out!! DOH!! hehee jk! 🙂