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Hello my experience is rather long with these particular cap but I'm going to make it extremely short and sweet. I am a sag female, I recently broke things off with my Cap because I feel he was never giving me enough. I started messing with him when my ex and I were on the rocks and when my ex and I were finally done were became closer. He introduced me to his parents and I even went to his grandmother's grave which sparked a romance inside of me and when I asked him what direction we were moving he said he didn't want a relationship which shocked me. We've been off and on for months and during the holidays we stopped talking for a month until he hit me up and asked if I wanted to hangout and I said yes, we did for about a week and then I noticed that if I wasn't hitting him up we didn't talk to I called things off said I didnt wanna speak to him. It wasn't until now that I feel I didn't get the closure I needed attttttalllll and no im at a standstill. I need to know if he ever really cared or if it was all in my head. I need to make sense of it so I can move on. I recently deleted him from Facebook but kept him on IG and he deleted me from that so we have nooooo contact.
I have read in one of your earlier comments/posts that you don't label "relationships".
Why?
How long do you stay in an unlabel relationships?
Are you committed to it?
Dating exclusively but no label, in a cappy's mind, is it still consider being in a relationship?
Why?
How long do you stay in an unlabel relationships?
Are you committed to it?
Dating exclusively but no label, in a cappy's mind, is it still consider being in a relationship?
How can I get a Capricorn back who doesn't trust me? I never trusted him either, but since he saw that I got back with my ex after him cap had stopped talking to me then he came around and was upset and told me, sorry but I just asked to stay friends since he didn't want anything serious, but he thought that was rude. He told me all that 2 weeks ago and now some girl he said he just saw as a friend is asking him to do all these things and posting pictures. I had asked him to talk and he said about what? So I said can we actually talk after finals so we can focus and he didn't respond to it since maybe I took too long to respond.
I only messed this up because I thought he had used me and wasn't interested anymore but I really want him back.
I only messed this up because I thought he had used me and wasn't interested anymore but I really want him back.
When you love someone, and love someone wholeheartedly to which you always give what she ask.. were you doing it from my Caring Friend Turned lover pov or has it always been because you love her?
Posted by ScorpioTruthDo you guys have friends of the opposite sex. I has friends of the opposite sex when I first got married but I would never hide them away from her. Maybe he is hiding something but does not mean he is cheating. I would ask him directly does he have interest in another woman. See how he responds...Posted by GeecheedI still feel like he's sneaky as fuck ? We had such a nice day today. We went out of town to a wedding.. His coworker was getting married. The whole way there and back he kept talking about how we are getting married and making it official. We had such a good day and I was feeling good and happy.Posted by ScorpioTruthHe admitted it and was honest about everything. One of my best qualities is self critiquing myself. In most cases I hold myself to standards and will not waver, ever. So if sign can do it your Cap can! I'm pretty sure he is making up to you in the grandest fashion.
@geecheed I appreciate your honesty. my sons dad is a cap with a few of your same placements (sun, Venus and Mars) except he has a cancer moon instead. This year would make it 9 years we've been together, I moved out in November after I found out he cheated.
He is apologetic and working to get me back home and I know he plans on proposing this year. He has told me flat out that this is his plan. He swears we are going to come out stronger and better. He admitted in counseling that he felt that he was just an option to me and I do wonder if that plays into why he cheated on me. After finding out and seeing how it devastated me, he's now saying that he didn't realize how much I love him and he swears he will never do it again. I just don't know if I believe him.
He has always been "private" like a typical cap. I made excuses for him and said that was just a part of his personality. Like keeping locks on his phone, etc. but now I can't tell the truth from a lie so any "private" behavior from him is an automatic red flag. I want to believe he would never do it again and I want to keep my family together but I am really struggling to trust him again.
Then we get home and he always got his cell phone face down and the ringer is usually off. I just still feel like he's hiding shit. —? then I get pissed off all over again
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Posted by NineAvenueI want to definitely! But I was always overseas, the Gullah cultural still around in certain areas but more found more in our dialect. When I was in high school we had a Geechee come to explain our heritage and explain to us why we sounded Jamaican lol
Do you attend the Gullah Fest in Charleston?
Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by NineAvenueI confronted him last night shortly after posting this, I felt like an idiot. I asked "is there any reason why your phone is always out of sight?" He was like what are you talking about? My phone is right here and he picked it up off of the floor.. It was between his feet on the floor and he set it on the table right beside me face up and unlocked. So then I felt like shit and apologized. LolPosted by ScorpioTruthif it helps...my cap friend never hides his phone from hig SO.Posted by GeecheedI still feel like he's sneaky as fuck ? We had such a nice day today. We went out of town to a wedding.. His coworker was getting married. The whole way there and back he kept talking about how we are getting married and making it official. We had such a good day and I was feeling good and happy.Posted by ScorpioTruthHe admitted it and was honest about everything. One of my best qualities is self critiquing myself. In most cases I hold myself to standards and will not waver, ever. So if sign can do it your Cap can! I'm pretty sure he is making up to you in the grandest fashion.
@geecheed I appreciate your honesty. my sons dad is a cap with a few of your same placements (sun, Venus and Mars) except he has a cancer moon instead. This year would make it 9 years we've been together, I moved out in November after I found out he cheated.
He is apologetic and working to get me back home and I know he plans on proposing this year. He has told me flat out that this is his plan. He swears we are going to come out stronger and better. He admitted in counseling that he felt that he was just an option to me and I do wonder if that plays into why he cheated on me. After finding out and seeing how it devastated me, he's now saying that he didn't realize how much I love him and he swears he will never do it again. I just don't know if I believe him.
He has always been "private" like a typical cap. I made excuses for him and said that was just a part of his personality. Like keeping locks on his phone, etc. but now I can't tell the truth from a lie so any "private" behavior from him is an automatic red flag. I want to believe he would never do it again and I want to keep my family together but I am really struggling to trust him again.
Then we get home and he always got his cell phone face down and the ringer is usually off. I just still feel like he's hiding shit. —? then I get pissed off all over again
on the the other hand i keep my phone face down always but not in any way to hide anything.click to expand
Thank you thank you. The communication thing can be us Caps Achilles heel. We say only what needs to be said but we mean the f out of it. I'm glad you understand him.
I tried being more vocal with my Gem but she needed verbal reassurance constantly like over small stuff not knocking her but I gave he everything I had. I'm a doer not a talker. Anyway there is a chance in hell but a slim one. She was good to talk too and was easygoing but the flakiness and lack of depth was a turn off. Caps know their worth and we can wait..
PS she gets a second chance because she is the mother of my kids.
I tried being more vocal with my Gem but she needed verbal reassurance constantly like over small stuff not knocking her but I gave he everything I had. I'm a doer not a talker. Anyway there is a chance in hell but a slim one. She was good to talk too and was easygoing but the flakiness and lack of depth was a turn off. Caps know their worth and we can wait..
PS she gets a second chance because she is the mother of my kids.
Posted by poison_ivyYes it is. It was long distance in the beginning and in the end. But it is all relative to who you ask I feel we still had growing to do.Posted by GeecheedWow! 17 years is a long time!!Posted by poison_ivyTo answer the other question since I was 20 and she is a Gemini. Yes reassurance is big early in the relationship. We love slowly but very hard once there.Posted by GeecheedThanks so much for responding! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyIt ended because of lack of communication. I'm an open book too blunt and love to have everything on the table no matter how small. She needed me home at some point but wavered between the checks and me being home which she say all in one sentence (confusing I know). Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that. She got used to the guys hitting on her and I'm over there so that is what I honestly think it made it easy for her to look somewhere else. I said that cause she would snip suggesting that someone is willing to if I wasn't. In my head I'm like no one will ever love you like me.
So, my question:
I am a Scorpio Sun/Sagittarius Venus/Capricorn Rising.
I am dating a Capricorn Sun/Aquarius Venus. (like yourself)
We've been together for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but mostly positives.
He is very skilled in basketball.. & plays the sport as his career also. (what are thee odds.. 😉 )
I saw that you wrote on one of your responses that you had a very long relationship, that just ended..
Why did it end? (if you don't mind me asking)
How did you balance a gf, long term, and your career? I'm finding that to be a big challenge in our relationship at the moment because we are also in a LDR and we don't have much time together.
I am successful on my own, have many friends and go to a lot of events, my own business etc. So I am not the clingy type, But I do desire time with my man.
How do I go about getting a little more time or do I wait for him to initiate and remain patient and understanding, as I've been?
This is all for now.. I'll be picking your brain often! 😉 SO BEEEEE Prepared. LOL!
I literally begged her for phone sex, Skype, nasty videos but got she was busy instead and couldn't understand it because it would be beneficial to us both. If you want it to work do the things I mentioned above.
For me just being around a social environment is good I just look and admire. Let him feel that you want him physically that will make him even more secure. He needs reassurance evry blue moon. You stay busy which is good and not having him there is difficult. I would let him know your needs also. I am thinking he did ask you right?
I see.. Same with us.. Our communication is our biggest issue.. I've read our natal placement compatibility chart and our ONLY negative is the communication part BUT if we overcome that, we'd have "unconditional love".. something that is very rare. My cap is VERY blunt, he tells me the truth about everything, whether I like his response or not and I value that in a man. Honesty is a major plus for me. But he's not an open book yet. I say yet, because I know it takes time to pull away his "layers" before he is fully an open book.. So I'm not that concerned..
Maybe the feeling of you being gone, she felt neglect.. Which, tbh, I do feel the same sometimes.. But I'm getting used to his distance because I don't think it's intentional at all. He's told me he wishes for more time but at the present it isn't possible. I know this. But I am a woman.. A Scorpio at that and very emotional, intense, sexual, loyal etc.. I desire intimacy with my mate.. Closeness.. that's how I show my love & affection. Through passionate love making. Or holding him, kissing him, wining and dining him, rubbing him down after he's had a long strenuous day. etc. I compromise by sending pics, vids etc, but "physical touch" is just the way of a scorp. But obviously, not always possible in our case.. I've been extremely patient.. I see other attractive men and I do get approached often by dudes who ask for my number etc. BUT my connection with him (from this distance) is just TOO strong so, I don't ever wanna go astray or give men the idea that they even have a chance.. So yea.. They mostly get ignored.
Like you, the distance doesn't seem to bother him either.. When I aske him if he wants to be friends for now til we move closer etc, he says "No, I wanna be with you.." SO I guess when you say "Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that." could be true for him as well..
My dude is like you.. Other dudes aren't his concern.. He says he knows I'm grown and sexy, & men will do what they do BUT he knows what he can offer me and no one will love me like he does.. (shidd I agree)
😉
How long were you 2 together and what's her sign?
Yes, he initiated our relationship on the FIRST date.. We met on a dating app. We talked EVERY single day on the phone, video chatting, texting.. We instantly connected and it was as if we knew each other already for years and catching up on lost times... It was magical. Even he would say that it was weird at how fast everything was happening.. So on our first date, a month after meeting online.. he looked me in the eyes and asked me to be his "lady".. said that he really liked me, & our connection & he misses a woman's touch.." He was single 3 years before meeting me and only dated but never committed til he met me.. makes me blush every time I think about that..
🙂
I always give advice to other woman that caps need reassurance.. So I do that as much as possible..
How long is the longest you've gone without talking to your ex?
How often should I send nudes, sexual innuendos etc.?
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I messaged you my question sir.
Posted by Geecheed& you never went astray? All that time?Posted by poison_ivyYes it is. It was long distance in the beginning and in the end. But it is all relative to who you ask I feel we still had growing to do.Posted by GeecheedWow! 17 years is a long time!!Posted by poison_ivyTo answer the other question since I was 20 and she is a Gemini. Yes reassurance is big early in the relationship. We love slowly but very hard once there.Posted by GeecheedThanks so much for responding! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyIt ended because of lack of communication. I'm an open book too blunt and love to have everything on the table no matter how small. She needed me home at some point but wavered between the checks and me being home which she say all in one sentence (confusing I know). Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that. She got used to the guys hitting on her and I'm over there so that is what I honestly think it made it easy for her to look somewhere else. I said that cause she would snip suggesting that someone is willing to if I wasn't. In my head I'm like no one will ever love you like me.
So, my question:
I am a Scorpio Sun/Sagittarius Venus/Capricorn Rising.
I am dating a Capricorn Sun/Aquarius Venus. (like yourself)
We've been together for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but mostly positives.
He is very skilled in basketball.. & plays the sport as his career also. (what are thee odds.. 😉 )
I saw that you wrote on one of your responses that you had a very long relationship, that just ended..
Why did it end? (if you don't mind me asking)
How did you balance a gf, long term, and your career? I'm finding that to be a big challenge in our relationship at the moment because we are also in a LDR and we don't have much time together.
I am successful on my own, have many friends and go to a lot of events, my own business etc. So I am not the clingy type, But I do desire time with my man.
How do I go about getting a little more time or do I wait for him to initiate and remain patient and understanding, as I've been?
This is all for now.. I'll be picking your brain often! 😉 SO BEEEEE Prepared. LOL!
I literally begged her for phone sex, Skype, nasty videos but got she was busy instead and couldn't understand it because it would be beneficial to us both. If you want it to work do the things I mentioned above.
For me just being around a social environment is good I just look and admire. Let him feel that you want him physically that will make him even more secure. He needs reassurance evry blue moon. You stay busy which is good and not having him there is difficult. I would let him know your needs also. I am thinking he did ask you right?
I see.. Same with us.. Our communication is our biggest issue.. I've read our natal placement compatibility chart and our ONLY negative is the communication part BUT if we overcome that, we'd have "unconditional love".. something that is very rare. My cap is VERY blunt, he tells me the truth about everything, whether I like his response or not and I value that in a man. Honesty is a major plus for me. But he's not an open book yet. I say yet, because I know it takes time to pull away his "layers" before he is fully an open book.. So I'm not that concerned..
Maybe the feeling of you being gone, she felt neglect.. Which, tbh, I do feel the same sometimes.. But I'm getting used to his distance because I don't think it's intentional at all. He's told me he wishes for more time but at the present it isn't possible. I know this. But I am a woman.. A Scorpio at that and very emotional, intense, sexual, loyal etc.. I desire intimacy with my mate.. Closeness.. that's how I show my love & affection. Through passionate love making. Or holding him, kissing him, wining and dining him, rubbing him down after he's had a long strenuous day. etc. I compromise by sending pics, vids etc, but "physical touch" is just the way of a scorp. But obviously, not always possible in our case.. I've been extremely patient.. I see other attractive men and I do get approached often by dudes who ask for my number etc. BUT my connection with him (from this distance) is just TOO strong so, I don't ever wanna go astray or give men the idea that they even have a chance.. So yea.. They mostly get ignored.
Like you, the distance doesn't seem to bother him either.. When I aske him if he wants to be friends for now til we move closer etc, he says "No, I wanna be with you.." SO I guess when you say "Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that." could be true for him as well..
My dude is like you.. Other dudes aren't his concern.. He says he knows I'm grown and sexy, & men will do what they do BUT he knows what he can offer me and no one will love me like he does.. (shidd I agree)
😉
How long were you 2 together and what's her sign?
Yes, he initiated our relationship on the FIRST date.. We met on a dating app. We talked EVERY single day on the phone, video chatting, texting.. We instantly connected and it was as if we knew each other already for years and catching up on lost times... It was magical. Even he would say that it was weird at how fast everything was happening.. So on our first date, a month after meeting online.. he looked me in the eyes and asked me to be his "lady".. said that he really liked me, & our connection & he misses a woman's touch.." He was single 3 years before meeting me and only dated but never committed til he met me.. makes me blush every time I think about that..
🙂
I always give advice to other woman that caps need reassurance.. So I do that as much as possible..
How long is the longest you've gone without talking to your ex?
How often should I send nudes, sexual innuendos etc.?
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It'll be a year for me and my cap in July and he says we still have to get "closer"... o_O It really does take a long time for you guys (caps) to see growth in a relationship..
If you have ONE advice to give to the less wise, younger people/capricorns, what would it be?
Posted by GeecheedYou and him (my cap) are 2 of a kind.. So similar in the way you describe yourself.. I need verbal reassurance since we are in a LDR.. just like you'll need reassurance.. So do I.. When I'm confused and wanna know what's going on between us, he responds as if I should just know.. I'm NO nagger by any means.. I despise nagging, so I'm not one to do so.. & we're both grown so I'm not trynna be no bodies mama.. So it's rare when I ask for verbal reassurance.. but I always get these "dumbfounded" responses.. I thik it's fair to know where we stand when we have our "quiet moments" and haven't spoke in a while..
Thank you thank you. The communication thing can be us Caps Achilles heel. We say only what needs to be said but we mean the f out of it. I'm glad you understand him.
I tried being more vocal with my Gem but she needed verbal reassurance constantly like over small stuff not knocking her but I gave he everything I had. I'm a doer not a talker. Anyway there is a chance in hell but a slim one. She was good to talk too and was easygoing but the flakiness and lack of depth was a turn off. Caps know their worth and we can wait..
PS she gets a second chance because she is the mother of my kids.
For example: I texted him and told him to call me once he was off.. (we hadn't talked for a bit as both of our work loads were heavy) ..He called.. So the convo starts, I asked him how he was, asked him about his day, he did the same.. Then I told him I wanted to talk about "Us" for a little.. I had a lot on my mind and the distance was getting to me.. I asked him:
Me: Do you think we have time for a relationship due to the demand of our jobs?
Him: Yea, why not?
Me: Okay.... so.. Do YOU want to be in a relationship.. because between the 2 of us, you're a lot busier?
Him: Yes, why not?
Me: You wanna be with me, for sure?
Him: Yes, babe, I wanna be with you.. Why not?
Me: Okay, good babe.. so when will you have a little more time for us.. I would like some time with you.
Him: When my season is over, I'll have more time.
..we dozed off on the phone shortly after.. and when I woke up in the AM, so did he and we were like WTH!?!! How did we doze on the phone like that together.. I guess we were comfortable.. lol
Anyway!! .. I wanted full responses.. A Conversation.. BUT as you can see, he wasn't too BIG on words that day.. I understood tho, because, he had a full day at work, had basketball practice after, and that went over late and he was tired (I could tell in his voice) so I wasn't pressuring him to say too much but I did need reassurance, that we were on the same page. & so I asked direct questions.. But, that "why not" shit.. I'm not gonna lie.. was annoying tf outta me.. LOL!
Yea, it seems like ya'll know what you want, but need depth.. Strong women that hustle just as hard as you guys do, to keep herself busy, and make time when you are ready.. I honestly think ya'll like to lead.. & have your woman at your side, holding you down. Ya'll need to be able to be yourselves, without the extra pressure.. & the sex, and intimacy you require but it is just a bonus. the icing on the cake, if you will. I'm getting comfortable with this.
So only a chance for the kids.. Not because you really want to?
Posted by poison_ivyI did went astray because I was weak but it was a slow process and an acceleration of events. First it was me trying to reason (which she assured me things would change), then me saying you didn't meet your claim, to baby I am feeling some type of way...I am thinking about stepping out. Fucked up but I was brutally honest.Posted by Geecheed& you never went astray? All that time?Posted by poison_ivyYes it is. It was long distance in the beginning and in the end. But it is all relative to who you ask I feel we still had growing to do.Posted by GeecheedWow! 17 years is a long time!!Posted by poison_ivyTo answer the other question since I was 20 and she is a Gemini. Yes reassurance is big early in the relationship. We love slowly but very hard once there.Posted by GeecheedThanks so much for responding! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyIt ended because of lack of communication. I'm an open book too blunt and love to have everything on the table no matter how small. She needed me home at some point but wavered between the checks and me being home which she say all in one sentence (confusing I know). Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that. She got used to the guys hitting on her and I'm over there so that is what I honestly think it made it easy for her to look somewhere else. I said that cause she would snip suggesting that someone is willing to if I wasn't. In my head I'm like no one will ever love you like me.
So, my question:
I am a Scorpio Sun/Sagittarius Venus/Capricorn Rising.
I am dating a Capricorn Sun/Aquarius Venus. (like yourself)
We've been together for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but mostly positives.
He is very skilled in basketball.. & plays the sport as his career also. (what are thee odds.. 😉 )
I saw that you wrote on one of your responses that you had a very long relationship, that just ended..
Why did it end? (if you don't mind me asking)
How did you balance a gf, long term, and your career? I'm finding that to be a big challenge in our relationship at the moment because we are also in a LDR and we don't have much time together.
I am successful on my own, have many friends and go to a lot of events, my own business etc. So I am not the clingy type, But I do desire time with my man.
How do I go about getting a little more time or do I wait for him to initiate and remain patient and understanding, as I've been?
This is all for now.. I'll be picking your brain often! 😉 SO BEEEEE Prepared. LOL!
I literally begged her for phone sex, Skype, nasty videos but got she was busy instead and couldn't understand it because it would be beneficial to us both. If you want it to work do the things I mentioned above.
For me just being around a social environment is good I just look and admire. Let him feel that you want him physically that will make him even more secure. He needs reassurance evry blue moon. You stay busy which is good and not having him there is difficult. I would let him know your needs also. I am thinking he did ask you right?
I see.. Same with us.. Our communication is our biggest issue.. I've read our natal placement compatibility chart and our ONLY negative is the communication part BUT if we overcome that, we'd have "unconditional love".. something that is very rare. My cap is VERY blunt, he tells me the truth about everything, whether I like his response or not and I value that in a man. Honesty is a major plus for me. But he's not an open book yet. I say yet, because I know it takes time to pull away his "layers" before he is fully an open book.. So I'm not that concerned..
Maybe the feeling of you being gone, she felt neglect.. Which, tbh, I do feel the same sometimes.. But I'm getting used to his distance because I don't think it's intentional at all. He's told me he wishes for more time but at the present it isn't possible. I know this. But I am a woman.. A Scorpio at that and very emotional, intense, sexual, loyal etc.. I desire intimacy with my mate.. Closeness.. that's how I show my love & affection. Through passionate love making. Or holding him, kissing him, wining and dining him, rubbing him down after he's had a long strenuous day. etc. I compromise by sending pics, vids etc, but "physical touch" is just the way of a scorp. But obviously, not always possible in our case.. I've been extremely patient.. I see other attractive men and I do get approached often by dudes who ask for my number etc. BUT my connection with him (from this distance) is just TOO strong so, I don't ever wanna go astray or give men the idea that they even have a chance.. So yea.. They mostly get ignored.
Like you, the distance doesn't seem to bother him either.. When I aske him if he wants to be friends for now til we move closer etc, he says "No, I wanna be with you.." SO I guess when you say "Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that." could be true for him as well..
My dude is like you.. Other dudes aren't his concern.. He says he knows I'm grown and sexy, & men will do what they do BUT he knows what he can offer me and no one will love me like he does.. (shidd I agree)
😉
How long were you 2 together and what's her sign?
Yes, he initiated our relationship on the FIRST date.. We met on a dating app. We talked EVERY single day on the phone, video chatting, texting.. We instantly connected and it was as if we knew each other already for years and catching up on lost times... It was magical. Even he would say that it was weird at how fast everything was happening.. So on our first date, a month after meeting online.. he looked me in the eyes and asked me to be his "lady".. said that he really liked me, & our connection & he misses a woman's touch.." He was single 3 years before meeting me and only dated but never committed til he met me.. makes me blush every time I think about that..
🙂
I always give advice to other woman that caps need reassurance.. So I do that as much as possible..
How long is the longest you've gone without talking to your ex?
How often should I send nudes, sexual innuendos etc.?
It'll be a year for me and my cap in July and he says we still have to get "closer"... o_O It really does take a long time for you guys (caps) to see growth in a relationship..click to expand
It takes as long as it takes there is no time table. Closer means he is almost there lol.
Posted by GeecheedI see.. But again, you tried to make it work and in the end you were honest.. If you were asking for the little things, and they weren't met, as wrong as it is to step out of your marriage, she frankly had it coming... Welp! lolPosted by poison_ivyI did went astray because I was weak but it was a slow process and an acceleration of events. First it was me trying to reason (which she assured me things would change), then me saying you didn't meet your claim, to baby I am feeling some type of way...I am thinking about stepping out. Fucked up but I was brutally honest.Posted by Geecheed& you never went astray? All that time?Posted by poison_ivyYes it is. It was long distance in the beginning and in the end. But it is all relative to who you ask I feel we still had growing to do.Posted by GeecheedWow! 17 years is a long time!!Posted by poison_ivyTo answer the other question since I was 20 and she is a Gemini. Yes reassurance is big early in the relationship. We love slowly but very hard once there.Posted by GeecheedThanks so much for responding! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyIt ended because of lack of communication. I'm an open book too blunt and love to have everything on the table no matter how small. She needed me home at some point but wavered between the checks and me being home which she say all in one sentence (confusing I know). Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that. She got used to the guys hitting on her and I'm over there so that is what I honestly think it made it easy for her to look somewhere else. I said that cause she would snip suggesting that someone is willing to if I wasn't. In my head I'm like no one will ever love you like me.
So, my question:
I am a Scorpio Sun/Sagittarius Venus/Capricorn Rising.
I am dating a Capricorn Sun/Aquarius Venus. (like yourself)
We've been together for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but mostly positives.
He is very skilled in basketball.. & plays the sport as his career also. (what are thee odds.. 😉 )
I saw that you wrote on one of your responses that you had a very long relationship, that just ended..
Why did it end? (if you don't mind me asking)
How did you balance a gf, long term, and your career? I'm finding that to be a big challenge in our relationship at the moment because we are also in a LDR and we don't have much time together.
I am successful on my own, have many friends and go to a lot of events, my own business etc. So I am not the clingy type, But I do desire time with my man.
How do I go about getting a little more time or do I wait for him to initiate and remain patient and understanding, as I've been?
This is all for now.. I'll be picking your brain often! 😉 SO BEEEEE Prepared. LOL!
I literally begged her for phone sex, Skype, nasty videos but got she was busy instead and couldn't understand it because it would be beneficial to us both. If you want it to work do the things I mentioned above.
For me just being around a social environment is good I just look and admire. Let him feel that you want him physically that will make him even more secure. He needs reassurance evry blue moon. You stay busy which is good and not having him there is difficult. I would let him know your needs also. I am thinking he did ask you right?
I see.. Same with us.. Our communication is our biggest issue.. I've read our natal placement compatibility chart and our ONLY negative is the communication part BUT if we overcome that, we'd have "unconditional love".. something that is very rare. My cap is VERY blunt, he tells me the truth about everything, whether I like his response or not and I value that in a man. Honesty is a major plus for me. But he's not an open book yet. I say yet, because I know it takes time to pull away his "layers" before he is fully an open book.. So I'm not that concerned..
Maybe the feeling of you being gone, she felt neglect.. Which, tbh, I do feel the same sometimes.. But I'm getting used to his distance because I don't think it's intentional at all. He's told me he wishes for more time but at the present it isn't possible. I know this. But I am a woman.. A Scorpio at that and very emotional, intense, sexual, loyal etc.. I desire intimacy with my mate.. Closeness.. that's how I show my love & affection. Through passionate love making. Or holding him, kissing him, wining and dining him, rubbing him down after he's had a long strenuous day. etc. I compromise by sending pics, vids etc, but "physical touch" is just the way of a scorp. But obviously, not always possible in our case.. I've been extremely patient.. I see other attractive men and I do get approached often by dudes who ask for my number etc. BUT my connection with him (from this distance) is just TOO strong so, I don't ever wanna go astray or give men the idea that they even have a chance.. So yea.. They mostly get ignored.
Like you, the distance doesn't seem to bother him either.. When I aske him if he wants to be friends for now til we move closer etc, he says "No, I wanna be with you.." SO I guess when you say "Once you are tucked away in my heart you are there for life no distance is far enough to change that." could be true for him as well..
My dude is like you.. Other dudes aren't his concern.. He says he knows I'm grown and sexy, & men will do what they do BUT he knows what he can offer me and no one will love me like he does.. (shidd I agree)
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How long were you 2 together and what's her sign?
Yes, he initiated our relationship on the FIRST date.. We met on a dating app. We talked EVERY single day on the phone, video chatting, texting.. We instantly connected and it was as if we knew each other already for years and catching up on lost times... It was magical. Even he would say that it was weird at how fast everything was happening.. So on our first date, a month after meeting online.. he looked me in the eyes and asked me to be his "lady".. said that he really liked me, & our connection & he misses a woman's touch.." He was single 3 years before meeting me and only dated but never committed til he met me.. makes me blush every time I think about that..
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I always give advice to other woman that caps need reassurance.. So I do that as much as possible..
How long is the longest you've gone without talking to your ex?
How often should I send nudes, sexual innuendos etc.?
It'll be a year for me and my cap in July and he says we still have to get "closer"... o_O It really does take a long time for you guys (caps) to see growth in a relationship..
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SMH! Almost there!?!!.. Ay dios mio!! *sigh** Patience is a virtue with you men.. LOL! 😆
Edit: But the best things in life are worth waiting for.. 🙂
Posted by Blairjones512Sounds like people's initial impression about Caps which is in my experience totally opposite. Typically people are attracted to talkative, bubbly, and outspoken people Caps are not like this unless we feel comfortable about our surroundings. Not all those things but we are loyal, sincere, trustworthy, and dedicated. I can't remember when I intentionally played someone or hurt someone's feelings for my gain. If we are aloof or detached MOST of the time it is an internal battle. Expressing feelings are not our strong suit.
How can I get a Capricorn back who doesn't trust me? I never trusted him either, but since he saw that I got back with my ex after him cap had stopped talking to me then he came around and was upset and told me, sorry but I just asked to stay friends since he didn't want anything serious, but he thought that was rude. He told me all that 2 weeks ago and now some girl he said he just saw as a friend is asking him to do all these things and posting pictures. I had asked him to talk and he said about what? So I said can we actually talk after finals so we can focus and he didn't respond to it since maybe I took too long to respond.
I only messed this up because I thought he had used me and wasn't interested anymore but I really want him back.
Sounds like you prejudged without trying to find out why you had doubts about the Cap. It is hard to justify your feelings for him when you are being pursued also I understand that. If he made it public then most likely he has moved on. Cause he wouldn't want to hurt your feelings by posting the photos.
I would still ask him if that is what he wants because sometimes we don't know....
Posted by Machchu2Caring friend turned lover pov all the way. I have loved two women in my life so I have a lot of platonic relationships till this day brother sisterly love. My upbringing was to respect women regardless (which has been tainted over the last 5 years) so I do it for universal love.
When you love someone, and love someone wholeheartedly to which you always give what she ask.. were you doing it from my Caring Friend Turned lover pov or has it always been because you love her?
Posted by Diora_CapriFirst thing I would say is don't be too hard on yourself! Remember the subconscious is 10,000 stronger than the conscious mind. Don't take small things to heart not everyone has a mental respect system. Be more bold and brash! Everything is yours if you want it but you must make the move first! Not everything is a competition. I lowkey had a competition against everyone in just about everything. I wanted to win all the time. There was no ill-content but only to push myself to be better. I never viewed people as competitors only as an inspiration and a standard I could hold myself up to. If that makes sense I was not intimidated I was driven by them.
If you have ONE advice to give to the less wise, younger people/capricorns, what would it be?
Also don't hold grudges because it hurts you more in the long run. We can't expect people to have high morals like us or to reciprocate our loyalty. So don't hold them accountable. It is easier to let shit go. Trust your instincts! We have a knack to figuring shit out and making the right decisions so don't second guess yourself! You are very artistic. Believe what is in your head and find a way to pull it out to make it concrete. Be yourself even no matter how wacky people might view you of course you going to be judged but we can handle it. Lowkey I don't think there are too many signs out there with a mind like mines, there are a few though that comes to thought. Lastly don't be too shy! Closed mouths don't get feed. All the things I mentioned were my limitations growing up. Hope this Helps!!
Posted by WomiiOverly emotional or clingy? If I love her then I already accepted everything about her. I would be there for her as much as I can, ask a lot of questions, and try to meet her half way.
How would you deal with an emotional woman bearing in mind that you Capricorn men go into your caves for a very long time? ?
How would you deal with your cave and her emotions? ?
1. I have heard about male Caps and marriage. Why does it take Cap men forever to propose marriage to a woman they have been together with for a very long time?...Other than financial reasons.
2. Why are Cappies sensitive to criticism?
3. Why do people's opinions of you always have to matter? Aside from ambition, and material acquisition where do you find your internal source of happiness?
4. If you met a woman who was the total package (career, money, loyalty, family-oriented) but you didn't feel a connection, would you remain in the relationship?
5. Cap men are great kissers. The 'shyness' is masked... and the more aggressive side comes out when you're kissing a woman. Why is that?
6. Why are some Cap men proned to depression?
7. Lucky number 7....where do Caps find their best luck with women?
2. Why are Cappies sensitive to criticism?
3. Why do people's opinions of you always have to matter? Aside from ambition, and material acquisition where do you find your internal source of happiness?
4. If you met a woman who was the total package (career, money, loyalty, family-oriented) but you didn't feel a connection, would you remain in the relationship?
5. Cap men are great kissers. The 'shyness' is masked... and the more aggressive side comes out when you're kissing a woman. Why is that?
6. Why are some Cap men proned to depression?
7. Lucky number 7....where do Caps find their best luck with women?
1. For me the fact I wait I need to know we everything is in order> relationship
and finances=security. If I can't take care of responsibilities I would get depressed and miserable.
2. I never take criticism the wrong way. Knowledge is power the more the better. Maybe it is how it is said not the message that Caps might take it as disrespect and our fuck attitude kicks in. I played sports and was very coachable.
3. I don't know why other people's image of me matters. Maybe I honor my reputation because ultimately that is what I put value in and understand others do too.
4. If all those thing are there the sex will be on point. I said that because you left something out which is SEX. That is important to us. We are very sexual. So lack of sex is a turn off.
5. We love through actions so kissing, touches, all of that is heaven
6. If we don't reach our goals we get down on ourselves. We believe we shoulder the whole world.
7. You mean a place, a certain sign, or type of woman?
and finances=security. If I can't take care of responsibilities I would get depressed and miserable.
2. I never take criticism the wrong way. Knowledge is power the more the better. Maybe it is how it is said not the message that Caps might take it as disrespect and our fuck attitude kicks in. I played sports and was very coachable.
3. I don't know why other people's image of me matters. Maybe I honor my reputation because ultimately that is what I put value in and understand others do too.
4. If all those thing are there the sex will be on point. I said that because you left something out which is SEX. That is important to us. We are very sexual. So lack of sex is a turn off.
5. We love through actions so kissing, touches, all of that is heaven
6. If we don't reach our goals we get down on ourselves. We believe we shoulder the whole world.
7. You mean a place, a certain sign, or type of woman?
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1. I have heard about male Caps and marriage. Why does it take Cap men forever to propose marriage to a woman they have been together with for a very long time?...Other than financial reasons.
3. Why do people's opinions of you always have to matter? Aside from ambition, and material acquisition where do you find your internal source of happiness?
4. If you met a woman who was the total package (career, money,Sex loyalty, family-oriented) but you didn't feel a connection, would you remain in the relationship? Connection =Love
7. Lucky number 7....where do Caps find their best luck with women?
a) With security?
b) Charm
c) Personality
Posted by TaurusBull1977Our internal happiness is when everyone around us is content. Because if you are in the circle you are family. I love it when I see my people are going good. Also when I am doing something that is challenging I feel good about myself regardless if I understand it or not because eventually I will.Posted by TaurusBull1977
1. I have heard about male Caps and marriage. Why does it take Cap men forever to propose marriage to a woman they have been together with for a very long time?...Other than financial reasons.
3. Why do people's opinions of you always have to matter? Aside from ambition, and material acquisition where do you find your internal source of happiness?
4. If you met a woman who was the total package (career, money,Sex loyalty, family-oriented) but you didn't feel a connection, would you remain in the relationship? Connection =Love
7. Lucky number 7....where do Caps find their best luck with women?
a) With security?
b) Charm
c) Personality
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A. Security comes when I know I can count on her to think on her own, be loyal, and have bigger dreams than me.
B. This is a hard one to answer because I like a confident woman, a quirky personality, sarcastic, intelligent basically anything but a dummy lol. I'm quiet so quirky brings me out my shell but do they have substance hmm. I must be stimulated constantly or I lose interest fast. I want to might more Earth Signs but it's all Air Signs, Scorpios, and Leos. I don't discriminate just want to try something new.
C. I love a WOMAN that is a turn on to the max dammit. I can do without the overly loud mouthed ones. Sleezy is wack. Carry yourself like a Lady. Love women who workout and take care of herself such a turn on! Looks are not everything as long as you wear it well.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo27Me too. It come with the territory of being responsible.
I hate that y'all are so family orientated.
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Posted by Algol-RisingBecause it is a dope album. The title also sums up of what I say sitting back observing the world we live in.
Why are you using such a sad and depressing user pic?
Posted by Algol-RisingDo you? What makes you feel that way?Posted by GeecheedI feel that often.Posted by Algol-RisingBecause it is a dope album. The title also sums up of what I say sitting back observing the world we live in.
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Posted by ScorpioTruthYou being judged by other women who also have skeletons in their closest. Just because theirs are not known to you doesn't make them better than you. People in today's society are quit to point the finger but they need to realize there are always three pointing back to them. Also their happiness or disdain do not affect how you live your life. Trust me if they haven't already been in a predicament they will have to dance to the music one day. One thing life has taught me is it is full of parody....Posted by youngaliI appreciate that. I can't tell you the shame I feel and how much I feel I am being judged by other women when they see I am giving him another shot. I've never taken a cheater back... But after 10 years and a child and not only a relationship but also a solid friendship between the two of you, it's hard to put logic over emotion. I am hoping you are right and hoping I get the healing I need.Posted by ScorpioTruthI think he came to that realization the moment he felt he was going to lose you. Sometimes all it takes is for men to receive that wake up call of what it feels like to be without you. He took you for granted and now realizes his mistake. It will take time for you to trust him completely again as normal. But you both are taking the steps to mend it and his presence and actions so far speaks volumes. Wish you both the best of luck.Posted by GeecheedHe has a couple friends of the opposite sex but I knew about them and they knew about me. But after finding out that he cheated, I wouldn't be surprised if I found out he has more friends that I don't know about. I didn't know the girl that he was fucking on the side.Posted by ScorpioTruthDo you guys have friends of the opposite sex. I has friends of the opposite sex when I first got married but I would never hide them away from her. Maybe he is hiding something but does not mean he is cheating. I would ask him directly does he have interest in another woman. See how he responds...Posted by GeecheedI still feel like he's sneaky as fuck ? We had such a nice day today. We went out of town to a wedding.. His coworker was getting married. The whole way there and back he kept talking about how we are getting married and making it official. We had such a good day and I was feeling good and happy.Posted by ScorpioTruthHe admitted it and was honest about everything. One of my best qualities is self critiquing myself. In most cases I hold myself to standards and will not waver, ever. So if sign can do it your Cap can! I'm pretty sure he is making up to you in the grandest fashion.
@geecheed I appreciate your honesty. my sons dad is a cap with a few of your same placements (sun, Venus and Mars) except he has a cancer moon instead. This year would make it 9 years we've been together, I moved out in November after I found out he cheated.
He is apologetic and working to get me back home and I know he plans on proposing this year. He has told me flat out that this is his plan. He swears we are going to come out stronger and better. He admitted in counseling that he felt that he was just an option to me and I do wonder if that plays into why he cheated on me. After finding out and seeing how it devastated me, he's now saying that he didn't realize how much I love him and he swears he will never do it again. I just don't know if I believe him.
He has always been "private" like a typical cap. I made excuses for him and said that was just a part of his personality. Like keeping locks on his phone, etc. but now I can't tell the truth from a lie so any "private" behavior from him is an automatic red flag. I want to believe he would never do it again and I want to keep my family together but I am really struggling to trust him again.
Then we get home and he always got his cell phone face down and the ringer is usually off. I just still feel like he's hiding shit. —? then I get pissed off all over again
He always says I'm the only one he wants, he can't imagine doing life without me, he doesn't want anyone else except me etc. we tried couples counseling and the counselor asked him if he wanted to marry me, he said yes, she asked if he wanted to be with anyone besides me he said no. Almost everyday he talks about how he can't believe it's almost been 10 years we been together and can't wait to make it official. But again, since he cheated it's just difficult to tell the truth from a lie anymore. As for me, I do not have ANY friends of the opposite sex. The majority of male "friends" usually have ulterior motives so I make it a point to not have any when I am in a relationship.
I'm starting to wonder if he's the type who thinks its not cheating if you're not married. It surprises me that he talks about marriage as much as he does now, he wasn't talking about marriage this much before he cheated and before I moved out. But since I moved out he talks about it everyday.
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Posted by RindarooThank you. Sounds like you got yourself a keeper. I can tell you it is only going to get better because it is means to please.
I like your comment about being coachable. I forget who you made it to, but that really seems to apply. My two exes did not play sports & I would say we're not coachable. Ah the struggle! 20 years for one of them.
My current is a Cap and played a few sports. Turned down an offer to play professional soccer that he regrets to this day. But ya know he is coachable. He will do what it takes. It is a great trait to have 🙂
Really appreciate you're being so honest answering these questions. I see my Cap in a lot of what you describe. Helps to understand 🙂. No real questions just a thanks for doing this!!
Posted by Algol-RisingIt is a big shit storm. Very distracting. US has been proactive of keeping us distracted. It is disheartening when manipulation is used to pen friction among common people. Takes awareness and a group effort to make people vigilant of the fuckery unless history will repeat itself...Posted by GeecheedI'm white, but I teach at a black college, and I see racist stuff happening to my students that seems intractable sometimes. I see women and men fighting and belittling one another instead of holding each other up. I see people like Trump getting into power. The human condition is a beautiful shitstorm, man.Posted by Algol-RisingDo you? What makes you feel that way?Posted by GeecheedI feel that often.Posted by Algol-RisingBecause it is a dope album. The title also sums up of what I say sitting back observing the world we live in.
Why are you using such a sad and depressing user pic?
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I seem to be peppering the boards right now lol any insight would be great. I'm in a LDR for 3 years with a Cappy guy. He messages me morning and night always and calls most days whether it a video one or just to hear each other's voices. We snap some hot stuff or video regularly...I'd have it more if I had my way ? We just met up and it was the most incredible time. It's been a couple of days and I texted he replied saying it was reception as it duck shooting in our country. I knew he would go distant I've learnt over time and mentally prepared. How can I ease him or this? I try so hard and it puts me through some emotional battles...I don't let on and just keep being there. I don't ever make him feel bad for it or do silent games. I'd love any suggestions on how I can over time snub this mechanism of his out so we both aren't going through emotional turmoil. He is training all week in his new job and has to fly today, I feel he will be distant as he is so dedicated to work and being a new one too! Any ways I can support him after we hook up to snap him back quicker to me? I don't want to go quiet on him etc yet I don't want to nag him arghhhhhhhhhh haha
Posted by Algol-RisingThat is very commendable. We need more people like you in the world...Posted by GeecheedI've been spending a lot of time educating black kids about the history they've not been taught. I'm thinking it's probably time for me to start educating white kids about black history too. Maybe move schools...or take one some extra work.Posted by Algol-RisingIt is a big shit storm. Very distracting. US has been proactive of keeping us distracted. It is disheartening when manipulation is used to pen friction among common people. Takes awareness and a group effort to make people vigilant of the fuckery unless history will repeat itself...Posted by GeecheedI'm white, but I teach at a black college, and I see racist stuff happening to my students that seems intractable sometimes. I see women and men fighting and belittling one another instead of holding each other up. I see people like Trump getting into power. The human condition is a beautiful shitstorm, man.Posted by Algol-RisingDo you? What makes you feel that way?Posted by GeecheedI feel that often.Posted by Algol-RisingBecause it is a dope album. The title also sums up of what I say sitting back observing the world we live in.
Why are you using such a sad and depressing user pic?
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Do you tell your close friends about girls you just started dating?
In your early 20's, would you have put a possibly great relationship to the side completely for a new job venture, even if you had strong feelings for them/were falling for them? Like go completely silent on them and say you need space?
Or is this just an excuse for you to space to get your head around your feelings for that person (say you felt things for them quicker than what you expected/were comfortable)?
Thanks^^
Or is this just an excuse for you to space to get your head around your feelings for that person (say you felt things for them quicker than what you expected/were comfortable)?
Thanks^^
@geecheed you never answered my questions ?
Sun Cap, Venus in Aqua.. Do you move through partners a lot? are you sensitive if you have spent a lot of time (7 months) with someone?
Are you vengeful if a girl hurts you, you take revenge to make her mad?
why would you "act" Cocky with a woman you were with after the relationship ended?
Sun Cap, Venus in Aqua.. Do you move through partners a lot? are you sensitive if you have spent a lot of time (7 months) with someone?
Are you vengeful if a girl hurts you, you take revenge to make her mad?
why would you "act" Cocky with a woman you were with after the relationship ended?
Posted by RindarooGreat to hear. Very well put, it takes adversity to show ones true loyalty and love for you.Posted by GeecheedI think so too. He definitely means to please. We both have a bit of baggage, so it's been a struggle getting through some of that. But we are a great match, and have figured out how to communicate and trust each other I believe. (After almost splitting up). But sometimes you need a big obstacle to see if you really want to work together to get past it. we did. 🙂 so onwards to see where this journey takes us! Right now it's looking pretty good ?Posted by RindarooThank you. Sounds like you got yourself a keeper. I can tell you it is only going to get better because it is means to please.
I like your comment about being coachable. I forget who you made it to, but that really seems to apply. My two exes did not play sports & I would say we're not coachable. Ah the struggle! 20 years for one of them.
My current is a Cap and played a few sports. Turned down an offer to play professional soccer that he regrets to this day. But ya know he is coachable. He will do what it takes. It is a great trait to have 🙂
Really appreciate you're being so honest answering these questions. I see my Cap in a lot of what you describe. Helps to understand 🙂. No real questions just a thanks for doing this!!
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Posted by PotHeadVirgo27I agree but it is difficult to separate MY civic duties compared to anyone else's. I am responsible for my actions so I must react accordingly.Posted by GeecheedYou can't be held accountable for other adults problems though.Posted by PotHeadVirgo27Me too. It come with the territory of being responsible.
I hate that y'all are so family orientated.
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Posted by ScorpioTruthBeautiful, I love it!Posted by youngaliHe sent me a text this morning saying "you make me better everyday baby" after I had sent him some scripture about God being at the center of relationships. (Ecclesiastes 4:12) that simple text made my day just because he's not loose with words.. He's the type if he says something he means it. So the fact that he expresses that desire to be "better" makes me feel a little better about moving forward.Posted by ScorpioTruthno judging over here. if anything it tells me that you are only human with a loving & forgiving soul. ?Posted by youngaliI appreciate that. I can't tell you the shame I feel and how much I feel I am being judged by other women when they see I am giving him another shot. I've never taken a cheater back... But after 10 years and a child and not only a relationship but also a solid friendship between the two of you, it's hard to put logic over emotion. I am hoping you are right and hoping I get the healing I need.Posted by ScorpioTruthI think he came to that realization the moment he felt he was going to lose you. Sometimes all it takes is for men to receive that wake up call of what it feels like to be without you. He took you for granted and now realizes his mistake. It will take time for you to trust him completely again as normal. But you both are taking the steps to mend it and his presence and actions so far speaks volumes. Wish you both the best of luck.Posted by GeecheedHe has a couple friends of the opposite sex but I knew about them and they knew about me. But after finding out that he cheated, I wouldn't be surprised if I found out he has more friends that I don't know about. I didn't know the girl that he was fucking on the side.Posted by ScorpioTruthDo you guys have friends of the opposite sex. I has friends of the opposite sex when I first got married but I would never hide them away from her. Maybe he is hiding something but does not mean he is cheating. I would ask him directly does he have interest in another woman. See how he responds...Posted by GeecheedI still feel like he's sneaky as fuck ? We had such a nice day today. We went out of town to a wedding.. His coworker was getting married. The whole way there and back he kept talking about how we are getting married and making it official. We had such a good day and I was feeling good and happy.Posted by ScorpioTruthHe admitted it and was honest about everything. One of my best qualities is self critiquing myself. In most cases I hold myself to standards and will not waver, ever. So if sign can do it your Cap can! I'm pretty sure he is making up to you in the grandest fashion.
@geecheed I appreciate your honesty. my sons dad is a cap with a few of your same placements (sun, Venus and Mars) except he has a cancer moon instead. This year would make it 9 years we've been together, I moved out in November after I found out he cheated.
He is apologetic and working to get me back home and I know he plans on proposing this year. He has told me flat out that this is his plan. He swears we are going to come out stronger and better. He admitted in counseling that he felt that he was just an option to me and I do wonder if that plays into why he cheated on me. After finding out and seeing how it devastated me, he's now saying that he didn't realize how much I love him and he swears he will never do it again. I just don't know if I believe him.
He has always been "private" like a typical cap. I made excuses for him and said that was just a part of his personality. Like keeping locks on his phone, etc. but now I can't tell the truth from a lie so any "private" behavior from him is an automatic red flag. I want to believe he would never do it again and I want to keep my family together but I am really struggling to trust him again.
Then we get home and he always got his cell phone face down and the ringer is usually off. I just still feel like he's hiding shit. —? then I get pissed off all over again
He always says I'm the only one he wants, he can't imagine doing life without me, he doesn't want anyone else except me etc. we tried couples counseling and the counselor asked him if he wanted to marry me, he said yes, she asked if he wanted to be with anyone besides me he said no. Almost everyday he talks about how he can't believe it's almost been 10 years we been together and can't wait to make it official. But again, since he cheated it's just difficult to tell the truth from a lie anymore. As for me, I do not have ANY friends of the opposite sex. The majority of male "friends" usually have ulterior motives so I make it a point to not have any when I am in a relationship.
I'm starting to wonder if he's the type who thinks its not cheating if you're not married. It surprises me that he talks about marriage as much as he does now, he wasn't talking about marriage this much before he cheated and before I moved out. But since I moved out he talks about it everyday.
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Posted by Blue_FroggieCan't tell you all my secrets.......joking haha! I have a knack to understanding people. So it all depends on her. If she is outgoing I would plan outings. If she is philosher we will talk about everything under the sun and above the stars. I love to be spontaneous and putting a smile on her face will make me smile even more. Also I can make her feel good physically. Massages with my hands or other parts of my anatomy...
Why do you like to spoil others?
Posted by MiscorpionIt is difficult to just keep our minds from a task or goal. It literally engulfs us. The more mature he gets then he will loosen up more. My advice to you would be is stay positive and don't nag too much. My mind is very imaginative so after I am relaxing I can break down my day to see if it was productive. Send him texts, memes, poems, funny stuff, knowledgeable readings, or something sexually visual. We think a lot so..you get my point? Hope this helps.
I seem to be peppering the boards right now lol any insight would be great. I'm in a LDR for 3 years with a Cappy guy. He messages me morning and night always and calls most days whether it a video one or just to hear each other's voices. We snap some hot stuff or video regularly...I'd have it more if I had my way ? We just met up and it was the most incredible time. It's been a couple of days and I texted he replied saying it was reception as it duck shooting in our country. I knew he would go distant I've learnt over time and mentally prepared. How can I ease him or this? I try so hard and it puts me through some emotional battles...I don't let on and just keep being there. I don't ever make him feel bad for it or do silent games. I'd love any suggestions on how I can over time snub this mechanism of his out so we both aren't going through emotional turmoil. He is training all week in his new job and has to fly today, I feel he will be distant as he is so dedicated to work and being a new one too! Any ways I can support him after we hook up to snap him back quicker to me? I don't want to go quiet on him etc yet I don't want to nag him arghhhhhhhhhh haha
Posted by AwakenawarnessUnfortunately I don't do the grey area very well. If we fucking then it will be subtle flirtation here and there. Keep it copacetic. If I am interested in you (personal experience and maturity) I would flirt more but before I would play it cool but be nice, probably would want to talk more. Any physical contact would be a bonus. I been in a long relationship so flirting I'm just getting used to again but I'm naturally charming being I'm a second decandant Cap ruled by Venus.
I would like to know the differences between hanging/talking with someone who you're interested in or hanging/talking to someone whos just a hookup(Is there even a difference between them?)
Posted by pinkbird03I had a best friend I used to tell everything to but that was in high school. Maybe I did with some hooper homies in the past. I rarely kiss and tell.
Do you tell your close friends about girls you just started dating?
Posted by GeecheedPosted by MiscorpionIt is difficult to just keep our minds from a task or goal. It literally engulfs us. The more mature he gets then he will loosen up more. My advice to you would be is stay positive and don't nag too much. My mind is very imaginative so after I am relaxing I can break down my day to see if it was productive. Send him texts, memes, poems, funny stuff, knowledgeable readings, or something sexually visual. We think a lot so..you get my point? Hope this helps.
I seem to be peppering the boards right now lol any insight would be great. I'm in a LDR for 3 years with a Cappy guy. He messages me morning and night always and calls most days whether it a video one or just to hear each other's voices. We snap some hot stuff or video regularly...I'd have it more if I had my way ? We just met up and it was the most incredible time. It's been a couple of days and I texted he replied saying it was reception as it duck shooting in our country. I knew he would go distant I've learnt over time and mentally prepared. How can I ease him or this? I try so hard and it puts me through some emotional battles...I don't let on and just keep being there. I don't ever make him feel bad for it or do silent games. I'd love any suggestions on how I can over time snub this mechanism of his out so we both aren't going through emotional turmoil. He is training all week in his new job and has to fly today, I feel he will be distant as he is so dedicated to work and being a new one too! Any ways I can support him after we hook up to snap him back quicker to me? I don't want to go quiet on him etc yet I don't want to nag him arghhhhhhhhhh haha
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This helps a lot it's backing advice given on here by others also. I fought through my emotions and went about my work day, then went for a run to clear my head and to also exert this murky energy of mine. It worked in my favour he touched base sooner than I imagined and was genuinely asking how I was and making sure I was okay. I never once made any hint or dig about his quietness. We exchanged msgs and I picked he was tired so I signed off so he didn't feel he had to keep writing. I woke to a message with kisses and he responded quickly before our work day commenced. Im quite intense and passionate, I guess when we meet up his feelings and mine combined he has a lot to work through. He needs his time afterwards as he does find compliments and heartfelt comments hard to deal with or just is not use to it. He avoids them, changes subject or will ignore them...thank you again. I see him in under a month let's see with what knowledge I know now from you guys and my experiences till now I can make our time apart afterwards easier for him and to just trust my adorable Capricorn! ?
Posted by MiscorpionSweet! Me personally I don't know how to accept a compliment, I get mad awkward.Posted by GeecheedPosted by MiscorpionIt is difficult to just keep our minds from a task or goal. It literally engulfs us. The more mature he gets then he will loosen up more. My advice to you would be is stay positive and don't nag too much. My mind is very imaginative so after I am relaxing I can break down my day to see if it was productive. Send him texts, memes, poems, funny stuff, knowledgeable readings, or something sexually visual. We think a lot so..you get my point? Hope this helps.
I seem to be peppering the boards right now lol any insight would be great. I'm in a LDR for 3 years with a Cappy guy. He messages me morning and night always and calls most days whether it a video one or just to hear each other's voices. We snap some hot stuff or video regularly...I'd have it more if I had my way ? We just met up and it was the most incredible time. It's been a couple of days and I texted he replied saying it was reception as it duck shooting in our country. I knew he would go distant I've learnt over time and mentally prepared. How can I ease him or this? I try so hard and it puts me through some emotional battles...I don't let on and just keep being there. I don't ever make him feel bad for it or do silent games. I'd love any suggestions on how I can over time snub this mechanism of his out so we both aren't going through emotional turmoil. He is training all week in his new job and has to fly today, I feel he will be distant as he is so dedicated to work and being a new one too! Any ways I can support him after we hook up to snap him back quicker to me? I don't want to go quiet on him etc yet I don't want to nag him arghhhhhhhhhh haha
This helps a lot it's backing advice given on here by others also. I fought through my emotions and went about my work day, then went for a run to clear my head and to also exert this murky energy of mine. It worked in my favour he touched base sooner than I imagined and was genuinely asking how I was and making sure I was okay. I never once made any hint or dig about his quietness. We exchanged msgs and I picked he was tired so I signed off so he didn't feel he had to keep writing. I woke to a message with kisses and he responded quickly before our work day commenced. Im quite intense and passionate, I guess when we meet up his feelings and mine combined he has a lot to work through. He needs his time afterwards as he does find compliments and heartfelt comments hard to deal with or just is not use to it. He avoids them, changes subject or will ignore them...thank you again. I see him in under a month let's see with what knowledge I know now from you guys and my experiences till now I can make our time apart afterwards easier for him and to just trust my adorable Capricorn! ?
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Posted by AerazoI keep everything light and funny. For the most part I put everything on the table and let them decide. Friendship means a lot. I have been in a long relationship for 16 years. I'm super choosey so for me to be attached a lot got to be going on there so 7 months is irrelevant.
@geecheed you never answered my questions ?
Sun Cap, Venus in Aqua.. Do you move through partners a lot? are you sensitive if you have spent a lot of time (7 months) with someone?
Are you vengeful if a girl hurts you, you take revenge to make her mad?
why would you "act" Cocky with a woman you were with after the relationship ended?
It depends but if I didn't date you for years why would I be mad.... even if she hurt me. Shoot keep it moving cause in most cases she would have played herself already. I found out honesty works better for me.
I wouldn't act that way. I keep everything easy unless she did something to me. Then I would give them the cold shoulder and act like they never existed.
Posted by AriesAlwaysFirst off it takes me forever to wrap my head around feelings. Because I am weakened by the person it makes me vulnerable so I have to be 100% sure because ppl of full of shit. I put all my cards in!
In your early 20's, would you have put a possibly great relationship to the side completely for a new job venture, even if you had strong feelings for them/were falling for them? Like go completely silent on them and say you need space?
Or is this just an excuse for you to space to get your head around your feelings for that person (say you felt things for them quicker than what you expected/were comfortable)?
Thanks^^
Personally I would not do that because without telling them how I feel, IF THEY WERE IMPORTANT TO ME. If I'm uncomfortable about my feelings then I would trust my instincts and do what is right. My younger self (pre 21) I could see going silent tho but still being honest to a fault.
Hi I'm an Aquarius and I've been friends with this Capricorn male for a year and 5 months . He is 17 . Yes we are young but I can still like somebody . So this year in November he had told me he liked me since last year when we met in September . At that time I didn't like him that way , now I do . And I told him I used to like him so that I wouldn't get rejected because I thought I was too late and he said that he only kind of stopped like April of this year . And I still like him recently we've been getting closer talking about memories with eachother and talking about how we have a lot of things in common and every time I'd make this puppy dog face at him he'd start smiling and would say oh my god stop I can't look at you and said I'm doneeeee stop being so cute and I'd just confining doing it and it'd be the funniest thing but then i said I wanna go paint balling in the summer and he said he's been and it hurts a lot but we can go and he would say he doesn't want me playing and I said well I am gonna play and he said fine you are gonna play I'm giving you my protective vest and I'm gonna be protecting you The Whole game and I said no I'm gonna be fine and he said I don't want you to get hurt I care for you I don't want you to get a bruise or to bleed so I'm either gonna be standing in front of you or behind you and that's how it's gonna be and you are going to wear my vest I don't need and I said it's not a big deal and he'd say well it is to me I don't want you to get hurt and etc and he'd keep saying my eyes are nice Bc I asked what color are my eyes and he'd just stare at them and say they're amazing I swear they keep changing color and how I'm cute and pretty when I would say that I'm not . I don't know if he still likes me do you think so ? Also we were talking yesterday late at night and he lost telling me to go to sleep Bc he doesn't want me to be out of focus in school like him and wants me to get good grades
Since you said ask away I will. I need insight on my Capricorn sun and moon bf.He claims to be very mature also he is 23. I am a Scorpio sun and Leo moon 23 as well. We have been together for a year in a half now but we have a lot of problems. I am a person that likes to keep things to myself. I feel like in a relationship I should be able to handle things and not always run to him and tell him. For example : A guy comes up and tries to be friendly with me I let him know that I am taken and every one goes on with their day. He would like me to let him know when every guy or any guy talks to me. He has brought past insecurities into this relationship such as trust issues. He has gone through my phone numerous times and tells me that I am sneaky, a liar, cannot be trusted and dumb. In addition I have shot back with words like bitch when he has upset me.I can admit that I have done a few things that were not trustworthy such as me going out getting drunk and someone rubbing up on me. I did not tell him and he found that out by looking through my phone which he saw a convo with me and my best friend. He expects me to tell him in full detail everything that happened in my past relationships but I feel like it should not matter.
I am in a hard place because I feel like our relationship is toxic. We can not go a month or week with out arguing. We struggle with communication and each of us wanting to have control. We have tried to take a break and we are currently not together. He broke it off saying that he keeps hurting me with the things he does and we should not be together but then wanted me to show me how I care for him so much. I told him no and that is that for the moment.
I want to fix things I just am not sure that it is fixable.
I am in a hard place because I feel like our relationship is toxic. We can not go a month or week with out arguing. We struggle with communication and each of us wanting to have control. We have tried to take a break and we are currently not together. He broke it off saying that he keeps hurting me with the things he does and we should not be together but then wanted me to show me how I care for him so much. I told him no and that is that for the moment.
I want to fix things I just am not sure that it is fixable.
Posted by Stinger1106I can understand his point of view clearly. Many people are attracted to their mate because they see themselves in their mate. If you want to relationship to make it has to be compromises on both sides. If the incidents were minor why did you hide it from him at least that is the way I would view it. If you want to be with him it sounds like transparency is what is wants.
Since you said ask away I will. I need insight on my Capricorn sun and moon bf.He claims to be very mature also he is 23. I am a Scorpio sun and Leo moon 23 as well. We have been together for a year in a half now but we have a lot of problems. I am a person that likes to keep things to myself. I feel like in a relationship I should be able to handle things and not always run to him and tell him. For example : A guy comes up and tries to be friendly with me I let him know that I am taken and every one goes on with their day. He would like me to let him know when every guy or any guy talks to me. He has brought past insecurities into this relationship such as trust issues. He has gone through my phone numerous times and tells me that I am sneaky, a liar, cannot be trusted and dumb. In addition I have shot back with words like bitch when he has upset me.I can admit that I have done a few things that were not trustworthy such as me going out getting drunk and someone rubbing up on me. I did not tell him and he found that out by looking through my phone which he saw a convo with me and my best friend. He expects me to tell him in full detail everything that happened in my past relationships but I feel like it should not matter.
I am in a hard place because I feel like our relationship is toxic. We can not go a month or week with out arguing. We struggle with communication and each of us wanting to have control. We have tried to take a break and we are currently not together. He broke it off saying that he keeps hurting me with the things he does and we should not be together but then wanted me to show me how I care for him so much. I told him no and that is that for the moment.
I want to fix things I just am not sure that it is fixable.
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