Capricorn boys please explain.......

Hey cappy guys, i have a question for you.
When you are in a relationship, why do you go 2 or 3 days not comunicating with your girl? I have read on here that cap males like to disappear sometime. Is that true to most cap guys? And during your no contact time, do you think about your girl or is she just put out of your head? Alot of times it seems that when a guy doesnt text as much, people will say he is losing interest. Is this the way with cap guys, or can there interest still be just as strong? When me and my cap see each other, everything is really good, so idk..... Should i be concerned or is this just a normal pattern for you guys?
Let me know your thoughts boys. :-)

I don't think they mean it purposely or personally. I'm sure they think about you. What happens with me is I think about contacting someone, then something comes up and when I get back to the intention, I realize it's too late or the timing is bad. We caps can go days without talking, but then when we do, it's like no time has passed for us. Sometimes we get busy and don't even realize we haven't contacted someone. I understand how you're feeling, being a woman, I worry about it too. But, I think its pretty typical for caps. So, keep secure, don't fret. You can send a text saying how was your day and that might open things up too. But leave it at that one text. Definitely, don't appear clingy or needy!!!! Maybe he is waiting on you to contact him? Caps can be pretty insecure about how you feel about us, whether they admit it or not. Maybe he wants reassurance from you. Can't say for sure how your cap feels. Surely some of the guys will chime in eventually!

I usually let him text me first. He used to text daily with rarely missing a day here or there. But here lately it has gone like this... A week ago Thurs, fri. No contact. Saturday great date. Then sun. No contact. Talked to him through text for a bit mon. Night, then no contact tues, wed and thurs. Then great date this past friday and no contact sat ,sun.
Idk if I should text him since I let him do the contacting first. I really wish some guy caps would give me some insight as to what might be going on here. I am trying to not worry, or should I lol?
I appreciate to girls point of view too but dang where are the cap guys? Disappearing maybe? Hahaha :-P

Metoo has some good points and they are right on the mark!

There are a lot of threads on this subject, maybe if you go digging, you can find some better insight, since JTG was NO help at all!!! lol! He's right, though, we do enjoy our alone time.

Hang in there RL!

This is what they all do. You learn to accept it and understand it isn't about you or your relationship. Sometimes they get lost in their head with problems or other issues and they tune out. It's a given and a necessary. Let him miss you for a few days and enjoy your life. Trust when he comes back he'll be that much more into you.

Posted by JTG1984BETA

Posted by StillWater

Posted by JTG1984BETA
Or maybe he's just not that into you?

No; what a pessimistic point of view. If a Cap continues to see you date after date then YES he is in to you because Caps don't like wasting time.

It's another point of view because you really have to look at it from all of the angles. I like to start with the worst case scenario because it can only get better from there right?

But just saying as a Capricorn male if I were really into you I wouldn't go days without calling. However if I was unsure about you and we had no real relationship then sure I'll go a week without calling and would contact you when convenient.

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Well I hope your wrong on that point (not into me). I definitely am not a "convenient" type of girl. We are officially in a relationship and when we hang out we have a great,nonsexual(both virgins)but passionate fun time. We make each other laugh and he appears to adore me. This is what confuses me about the days of no contact. I don't mind giving him the time and space he needs ( I am not the clingy type.I just wondered since I have read so much about this on this site about you cap guys disappearing, I was wondering how to handle it. Do I lay back and wait and let him initiate contact like usual or send him a cute romantic text or a mere hello? He wouldn't still be seeing me if he lost interest would he? Ok I am curious, could it be possible he is starting to care too much and it is scaring him? Is this something a Capricorn would do? And if so, how should I handle this?

#1 THERE ARE NO CAPRICORN BOYS THEY ARE MEN
#2 WE ARE NOT CLINGEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
#3 WHY WOULD YOU CARE IF WE CONTACT YOU ARE NOT
#4 IT IS WHAT IT IS

FROM A CAP MAN

Posted by StillWater
^ Fair enough.

Yeah, JTG would contact you every single day.

THEY WEREN'T CAPS THEY WERE PRETEND CAPS.
CAPS CALLING EVERY DAY I DON'T EVEN SEND XMAS CARDS.

Posted by james tate
#1 THERE ARE NO CAPRICORN BOYS THEY ARE MEN
#2 WE ARE NOT CLINGEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
#3 WHY WOULD YOU CARE IF WE CONTACT YOU ARE NOT
#4 IT IS WHAT IT IS

FROM A CAP MAN

#1 lol 😄
#2 I didn't say caps were clingy, I said I was not the clingy type. 😉
#3 Regular contact (not constant) with someone you are in a relationship with shows thoughtfulness towards the mate.
#4 Well that could be good or that could be bad now can't it? 😉 But the question is, what is "it"? lol

Posted by M
Here's what concerns me. OP, you the more threads you spring up, the more you sound like you don't have a handle on things. In perusing them I feel less like you are asking about a hangup or a bit of reassurance and more like you are totally lost... looking for a tour guide to lead you out of the jungle.

You have a relationship with the cap right? To have one is to go *deeper* into the jungle, not out of it. Our answers dont seem to land, they only spawn a couple more threads. I'm not sure you are taking time to get to know your own Cap and how things work between the two of you.

Well this surely may be the case do to my age and general curiosity towards these matters. I am a student in life and relationships. That is why I am in search of knowledge from those more experienced. It is true I ask for guidance, but is that not wise on my part? I have been taking the time to get to know him. He, however, is slow to open up hence my reaching out to others that my give me insight on his inner workings. I am not so naive that I don't recognize that each is an individual despite their astro placements. However I do find this all so fascinating.
I am thankful for those who have taken the time to share what they know. 🙂

Posted by StillWater
^ LOL. Somehow I find that hard to believe for any Cap... well no actually nvm. My ex-Cap used to call me every single day. I could set my calendar by him.

Believe it, breathe it, feel it in your bones.

You can set not just your calendar but your clock by him. Until he gets pissed off.

Posted by james tate
THEY WEREN'T CAPS THEY WERE PRETEND CAPS.
CAPS CALLING EVERY DAY I DON'T EVEN SEND XMAS CARDS.

Posted by JTG1984BETA

Posted by Marmotini

Posted by StillWater
^ Fair enough.

Yeah, JTG would contact you every single day.

YOU DON'T KNOW ME!!

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That's what you always say.

But I wouldn't know you always say it if it I didn't know you soooooo...

Oh I forgot. We're pretending not to know one another. Like how you responded to that other thread like it wasn't about you.

Right. I DON'T KNOW YOU.

JUST KIDDING ABOUT HIM CONTACTING ME EVERY DAY.

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Posted by JTG1984BETA

Posted by Marmotini
Oh I forgot. We're pretending not to know one another. Like how you responded to that other thread like it wasn't about you.

Right. I DON'T KNOW YOU.

JUST KIDDING ABOUT HIM CONTACTING ME EVERY DAY.

You have more than a few screws loose, you're crazy.

LOL this feels familiar...

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Why? Do you know us from Typology Central, Personality Cafe, and INTJforum? Incidentally, on two of those forums he's known as the one who stalks me or follows me, not the other way around.

I'm not sure exactly what his drama is here, but he replied to my thread that he knew is about him (we discussed it via PMs) WITH HIS NEW ACCOUNT, just to let me know, hey I'm still around.

I've known him longer than the other Gemini he complains about here.

I have no interest in talking to him either if he acts like this. Just know he contacted me first. He almost always does.

It's a long story.

Oh, also, in case anyone is interested, I'm the reason JTG1984 is even into astrology. I'm the one who did his natal chart that he posted here and told him he's a triple Cap.

If you don't want to talk to me, stop contacting me J. It's really that simple.

Take responsibility for the fact that you responded to the thread I created with your new account. Do it. Take some responsibility.

Take some responsibility for your own actions, J.

Stalk, my ass.

Who harasses who? Who follows me on other websites when we're not talking? You, that's who. No other than JTG1984.

Is this some kind of weird sexual fantasy you have?

WHY DO YOU DO THIS?

All you have to do is either A) stop contacting me AND/OR B) speak to me privately like normal.

It isn't stalking when you reach out first, J.

How many times do I have to tell you that you're the one who almost always initiates contact?

Posted by M
Because he's slow to open up, you want the jump to keep a connection. What I don't understand (and this is hard to weed through as some of your threads are differently focused) is the absence of your dynamic with him overall. Advice and tips and all that are great at streamlining and understanding, but it's applied *to* what you already have...it just really feels like you aren't getting the intel from him that a relationship nets. When you have at least three "insight on our charts please" threads created days or even weeks apart...it kind of speaks to more than just curious. You need a natural basis as people and I'm not feeling that's going on outside of your astro studies :p Which creates a risk of faking it hoping to make it...or something like that.

Does that make sense? I'm not gunning you down for studying Caps, and I'm not shitting on your parade. There's just something off I'm really picking up on. I admit I can't pinpoint it right now, but I know the gene of ral area as stated above. Maybe the things you see and feel wind up come out different when conveying it online and so perhaps I'm talking out my ass. Feel free to disregard me then if that's the case. And again, I'm focusing on you and your Cap not just this thread. This is a common problem that is rooted different depending on which type of Cap he is.

Sorry, but some of this is confusing to me:/ what do you mean by "jump to keep a conection"? And "absence of your dynamic with him overall."? Also "common problem that is rooted different depending of which type of cap he is"? .... About the Chart threads.... there are only 2. I had originally posted one in the Capricorn threads and only got 1 reply so I decided to try that post in a differnt area by reposting it in relationships and Astrology. I tried to find a way to delete the original post but didnt see a way to do it. :p
BTW, are you familar with charts? If so, would you like to comment on mine? In simply terms please lol.

Posted by scorchedearth

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

if i were you i'd go back and hide all of the posts that have personal information in them. you're making yourself seem like a nutcase. there is absolutely no reason at all to ruin this thread with your stalking or dramatics.

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JTG has been repeatedly banned from other forums for trashing other people's threads, trolling, and stalking me.

This isn't the first public argument we have had on a forum.

JTG has about 10 places he could contact me besides publicly on this forum. He enjoys this shit. He initiated contact with his new account.

I'm not sure why you want to take his side, but there are moderators on about five web sites who can tell you all about JTG1984.

I'm just deleting his name and info about his family because I do care about him. However, I'm not deleting anything else.

Hey, and guess what? I wouldn't have to tell anyone any of this if he didn't reply in this thread with his little smartass comments to try to fuck with me.

I would never even have come back here if he didn't contact me.

Me and JTG go way back. He gets some kind of emotional orgasm out of this or something, I still haven't figured out exactly what his motive is, if he jerks off, if he thinks its revenge for when I've made him mad or hurt his feelings, I'm not entirely sure.

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Posted by Marmotini
Hey, and guess what? I wouldn't have to tell anyone any of this if he didn't reply in this thread with his little smartass comments to try to fuck with me.

I would never even have come back here if he didn't contact me.

Me and JTG go way back. He gets some kind of emotional orgasm out of this or something, I still haven't figured out exactly what his motive is, if he jerks off, if he thinks its revenge for when I've made him mad or hurt his feelings, I'm not entirely sure.

you're giving him power. is he really worth all of the energy you waste on him? you could be using your time to create a close relationship with someone healthy who wouldn't be a party to all the drama that exists between you guys. you're making a conscious choice to allow yourself to be dragged into his drama and are overextending yourself and making yourself seem a bit off your rocker. i don't know what's going on between you guys but he hasn't acted out the way you have. you started putting personal information on the board. that's insane. i haven't seen him do that. he just seems to want to be left alone. that's why i "took his side."

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Right, but if you had the full picture, you'd understand all the things he's done in the past three years. I've known JTG1984 for three years.

Not all of that has been forum drama, most of it was private one-on-one conversation/contact, but let me tell you that this is what I know about him: nothing bothers him more than having things announced about him publicly. It absolutely mortifies him. He feels mentally raped.

See, he can be cruel and emotionally abusive, and if I say he's being a jerk or whatever, he's like fine, I'm a cold Capricorn with a stone wall. But if I actually tell people private info about him, he actually hurts the way I hurt. I figured this out at some point.

He also randomly gets jealous of other men, like I told him this guy was flirting with me one night, and next thing I know he's calling me a wH*&re and saying I'm meaner to him than anyone ever, even though he's usually cool as a cucumber.

He's actually a very jealous man, as rational as he tries to seem.

So short of making him jealous of who I've been dating (I'm not sure this applies anymore, seeing as that he doesn't talk to me 12 hours

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Posted by scorchedearth

Posted by Marmotini
Hey, and guess what? I wouldn't have to tell anyone any of this if he didn't reply in this thread with his little smartass comments to try to fuck with me.

I would never even have come back here if he didn't contact me.

Me and JTG go way back. He gets some kind of emotional orgasm out of this or something, I still haven't figured out exactly what his motive is, if he jerks off, if he thinks its revenge for when I've made him mad or hurt his feelings, I'm not entirely sure.

you're giving him power. is he really worth all of the energy you waste on him? you could be using your time to create a close relationship with someone healthy who wouldn't be a party to all the drama that exists between you guys. you're making a conscious choice to allow yourself to be dragged into his drama and are overextending yourself and making yourself seem a bit off your rocker. i don't know what's going on between you guys but he hasn't acted out the way you have. you started putting personal information on the board. that's insane. i haven't seen him do that. he just seems to want to be left alone. that's why i "took his side."

This. Deja vu-d becuase you did this in the Cap Thing thread.

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Right, but other people think he's off his rocker. He's trolled Typology Central with about 20 troll accounts, and 15 of the 20 times, he was trolling me.

If you knew the big picture, you'd understand why I don't give a fuck what you think.

In fact, JTG1984 is thinking something along the lines of "haters make me famous."

He doesn't care about you, nor does he respect you. He used to troll Typology Central by telling people to have a nice day and pretending to be an ISFJ (he's an ISTJ).

I know him almost like I know the back of my hand. I was party to a lot of his on-line schemes and if you knew what I knew about his mom and dad, you'd know why I'm so compassionate about his "drama." He can't help it.

I honestly doubt anyone understands him as well as I do. And that's exactly what pisses him off, because I offended him in the past couple of months. YOU PEOPLE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING AT OR WHAT YOU'RE COMMENTING ON. He has a very special way of making things look a particular way.

He's even told me before how he basically gives people one impression and then hates your guts behind your back. You pretty much have to spend 12 hours a day with someone every day for over a year to even understand what I am saying.

So that's why I don't care what you think. Get over yourselves. Who the hell are you? And I assure you JTG feels even more contempt for you than I do. I'm actually the NICER ONE.

In fact I'd love to know what kind of retards think they know someone better in a few months on a forum than they know someone talking to them every day for close to two years, and actually knowing them for closer to three.

What gives people this kind of idiotic narcissism that you think the "fake" persona someone presents on the forum is the real person?

JTG understands that and takes advantage of that. "These people don't know what I was like on Type C, Personality Cafe, Personality Nation, INTJ forum, and what I'm like to talk to one on one (he actually has a good heart he's just scarred))" ...so he can take advantage of you, and make himself look innocent by being subtle.

It's his standard M.O., btw, one-liners and so forth. He knows it makes him look clever.

How can people be such idiots, how can they think they know an acquaintance better than a friend knows the person?

Who gives a fuck what you two nosy loser busy-bodies think? This is usually the kind of thing he says, like HA HA HA WTF Whatever.

And you're all butting in, trying to protect him. Good luck with that. I bet you guys also do this IRL, like butt into people's arguments and think you know what's going on just because of what things appear in front of your face.

I AM SO ANGRY.

If anything, I feel loyal to him, because I actually know him. The act of you ignorant strangers butting in with so little information makes me feel all the more fiercely protective of him.

Ironic, isn't it?

Posted by JTG1984BETA
Can you please stop now and just leave me alone.

You say that here but then you contact me.

I don't know if this is your ultimate troll swan song, but you always contact me. You even contacted me this time.

You have contacted me every time except once.

I love you, and don't be stupid and say I won't leave you alone if you want me to. Get real.

You contact me. Stop your troll shit.

I still value you more than these asshats making comments on what they think they understand.

In fact what are you doing up this time of night even talking to me?

You stayed up late so you can talk to me?

Stop making a scene. Really, you are the one making a scene.

I love you so much that I will leave you alone.

Just like I did last time.

Because I left you alone entirely until you contacted me.

I want this to be perfectly clear to you and everyone looking at this.

Nothing matters except you reaching out to me. Why the fuck would I even be here if you hadn't?

Derp, derp, derp.

I remember you two years ago sayig, "Hate me so I can love you again."

I hate you. Happy now?

Posted by JTG1984BETA
In the nicest way possible you really need to disappear.

You like me being around. It's why you contact me.

In fact I remember when you used to contact me and I wouldn't respond you'd just keep trying harder.

Guess that's what I need to do this time, ignore your stupid ass until you wake up and realize she doesn't want you.

Night night. Just remember, there is a light that never goes out.

Thank you, everevolvingepithet.

I swear to you this man seeks me out, I swear to you that I say "fin" and he contacts me again and again, and naturally I would only respond because I love him, and because I know he's been hung up on this chick who is basically a female player who isn't really sure she wants to be with him. They're basically roommates who hook up as far as I can tell.

I didn't even come here for like a month until he responded to my thread with his new account, and I didn't even come right away, and he totally could have handled this privately, via PM, via facebook, via AIM, via phone, via INTJforum chat, via anything but here.

But he wants the attention. He always does.

I fuckin' block him on facebook and he follows me onto other forums. I try, but I'm only human, I love him, so if he reaches out to me, I respond.

Yet he wants to be like "oh leave me alone." Well then leave me alone, mister. What did I ever do to you, really? REALLY, JTG, what did I ever do to you? As far as I remember we were there for each other every day for over a year until you met the girl who doesn't really want to be with you, and did you start dating her because I couldn't afford to move up North? I remember "if you aren't here by February I'll ask you why."

500 Days of Summer

Posted by koi
@JT and Marmotini

Guys, I'm sure re-enacting Je t'aime moi non plus is tons of fun, but maybe you could create yourselves a thread for that specific purpose? You're getting in the way of young love here. If OP and her cap end up breaking up like le Biebs and la Selena, you'll probably burn in eternal hell. Just saying. Don't tamper with young love, seriously.

(Or are they back together again now?)

Did it occur to you that YOU may be standing in the way of fate? I didn't see rockin' libra being offended at all.

She's my kind of chick. I never get pissed when people commandeer my threads, either.

Posted by M

Exactly! Or as I just said above, between you two!

It can't be wrong, I'm not saying *what* is going on, I'm saying how you are coming off. I even made sure in my post to say "whether or not you are", it's how you are coming off.

Comprehension skills ftw!

Speaking of, dropping names and places and things that happened... that presumably no one here knows...does nothing but pump more air into the balloon. Don't know, *don't want to know*

Go settle this in private or in your own thread. It's a monologue now, once again you sharing the story, and gritty details. And accomplishing nothing. Go do something! As a worked up Gem I'm sure you heard absolutely nothing, and will proceed to spam this thread. Night.

What you don't get is that you don't matter! Only JTG matters! So if I name or date drop, HE GETS IT. It triggers HIS memory (his an Si dom) so I am making posts to specifically trigger his Si, not entertain you.

And I only defend myself publicly because he insulted me publicly. Again, it's about him and what he perceives, and what he perceives other people perceiving.

I'm sure there are plenty of other threads for you to read on this forum, sir. I don't give a shit how you think I'm coming off.

Posted by koi
Sorry to burst your bubble Marmotini, but everyone matters.

Not in regards to the content of my posts, they do not. That is what the auto-mod of butter and treetrunking takes care of.

I have bigger fish to fry than to have some politically correct view of "everybody."

Just to show that I am not entirely mean-spirited (but just preoccupied), here's a nice song for "everybody."

DAMN GO TO PUB TAKE A NAP AND THIS THREAD HAS MOVED ON.
TO M SHE IS CUTE

Marmotini -

WE DON'T CARE!!!!!!!!!!! Take it elsewhere!

It was really rude of you to hijack this thread like you did with all your personal nonsense. Even after people politely asked you to stop, you kept on and on and on.

EASY COWGRIL YOU HAVE TO MUCH WHITELIGHTING IN THAT WATER BOTTLE.

BY THE BY FOR THOSE JUST JOINING US JTG IS NOT JAMES TATE GONENUTS
IF IT WERE JTB IT COULD BE JAMES TATE BIGNUTS
BUT ITS NOT

MANCHESTER UNITED WILL HAVE A GREAT 2013.

Posted by james tate
EASY COWGRIL YOU HAVE TO MUCH WHITELIGHTING IN THAT WATER BOTTLE.

Who told? lol!

Ah well, the secrets out...I'll share!

*passes drink to Tate*

for you it would be a great day
thinks lov

I DON'T THINK ANY ONES JOKEING.

Posted by JTG1984BETA

Posted by StillWater
Marmotini - you're a cool chick. Good for you to stand up for yourself.

You're joking right?

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There's rationality in what I'm saying even if some people don't appreciate that *we* hijacked the thread.

And that's a *we*

You could have responded to me privately at any time. You also threatened to delete your account and didn't. And you're still responding.

You love the drama, you eat it up with a spoon. You started this, really. And of course you know I know that whole thing you do with strangers, the facade.

My apologies to anyone who is not JTG who I offended. Except for M who seemed really judgeental of me with very limited information, not knowing my history with JTG or who he actually is.

Posted by StillWater
Marmotini - you're a cool chick. Good for you to stand up for yourself.

Thank you! 🙂

The Libra that I am can be kind, patient, understanding and forgiving. The truth is, out of 8 pages on my topic, only 2 were devoted to the subject..
All I can respectfully say is .......WOW :/
Marmotini, the page is yours.

you tell him rockin

If you don't like it, ignore it.

Simple as that.

Posted by Scorp77
Wow, this GEMINI woman is a nutcase.
she repeats the same thing over and over, and has made herself to look like a fool in public.
I think JTG is a cool guy, and the only way to ger rid of this crazy woman is to none of us respond to this thread
so she can stfu.

Google JTG1984 and you'll see. I speak truth, all of the public stuff is still public. I have no reason to lie.

I also even have proof of private stuff, AIM logs, photos, facebook, etc. He knows that, but he also banks on me being too reasonable (he knows I'm not really insane as in certifiable) to actually do that. I won't. I'm not going to post his baby pics or pics of his mommy or post private conversations we had. He actually banks on me being, in the end, fairly reasonable and also caring for him enough to protect him.

However, you'll believe what you want. I think it's readily apparent to anyone who cares enough to do some research that I'm telling the 100% truth...and I'm not even telling you everything, he'd absolutely die if I did.