Gemitati
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Capricorn denial of the facts
Why on earth did you marry this guy? You must've had some idea that he was like this.
Was he completely different and more attentive before you married him?
Posted by HippieGemI was in Love with him and I was younger and didn’t mind playing ‘mother’ and we had a lot of fun with friends and then you getting a child and buying a house and getting jobs that are better than previous...
Was he completely different and more attentive before you married him?
But years later something hits you!
And you realizing that it was 10% of his effort to 90% of yours and you go WTF!
ENOUGH!
But it’s such a long period of time passed!
And quickly too...
And having tasing a child in a full family environment was my goal!
I’ve rich that! 👋
Posted by ellesbellesI am not attacking. I don’t have a strength for attacking. Simply saying ‘don’t call me a little one’ isn’t attacking.
You can't attack someone and not expect them to defend themself.
You sound so similar to my Gemini mother...and my father was a Scorp.
How would you say it?
Posted by sultrykittyNo. I was younger and in love!
Why on earth did you marry this guy? You must've had some idea that he was like this.
Posted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
Posted by capitalismSo? And you reply! Like if you get paid for it...lmao
All you do is bitch and complain.
Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
Posted by GemitatiSo he wined and dined you? Opened doors, brought flowers, called you sexy and was good in bed?Posted by sultrykittyNo. I was younger and in love!
Why on earth did you marry this guy? You must've had some idea that he was like this.click to expand
At *some* point, he had to have shown you this side of him. Being in love, maybe you hung on to the past and didn't think he would be this way forever.
I get it though. But really, both of you have tired of each other. I'm sure he grumbles to himself about you too. I know you don't want to divorce but why keep doing this? People get divorced after 25-30 years, it's not the end of the world. You might even get along better afterwards
Posted by capitalismAre you still here? 😂😂😂Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYou said you know one cap man and that's your brother...
Yep that caps for you horrible in bed ands never change or do better
Unless you've had sex with your brother you have no say about how caps are in bed.click to expand
Posted by sultrykittyLmao! No! Actually on a first date he borrowed $ 40 from me TO wine and dine me! LolPosted by GemitatiSo he wined and dined you? Opened doors, brought flowers, called you sexy and was good in bed?Posted by sultrykittyNo. I was younger and in love!
Why on earth did you marry this guy? You must've had some idea that he was like this.
At *some* point, he had to have shown you this side of him. Being in love, maybe you hung on to the past and didn't think he would be this way forever.
I get it though. But really, both of you have tired of each other. I'm sure he grumbles to himself about you too. I know you don't want to divorce but why keep doing this? People get divorced after 25-30 years, it's not the end of the world. You might even get along better afterwards
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Opened doors? No
Flowers? Yes!
Called me sexy? Yes
Good in bed? I made it happened...I am 11 years younger so...
Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?click to expand
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!
Posted by ellesbellesThat’s EXACTLY what i am doing.Posted by GemitatiYou are telling him what he can't do....but never offering up what he *can* do.Posted by ellesbellesI am not attacking. I don’t have a strength for attacking. Simply saying ‘don’t call me a little one’ isn’t attacking.
You can't attack someone and not expect them to defend themself.
You sound so similar to my Gemini mother...and my father was a Scorp.
How would you say it?
He has turned off his inner ear....because everything sounds the same. Just noise.
What do you want to be called?
Honey, I would prefer you call me *xxxxxxx*. I won't answer to "little one" because I find it offensive.
....and then ignore and DO NOT respond to him if he continues.
Also tell him how that makes you feel...
"When you call me "little one", it makes me feel *insert feelings here*"click to expand
We have good communications except he doesn’t listen! I said ‘little one’ makes me feel like I am a girl in a sandbox approached by a pedi file.
Next day ‘ok, little kne’...WHAAAT?
And it’s been for years!!!
Believe me all I say falls on a deaf ear!
And I had said ‘don’t mind me if I don’t answer your question. It means I find it not worse the answer’...
Now when I keep silent to his comments he says - ‘well, no answer, got it’ and asking or saying another stupid thing...
Lol
Posted by capitalismIs your mother old, moron?
You can't divorce him, you're old and probably talk too loud.
Only the homeless shelter will take you now.
Posted by RooSagicornI meant I’ve seen a MAN who is acting noble and go-getter and perfect. Man who does everything for his family and total opposite to my husband! He doesn’t say crap, doesn’t do baby talk, he just says my name and I am fainting! And no, it’s not a ‘little one’! LolPosted by GemitatiWhat does that mean you know better? It can’t be that bad if you don’t leave on your own, to be by yourself.Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!click to expand
So life striked me and my eyes had opened!
I didn’t know those creatures exist in real life!!! They do after all...
Posted by ellesbellesThanks boo! ❤️
I like you, Gem.....even despite the affair.
I think you are pretty genuine and not malicious.
I feel like you are just a bit miserable.
I hope next year is better for you.
And trust me as I said before - no one wishes it upon themselves! It’s just hits you as a bag of bricks and I am paying dearly for everything but I am also better because I have something to look firward to. Love is amazing. Blessing and curse in my case.
Posted by capitalismTHATS why you turned out to be so successful wasting your life here instead of HAVING LIFE? 😂😂😂Posted by GemitatiYeah but she's not a cheating alcoholic.Posted by capitalismIs your mother old, moron?
You can't divorce him, you're old and probably talk too loud.
Only the homeless shelter will take you now.click to expand
Posted by RooSagicornI meant I know better how to deal with a Scorpio which means staying by his site and waiting...Posted by GemitatiWhat does that mean you know better? It can’t be that bad if you don’t leave on your own, to be by yourself.Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!click to expand
Posted by GemitatiFixed
You are lazy in bed!
I’ve been never told that before!
Yep! That’s why 3 women before me including me cheated on you and divorced you!
But they regret it. I know they all sorry for that mistake and would be happy to come back!
SAID WHO?
I just KNOW IT!
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Posted by RooSagicornIt’s all in the works.Posted by GemitatiOk, but why stay in the meantime? Why make a big deal of things he does that drive you crazy? Why not leave?Posted by RooSagicornI meant I’ve seen a MAN who is acting noble and go-getter and perfect. Man who does everything for his family and total opposite to my husband! He doesn’t say crap, doesn’t do baby talk, he just says my name and I am fainting! And no, it’s not a ‘little one’! LolPosted by GemitatiWhat does that mean you know better? It can’t be that bad if you don’t leave on your own, to be by yourself.Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!
So life striked me and my eyes had opened!
I didn’t know those creatures exist in real life!!! They do after all...
Oh they are out there.. even ones who aren’t married.. why not become single first?click to expand
Cap told me he will die if I leave him.
And he has heart condition and he just might die from being...lost!
I can’t have that!
Plus we both live in a house we love and I have my own chamber where I am spending my own time after I served him dinner...
I am teaching him little by little how to use appliances. He asked me how to use VC the other day...I said there is only ONE button! On and off! He looked at me dumbfound! Wow!
So I am working on it. But it can’t be fast.
Last year when we had started to be going from bad to worse - he signed to a dating site. I saw email and there was a gorgeous woman. I’ve asked ‘have you seen that beauty in a blue dress?’
He said no. Can you find her?
I was like...great! I have to find him a woman now?
Ironic that your bitching about his refusal to own up to the truth when you refuse to own up to yours. You truly are a match made in...the old country or whatever. Mazel tov 🎉
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio3He is also black.
Just go for tiger woods he’s single
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio3OMG! I’ve missed the point when you said more then LOL! Shut up!!!!!!! Lmao
Just go for tiger woods he’s single
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio3Are you drunk? Or high? Why are you talking so much chatterbox? LolPosted by GemitatiLol tiger woods is really not black.Posted by Evoxxxscorpio3He is also black.
Just go for tiger woods he’s singleclick to expand
Posted by GemitatiWell all that glitters is not gold. What you might see on the surface might not be what is true. Everyone has faults. Sometimes people don't want a perfect partner. Be realistic. You have a husband who still loves you.Posted by RooSagicornI meant I’ve seen a MAN who is acting noble and go-getter and perfect. Man who does everything for his family and total opposite to my husband! He doesn’t say crap, doesn’t do baby talk, he just says my name and I am fainting! And no, it’s not a ‘little one’! LolPosted by GemitatiWhat does that mean you know better? It can’t be that bad if you don’t leave on your own, to be by yourself.Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!
So life striked me and my eyes had opened!
I didn’t know those creatures exist in real life!!! They do after all...click to expand
When the gas gets over do you go to a gas station to refill or do you get a new car? You loved your husband at some point in your life, he still loves you. Either you both learn to accept each other and make some amends or move apart. No point in cheating behind his back.
Posted by Capricorn91Great post. Too late hon!Posted by GemitatiWell all that glitters is not gold. What you might see on the surface might not be what is true. Everyone has faults. Sometimes people don't want a perfect partner. Be realistic. You have a husband who still loves you.Posted by RooSagicornI meant I’ve seen a MAN who is acting noble and go-getter and perfect. Man who does everything for his family and total opposite to my husband! He doesn’t say crap, doesn’t do baby talk, he just says my name and I am fainting! And no, it’s not a ‘little one’! LolPosted by GemitatiWhat does that mean you know better? It can’t be that bad if you don’t leave on your own, to be by yourself.Posted by RooSagicornDepends on when my Scorp will get his shit together...lolPosted by GemitatiDynamic sucks. What’s your game plan here?Posted by RooSagicornChild is 23. Been out on her own since college. 6 years now.
How old is the child now? Have they moved out? And if so, how long have the two of you been alone?
I am not rushing anywhere. I know better!
So life striked me and my eyes had opened!
I didn’t know those creatures exist in real life!!! They do after all...
When the gas gets over do you go to a gas station to refill or do you get a new car? You loved your husband at some point in your life, he still loves you. Either you both learn to accept each other and make some amends or move apart. No point in cheating behind his back.click to expand
I have my batteries charged and he lost his forever. He loves me as a habit and cinvenience. Plus I am not bad to the eye!
And Scorp isn’t a glitter. He is a gold!
Who’s family taking him for granted.
So...everyone has to pay the price!
Me for being blind and not aware.
Cap for taking me for granted.
Scorp for letting being used and his family for taking him for granted.
It’s a huge game! Someone won’t survive!
And I don’t give a damn if it’s me! Just get my organs to those who in need!
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYep! If Jews and Italians are black - I am!Posted by GemitatiYou're married to a black manPosted by Evoxxxscorpio3He is also black.
Just go for tiger woods he’s single
And the scorpio?click to expand
Posted by capitalismLemme stop you right there. Some caps like that crybaby crap
All you do is bitch and complain.
Posted by miriyahhhLike...to do what with? Ignore? Sick bastards!Posted by capitalismLemme stop you right there. Some caps like that crybaby crap
All you do is bitch and complain.click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy Egypt? Why?
I wish they could put a sign on gemini board for gemini women. Don't make men dependent on you. Don't be with men dependent on you. Be careful of men who can't do shit for themselves. Or seem lost or lazy.
This happens alot
My ex coworker still works part time in her 70s for her family
While her useless cancer husband goes to Egypt with her money all the fuking time
She never vacations
It's so sad
It makes me sick
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYou mean Gem women just like me?
I wish they could put a sign on gemini board for gemini women. Don't make men dependent on you. Don't be with men dependent on you. Be careful of men who can't do shit for themselves. Or seem lost or lazy.
This happens alot
My ex coworker still works part time in her 70s for her family
While her useless cancer husband goes to Egypt with her money all the fuking time
She never vacations
It's so sad
It makes me sick
How about cheaters and gold diggers and crap? Dismissed by Cancer you? Hmmm
Posted by GemitatiWell my cap used to like to argue. It's sexy to them. They like the makeup sex.Posted by miriyahhhLike...to do what with? Ignore? Sick bastards!Posted by capitalismLemme stop you right there. Some caps like that crybaby crap
All you do is bitch and complain.click to expand
Posted by miriyahhhNooos. Mine is non-confrontational.Posted by GemitatiWell my cap used to like to argue. It's sexy to them. They like the makeup sex.Posted by miriyahhhLike...to do what with? Ignore? Sick bastards!Posted by capitalismLemme stop you right there. Some caps like that crybaby crap
All you do is bitch and complain.click to expand
Maybe because he is afraid of make up sex! Lol
But he shouldn’t remember...it’s been...previous generation thing...
Posted by UnicornSagHe's 11 years older and shes no spring chicken. After 24 years she figures why not wait him out till death and collect it all instead of paying the lawyers and only getting half.Posted by GemitatiPosted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
That's the main problem with men like him and women like you...
1. why do women want men who are incapable of taking care of themselves?
2. why men allow themselves to depend on women on anything?
Yes it's great when you have someone to care for you but it doesn't mean you should act like handicapped! You 2 were not match from the start from all this but you stayed together through all this. I read also part when you mentioned his ex wives cheated on him and so did you...don't you fear you will pay for that at some point? Not the cheating part, but intentionally hurting part? I get you're disappointed in him in so many ways, I get he's very aloof in many points.But don't make yourself go that low if you get what I'm saying. I strongly believe God sees everything and gives us as we earned. At least it's how I saw it through life about myself and other people that I know of. There is a reward and punishment. When people are so long in marriage a lot can go wrong but it's mainly when 2 people who shouldn't be together stayed together...
I have such example in my own family, my dad is pretty much like him. It's just awful.My mom had to do everything for him. They divorced but just few years ago, yet still live together. I strongly believe they should have gone their own ways long time ago and so have you to hadclick to expand
Posted by UnicornSagThanks. I hear what you saying except there is nothing horrible going on. He is laughing, happy, aloof...or playing one.Posted by GemitatiPosted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
That's the main problem with men like him and women like you...
1. why do women want men who are incapable of taking care of themselves?
2. why men allow themselves to depend on women on anything?
Yes it's great when you have someone to care for you but it doesn't mean you should act like handicapped! You 2 were not match from the start from all this but you stayed together through all this. I read also part when you mentioned his ex wives cheated on him and so did you...don't you fear you will pay for that at some point? Not the cheating part, but intentionally hurting part? I get you're disappointed in him in so many ways, I get he's very aloof in many points.But don't make yourself go that low if you get what I'm saying. I strongly believe God sees everything and gives us as we earned. At least it's how I saw it through life about myself and other people that I know of. There is a reward and punishment. When people are so long in marriage a lot can go wrong but it's mainly when 2 people who shouldn't be together stayed together...
I have such example in my own family, my dad is pretty much like him. It's just awful.My mom had to do everything for him. They divorced but just few years ago, yet still live together. I strongly believe they should have gone their own ways long time ago and so have you to hadclick to expand
I am the only one who paying.
And about what God sees and what he will do - it is not making me change my heart and stop loving my Scorpio.
I am out of the bedroom for 2 years! So I am not cheating on anybody. But what I do in my private life is my business.
I am actually working according to the plan. So...we will cross that bridge when we get there. And I don’t believe in Karma not Hell. I believe in love and that God will bring us together.
Appreciate your input dear.
Posted by OneKnightYou didn’t get half of it right!Posted by GemitatiIt's not my business what you do. I don't judge you, but I have a feeling I understand you on this forum the most, and since it's Christmas I decided to give you a gift.
Love blind until you get your sight back!
I have a feeling you are not aware of being your own Gemini victim. It's not uncommon for Gems to lead 2 separate lives. I know at least 2 Gems in my family like that. 2 separate lives, with 2 separate moral codes in your head. Both perfectly fine and approved by you.
That is the only reason why someone can pull this off for 10 years. No one in this world can complain about their husband, cheat on him for 10 years, and still be with him, unless she is a Gem. There is nothing wrong with your husband. It's your second half seeking the Other second half. It's rooted deep in peoples souls, and it's on steroids for Geminis.
There is good news thought. At around age 60+ there is that final life crisis. That's when a Gem woman in my family "reunited" the Twins.
Merry Christmas Geminis. Most mysterious sing of a Zodiac. Puzzle.
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I fell in love 8! Years ago.
5 of which were platonic.
Last 3 it’s physical but I am out of the bedroom.
And there is a lot wrong with my husband!
Read OP and it’s not even a close to a whole list!
One time I’ve heard from a man that as long as he has one of those - dick, hands, tongue - his woman will be satisfied!
This is when I was like WOW!!!
He almost made me an impotent frigid old ass!!! Because sex is hard work and watching TV is not!!!
Please spare me this gift giving crap!
Merry Christmas! 🎄🎁
Posted by UnicornSagI can answer now. I don’t know about your parents but we don’t have a bad life.Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagThanks. I hear what you saying except there is nothing horrible going on. He is laughing, happy, aloof...or playing one.Posted by GemitatiPosted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
That's the main problem with men like him and women like you...
1. why do women want men who are incapable of taking care of themselves?
2. why men allow themselves to depend on women on anything?
Yes it's great when you have someone to care for you but it doesn't mean you should act like handicapped! You 2 were not match from the start from all this but you stayed together through all this. I read also part when you mentioned his ex wives cheated on him and so did you...don't you fear you will pay for that at some point? Not the cheating part, but intentionally hurting part? I get you're disappointed in him in so many ways, I get he's very aloof in many points.But don't make yourself go that low if you get what I'm saying. I strongly believe God sees everything and gives us as we earned. At least it's how I saw it through life about myself and other people that I know of. There is a reward and punishment. When people are so long in marriage a lot can go wrong but it's mainly when 2 people who shouldn't be together stayed together...
I have such example in my own family, my dad is pretty much like him. It's just awful.My mom had to do everything for him. They divorced but just few years ago, yet still live together. I strongly believe they should have gone their own ways long time ago and so have you to had
I am the only one who paying.
And about what God sees and what he will do - it is not making me change my heart and stop loving my Scorpio.
I am out of the bedroom for 2 years! So I am not cheating on anybody. But what I do in my private life is my business.
I am actually working according to the plan. So...we will cross that bridge when we get there. And I don’t believe in Karma not Hell. I believe in love and that God will bring us together.
Appreciate your input dear.
No I only meant about pointing him out the cheating part. As weird as it sounds I didn't really mean on cheating itself. They way I see it, what we don't know can't hurt us, only what we do know does. And this sounded like intentionally hurting him, that's why I mentioned it. I'm not trying to justify anyone's side in this tho. I also get that since you have bad sex experience with this guy it's frustrating and understandable that at some point you found someone else. But personally I would go my own way regardless on everything if that person no longer makes me happy(this includes bad sex experience). I find it fair that way, they are free to find someone who matches their standards and I find someone who matches mine. I don't judge anyone based on their choices in life anyway. I believe my mother had similar situation like you did. As far as I know they had no sex life whatsoever for years. It's only normal that people want that in life with someone else if they don't get it from their spouse. But still, I told her many times, divorce and go your own way, do everyone a favor with that.click to expand
I’ll say lots of people would be happy to be us. I was! Until I saw the difference!
As my Scorpio said ‘we have ok lives...just not the once we want’ and I know him having a huge clan family he sees lots of shit going on like when I said ‘you can have 25 y/old’ he said ‘I’ve seen it with my relatives who are up to eyeballs in debts right now and their chicks moved on after account cleaning’...
So we are fine by society standards!
Decent, ‘happy put on faces’, above average American families. Where deep inside there is hollow space and stale pond we are in!
You saying divorce like it’s a solution to the issue. No darling! It’s not.
We both have kids to marry and in our cultures we must walk them down the isle with both parents so our communities will shut up and even if they suspect anything - they have no proof!
It’s hard to explain to those who don’t have same issues.
So far ‘we have good lives...’ and when all obligations are met - we can be free to do what we want! And don’t tell me about age! We are fine!
It’s just sucks to have to be strong when you want to fall apart and DIE but you can’t because ‘families’ are watching!
Fuck them!!!
Posted by UnicornSagSee? Divircing and living together is like...WHY did you wasted money to make lawyers richer? Right?Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagI can answer now. I don’t know about your parents but we don’t have a bad life.Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagThanks. I hear what you saying except there is nothing horrible going on. He is laughing, happy, aloof...or playing one.Posted by GemitatiPosted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
That's the main problem with men like him and women like you...
1. why do women want men who are incapable of taking care of themselves?
2. why men allow themselves to depend on women on anything?
Yes it's great when you have someone to care for you but it doesn't mean you should act like handicapped! You 2 were not match from the start from all this but you stayed together through all this. I read also part when you mentioned his ex wives cheated on him and so did you...don't you fear you will pay for that at some point? Not the cheating part, but intentionally hurting part? I get you're disappointed in him in so many ways, I get he's very aloof in many points.But don't make yourself go that low if you get what I'm saying. I strongly believe God sees everything and gives us as we earned. At least it's how I saw it through life about myself and other people that I know of. There is a reward and punishment. When people are so long in marriage a lot can go wrong but it's mainly when 2 people who shouldn't be together stayed together...
I have such example in my own family, my dad is pretty much like him. It's just awful.My mom had to do everything for him. They divorced but just few years ago, yet still live together. I strongly believe they should have gone their own ways long time ago and so have you to had
I am the only one who paying.
And about what God sees and what he will do - it is not making me change my heart and stop loving my Scorpio.
I am out of the bedroom for 2 years! So I am not cheating on anybody. But what I do in my private life is my business.
I am actually working according to the plan. So...we will cross that bridge when we get there. And I don’t believe in Karma not Hell. I believe in love and that God will bring us together.
Appreciate your input dear.
No I only meant about pointing him out the cheating part. As weird as it sounds I didn't really mean on cheating itself. They way I see it, what we don't know can't hurt us, only what we do know does. And this sounded like intentionally hurting him, that's why I mentioned it. I'm not trying to justify anyone's side in this tho. I also get that since you have bad sex experience with this guy it's frustrating and understandable that at some point you found someone else. But personally I would go my own way regardless on everything if that person no longer makes me happy(this includes bad sex experience). I find it fair that way, they are free to find someone who matches their standards and I find someone who matches mine. I don't judge anyone based on their choices in life anyway. I believe my mother had similar situation like you did. As far as I know they had no sex life whatsoever for years. It's only normal that people want that in life with someone else if they don't get it from their spouse. But still, I told her many times, divorce and go your own way, do everyone a favor with that.
I’ll say lots of people would be happy to be us. I was! Until I saw the difference!
As my Scorpio said ‘we have ok lives...just not the once we want’ and I know him having a huge clan family he sees lots of shit going on like when I said ‘you can have 25 y/old’ he said ‘I’ve seen it with my relatives who are up to eyeballs in debts right now and their chicks moved on after account cleaning’...
So we are fine by society standards!
Decent, ‘happy put on faces’, above average American families. Where deep inside there is hollow space and stale pond we are in!
You saying divorce like it’s a solution to the issue. No darling! It’s not.
We both have kids to marry and in our cultures we must walk them down the isle with both parents so our communities will shut up and even if they suspect anything - they have no proof!
It’s hard to explain to those who don’t have same issues.
So far ‘we have good lives...’ and when all obligations are met - we can be free to do what we want! And don’t tell me about age! We are fine!
It’s just sucks to have to be strong when you want to fall apart and DIE but you can’t because ‘families’ are watching!
Fuck them!!!
Yeah I get what you are saying...and on the other point I don't lol because the way I am I accept no social norms to rule my life. I reject anything that contradicts my believes and don't accept to fit into molds. Truth is I never understood why people do they way they do and the way you just described cause to me it's all so simple but people make it complicated. Maybe it's because I come from multicultural ground, grew up with people from multiple religions with strong or no believes at all, lived through a war as kid, saw a lot of good and bad things, happy homes and broken ones so everything is pretty much normal and acceptable to me. And just a part of life. I don't care much about age too, we live as long as we breathe and therefor should do best we can to make it best for us. Well my parents are divorced yet live together still. Do their own things, I don't get into it much to be honest cause I don't care. Don't let them in mine and don't mind about theirs as well. It's all fine to me at least but I get that many people don't think that way. It's just sad when people get stuck with each other for long time and it isn't working out. Cause of kids, habits, convenience, whatever it is that makes the glue between them.
Well regardless, wish you all good luck with your own things, do your best what you can to make it best it can be for you. Everyone deserves luck after all
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Same with us but we don’t waste money on something that wouldn’t change anything!
I don’t mind serve him as I always did.
He is a father of my child. She adores him though she knows my story...since she was 15. Now 23.
I gave it to the God! And I am waiting for whatever He is going to send upon me.
It’s out of my reach at this point.
We both Scorpio and myself are loosing it!
I am trying to keep him sane.
He has much more to lose than I am so I want to make sure he is ok with that.
I will never accept him if he is not sure.
Well...Merry Christmas 🎄 and Happy New Year!
Posted by UnicornSagWe don’t fight. It’s all calm and cool. We discussing nessesary things and he just again called me A LITTLE ONE!!! And I had not reacted...Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagSee? Divircing and living together is like...WHY did you wasted money to make lawyers richer? Right?Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagI can answer now. I don’t know about your parents but we don’t have a bad life.Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagThanks. I hear what you saying except there is nothing horrible going on. He is laughing, happy, aloof...or playing one.Posted by GemitatiPosted by capitalismBecause I am all that! And he had never had anyone cared for him the way I did and he still loves me. I know divorce would kill him! He doesn’t know how to make cup of coffee! If he wants coffee - he waits for me. 👅
Why would he marry someone like you?
That's the main problem with men like him and women like you...
1. why do women want men who are incapable of taking care of themselves?
2. why men allow themselves to depend on women on anything?
Yes it's great when you have someone to care for you but it doesn't mean you should act like handicapped! You 2 were not match from the start from all this but you stayed together through all this. I read also part when you mentioned his ex wives cheated on him and so did you...don't you fear you will pay for that at some point? Not the cheating part, but intentionally hurting part? I get you're disappointed in him in so many ways, I get he's very aloof in many points.But don't make yourself go that low if you get what I'm saying. I strongly believe God sees everything and gives us as we earned. At least it's how I saw it through life about myself and other people that I know of. There is a reward and punishment. When people are so long in marriage a lot can go wrong but it's mainly when 2 people who shouldn't be together stayed together...
I have such example in my own family, my dad is pretty much like him. It's just awful.My mom had to do everything for him. They divorced but just few years ago, yet still live together. I strongly believe they should have gone their own ways long time ago and so have you to had
I am the only one who paying.
And about what God sees and what he will do - it is not making me change my heart and stop loving my Scorpio.
I am out of the bedroom for 2 years! So I am not cheating on anybody. But what I do in my private life is my business.
I am actually working according to the plan. So...we will cross that bridge when we get there. And I don’t believe in Karma not Hell. I believe in love and that God will bring us together.
Appreciate your input dear.
No I only meant about pointing him out the cheating part. As weird as it sounds I didn't really mean on cheating itself. They way I see it, what we don't know can't hurt us, only what we do know does. And this sounded like intentionally hurting him, that's why I mentioned it. I'm not trying to justify anyone's side in this tho. I also get that since you have bad sex experience with this guy it's frustrating and understandable that at some point you found someone else. But personally I would go my own way regardless on everything if that person no longer makes me happy(this includes bad sex experience). I find it fair that way, they are free to find someone who matches their standards and I find someone who matches mine. I don't judge anyone based on their choices in life anyway. I believe my mother had similar situation like you did. As far as I know they had no sex life whatsoever for years. It's only normal that people want that in life with someone else if they don't get it from their spouse. But still, I told her many times, divorce and go your own way, do everyone a favor with that.
I’ll say lots of people would be happy to be us. I was! Until I saw the difference!
As my Scorpio said ‘we have ok lives...just not the once we want’ and I know him having a huge clan family he sees lots of shit going on like when I said ‘you can have 25 y/old’ he said ‘I’ve seen it with my relatives who are up to eyeballs in debts right now and their chicks moved on after account cleaning’...
So we are fine by society standards!
Decent, ‘happy put on faces’, above average American families. Where deep inside there is hollow space and stale pond we are in!
You saying divorce like it’s a solution to the issue. No darling! It’s not.
We both have kids to marry and in our cultures we must walk them down the isle with both parents so our communities will shut up and even if they suspect anything - they have no proof!
It’s hard to explain to those who don’t have same issues.
So far ‘we have good lives...’ and when all obligations are met - we can be free to do what we want! And don’t tell me about age! We are fine!
It’s just sucks to have to be strong when you want to fall apart and DIE but you can’t because ‘families’ are watching!
Fuck them!!!
Yeah I get what you are saying...and on the other point I don't lol because the way I am I accept no social norms to rule my life. I reject anything that contradicts my believes and don't accept to fit into molds. Truth is I never understood why people do they way they do and the way you just described cause to me it's all so simple but people make it complicated. Maybe it's because I come from multicultural ground, grew up with people from multiple religions with strong or no believes at all, lived through a war as kid, saw a lot of good and bad things, happy homes and broken ones so everything is pretty much normal and acceptable to me. And just a part of life. I don't care much about age too, we live as long as we breathe and therefor should do best we can to make it best for us. Well my parents are divorced yet live together still. Do their own things, I don't get into it much to be honest cause I don't care. Don't let them in mine and don't mind about theirs as well. It's all fine to me at least but I get that many people don't think that way. It's just sad when people get stuck with each other for long time and it isn't working out. Cause of kids, habits, convenience, whatever it is that makes the glue between them.
Well regardless, wish you all good luck with your own things, do your best what you can to make it best it can be for you. Everyone deserves luck after all
Same with us but we don’t waste money on something that wouldn’t change anything!
I don’t mind serve him as I always did.
He is a father of my child. She adores him though she knows my story...since she was 15. Now 23.
I gave it to the God! And I am waiting for whatever He is going to send upon me.
It’s out of my reach at this point.
We both Scorpio and myself are loosing it!
I am trying to keep him sane.
He has much more to lose than I am so I want to make sure he is ok with that.
I will never accept him if he is not sure.
Well...Merry Christmas 🎄 and Happy New Year!
Exactly, sad thing is there is more people in same situation that i know of...it's just like wtf are you doing? What's the point of getting divorced and keep living together lol ofc they have all sorts of excuses for it but it comes down to one thing-costs too much to separate goods/buy their own places and neither one can afford it or so called for kids sake lol and nothing really changed for kids at all. They still fight as they used to, they just paid lawyers to get those papers and can't do anything about it later. Completely pointless in the end. But hey, they got divorced, that was like most important to them lol
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Darling! Life is a mysterious shit!
I had not ‘settled’...I loved him!
He just killed it!
I had not known that marriages over 20 years old fall apart in bunches!
Someone told me. And I see now!
My problem is that I can continue my life as it is but I have hope! And I am holding on to it!
Wishing your parents reconciliation next year. Who knows? God works! We are waiting! 😍
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
Posted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.click to expand
But you didn't write that, I did, so I'm not sure why you are telling me what you'd do.
By this time, he's being himself. You are on your way out so just count down the days.
Posted by lnana04I HONESTLY don’t understand why are you keep talking...Posted by GemitatiPosted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
But you didn't write that, I did, so I'm not sure why you are telling me what you'd do.
By this time, he's being himself. You are on your way out so just count down the days.
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Posted by GemitatiIt's simple. You came on the Cap board asking us a question. I'm answering it, but of course you are not receptive to hearing my answer because you are not ready to move on from this man smh.Posted by lnana04I HONESTLY don’t understand why are you keep talking...Posted by GemitatiPosted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
But you didn't write that, I did, so I'm not sure why you are telling me what you'd do.
By this time, he's being himself. You are on your way out so just count down the days.
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Posted by UnicornSagI just find babytalk repulsive since we’ve met I’ve been saying please don’t.Posted by RooSagicornThis. I don't understand actually why the little one is considered as bad thing. Maybe the way he pronounces it? I got called the same but I like it lol it's just cute and nicknames are usually signs people care...Even though I'm not little actually and am just slightly shorter than him but am petite size lol so idk, just find such nickname to be cutePosted by GemitatiCaps don’t like to be told what to do, he obviously likes to call you little one.. my ex always had nicknames for people, actually cuz he cared. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t bother.Posted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
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To me baby talk isn’t sexy! It’s an opposite. I am feeling turned off!
But does he listen or care? No, little one!
I don’t do ‘cute’. Maybe it’s my inner bitch talking...please no!
But he doesn’t care!!! And he must! And he doesn’t!
Posted by RooSagicornI think if someone you care about asking you not to do something you should listen!Posted by UnicornSagPosted by RooSagicornPosted by UnicornSagI was thinking maybe it was because she was over 10 years younger. She was taking it as looking down on her, even though she does everything.Posted by RooSagicornThis. I don't understand actually why the little one is considered as bad thing. Maybe the way he pronounces it? I got called the same but I like it lol it's just cute and nicknames are usually signs people care...Even though I'm not little actually and am just slightly shorter than him but am petite size lol so idk, just find such nickname to be cutePosted by GemitatiCaps don’t like to be told what to do, he obviously likes to call you little one.. my ex always had nicknames for people, actually cuz he cared. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t bother.Posted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
My ex husband was calling my daughter’s BFF big bird for awhile. She had neon yellow hair & is tall. She thought it meant he hated her. Lmao. Not! I had to explain to her if you get a nickname, it means he likes you. Otherwise he wouldn’t bother, and he’d probably say bad things instead..
That's how I saw it as well. To him she is little and I see it in my own way as perfectly fine and also cute lol people do get offended with nicknames you're right, but they're mostly made in good will
My ex gave me Rindaroo if that tells you anything. Well it was my first name on dxp. I just use it too much lol. But see I still keep the Roo 😉
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Ignoring it shows me that he cares about what he wants and my wishes don’t matter.
Let’s have sex little one is 🤢
To me it is. It always been and I made it clear every time!
I want to be viewed as a sexual woman!
And little one isn’t sexual. It’s sounds pedofilic to me. Yuck!
Posted by UnicornSagExactly! Thank you!Posted by GemitatiPosted by UnicornSagI just find babytalk repulsive since we’ve met I’ve been saying please don’t.Posted by RooSagicornThis. I don't understand actually why the little one is considered as bad thing. Maybe the way he pronounces it? I got called the same but I like it lol it's just cute and nicknames are usually signs people care...Even though I'm not little actually and am just slightly shorter than him but am petite size lol so idk, just find such nickname to be cutePosted by GemitatiCaps don’t like to be told what to do, he obviously likes to call you little one.. my ex always had nicknames for people, actually cuz he cared. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t bother.Posted by lnana04Normally if I don’t understand something I move to another post.
When will you completely check out? You've been seeing someone on the side for a while now. Why even bring up your issues with the Cap if you are no longer "there." I don't understand that part.
And I am still living with him. And I am trying to understand if it’s common Cap thing and he can’t help it or he is just being...himself.
To me baby talk isn’t sexy! It’s an opposite. I am feeling turned off!
But does he listen or care? No, little one!
I don’t do ‘cute’. Maybe it’s my inner bitch talking...please no!
But he doesn’t care!!! And he must! And he doesn’t!
yeah I get what you're saying...I also really hate it when I repeat someone I really don't like something and they repeat it over and over and over...it drives me crazy! And on top of that, I'm weird for not liking it! Like with my ex Virgo and touching my knees...I really hate it, it doesn't turn me on, it just annoys me.He does it, I get annoyed and he gets mad at me for not liking it. Wtf? Am I not allowed to not like things and should have liked everything he does so that he doesn't get offended? At least Cap doesn't get offended for it lol it's annoying too but imagine how annoying it gets when they also get mad ad you for rejecting something you don't like and they keep doing it. Just insane if you ask me...
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Also Gemini & Capricorn don't get on! x
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You snore.
No I don’t!
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You FUCKING snore!
Maybe once!
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Don’t call me a little one or baby cake or honey bun!
I’ve never!
You just did! This is why I had started this conversation!
You making things up to start a fight!
IVE BEEN ASKING YOU NOT TO DONIT FOR 24 years!
Never heard you say that!
👀👀
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When you flush the toilet make sure it’s flushed!
What do you mean?
Come with me I’ll show you!!!
It’s not mine! It probably yours...
I DONT USE THIS BATHROOM!
So you probably did and forgot...
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You are lazy in bed!
I’ve been never told that before!
Yep! That’s why 3 women before me cheated on you and divorced you!
But they regret it. I know they all sorry for that mistake and would be happy to come back!
SAID WHO?
I just KNOW IT!
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Don’t you see me sitting next to you in a car and crying?
Ahhh...you had? Well...
Don’t you want to know why?
I guess you have some mood swings
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So...anything from smallest to big one is denial! He is perfect! There is not one thing is wrong with him!
His crown answer to everything: If I wasn’t good you wouldn’t be with me for 24 years!
Yeahhhhhhh...
It’s all my fault! And it IS!
Love blind until you get your sight back!