Capricorn Men? (Page 4)

Ya, I was afraid to, but I think he already knew.

Been reading this... DON'T make the full-blown confession. It does not spur them into action or to move any quicker, in my experience, and could likely slow things more.

I'm not so anxious to make things go faster, this man is who I want, so if its still a long time before he makes takes that next step, I am prepared for it.

Definitely keep busy and try not to focus on him too much. I'd not play games... Maybe take a few hours or whatnot in responding sometimes, but I'd not deliberately wait days. Heck, I'm no expert though- I struggled with a most difficult one for years and couldn't figure him out or come close to landing him so have had to fight to cut loose (him and myself). I think it's looking good for you, Firecracker! 😉

when me and my cap met it was obvious we were attracted to each other but when we hung out we agreed to keep it as a friends with benefits thing and no strings attached, even though it wasn't exactly what i wanted i agreed to it. Now i want more, and im afraid i may fall for him. I dont know if i should just slowly end things so i dont get hurt or stick around and see if with time he falls for me too, its been around a month and a half. What should i do?

VisualGrl be honest with with your partner, jus know you have a right to change your mind about the relationship status but be prepared for him to walk away either for good or at least long enough to disconnect from you so he can figure out what he wants from you on a more committed basis.

There are FWB situations that end in relationships, I have heard plenty of stories from women who have slept with men as a FWB relationship and it ends up being more so don't lose hope, also keep in mind there is a huge possibility that he rejects your offer to go further, theres a chance you will get hurt if you begin to send mixed signals of love when in his mind its just sex and fun.

things like this happen all the time, when a woman sleeps with a man without a confirmation of love and devotion from the man in the beginning of the relationship it gets really tricky and people tend to get hurt, weigh the possibilities and go for it if you feel you can deal with the outcome.

my advise to u is to not show interest. they seem to like to chase and once u show interest they back off...

To ExoticPiscean,

*I just stumbled across this forum and I was intrigued to find so much truth about Capricorn men! I am infatuated with a Capricorn and it's amazing how true how distant and stoic they can be, and yet at the same time they crave for attention and praise...

I wonder if we as women should give them that attention and praise or just be cold towards them? My crush asks me often if I miss him or think of him a lot...I am not sure if he's doing it to feed his ego or if he misses me and wants affection...

Capricorn men are such strange creatures...sometimes we have to have the patience of a saint with them✨**

The Planet Saturns rules...or rather ENSLAVES Capricorn men. As much as he'd like to release the goat side of him & immerse himself deep inside the fish-side of him (he is a Mer-goat after all, half fish/half goat), he cannot. Saturn's hold on him is too strong. And Saturn is Father Time. So them sea-goats have to wait & take their time because they are too often thrown 'real-world' responsibilities......

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...and have no choice but to take their time with prospective soulmates. Honestly, do you folks think that if a Capricorn REALLY wanted to be with you, he'd let anything stop him? Given their reputation for NEVER, EVER giving up and for almost always winning his goal?

The mer-goat CANNOT drop everything and fall head over heels in love with you....even if he wants to. His early life has taught him that while other signs may get away with it, it is almost always the Capricorn who receives the severest punishment for shirking his duties and for falling in love. He WANTS to but he can't. I sometimes really feel sorry for these loners of the zodiac. So much warmth, passion & compassion deep inside of them....but unable to let it out because he can't....not because he won't.

My personal feeling is that people should try to be nicer to Capricorns. They have had such a hard life, fraught with difficulties, defeats, losses, delays and obstacles.

Yet, they never give up.

I don't Caps pull back because he wants you to feed his ego, I think he does that because he has already endured more pain than most of the other signs. He doesn't need any more of that and wants a woman who will stick with him no matter what. Because he'd be that way to you too. Don't chase them too much but don't give him the cold shoulder too. Many Taurus, Cancer & Pisces women have told me that a gentle hug with soft re-assurances of "I'm here for you but I won't crowd you. I know you have other things to attend to but I want you to know that I'll be here for you"-- have snagged themselves a Cap sweety more than the "wait-&-see who calls first" -approach.

Loyalty is big with these folks and if you can show that you can stick with them through thick & thin, they're yours forever.

Emotional honesty, when I say emotional, I mean being able to say how you feel inside without blaming him. They aren't that complicated, maybe because I have Capricorn in Venus so I relate a bit better and my rising sign is Taurus so there is definite compatibility. Yes they need attention, lots of it and if you feel comfortable giving it to him then give it to him, if you don't feel like giving then tell him EXACTLY that and make no apologies for it. Capricorn men (some not all) can be total jerks (I think its funny but I know some don't) some Cap men can be total assholes, the best way to deal with that part of them is to give it right back with a smile, play with it, stop taking him so seriously and if he comes to you with lame excuses of why he can't call etc then call him OUT on it, tell him you think its a bullshit excuse but never you mind and don't think for a second I was waiting for you, he will laugh even if you don't get to see it, a Cap man can appreciate a person that stands up for herself yet also isn't taking the issue that seriously or making it about him and making it his fault.

If a Cap man is pushing for compliments and your not feeling it, well tell him the truth, tell him I don't feel like answering that question, I don't want to deal with this question, be emotionally honest, if he ask why, you say you have your reasons and let it go, no more explanations, don't be suprised if he chases you down for the answer d:

Then (from my observation), he might chase you for the 'challenge' but not because he wants you....which I feel defeats the purpose of wanting to be with one.

I've seen the opposite happen; tell him you're there for him but don't pine for him. Go about you're daily business. He'll come to you eventually because he knows you're waiting for him. A Cancer I know did just that and they've been happily married for 17 years.

challenging doesn't defeat purpose, your allowing him the space to DO for you towards you which is what a man really wants. He doesn't want as BW put it a person making him your universe so having a life is important, showing interest and then having the ability to back off...has to be balanced. Oh and I'm sorry but never wait on man, that screams no life and thats unappealing. Be natural, be yourself, be emotionally honest, this is the key to get to a Cap, I have been friends (non-sexual) for a year now and I have found the key to his heart is patience, being emotionally honest will turn things around but not so much the physical side especially if he's done nothing to earn your time and attention in a physical way, have your own life to tend to. For heavens sakes smile, have a sense of humor, joke, laugh and have fun, they really do love that part of a person because they are so driven by life and need someone they can be themselves and be able to relax and enjoy the moment.

lemme clarify when I say never wait I don't mean ditch the guy, play games etc, I mean if he comes to you have an open heart but he has to earn the physical side of you, don't just lay your goods out to be picked through like a flea market sale. Its called building intimacy which lures him closer to you, he may leave and come back and then leave until he decides he actually loves the FEELING you give him when he's around you which is called being intimate without the actual physical. You don't have to wait on a man because you have a life and if you don't have one go and create one. Never wait on anyone that isn't reciprocating love, you deserve to be loved, not be buried treasure until he decides to dig you up.

rocking,

**I told him I'm moving out and then I told him for a joke that I'm moving out to Chicago and I live in NJ. Because I wanted to hear if that would make him upset a bit just to get reaction out of him , but he just asked me when I'm going and then why I'm going there. He asked me to call him from there and asked if he could come and live there with me lol and asked if my mom wouldn't mind. But I thought he was joking. Anyways I didn't hear him to be upset or feeling bad that I'm leaving cause he was rather in cool mood so I told him I was joking. **

That was your mistake. Testing a Capricorn.

I've tried to fool these guys before but they're hard to throw a smokescreen at. It's like they know every trick in the book and refuse to get dragged in the game. Why do you think they say a Capricorn is actually a Scorpio in a suit? And being half-fish, they are deeply intuitive. This man probably knew from the get-go that you were testing him. He just refused to play that game. But did it without blowing his top or any form of drama. That's his strategy. His counter to your "test" was so smooth that you're wondering what happened and if he felt anything at all when you told him that you were moving.

Don't test a Cap. They won't waste time hollering at you for "daring" to test them; they'd just smoothly deflect whatever you throw at them and than coolly go about their lives as if nothing happened.

okay, here goes. capricorns are not the type who need to spend every waking moment professing their love to someone, nor do they need that device in return. this is from my experience. we are very traditional in nature, think 1950's, where you have roles in the relationship and just being there and being loyal and knowing you have a partner are enough to mean love. no reminders needed. of course, every once and a while, after we've checked off everything off the to-do list, we've balanced our checkbooks, we've paid all our bills, we've ran all our errands, we've updated our calendars and we've caught up with paperwork, it's kissy face time. see, we are so career oriented we sometimes (okay, most times) lose sight of the little things. think of the quote from "american beauty" - "in order to be successful, one must always maintain an image of success." we do have a HARD time expressing ourselves emotionally, but don't expect us to call 2 days after being apart to say "i miss you" after the first 5 months of the relationship. we love the honeymoon period very much because we have worked so hard to find love, and once it is there and true and real, we don't let it go, like the best job in the world.

cold and distant. hmm. sorry. get a hobby. that's the only feasible advice. i'm sure your cappy mate spends much more time on the computer or reading than with you. we love information and we are always coming up with new ideas and better and more efficient ways to do things. some of the world's greatest inventors were capricorns (look it up, you'd be surprised), i myself share a birthday with issac newton. it's not that love or you is any less important, we are just fueled by a genius that we like to keep hidden, amongst other things.

but when we do love, you feel it. that's why it is so confusing. trust me, it's confusing to us. my love sometimes seems unsure, of course this is after we have days of no real conversation with each other, him prompting me to "emote" more. i don't understand why he feels this way, but i guess i do. to me, i think "i'm here, aren't i? isn't that enough for you to know? i'm not going anywhere."

we are very hard on ourselves, so my suggestion is not to be critical. if you need a lover who is compassionate, communicative and emotionally open, you should move on. capricorns tend to be more structured, loyal, domestic and disciplined. we like to know our future (goat climbing up the never ending mountain) and stray from spontan

** His "thing".**

LOL! I like the sound of that. His THING. The Capricorn's THING.

Male announcer in a deep, authoritative voice: "Behold, The Capricorn's THING!"
*Crowd goes wild; gasps, oohs, ahhs, and Oh my Gawds abound*

Or,

a flashback to the 50s horror flicks...

Timmy: Oh, No!
Jane: What is it?
Timmy: It's....it's...The Capricorn's THING!
Jane: Oh, NO! Run! Run for your lives!

Hahahahahaha!! The Capricorn's "Thing"...

wow rocking, he was playing all kinds of head games with you

We decided to meet in his place....

-let him chase you...let him come to YOU, he will respect and appreciate you more.

He became very touchy and we ended up making out and then entered his bedroom.....

-why are you being so easy to have and get?

-This is why he's playing head games with you, a firm no would have sufficed and kept him wanting.

cap asked me to go to his room because he said he wants to talk about something very serious and actually we just ended up making out in his room and he said nothing about what he wanted to talk....

-Do you always do what men tell you to do when they tell you to do it? Wouldn't it have been more easier to go out on the porch or balcony, you could have said you needed some fresh air and then maybe you would have got a chance to have that conversation.

Anyways Then after a while my cap told me that it seems I like his friend and he said his friend really likes me (lol I don't even know why he'd say that, cuz we were only talkin for a little and his friend complemented that I'm very beautiful) and he said he likes me too, but if I want his friend or something like that?

-Thats game, he wanted you to prove you liked him more by by YOU giving him sex, he didn't care about his friend, he saw an opportunity to manipulate getting his needs met by you stroking his ego and reassuring him that you wanted him, I had that pulled on me, NEXT time a guy does this, don't be afraid to lose his interest and either remove yourself from the situation or play with it and say yeah your friend is hot and GET UP, leave him in the room by himself and smile at his friend and LEAVE the premises...your TOO EASY!!

I asked him before sex, when was the last time he had sex, he said 2 years ago and I didn't believe it, so I kept asking him

-You had sex with a man with whom you have no IDEA were he stands with you...okay ladies listen up...when you have sex with a man you are AUTOMATICALLY CHEMICALLY bonded with him which WILL distort your view of him, don't give your body to a man unless you KNOW you don't want more or you can handle just being a sexual thing, if you want more then WAIT until he can reassure you he's in it with you, all this friends with benefits crap is just that, CRAP when you KNOW you really want more then don't play yourself cheap and easy, wait until you know he's going to play fair and meet your needs.

I told him he's a plain jerk using me and etc i dot remember much,. Later he asked me if I'd be jealous if he had a wife or gf? I said i wouldn't... (but inside i know i would, and why would he ask that?) do u think he was jealous of other guys around me or his friend? then we started talking about going out and he asked if I'd go out with his friend, he said he's a very nice guy, not like him..

-This is a clear indication that he's not that into you, he's sending you all these MIXED messages, first he's wanting to touch you, then he's pushing you off on his friend, then he's being aggressive and physical with you then he's asking you how you would feel about him being married or having a gf, he's a MANBOY, he's playing little boy head games and he wouldn't be able to do this if you wouldn't tolerate it, DON'T ALLOW your LIKE for him to distort your view of the situation, when he said his friend is not like him, thats a huge RED FLAG that he's not feeling you and wants his space.

I stopped talking to him and he asked what is that I want to marry him(cap) and to move in to live with him? I told him that I just wanna go out.. And he said nothing about that.

-He's already figured you out, he's not interested in having a woman that isn't challenging him, he can sense what you want and thus he's over IT, your being transparent, your not being up front about what you want and he senses it, he already know if he pushed for more you would be his girlfriend in a hot second and that can only lead into more seriousness with him such as living together and marriage.

He told me he's not letting me home because it was late and I was drunk so I slept over his place. We slept in his bed together. But under 2 different blankets. He just turned his back on me at night and just fall asleep. In the morning I was trying to massage his back but he moved my hand away and I don't know why he was so mean to me.

-he's not that big of an asshole but he's cautious, he can see you really like him so he's backed all the way off, stop trying to give him what you THINK HE WANTS, no more back massages, he did nothing to earn it and I'm sure he was turned off by you even trying to do it, Cap men are hard workers and want to EARN his keep, your allowing your like for him to get in the way of being challenging, he wants to work to have you, work to have your affection, Cap men know that something worth having is worth working for.

Well, I dressed up and told him I'm going home and asked if he could walk with me for a little. He said he was tired and asked for a hug and if I could lock the door. Well his actions of that night made me angry and I thought no way I will tolerate the way he treated me. So I told him no and he asked if I was mad, I said yes. I left his house and purposely didn't lock the door. He told me before he's gonna call me later, but no call from him

Nah he's over it, he will call again eventually when he's sure your not so focused on him and his needs, he doesn't want a doormat girlfriend, someone who jumps at his every beck and call, he wanted a challenge, he would have loved to see you use your back bone and tell him to piss off with a witchy smile and he would have loved to see you do it YOUR WAY, seems he was testing how strong you are.

A bit of advice, never do what they want you to do, do what FEELS RIGHT TO YOU, never worry about what he's thinking and then try to gauge what give him off of that, always ask yourself do you feel good about yourself when your with him, do you feel confused, do you feel bored, its about what YOU feel, not what he feels, men want to be challenged, they want to please you but if your there doing it for him then he becomes bored and indifferent. I'm not saying he's a user or a loser, he may just be confused by your behavior towards him and thus treats you according to what he feels when he's around you.

Be confident and don't give a man NOTHING, let him do the giving in the beginning stages, he doesn't want you to give him anything but your time and wants to know you appreciate him and appreciate his efforts to make you happy. You obviously want this guy to take you out on dates and hang out with you well going to his place isn't the best way to get what you want. Show him what you want by declining anything that doesn't say take me out, give me attention, chase me, if you want to go to the movies then cancel any efforts on his part to get you over his house and suggest your busy but you would love to see the new movie XYZ or love to visit XYZ restuarant in a few days, you have to show him how to treat you and what your level of expectations are.

i wanted to make sure I was clear when I say cheap and easy, I don't mean women are cheap and easy because they enjoy having sex without the love aspect of it, I mean its the attitude a woman carries, she either feels and believes she is worth the effort or she carries this cheap I will settle for what I can get attitude (which seems to be epidemic) a woman with an expensive attitude isn't just laying down hoping for a relationship and giving the milk with the cow and getting crumbs in return, she isn't settling for anyone no matter how much she likes a guy

A woman with a expensive attitude doesn't allow the fear of LOSS to dictate how she behaves, men with little boy attitudes want everything to be easy and just as easy as it came to them that same man will walk away as if its NOTHING, this is why its important YOU listen to your feelings when your with a man, its important that you PAY ATTENTION to how you feel when your with him and not worry about what he's thinking, YOU are the most important.

the key is to be authentic and real about who you are and what YOU want and not be afraid to say it, a men will respect you and honor your beliefs and feelings or walk away if they don't want to invest more time.

You don't have to play games (I wouldn't recommend it)unless thats your style of communicating, take your time and continue to watch and pay attention to how you feel around him. Allow him the space to say what HIS INTENTIONS are towards you without you having to coax it out of him until then continue to have a full happy life and date other men (not sleep with but date) or date yourself by treating yourself wonderful and nurture your needs, relax, have fun when you do get around him and take your time.

This is what some men call pedelstaling, some men will find that one girl that represents his dreamgirl but instead of putting her on a pedestal, giving her what she wants to convince his desire for her which can shift all the power to her, he's encouraged to go and meet 5 or 10 other women to use as a distraction as to not get CAUGHT up on that one chick, so by the time he starts to hang out with her all that nervous energy is pretty much gone and he's able to relax and display his ALPHA male traits and be CONFIDENT which will bring balance within the union,

when you like someone so much you can't really relax and be yourself around that person it can cause confusion b/c some people begin to project there insecurities and fears onto the person which is very UNATTRACTIVE and this is a huge mistake most of us make or have made at some point in our lives and its not really giving the person a fair shot at getting to know you plus being shy around him and ONLY him is sending an unspoken message that your not that interested in getting to know him or any man, your afraid of men, your not comfortable with YOURSELF which really keeps a man from pursuing anything, men feel good about women that are relaxed, confident and approachable.

I can't give you a recipe for shyness, I can say that if you shift all of your focus off of him and onto another man or men or a hobby or just living a great drama free life( this is a great method of drawing a man into you so you want have to feel pressured to do something to make him come to you)dating other men boost confidence 200% and you will find the guy you like is just another guy until he can show you who he truly is, your fondness for him doesn't mean he's the ONE, he hasn't shown that to you yet, those euphoric chemicals you feel INSTANTLY aren't real feelings although it does feel good to connect and have chemistry, I love that impulsive giddy giggly feeling men seem to stir up in me but I know its not real yet I enjoy it, I also know it doesn't mean he's a good match for me long term.

If you can find a way to interact with other men, be open and comfortable around him and other men then he will pick up on that confident energy and DO the WORK to get to know you without you having to do anything.

these are just suggestions, my methods don't sit well with every woman...we had this talk about some issues you had so I hope this helps a bit.

LMAO!!@Old ass... I forgot about the boss issue, I remember you telling me about that, too funny d:

Hmm rocking, interest point with the taking advantage spiel. One time my Cap and I were talking and he said, "It's easy for me to mess with your head." LMAO. Because he had said something really innocent, and I told him that my mind went in the gutter, and he thought it was hilarious. Then the first time we kissed, when he forced himself away from me and said he needed to leave before I got myself in too deep, he emailed me after he left (we email like NUTS on our phones) and said he would've taken advantage of me, and for me to not go for his neck [erogenous zone] again if I don't want what's coming to me lol. Recently, he's teased me for being a "nun" and my lack of experience, but then kinda got excited about teaching me stuff lol.

I think the confidence is something they [Caps] really master, although deep down they may not REALLY feel that way. Sometimes he'll say some really cocky things, then later on he'll say some self-conscious things that contradict the confident things. It's interesting to line everything up and figure out his insecurities... or areas of improvement. Have you ever given him a compliment and he tried to completely ignore it like he wasn't flattered? Let me tell you. My Cap is NO good with compliments. He will NEVER say thank you. The most I'll get is a "hahaha" in response, but boy do his eyes light up and he gets this silly little grin on his face that he tries to hide. Caps, to me, are the Alpha males of the zodiac. They want to come off as the most confident, self-assured. I have fun with his cocky comments now. I used to be repulsed before I understood him, but now that he let's me in to his insecurities too, I see that he's not so arrogant after all.

Whenever my Cap says anything cocky, like one time he said he could get a kiss from me whenever he wanted, I told him he couldn't. (Proving my confidence was just as great as his, since he was basically saying I can't resist him.) Then I went on to explain my willpower and how I can refrain from doing something I REALLY want to do if I WANT to refrain, then he started BEGGING. Literally, "Nooooooooo! Please don't do that. Please, please please! I was joking!" It was the funniest thing. Show him you're confident too.

So I guess c0cky turns to chickeny lol. Haha.

Well, I'm not a Cap but I've been dealing with one for quite some time now and you're playing a dangerous game. It's different to show interest in someone else if it's genuine, but now you're pulling an innocent bystander into the line of fire. His friend may seriously think you have an interest in him now, and you're just using him as an accessory. I understand the whole idea was to show the Cap you don't want/need him, but going after his friend is a NO-NO. My Cap is a VERYYYYY loyal guy, and he will still be friends with this guy even after you disappear if they're truly friends. "Bros before hoes," as the saying goes (not calling you a hoe, it's just the saying).

Caps are very unassuming and that's going to irk your nerves if you're trying to get a rise out of him by doing this with his friend. He most likely knows what you're doing. Very intuitive bunch, but won't say much. He will continue to watch you from afar and he will NEVER forget any of this. You betray him and that's it for you, which it should be for every sign. If you want him to want you, don't play shady games. You don't have to be interested in his friend to prove you're not interested in him. My Cap usually knows exactly when I'm playing games with him, and he never falls for it. So I just stopped. That's my two cents.

He knows what you're doing. That's the bottom line. He knows what you're trying to pull, and he views himself as being above it. My Cap and I are always on AIM, and people usually put very outlandish things in their aways as a way to piss him off. He'll usually ignore it completely, but if it gets to him he'll put up an away with, "Not gonna play the away message war game," or something like that. It's beneath him. He feels stupid for even saying THAT much, and the message won't stay up long before he realizes it and yanks it down.

How can he play it cool?! That's his personality. That's him. Just because you get excited and giddy inside doesn't mean everyone does. I have seen my Cap at some of the most exciting times of his life and I was bouncing off the walls while he just sat there amused by my reaction. They're not the types to wear their emotions on their sleeves. You gotta work very hard to tear off ALL those damn clothes to get to the emotion.

You want to get a rise out of him. To you, jealousy is an expression of desire. If you can make him jealous, then that confirms that he wants you. He won't give you that satisfaction. Not while it's obviously intentional on your part. Now if you went out and actually started liking someone else, he would be able to tell, and he would probably panic and throw on that pure Cap charm and reel you right back in.

Oh, and also, don't be so sure that his friend isn't in on everything. With the way the Cap kept mentioning his friend, he's probably testing you. They're good for the tests. And you'll never know you were being scrutinized until you fail. When you pass, it's a very silent accomplishment lol.

If he blatantly asks, you can easily lie! And you'll know what he's curious about lol. My Cap makes comments about my photos sometimes, because he knows I'm usually very covered when I'm not in my room. So whenever he sees a picture of me with my legs out or my stomach or something he'll call me a liar and tell me he's jealous of whoever got to see me in whatever outfit, and yada ya. Then I have to go on and prove that I don't dress like a slut outside lol. Basically, for his eyes and his eyes only type of deal. When he doesn't believe me, he changes the subject and I feel all sour about it for a while before he goes on like nothing happened and I join in.

Another test is the, "I'm not going to respond to your text/IM/email" one. I'm not sure if this is testing my sanity or trying to see how far he can push me before my crazy twin comes out, because he KNOWS I'm crazy (his words, not mine), but I usually will say something very sarcastic and tell him what he's going to do like, "I know you're not going to respond to this since you're OH SO BUSY, but..." and then continue on with my message, it gets him every time! He always responds. Caps hate being told what they are and are not going to do. So whatever you say they're GOING to do, they will most likely try very hard not to do it. So some stuff tests your patience because that's something you will need a lot of. Especially if you get a career oriented Cap (haven't seen a Cap who wasn't). You need to be able to sit back and let him do his thing and not freak whenever he misses a call or doesn't respond to a test within twelve hours lol.

I think with your Cap, he's also testing your loyalty. Loyalty is big with them. Once he loves you, he LOVES you. If he can't trust you to stick around, why would he love you? You're flirting with his friend and he's not trusting you as far as he can throw you. Don't betray his trust. Once you're on the bad side, it's a hell of a fence to climb back over with barb wire on top and electric currents lol.

If the Cap wanted you gone, you'd be gone. There's nothing nice about them when they're through with you. They're honest about it if they don't just completely disappear on your ass lol.

If you think him shoving you off on his friend is a way to get rid of you, you're lost! Lol. That's his FRIEND. Which means you'll STILL be around. Just not WITH the Cap. Trust, that's not the excuse.

well, if you're looking for a man's man, this is it. manliness is so sexy.

they're protective, insightful, providers, and often mature for their ages. very fatherly.

Yeah, Cap men are the Gary Grant/ Gregory Peck /Bruce Wayne types. Strong, Silent & with a quiet strength. They look harmless but something about them.....I dunno... it's like they emanate this aura that despite the harmless look, you KNOW you can't beat them.

At least that's the feeling I get with my cap best buddy. Dude has this 'aura' about him that if I mess with him, he'd beat me everytime. He just doesn't show it.

Hello Everyone,

new to the site and let met tell you I came across this blog from a google search, I have barely gotten through half of the postings but I can honestly say this forum has helped me tremendously. I am a Leo woman and if it's one thing we know is how to operate once we figured out our opponents strength and weaknesses. Recently I have started dating a Cappy man(oh and btw, my first love was a Capricorn - took me over a year to get over that one so of course I am cautious about this one) and yes a lot of what people have expressed on here I can cosign. He is sexy, silently strong (almost intimidating sometimes - and Leo's don't intimidate easily),great in bed and conversation to match, and charming. I found that there is almost a submissive nature in myself when it comes to him and suprisingly I am cool with that. However the worry if he is going to call or why he didn't return my text, yeah I also have that too. However after reading this I realize that I have to continue doing my thing as before(I am an extremely busy woman) and let the cards fall where they may. I have no problem giving him the attention he deserves and he knows that but I know he has the "let's take it slow" so that's what he'll get. I just had to come on here and say thank you. All your experiences and comments have helped me learned I am not crazy for feeling the way I do and it's just better to fall back and wait for the next move.

OMG I am so happy to know that I am not alone with Cap issues. I am a leo and I am a lion in every sense at work but I am so docile around him. But yea everything posted so far is dead on. We had a major break through yesterday when he finally said I really really really care a lot about you....two years later and he has put me through mass amounts of drama this summer. And he complained about me being a drama queen but I feel like he bates me by not answering the phone and my text. Its almost as if he enjoys it when I act like a crazy person.

Well I found this site and thought it was interesting. I have been seeing a capricorn man for about 9 mo. It's just been really crazy. It started off good, I actually asked him if he wanted to get into a relationship, but of course that scared him off. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to continue to be friends. We have been intimate throught the 9 mo. there was actually a point where he told me he felt I was using him and that if we had sex again we couldn't be friends. So we didn't have sex for about 2 mo. I really don't understand that. But he brought me out more often and we got to know each other better. I went on vacation to Vegas 2 mo. ago and when I came back he was happy to see me. The next week he started to ignore me, so I went over to his house to see what the problem was, he told me he was leaving in a couple of months to Vegas to meet a girl who he has feelings for, and he also told me that he doesn't have feelings for me and that I'm wasting my time and that he never cared about me from the start. He also said that he was leaving in 2 years. I was totally confused and pissed. I had know idea why he was acting like this so we got into a big argument and I slapped him in the face, and he told me to delete his number from his phone and that he doesn't want anything to do with me. Well 2 months passed and I got a message on my phone this morning, it was him and he asked me if I was done being pissed off at him for no reason. I messaged him back saying that he hurt me and used me and that's why I'm pissed off, I also told him that I don't hate him but I don't like being taken advantage of. Of course he didn't reply, I just don't know why he is doing this, does anyone have any advice?

Hey rocking, I know I should not give a damn about him. I actually thought It was over, I didn't contact him in two months. I've been going out on dates with other guys and living life. He's actually the one who contacted me and was wondering if I was still pissed. What I don't get is why he thinks I'm pissed off for no reason, and why is he trying to contact me two months later then turns around and ignores me when I replied to his message. I just think he's weird, but it's okay I'm moving on, I've been going out a lot and meeting new people so it's cool.

okay i just have to say this piscesgal...Why are you chasing the Cap? Let him go on and if he wants you he will let you know, I know you have all these emotions but it doesn't mean anything if he's not chasing and reciprocating. Capricorn men are thinkers and very intune with peoples emotions even when they have a hard time expressing them, this guy doesn't seem interested RIGHT NOW, give him time to get beyond your need for him to respond and one day some day he will pop up and show interest but he won't as long as your chasing behind him and being too nice...to him thats not genuine and he's going to avoid you at all cost. If your agitated say it, if your mad say it, most cap men will respond to it and clear the air but don't play nice when its obvious your panicky and anxious.

Well I just have to say in defense of my fellow fish-I dont think there is anything wrong with sending him a message. Now I could be wrong. I've never dated a Cap but I have two very close Cap male friends, and you know what-they need more women to be nice to them. Chasing, not chasing-whatever you want to call it. From my experience, they need you to be up front, sincere, and honest. They work too hard, and put up with too much crap to go dancing around a bush over some broad. If you like him and want him, go get him. If the feeling is mutual you will know. I'm reading that so many females make the biggest mistake by holding back your feelings for them, dont underestimate their depth of emotions even if they seem emotionally retarded at times lol.

:If you like him and want him, go get him. If the feeling is mutual you will know. I'm reading that so many females make the biggest mistake by holding back your feelings for them, dont underestimate their depth of emotions even if they seem emotionally retarded at times lol.:

i also think refusing to let a guy know how you feel is a sure way to NOT get anywhere with him. i have had the best luck with my caps with stating how i feel - but - making sure that feeling is i like you. not i NEEEED you. big difference.

caps are very subtle & you need to get tuned in with their radar. the little things they say indicate what they are thinking, the fears they have (aka that you will leave them after they FINALLY give in).

and as to chasing or not chasing. one of my friends who is happily married for 20 years told me his wife chased him. he said all the good ones get caught early. so yes, guys are ok with this - if they like you!

From my experience, they need you to be up front, sincere, and honest. They work too hard, and put up with too much crap to go dancing around a bush over some broad. If you like him and want him, go get him. If the feeling is mutual you will know.

OH YEAH! That's all I needed to know 😛 I think I'm making the right moves 🙂

I think I'm in the "Cap Male Fan Club" now, no pun intended.

I'm not sure how this will work but we'll see -- he give me his number, but he alread has mine so we'll see.

I haven't gone out with a Capricorn man in a loooonnnggg time ...

i also think refusing to let a guy know how you feel is a sure way to NOT get anywhere with him. i have had the best luck with my caps with stating how i feel - but - making sure that feeling is i like you. not i NEEEED you. big difference.

caps are very subtle & you need to get tuned in with their radar. the little things they say indicate what they are thinking, the fears they have (aka that you will leave them after they FINALLY give in).

Right-but, they want to know that you need them in a certain capacity. If you have a tough decision and need their counsel-they love that. If you need to know what they think about practical matters-they love that. What they dont love is "How come you havent called me in three months, why didnt you return my text message or pick up when I phone you 20 times" They also dont NEED vengence. Caps go on hiatus for various reasons, if you know that it has nothing to do with you-dont sweat it. They will come back and when they do simply pick up where you left off. But for goodness sakes dont fight fire with fire. And you absolutely need to be "tuned in" to them because once you understand who you are dealing with the easier it becomes. But here's the catch, you cant get tuned into someone if you are constantly complaining about what you arent getting from them.

:If you have a tough decision and need their counsel-they love that.:

yeah, that's what i've seen. valuing their competence & asking for help when sincerely needed or desired brings the fastest results.

when i meant need, i meant needing attention just for the sake of attention...

listen to the fish, all that stuff is scary true...

hey worholian..i guessign ur cap..i just wanted to comfirm if u think i did teh rite thing by messagin him..if u read my third last message and that wasnt clingy at all..was it ?

My only official advice is to tread lightly- you have a long long hard road. My two Cap friends have been notoriously single for years with a few shallow relationships scattered about. My theme song for them is "Another one bites the dust" You only have a serious chance if you really truly think he is the man for you because it takes a strong secure woman to stand the test of time, and it will feel like the end of time when its all said and done.

*My theme song for them is "Another one bites the dust"*

Mine for them is:

(Read the lyrics too)

🙂

With Capricorns you may never know how deeply interested they are, because they will not show it outwardly. They need to be secure, emotionally, physically and spiritually (that's where the Pisces can help them), to be able to tell you how much they love you! However, once Capricorn have picked their mates, even if they do not marry, more often than not their commitment in mind and spirit will be enough to bind them to you.

Though they are fully capable of it (think Howard Hughes), they rarely have casual affairs. They choose not to. If a relationship fails they will try many avenues to 'fix it up' before they accept that it is doomed or over. The REAL reason why caps are slow to trust is because they are looking for a soulmate....someone who can recognize the 'fish' part of them rather than the 'goat' part of this Mer-goat.

They do however make loyal and worthy soulmates. Once you have earned Capricorns trust, probably through trials of fire and brimstone, then you will never have a more loyal, generous or protective friend - for life.

Caps tend to mate for life. But you will rarely hear about the loyalty of Capricorns because the ones that they are loyal to tend to be just as private as the caps. I've observed that the ones who truly appreciate a Cap's loyalty are Pisces, Cancers, Virgos, scorps & Taureans....in other words, signs that value secrets, privacy & intimacy just as much as the Caps. Hence the lack of information about Cap's true natures.

piscesgal wrote:
*.coz im staill gradually helping him ot open up and have his trust on me..buh is this gonna continiue even when we start a serious relationship??..or get married..coz that my intention with the next guy i date....i have heard that when tehy open up and are comfortable they are teh most sincere and loyal partners ever!!..and thats me too..*

Here's something I found about Cap men. (from here: http://www.cyberspacei.com/englishwiz/library/names/zodiac/capricorn.htm#_Toc6672041)<BR>
It's good (I esp like the last few sentences):

"A Capricorn man will seldom marry in haste and repent at leisure. He's more apt to marry at leisure and repent in haste.

Most Capricorn marriages are solid, but if the goat makes a mistake, he'll walk out abruptly, and his wife won't get a second chance. Capricorn abhors divorce, so it won't happen often, but when it does, it's final. To be blunt, when he's had it-he has had it.

Your Saturnine husband may regulate love-making to a schedule, along with shopping, correspondence, doing his banking, visiting museums or art galleries and cleaning his gun and trophy collection. It may seem cold and unsenti_mental, but remember that the practical Capricorn is interested in the physical side of love long after other hus_bands resort to poetry to express their emotions. Inter_preted, that means just what I said back at the beginning. Dessert last. After he's retired, he'll have more time to develop his technique of affection. That's better than in_surance. And you'll have that too, with a Capricorn hus_band-insurance against a rainy day, insurance against loneliness and insurance against the blows of a sordid, ugly world. Any sensible female appreciates the value of Saturn devotion. He won't be a fiery lover who courts you with starry eyes and passionate, flowery speeches. But he'll pro_tect you from all your feminine fears. He's a tough guy with a gentle heart. He'll chop the wood for that cozy fire, then sit with you in front of it and hold your hand tenderly. No matter how many gray hairs, extra pounds or wrinkles you add as the years slip by, to him you'll always look like the girl who made him say "I love you." When you stop to think about it, why should he say it again and again? Once is enough when it lasts that long."

What it's Like to Date a Capricorn Man:
The Capricorn man is physical, very sensual, extremely erotic,and passionate, but not emotional (on the outside). Deep inside he yearns for love but this takes a long time to become reality, he is very reluctant to place trust in another person. Show him how much you admire him and earn trust gradually over time. He is very faithful, probably the most faithful of all zodiac signs . Underneath his secretive mysterious nature is a romantic streak with a strong sensual side, this side is completely hidden and once unlocked, you'll be amazed at the transformation this man has undergone! Patience and trust is key with a Capricorn man, he has so much to offer the right woman who will wait for him.

Be patient with Capricorn, underneath that aloof, indifferent outside lies a sensual, spiritual & passionate loyal person that will come out when the time is right.