Capricorn Men? (Page 3)

Hello ladies~ I tried to respond lat night from home but the darn thing kept kicking me out.... LOL anyhoo yes the one thing I dont do id "suck" up to him... when he pisses me off I let him know how i feel In a stern manner...and Im always straight forward with him. I have only bought Brian two cards in the last year one was after the first time we kissed it had fireworks " and on the inside it read "Every time we kiss" and nothing eles but my Initial ~ B!!! The second one was when he was very sick... being the cap he is he went to work n e ways so while he was gone I cleaned his room and did his laundry so that when he got home he could rest the rest of the weekend.. he does his laundry on Sundays)I put it on his pillow... and lit a candel and left.... When he got home we was soooo surprised he called me right away and said thank you so much... really appreicate all that you do for me... I said your welcome, and theres 7-up in the fridge 😉 I told him to get some rest and that I would be over later.
anything else I have given him I have made, cards and 1 c.d. he enjoyed all of it.. But yes i have never paid for any gifts, roses etc.. thats his job.. lol j/k

I miss him so much...

yes keep it all coming... its so nice to hear!!!

ok it's been a few days since i've written on this particular subject, because i've just been reading everybody elses and i've just got to say, for myself, and you all may say i'm being so negative whatever, but i guess i really don't care anymore what anyone else thinks. I for one am sooooooooooooo sick and tired of all this "testing" and "waiting" etc etc etc. My old cap did that all the time, and really I don't think he was "testing" i think he was just so damn self-centered and self-absorbed that he wasn't giving a moments thought to anything i felt,or anyone else for that matter, thought. it was always all about him, except sometimes, when he really started to realize that "hey maybe she's gone and then what about ME' see in my opinion that's all he,(and maybe i shouldn't label all caps based on him) cared about...HIM, and oh yes he appreciated all the nice things i did for him and even did a few nice things himself, but the bottom line is/was that if it wasn't about him he didn't think about it.so after finally ending that whole fiasco here i go getting semi-involved with another one, and again, ALL ABOUT HIM, when HE feels like talking, when HE feels like calling, when HE feels like getting in touch. I honestly don't feel it's testing, it's just plain old selfishness. So here's the problem, and I don't know about anyone else, but all this has really messed me up for anyone else. I've recently started dating someone else who's really nice, good looking, caring, giving, calls, is concerned and interested in how I feel etc. and I am having a hard time being attracted to him. Cause he's too nice? not enough of a challenge? who the hell knows, but i'm very disturbed about the fact that I can't feel attraction to someone unless maybe they're treating me like garbage.
Oh yes it's back to therapy time i think. I'm just afraid that these impossible cap guys have ruined me for an actual good guy.Yes i take responsibilty for my actions in all of this, i've allowed the crappy behavior toward me, even invited it, and for that i am pretty pissed off at myself. that's the upshot of my experiences with these cap guys they make me not like myself and that is the worst possible place to be

APW~ I understand. As a source of therapy, get the book "He's Scared, She's Scared" by Carter. It goes into how you may be passively attracting these type of men (who happen to be Capricorns). I have the book myself. It talks about how you probably have your own commitment issues... as I think I do.

Yea... I must admit as the days pass and I don't hear from him, in response to the card, I will be angry. They pop back in and turn your life upside down. I am going to have to accept that he is NOT thinking about me. I've got a quasi-date for Friday, but I'm making myself go.

I have a few comments.

1. My cappy loves compliments, dont believe them when they say they don't, just make sure what you compliment is real! Don't forget these guys have strong defense mechnisms because they are so soft inside, ignore most of their strong words, they are just air. The barking dog bit really fits here.
2. if these guys say something strong that hurts your feelings, react right away and let them know, Capricorns need constant attention. When Mycap when straight to her cappys apt, and faced him, this was the right thing to do. i bet he respects her so much more now, No one respects a doormat!
3. I've said this before and i will say it again, make a life for yourself and allow them to participate in it! Show them you are popular and busy, and the world doesn't revolve around them....they will come a running!

Capgirl, thanks for the tip, just may make a little trip to borders after work, i guess i'm at the point of, as I said, being sick and tired , of constantly trying to figure out what's in their heads. and by the way, everytime i DID confront and ask, I got either very vague answers, or in your face stuff that spelled out totally that NO, i will not be staying with you. Ah, but then, when i finally said, ok we don't want the same thing, goodbye, a short time later I'd get a call saying something like "i've been a jerk, sorry" and off we'd go to the races, me thinking he'd come to his senses when in reality i think it was more of a "let me keep her around cause i really do like her, UNTIL something better comes along" and in all honesty, many people were totally stunned that he'd even be looking for someone else, they figured we were really good together, and why would he get rid of a hot, intelligent, etc person like me.(Yes a little pride here, but it's coming from other people and yes, helps my self-esteem) So my experiences with these guys hasn't been too fruitful, and yes, i think i will get that book because obviously I am attracting and attracted to these kinds of people. I guess we could go into all sorts of psycho-babble about my childhood etc. but i think i want to be done with the brain torture to myself. Maybe appreciate someone who really does appreciate me. Enough with the constant questioning and "is he testing me" crap, as i said before, i really don't think they're testing, they are just totally self centered and thinking only of what they want at the moment. instant self-gratification and to hell with anyone elses feelings or thoughts. see we/I spent so muchtime wondering what he was thinking of me and the truth is nothing, he wasn't spending time wondering what he could do to test me he was just totally in his own head thinking his own thoughts about whatever it was that would make HIM feel good about himself at that very moment. and if it was me, fine, if it was something else, fine also. i really don't think they spend all that much time thinking about other people except themselves.
again thanks for the book tip capgirl, think i need it. would dearly love to trust someone without all the mind games and questioning.

anotherpisceswoman,

Ok I definetely know where ur coming from. And the attitude you have about it has made u so frustrated with these caps, and i don't blame u. My cap is the same way, only mostly thinking about himself, but I can tell he cares a lot about me also, but of course mostly puts himself first. Which i've learned to deal with. When me and my cap last called things off it ruined me for a chance with a great man also. This guy called/texted all the time, took me out whenever I wanted, did whatever I wanted, wanted to spend a lot of time with me, but guess what? All it did was turn me off to him. It just didn't seem like fun or somehting. I don't know if it's because there was no challenge, or whatever but it just wasn't there. I love being with my cap so much more.

wheretomylady, yes he does respect a lot more now since I showed up at his place. Right when he came to the door and he came outside, I just looked at him, with these sad eyes and told him how much this really hurts me and that i WILL NOT be treated like this. And then went on to say other things. He told me the next day that he did respect that and then that he could tell my feelings for him were very real (guess he was still doubting them). They do have a hard time trusting. So anyhow, it's very good to call ur cap out on the things he does wrong and how u feel about them the second he does them.

Ok, got a story real quick. Yesterday I sent him a text. Ok, so 3 hrs later I still don't have a reply, Im thinking WTF right. So anyhow I thought maybe he was not having such a good day and I knew he wasn't at work already so it wasnt like he was busy with that. So I did reply tho while he was already at work. Well I don't get a reply to the second text. This is really worrying me now, because I'm thinking that things were going so well and now this. I was flipping out and having no patience (my taurus side cming out!). so i sent him another a couple hrs later and he told me he was in the middle of something at work. Then he called (awwww!). He said he got a chance to call me and figured he better do so ASAP because he could tell that I was getting impatient and p1ssed off at him. I just had to laugh. I told him I tried to be patient and just wait but I couldn't. He laughed, he knows how I am and he loves it. Actually I think he just loves the fact that I chase after him and get freaked out when he doesn't reply or pay attention to me. I thought at first that to get him to contact me was to back off, me not contact him in any way and then he would contact me. I don't think that quite works with my cap.

APW~ It's absolutely mind-boggling to think that they don't really want us!! hehe I think in the case of my cap it's insecurity in large part. I've told him at least 3 times in telling him off that this is never going to work on any level, and that we have too much bad history and the cycle just keeps repeating. Then I'll see him or whatnot and end up drawing him back in, so I am to blame I guess in part. He must feel foolish for getting "slapped" and then coming back around? I don't know... this is just one "analysis"! It's insanity. I was feeling "at peace" and had let it all go, when I was first trying to calm you down a couple weeks ago : ) but the anger is slowly returning... because I let him pop back in and he can't keep communication going. I give him through the weekend, and then I'm "buttoning up the hatches."

Sorry for the negativity, MyCap and Wheretomylady, but we're dealing w/ some bad apples or difficult child-men in my case I think!!

AMEN....CapGirl, I just think we should just flip the script...which is a form or testing them...but I am just so tired of the BS right know...the space was good for me because I am stronger my emotions are calmer and my feelings are so supressed right know..Yes I do miss him and I do love him still but I am no longer IN LOVE....which is a good thing..If he was testing me, about moving it backfired on him...He probably thought I was going to say "DON'T GO"....."NOT" but instead I said "BYE" Know what do they do in a case like that...I have stung this man once and he was furious..and he came back...here I am stinging him again by saying good-bye...and he will probably come back again but I think this time he will probably express his feelings and set down some rules and expectations..which is something we need to do...I am not mad or upset with him, I don't dislike him, I am more than willing to be his friend, but it will be on different terms.

I'm a Taurus female whose fallen for a Capricorn, quite a surprise because I usually go for Scorpios. But, this man is very slow. It took him 6 months of gazing, having casual but intense hellos, never had anyone that focused on me until we finally met for coffee and he told me his story, then another 2 months later, another coffee being a gentleman with a passionate kiss goodnight. However, I discovered he was living with a woman (who pursued him)after the second coffee for 3 years. Doesn't seem to be in love with her so I decided to be friends. Two years later, still friends--we work around each other on occasion--seems to want to continue the connection and still attraction. He seems half afraid and half completely drawn to me. Ready to abandon this friendship, taking him forever to resolve his situation. Just months ago, I am sitting at an event to find him smiling and gazing at me. Perhaps his aggressive Aries live-in is too controlling compared to my it's your life, do the right thing attitude. I guess I'm cautious and independent,too, we're both 40's professionals with busy lives. Thoughts?

I'm a Taurus female with a Cap man pursuing me...but in my case, he doesn't have the live baggage of this other woman. I would lay low until this woman is out of the picture...if she's controlling, she might become possessive, psycho, jealous if this Cap starts dating you. He might also be contemplating using you as the scape goat out of his current relationship...

* live-in baggage

Ok I have a similar situation as cooperative_cancer. I met a cap guy from a dating service on the internet shortly after christmas and we spent NYE together. We hit it off and had a great time, but when I tried to ask him to hang out the weekend after..he blew me off. He said he was sorry that he gave me the impression of a relationship (duh we met on a dating website!). After he told me that he wasn't ready for relationship I stepped back and started treating him as a friend. He still calls me, I never call him, he said he wants me in his life...I am confused! What does he want? Should I drop him? We hung out again before my birthday, but I just acted as a friend. No kissing...cuz i told him if he wants to be friends to not kiss me anymore. AND it's weird cuz he never wished me a HAPPY BDAY on my bday! What the heck!—? Then he asked how my bday was the day after my birthday! oKaayy?? playing games? Pls tell me what u guys think..Drop him or keep him?

Hello all... I just wanted to say, I am very fortunate to stumble here. 🙂
All your questions about Cap men are like my own questions about this Cap guy I think I'm falling for. And all your answers has helped me coped with all that push-pull, mind games and that cold silent treatment 😛

Just wanted to thank all of you for sharing and maybe one day I'll post a question here too. 🙂

KC

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Hello Everyone. I have been reading the postings on Capricorn Men and I must say that a lot of you guys think you know but you have no idea. ABSOLUTELY no idea. I have been surrounded by nothing but Capricorn men for most of my life (including my father) I am also a Capricorn and I know that they are wonderful men. Especially if they are truly interested in you. Capricorn men always have their eye on the prize, so if you haven't proven that you are the prize their eyes will wander. You have to have extreme patience to deal with the Male goat. They are very much concerned with things that are worthwhile. Capricorn men can sometimes be rather lonely people, although they rarely let it show. They are often a little reserved-even standoffish because they seldom almost never wear their emotions on their sleeves it doesn't necessarily mean that they have lost interest. They don't trust anyone or anything and you have to prove that you are worthy because these men are constantly analyzing and strategizing. They know what they want and usually don't stop until they get it, and if what they want is you don't let them know that have conquered you because the challenge will be over and the thrill will be gone. Keep challenging him and you will have him eating out of the palm of your hands. Don't give him an inch because he will take several miles and may not look back until he has become unsatisfied with the new territory. They are very deep thinkers, and they are endowed with generosity and friendliness. These men are very loyal. Don't ever confuse the Cap representative with the real person because you will have to remove layers to see what is really underneath that cool Capricorn exterior. Ladies don't let him fool you he is not as tough in love as he likes to make it seems. He longs for appreciation and recognition. If you want to keep him don't always give him what he wants give him what he needs. It is very difficult to shock or scare the goat but if you possess a great amount of confidence and patience he will never leave. His eyes may wander but he will never stray.

i have been "seeing" a younger (I'm 40-he's 32)Cap for a little over a month now and i have to say..all these replies have been very helpful! this is the slowest i have ever gone in a relationship, he has the patience of Job! its frustrating many times but i just keep reminding myself that i really want this guy and i want this to work, so i am willing to be a patient as i need to. he also will close himself off for a day or two, but i know he values his quiet time. it helps that we live next door to each other so even when he wants to be alone, i can still get a peak at him. on days that i think he is wanting alone time, i leave him be, then he ends up coming over to get a hug or a kiss, its so cute!

Cap men are like Bruce Wayne/Batman. To the world, they present the millionaire/playboy attitude. But there is a deeper side to them. Only those who are close to them (eg, Alfred, Robin, Commissioner Gorden) know that they are extremely loyal,protective & dedicated to their loved ones.

You have to be very challenging and not let him have his way about EVERYTHING! Don't give in to everything he wants because his man objective is to control. I would mentally give him the control because they do make good decision but you have to be in control of the emotional aspect of the relationship. Let him be the "head" of the relationship and you be the "heart. If you want to keep him you are going to have to bow down to giving him the control but he makes pretty wise decision. Just don't give him COMPLETE control over you.

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You have to be very challenging and not let him have his way about EVERYTHING! Don't give in to everything he wants because his main objective is too have some form of control. I would mentally give him the control because they do make good decisions but you have to be in control of the emotional aspect of the relationship. Let him be the "head" of the relationship and you be the "heart. If you want to keep him you are going to have to bow down to giving him the control but he makes pretty wise decisions. Just don't give him COMPLETE control over you and be a bit exciting to him from time to time. It will keep him on his toes.

I have read over you ladies post and I have been with a Cap man for 11 years now. I had to leave him alone for a short period of time and I say short because HE made the break up really short.

I ask him ALL the time why does he stay with me and why can't he let me go and he states " I am the most challenging one he has met". Be a challenge. Don't bow down to his every want and need.

Is it normal cap behaviour to totally ignore the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with?

My cap ignores me, he ignores me then he comes back eventually acting very loving as though i am the only one in the world, I suspect he ignores me when he focuses on his work as it is a massive part of his life. If he weren't so loving to me when he returns then i would have removed myself from him a long time ago.

he has ignored me for weeks on end at a time, but he does come back and when he does I always wonder why i was so worried in the 1st place - then he dissappers on me again, i just try and give him space

My cap has ignored me since his birthday a month ago. He no longer acknowledges me at all. We started dating last year and then he did the disappearing act, so far he has been gone for 9 months. What is the best way to deal with this? Do I ignore him too?

Well, I have been "seeing" mine for just over a year and the longest he ignored me for was about 3 months - it was terrible, i would walked past him and one time he litrally put his hands over his eyes when i walked passed him, it hurt so much... So i ignored him thinking that he would then speak to me but this made it much worse.

After the 3 months he came back out of the blue really loving and friendly - he turned on his charm and then treated me great - then went missing.

After our 1st date we did not date again for 8 months despite the fact that I would ask him every now and again if he wanted to come out but he kept telling me he was busy. When i used to see him out and about he used to look at me with such love in his eyes that I just knew that he would come back.

After the 8 months he came back to me all loving and treated me like I was the love of his life - he then went missing again for a few weeks then he came back telling me that he can not wait to see me and that I am his fantasy etc..

I am sure your cap will come back to you - i have become used to his behaviour - I know I deserve better but when he dies come back to me he makes me feel amazing.

I would love to give you some advice confusedcancer but i am in exactly the same situation with my cap also - I would not ignore him if i were you.

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I am sure your cap will come back to you - i have become used to his behaviour - I know I deserve better but when he dies* come back to me he makes me feel amazing.

Sorry that should read does*

However, I work full time and study so I do not have too much time myself so the cap guy suits me just fine as he is a complete workaholic - I miss him though but I am very focused on my career so can understand his triats as he is so similar to me it is untrue as I am a leo

No, I wouldn't say ignore him. He will not be interested in you if you TOTALLY ignore him. Cap men love to make you happy. A Cap man who is truly in love with not leave you. He will not let you leave him either. You have to be open and vulnerable and let him take the lead in the relationship but just don't let him have full control over you. What I mean by having full control over you. You have to work and have outside activities other than him. He really doesn't want you to expect him to be with him ALL the time but you surely have to be married to yourself. You have to love YOU first and foremost. Always be happy in spirit and never revengeful or spiteful that will not work. Ignoring him will only make him withdraw away from you.

Thanks CapGal - you are right, I know I shouldn't allow myself to be treated like this by any man,
I come on to this board as it helps me see sense when I actually read my posts back and listen to other peoples comments :-)

So be wise and when faced with such siutations, make sure you take care of # 1, which is you.

Hi Capgal, Yeah you hit it dead on, not just with Cap men with ANY man, if he disappears on you, you have lost his interest in you. Sometimes men come back but I would not allow a man who disappeared on me to come back into my life. He would be last on my list simply because I GAVE him a chance and he did not respect or cherish my feelings. Men just don't leave relationships, they are pretty loyal to the women they really love. When or if he did come back he would do ALL the moving forward with the relationship which most men including Cap men like to do.

Men don't really want you to be needy or clingy towards them or try to control the outcome of their lives. So, just let him be in charge and you follow your heart and let him take and follow the lead. It is not just Cap men it is ALL men. He has one time to disappear on me and the imaginary relationship would be pretty much over. No more chances esp after I gave you one.

CapGal, I would definitely co-sign on that. Sure, one reads stories on disappearing acts from men on these boards but Confused Cancer and Sammy, "your men" have taken it to a whole different level. Let it go. You don't have much time invested and should be able to move forward with greater ease.

Hey LWCAA

Are you still with your Cap? Yeah, I agree you have one time to disappear on me and keep going.

Thank you ladies. People deserve second chances, but you must evaluate the situation before allowing someone back into your heart/life. Ask youself: Was the relationship fulfiling enough, prior to the break up? Was the reason for the break up justifiable? Why does this person wants to resume the relationship? Can I really trust this person? How comfortable am I in letting this person back in my life? If you are satisfied with the answers, by all means, give the person a chance, making sure you discuss the past and set a foundation on which to move forward.

I don't know if it was me, I would let the man lead and move everything forward. Cap men want the lead and you kind of have to give them the lead but by all means you have to be sensitive and be the heart of the relationship. No ignoring and playing games, a Cap man is not buying that BS! He wants a loyal, strong, challenging woman but you have to be a bit exciting from time to time to keep him on his toes.

So, Valentine's Day was just here. I figured since, we are not technically "dating" that I best not go too overboard. All I got him was a card that represented something he collects. So, to me a gift and a card in one. That night, we met on the front porch to exchange gifts after his son went to bed. He walks out his door with a gift bag in hand. I'm smiling inside-because he went to way more effort than I did-that said to me that he really does care. The card he got was so cute, not mushy but cute and he even wrote something inside it-that said something to the effect that he was thinking about me and that was the truth.
His alone time does bug me, but it is never for more than a few days. I wish the sex was more often. I knows he wants it more, he says he does, but is doing his best to keep things on the slow movin. (He is at the end of a divorce-which devastated him) So, he is not very trusting. He has said he enjoys my company, I'm fun and he loves hanging out. He has really pulled back since his son who is almost 7 wont stop talking about me. I guess he is afraid his son will get attached or something and then end up getting hurt if we dont end up in a relationship. I am learning so much. I really needed to take things slower myself-that has never been my M-O... but to me, this man is worth all the waiting in the world!
I was over at his place last night and on the kitchen counter was a single red rose in a red vase(red is my favorite color) and he spoke up and said, he'd gotten me the rose too but decided not to give it to me for fear it was too much too soon. he also said the only reason we haven't gone to dinner is because he made a promise to himself no dating for a year after his divorce.

His alone time does bug me, but it is never for more than a few days. I wish the sex was more often. I knows he wants it more, he says he does, but is doing his best to keep things on the slow movin

Very slow moving and if his "alone" time bothers you, then you might want to find someone else. He is not a man who is pressed for spending all his time with you. If you are independent, then just keep going on with your life and fullfulling your life without him. Cap men are self suffient and they are comfortable in their own skin. It will be a long time before he starts crying about spending time with you.

Yes confused cancer that is how we behave (male/female) unfortunatly. When we get mad or dissapointed it gets worse. We will make u feel like you don't eveen exist because we can't handle our emotions and we hate to show them It does not however mean that you have done something to deserve the treatment. We just get to the point where we don't want to be bothered by anyone but ourselves. I do it all of the time and I leave people wondering what they have done to me, and then when I pop up again they realize my departure had nothing to do with them. Best way to stop it is to reverse it. Give us a taste of our own medicine. We sooooooo can't handle that.LMAO

His alone time does bug me, but it is never for more than a few days. I wish the sex was more often. I knows he wants it more, he says he does, but is doing his best to keep things on the slow movin.

With a Capricorn pay attn: to what we do more than what we say. We will sell you a dream if you want to pay for it. We hate to dissapoint people so we will create an eloaborate story to avoid looking like a bad person. Please Krobe don't allow yourself to fall into the Cap Trap. I am only outside looking in but it seems like that is what is happening.

I do Agree with this however:
(Cap men want the lead and you kind of have to give them the lead) but by all means you have to be sensitive and be the heart of the relationship. No ignoring and playing games, a Cap man is not buying that BS! He wants a loyal, strong, challenging woman but you have to be a bit exciting from time to time to keep him on his toes.

Never give them the lead you have to be right on their heels if you do!!! Ignore them, but don't play games. If he isn't treating you well how can you feel compelled to treat him well. It goes both ways. Don't come across as submissive because if we think you have no backbone he will run all over you, but you will still feel loved, wanted and appreciated (however that will not be the case). When you start making excuses for us thats how we know we have you where we want you. Don't allow a man Capricorn or whatever to treat you in a way that you wouldn't treat yourself or someone else for that matter.

He is always the one to make the move, he says he needs alone time and 20 min later he's walking through my door saying I just wanted to see you. Today he tells me I am everything he is looking for and then cant believe he said that outloud. He also said today that we are dating, which is something he hasnt been able to say so far. After I said something back to him in response to something he said, he said he'd still love me then he stammered as if he knew OOOPPPSSSS WAY too soon to be saying that L word in anything... I just said, I know what you meant its ok. I'm not done with this man, not even close.

I'm learning more about these guys from Cap #2! They really are peculiar with their long absences. This one lives 600 miles away from me and I only see him every couple months but I have "written him off" (only in my own mind) several times, not putting much stock in us, and just when I'm about to go visit my family there, he pops up and contacts me. He admitted that he can't do long distance and is not good at it. Also, an interesting confession was that he wants a woman who will call him on his BS and not take any crap. We all knew this already about Cap men and that you have to lay boundaries, etc., etc. and here was just yet another confirmation of that! It has helped so much having gone through the WORST with Cap #1 who I was too head-over-heels for, and now I know what to expect moreso and have lower expectations, but also a bit less interest thank gosh, with this 2nd Cap.

With a Capricorn pay attn: to what we do more than what we say. We will sell you a dream if you want to pay for it. We hate to dissapoint people so we will create an eloaborate story to avoid looking like a bad person. Please Krobe don't allow yourself to fall into the Cap Trap. I am only outside looking in but it seems like that is what is happening.

I have been with one for 11 years now. I think I pretty much know what to do and what not to do. LOL! I had to leave him for a minute. He told me good, he loved the challenge of me leaving him but now he is so far gone in love with me. LOL!

He is a good man and a good provider and he does what he can do to make me happy. If he is in one of his miserable, depressed moods, I will leave him miserable and depressed and come back I would get up and leave him by himself or go home to my place. I will look up and he will be right back within a few minutes. See they are not hard to deal with.

Krobe. I do apologize I didn't realize yours was a long term relationship. I assumed that u were falling for our BS. I am sorry. U my dear probably know capricorn men as well as I think I do. It is funny because I am dealing with a Capricorn man now and his b-day is 1 day after mine. He reminds me so much myself, its like I know what he is going to do before he does it. I do however find myself questioning his motives.

I am new to this site but I am hoping I can get some insight from some of you. I am a pisces woman and I have been seeing a capricorn man for a little over a month. I have known this person for most of my life and we share many friends. He and my brother are also good friends. He had made some passes on me on many occasions but I never made any back. Around the middle of January he started sending me text and then in one text he asked me out. I said yes! We went out for the first time at the end of January and have since became physical. He txt me every single day and calls 1 time on some days. We have spent every weekend together since our first date. His sends me kisses in his txt and tells me he misses me about every day (he works out of town M-F), he says he wishes I was in his arms and always ask me how my day was. And when we are together he is so sweet and a big snuggle buddy. He also will stare into my eyes and tells me I am so sexy. While laying with him at times, I can see in the corner of my eye that he is just starring at me. But there are times we will stare into each others eyes without saying a word. He mailed me a Valentines Day card since he was out of town on V-day and it arrived on v-day. I had no idea and was so suprised when i got it, sweetest valentine's day i have ever had. We have not said the big "L" word or anything although I do have strong feelings for him. 99% of the time I let him make contact w me first (txt, phone, eetc.)

But I am not sure if he is starting or has the same feelings that i have. He has said little things like I am not a longterm person when he is reffering to his job (he is union rep and so always on different sites). I wish I knew where I stood with him but I don't want to run him off by putting him in the spotlight? Any feedbback would be very appreciated! And if any cappy men/women have an opinion on what he may be thinking, feeling, etc. please let me know!

the best way to deal with a cap is to like him a lot, and then to stop.

based on my ex-cap, after the initial introduction, he respects people that don't like him too much...

Well you have to eventually start liking him or he will be really hurt.

Caps seem to thrive on keeping you on the edge of your seat! I agree with the statement they seem to want you to dislike them, because he has mentioned that more than once-again last night. And debates, he loves them! What gets me is the sex, he says he isnt holding back because he doesnt want to, quite the contrary. He is holding back because he has to. But then, he seems to change his mind 10 min later we are going at it like the energizer bunny! I really like this wonderful man despite his tests and hot/cold. I refuse to give up, or at least until he says point blank to just stay away, which he sort of said once, but then he came knocking on my door 10 min and needed a hug. He is under tremendous stress, with his divorce finally final and the sale of his house complete this week, I am hoping his stress levels off.

Hi everyone,
I just stumbled across this forum and I was intrigued to find so much truth about Capricorn men! I am infatuated with a Capricorn and it's amazing how true how distant and stoic they can be, and yet at the same time they crave for attention and praise...

I really enjoyed reading all the comments, there's some really wise women here hehehehe

I wonder if we as women should give them that attention and praise or just be cold towards them? My crush asks me often if I miss him or think of him a lot...I am not sure if he's doing it to feed his ego or if he misses me and wants affection...

Capricorn men are such strange creatures...sometimes we have to have the patience of a saint with them!

EP- Could be insecurity, also. Another big issue with some...

A strong Capricorn woman is the same.
If she doesn't like you, she'll dispense you quickly. Capricorn women are good with judgement, so if they think you're the lying or cheating type, you better get out of the way. This woman does not waste her time.

I've been "seeing" my CAP since Christmas and he has done a lot of pushing and pulling.. more pulling back, but... he ALWAYS comes back. I have found the best thing to do is just simply ignore him. It never lasts long. Fortunately my CAP only stays away a few days. I dont know how or why some of you would go weeks or months, thats just crazy! Days I can understand, we all get busy and sometimes we just simply need to be alone. And yes, they seem to think that if they are having sex with you that it constitutes a relationship and they want to be sure before they take that step. I am not ready to call mine quits, I'm thinking this is going slow because its supposed to and if this is what I have to do to finalll have a successfull relationship, then I can be patient.

I hear you, I am a Virgo and when I am interested, I have a very hard time holding back. He knows how I feel, but things are moving on his time frame, which really, for both of us, is the way things should be right now. Good luck!! Hang in there 🙂

I so know what you mean. This guy, the things he does to and for my emotional state.. NO ONE has ever gotten close.. I am hanging on tight and never letting go!!