Capricorn Men? (Page 5)

listen to Beowulf...scary true again. scary.

:"I love you." When you stop to think about it, why should he say it again and again? Once is enough when it lasts that long.":

omg.

this is something that troubles me about people in relationships sometimes...there's a quote from one of my favorite movies "after a while saying 'i love you' is like saying 'cheese sandwich'" it takes a lot for us to get there, but when we do, we really really mean it. we really think it out. a lot.

this is also true for those "i miss you" situations. when i go a few days without, i anticipate seeing the other person again. i don't trouble myself with that jealousy thing, as reassuring as it can be for the other end of the stick.

as for that question about the phone call, i think that you may just be reading into that. maybe he has sprint and all his incoming calls are free. i used to do that. (frugal cap!) haha!

rocking you don't have to literally cuss your cap out, just take a solid approach and let him know he can have you but you have some things you wanna discuss FIRST, this would be better done in person, this will begin to teach him how to nurture your needs, therefore you can clear things up and still have great sex, most likely he's not aware that he's mistreating you and really its not his fault if you have been going along for the ride with no mention of the fact that your feeling misused. If you want more than SAY IT, I notice some women aren't being genuine with there feelings and cap men appreciate real genuine behavior. Pissing him off won't get you what you want (think about that) use the diplomatic approach to get your needs met...pissing him off will get you ignored.

so I'm still not clear...do you chase or let him come to you? Should you be aggressive or let him be the aggressor? I'm tired of waiting around...

well rocking I didn't want to offend, I'm not a Capricorn man expert but I know outburst of anger and emotions will not get him to tell you whats going on with him.

It seems there is a lot of miscommunication, from what I know you can't live by what other people are saying about him yet his actions doesn't say ready for one woman. He's a man, men love to chase so its no suprise he's chasing you while you have a boyfriend thats fairly typical and expected because it presents a challange and Cap men hate absolutely abhor rejection so yeah it doesn't suprise me that he sulked when you rejected him, I find being straight up with him about your feelings is a start, don't hold back, if your confused say it, if you wanna know why he's behaving a certain way towards you then ask, he may not respond the way you want because Cap men aren't emotional creatures and make sure your tone isn't being confrontational and he should give you some insight unless he's super immature but it will put something on his mind for awhile and the other suggestion is to put some space between you 2. He may give it some thought and want more or he may just decide its not worth an investment and leave it platonic. Cap men can be very straight with people if the other person keeps it real.

Its a suggestion in the end you have to decide how to approach it but I know for a fact that you won't get any results by being angry and cussing him out about what you perceived to be wrongs against you.

Cap men can be very straight with people if the other person keeps it real.

Yes, this applies to cap women too. Yes, I'm very open and honest if the other person is the same way with me too.

Don't play games with him, you will not win, just tell him what you told us, that you would like to pursue more and he will tell you straight up if thats something he's willing to do, Cap men are very slow acting, he will weigh all his options before making that kind of decision but if you never lay it out to him then you can't expect him to KNOW. Oh and his teaching you is a natural instinct, they are great teachers and communicators so don't knock it, plus Cap men like to feel needed. I will say this, he's a single man, he can date who he chooses, Cap men aren't successful in life because they are stupid, he's always thinking about you even when you don't feel like he is, so he's smart enough to know that your a good thing, he's very clear your BUT if he's not READY for that then he will attempt to keep you close until he is ready. Not all Cap men are manwhores the one I dated was very physical but no sex so they do have some self restraint.

You might want to stop the physical side of the relationship until your clear about his intentions towards you. Pretending is FAKING in a Cap mans eyes and thats unattractive to him so don't do it, be real and genuine about who you are and what you feel even if he doesn't jump at it (which he won't, it will be weeks or months before he makes a move) as for getting hurt well that seems like its too late, your already hurting from the misunderstandings thats going on in the relationship. Your going to have to take the mature approach and lay your cards on the table.

Gotta be willing to be patient and take a risk with this sign

Oh and underneath that bad ass tough exterior is a gentle, nurturing, caring, giving man, its up to the woman to see BEYOND that exterior and touch his core, you have to be patient with this man, no don't put up with BS remove yourself from that but you also have to be strong inside and know that he's going to protect his core to the death because underneath that steely exterior is a really loving sensitive man.

"o I'm still not clear...do you chase or let him come to you? Should you be aggressive or let him be the aggressor? I'm tired of waiting around.."

You have to lay your cards on the table and ALLOW him the space and time to CHOOSE you...this sign isn't afraid of truth or the straight forward approach and if you keep it real with him, be genuine, be yourself he will have respect for you and tell you if he's interested but you can't chase him at least not in a I want you sort of way, he has to choose you and no amount of convincing will make him change his mind. There are things you can say that may peek his interest but I won't go into all that...keep it friendly, talk about mutual interest such as work, music, arts or whatever you may have in common and he will eventually begin to open up and tell you about himself but that still doesn't mean he wants a relationship...he just has to be the aggressor or it probably will be very very difficult to nail him down. There are women that have chased a Cap man down but they went through HELL to get him.

You won't know what you can have with him unless you OPEN up that pathway, he's not going to do it, he will stay friends forever so if you want more than just put it out there that you do, now be prepared for him to back all the way up as to give it some strict thought, Cap men do not take giving there hearts and making commitments lightly so yes he may even disappear for a month or even longer but don't be discouraged he will come back around or he may be a mature cap and discuss it with you, work out the details and move forward but you will never know unless you open up your heart, you will never see his core if your looking at the surface of his steely cool exterior, if your waiting for him to take a RISK and initiate well you will be waiting a long time so at some point your going to have to decide to be the risk taker and deal with the consequences of that. Some women opt to wait it out and some don't...you have to weigh the pros and cons.

If your straight up with him about how you feel he will genuinely reciprocate his feelings and thoughts but you have to make sure he understands your need. Caps understand people have bad days, he doesn't want you to be NICE all the time, he wants you to be you and if your moody well your moody and he can deal with that but if your moody and acting as if your happy then he's going to see through that which is a turn off for some Caps.

Thank you, I understand.

k..so my cap just messaged me!!!..after all that message worked on him!!!!..he thanked me for teh message and wants to meet after his exams are done!!..now should i play hard to get or just meet him?..

Piscesgal you are making me ashamed to be a fish! Have you learned or read nothing on this board so far! Why would you even ask such a thing! How about this, why dont you ask yourself if you would want someone to play "hard to get" with your emotions. Dig deeper, I'm sure you are much smarter, but if you are not that smart then maybe you need to leave the Cap alone.

i'll chime in because i'm in a "mood" today. it sounds like he might have met someone else, if NOT, then he is pushing you away because the serious aspect is something he will need to put his all into. if he feels as though he isn't making enough money or needs more time to do "not chick" things, then he's being hard on himself and very very silly, which we tend to do. he is obviously attached and will probably realize the err of his ways after you've met someone else. fun.

Warholian,

Thanks for being in the mood Warholian. I hope he'll come around but I'm not holding my breath. I'm a lioness but I am a loner 80% of the time. That's what we had in common along with our understanding of our chosen fields and how work can keep us busy and moody at the end of the day.

Thanks

i meeting him mext week 😄..finally!..i didnt mean playing hard to get by having fun and playing with his feelings..i really liek this guy and i know after all that efforts i have made..he ha realised in in it for teh right reaosn and im sure he is too..or else he would have moved on by now..so i def wanna meet soooon! 😄😄😄

klover_fish,

when i said playign hard ot get.. i meant being a little unavailble and show i have a life too ..and being not always available whenever he is in the mood to meet up..since i initiated things soo much recently..to keep my selfrespect but i would never in my wildest thought think of playing with his emotions..i liek him too much..and especially being a piscean!!

Thats good to know. But if he wants to meet up and you dont have pressing plans then do it. You will have plenty of time to show that you have a life, while he's living his life! I really hope things work out. I believe that Pisceans are the best match for Caps 🙂

i had a very fulfilling relationship with a pisces for 2 years. my only issue was the selflessness.

You have to lay your cards on the table and ALLOW him the space and time to CHOOSE you...

OK, TIKKI I LOVE YOU! But NO YOU DON'T EVER TELL a man your feeling for him unless he has confessed his feelings for you FIRST! NEVER! You can talk to him in "feeling msgs. such as I feel like "this or I feel like that" but if you tell him you want MORE, he is going to run.

Cap men and ALL men want a feminine woman. SOME ONE WHO WILL LET HIM BE THE MAN and take the LEAD in the relationship. You are putting out energy towards a man who is not putting out the same energy towards YOU is a waste of your time. Matter of fact until you see him acting DEMONSTRATING that he wants YOU and ONLY you then date him and don't put out ANY energy until he tells YOU that he wants a serious relationship, you are his one and only and he doesn't want ANYONE ELSE besides YOU. Make sure he is backing his words up with actions.

NEVER, EVER PURSUE a man. The relationship is more healthier and happier when the man is pushing EVERYTHING forward on his own of course and he is pursuing YOU. YOU give back to him ONLY when you have recieved a whole bunch from him. Don't EVER lay your cards out on the table for a CAP man OR any man for that matter.

NO NO NO! Don't push out that much energy towards any man. I wouldn't make that mistake matter of fact that is a BIG mistake to make because if he rejects you YOU are going to be crushed. You are going to be in so much fear and anxiety of LOSING him that you are going to do all kinds of crazy things to get his attention simply because you are going to feel like you have lost something.

I LOVE TIKKI TO DEATH but NOOOO! Don't lay any cards out on any tables. Make him work for your love. Not like a ROBOT NO but let him know he is the man of the relationship and in order to get and keep YOU he has to put in his work to show you with his actions that he wants YOU.

OHHH, I have been with a Cap man for going on twelve years now and they are slow moving but I have to agree with TIKKI and even my Cap man has said to me the same thing, men are tough on the outside but on the inside, they are very sensitive creatures. He doesn't want LOVE from you, he wants respect.

Women want LOVE and men want respect. Have you ever noticed the more you love a man the more he will run from you? WOMEN think men want love but the most part they want to be respected as a MAN.

My twist on it is that a woman can show a man her heart, she can reveal her intentions with a Cap but the key is to not CHASE him, she has to be strong within herself to show who she is but yet be okay and LET GO if he doesn't want to pursue her. I have said that there are women that opt to wait it out and that would be the easiest most effective way to go about it but there are Cap men that are very mature and can handle the straight forward approach, Cap men don't like all that metaphorical I gotta guess what you want and guess what your thinking BS, they welcome transparency but the key is maturity, is he mature enough to deal with the issue at hand.

If she simply lets him know she is interested beyond friendship then I see no problem with that but it takes a level of maturity to accept rejection, to be okay no matter which direction the situation goes. She has to be mature enough to walk away and go on with her life if he's not ready for her. The quickest easiest plan of action is to be patient and allow him to pursue you but there are some cases were women have laid their cards on the table and backed all the way off to allow the man space to pursue it further and that can be effective too BUT it takes a very mature woman to know how to do this.

If a woman reveals her feelings to a man and loses her mind because he's slow acting and just not reciprocating then I can see were that prose for a problem but if she's strong within herself and can handle the situation in a mature manner than I see no problem with it, as long as she can respect herself FIRST, respect him and respect his boundaries then it should be okay.

Krobe you know men are the head and the woman is the heart and thats the only thing a woman should be revealing is her heart, NO she shouldn't be DOING anything to captivate a man, it doesn't benefit her to chase, pursue, convince, run behind him, a woman should never be afraid to be her feminine self and show her heart, this will allow a man to be the man and pick up and do the rest.

I agree with Tiki, and I think Krobe misunderstood your point. There is a fine delicate line between telling someone how you feel and chasing them. What Tiki stated is dead-on, she never said chase and there is a BIG difference.

Don't get me wrong Krobe made a whole bunch of valid true points such as

"NEVER, EVER PURSUE a man. The relationship is more healthier and happier when the man is pushing EVERYTHING forward on his own of course and he is pursuing YOU.

NO NO NO! Don't push out that much energy towards any man. I wouldn't make that mistake matter of fact that is a BIG mistake to make because if he rejects you YOU are going to be crushed. You are going to be in so much fear and anxiety of LOSING him that you are going to do all kinds of crazy things to get his attention simply because you are going to feel like you have lost something."

I totally agree, women that can't take rejection should never put her cards on the table but if your mature enough and strong enough with who you are as a person, if your identity and self esteem isn't wrapped up in the acceptance of a man than its okay to lay your cards out IF your strong enough to LET GO if the man decides he doesn't want to pursue anything...some women aren't that strong emotionally and don't really know themselves enough to go that route.

If your not a risk taker then NO don't tell him how you feel, allow him the time to figure it out, I personally don't have a lot of time, I'm getting fricken old so I'm more apt to spill my guts LOL!! But hey thats just me

rocking: *Actions speak louder than words*

Never truer than with a Capricorn man. These guys are doers not talkers. He shows his love by doing.

To qoute my earlier post on Pg18:
"He won't be a fiery lover who courts you with starry eyes and passionate, flowery speeches. But he'll pro_tect you from all your feminine fears. He's a tough guy with a gentle heart. He'll chop the wood for that cozy fire, then sit with you in front of it and hold your hand tenderly. No matter how many gray hairs, extra pounds or wrinkles you add as the years slip by, to him you'll always look like the girl who made him say "I love you." When you stop to think about it, why should he say it again and again? Once is enough when it lasts that long."

My advice, reveal your feelings for him (but only a little; do not gush out lyrics, flowery words, etc -- no man likes an outpouring of emotions like a torrential rainfall) AND THEN, back it up by Doing things for him (remember, actions speak louder for Caps). They seem to greatly appreciate small gestures that don't cost a cent (eg, wiping his forehead with a handkerchief / flicking an imaginary flint off his shirt, etc). Piscesgal, remember how over the moon he was when you praised him about his work? That's what I mean by small gestures.

You don't really have to reveal too much of your feelings for him but you can show your love by doing things for him.

DOING things will seem suspect, just be your natural self, if he likes you a Cap will give to you, give his time, energy, money, he will be the masculine force behind the relationship, he will be the one pushing the relationship forward. If a woman can be open to him, understand him, RESPECT him by listening without offering solutions but just be able to re-affirm his situation by being empathetic and sympathetic, this will feel to him like he's being understood, he's being respected and he will want you around him more. Stop trying to push love on him, stop trying to love him and push your like on him (for those who may be doing that) he doesn't want that (at least not in the beginning) just be REAL and NATURAL.

If you fall into DOING, over giving example, washing his clothes, cleaning his car, washing his dishes, giving him sex and physical attention through sex to gain his trust, or just overall being too available you will just be burning your neuron brain cells at both ends and ending up with NOTHING, giving him what you think he wants doesn't spell respect for a Cap man.

He will pursue you IF he chooses to and I think women have a hard time dealing with that, some feel if they help him along by pushing into him he will begin to reciprocate but mostly Cap will just dig his heels in even harder, he will not be forced in any shape way or form to choose you no matter how many dates, emails, text have been sent on your part thats why its easier and best if he comes to you because that means he has a vested interest in being close.

doing is taking a Cap man's role, this is a manly man, he doesn't need you to DO anything but be your warm, inviting, generous self, be a great listener, be a gracious appreciative receiver of the advice, time attention and money he spends on you and he will do the rest, if you think or feel speeding up the process of solidifying a relationship is through doing, you will only push him away further and he's going to be suspect to why you want to force your way into his heart, they are very emotionally guarded people...patience is the key, be patient and be there for him when he comes to you, you don't have to pursue, email, text and look for him and I wouldn't recommend it unless you have a strong sense of self. Show a bit of who you are emotionally and let him do the rest.

Be attentive thats all the doing you have to do, Cap men love attention and most of all deep down inside crave admiration and respect and most

Oh !Cheshire_Kat! it will be YEARS before this guy grow into his own, its so terribly hard being a Cap because we (yes I have Cap in my chart) are all so consumed with our low self esteem issues, someday he will grow up but for now he's going to be a little bit wimpy, sulky and tired for a very long time, then he will begin to grow up into himself and start striving for success but he must go through this phase, its part of the Capricorn process, we are very late bloomers.

What about a cap who achieves his goals early in life...what are they like once they're older?

I had the honor of dating a well put together cap and OMFG!! Good looking, tall, smells good...Heaven thats all I can say d:

yes, saturn is a big, heavy planet.

What about a cap who achieves his goals early in life...what are they like once they're older?

Very attentive, emotionally available, POSSESSIVE, controlling, a very passionate, passionate lover and the overall PERFECT mate as long as he isn't tired. He will be a homebody and pretty stable.

How to keep it burning? By being interest in YOU and your life. That is practically the ONLY way you are going to keep the relationship burning. You are going to have to have other outside activities that YOU like to enjoy and alot of times they will be by yourself. Cap men are very home, house oriented so if you like to go out then be prepared to go out on your own. HE will make plans to do initimate, romantic things at times with you though but let it be his idea.

What should I do about this situation? Live your life and just don't worry about spending ALL your time with him. Cap men are very self suffient and he will more than likely appreciate you more and do more with and for you when he is financially stable. Work basically comes first for him and your activities should basically come first for you. Cap men are very slow moving as far as relationships. Let him move everything forward and don't try to do too many things in the process to try and speed him up.

I really don't think it is just a Cap man thing but Cap women ALL are very cautious and they are not going to just "give" you their hearts unless they are VERY for sure you are the special person for them. You are not going to get alot of affection from him right away either. Just don't let him run completely over you.

all time I was trying to figure out what is wrong that we aint in a relationship and I finally came with a problem that I'm facing and that needs to be solved.

Well you two aren't in a relationship and again AS I STATED before in one of my previous post UNLESS the man has said too you, hey, you are the one for ME, I want you and only you, I see no other woman being in my life etc. Then SAVE your energy and don't lay nothing out on the table. That is a bad move.

Yes, I agree with TIKKI about being the heart of the relationship WHEN AND ONLY WHEN a relationship has been established and HE says that he wants one with you. You can express your feelings but don't give up your heart. I wouldn't keep locked feelings inside. Express those feelings but I wouldn't tell him I want more from him.

I dont wanna come out with too strong emotions, but how to sparkle it up? Talk in feelings. I feel like this, I feel like that, this makes me feel like this or I feel like that. However, I don't care with ANY ONE says don't give over your emotions to ANY man who has not clearly stated that you are the one and only one he wants to spend his time and his life with. I wouldn't go by ANY words it will all have to be demonstated with actions. Cap men are very ACTION packed men with the woman they want to spend time with. If he is ready and into you, you will not have to worry about anything because he is going to pursue and push everything forward in the relationship. He will show you will his actions.


Should I call him sometimes? UM, try to picture this, I am a Leo myself and I have been with a Cap man for in a few months it will be twelve years. If someone was calling you, doing this for you, overcompensating themselves for YOU and you didn't do ANYTHING you would lose your attraction for the other person. Let the man make the moves. Call him BACK if he calls you or answer your phone if he calls you but men like to initiate most things. You are not a man, you are a woman and I don't care what any woman says about times are different now, men are different. The cold hard facts are if a man is not putting in work for YOU, then he is not going to feel that you are a valuable possession for him to have. Period.

Ask about his family? If he really likes you introduce you to his family just don't float on cloud nine until he is arranging marriage plans.

Ask about particular things to show him im concerned? You will show him you are concerned about YOU when he is not the center of your universe and he is aware that he is not the center of your universe. Cap men are pretty strong men and personally he doesn't want you to be wrapped up into him and his every thought or every move. You want him to walk around saying to you (and he will) that I love you, I can never see myself with another woman, you are my heart my soul, I cannot live with out you. He will do ANY and EVERY thing you wish and desire as long as he is in his right frame of mind. LOL!

Because I feel talking about a relationship is too early......Let him talk about the relationship to you. If you are not in a relationship with him, then I wouldn't talk about anything or lay nothing out on the table. I would just let him know how I feel in the moment.

Oh man...you just broke that completely down...love it!!! d:

Rocking,

If you can't even get a conversation going for more than ten minutes with this guy, seems like you don't have much going. "He's not a phone person," you might say but if a guy's interested, he'll keep the conversation going.

I would go with Tiki's and Krobe's advice. I think that a lot women tend to make excuses for their guy under the guise that "cap males are different."

"You want him to walk around saying to you (and he will) that I love you, I can never see myself with another woman, you are my heart my soul, I cannot live with out you."

what? this is preposterous and very idealistic. two things capricorns resent. at least this one. (but we may be thinking it)

patience is your friend, slow and steady will win the race, if a man isn't professing in some way verbally that you are his MS.IT for him then he's not telling you ANYTHING and in no way is it beneficial to a woman to ASSUME he's her man.

Men even a Cap man can confess his need to have you in his life, they are very capable of expressing a NEED/DESIRE to have you in his life if he feels it and wants it like the air he breathes.

Don't assume CHEMISTRY means relationship or even the chemistry will MAKE a man want a relationship, I hear many women bet on chemistry as if its going to solidify her place in his life but to a man it is what it is, don't assume because he's physical ie having sex with you, flirting with you, spending quality time with you, emailing you, texting you etc that this is a relationship, thats why its important for him to respect you enough to discuss which direction he wants to go with you relationship wise, it has to be something he SAYS to you that makes it clear its okay for you to feel safe with him as a boyfriend, many women get hurt over this b/c they feel that the attention a man gives them equates to a relationship, if you aren't BONDING with him on an emotional level then you are not going to be seen as a potential longterm girlfriend, the more you can bond with his heart he will feel as if he cannot live without you, if he can call you and disappear, if he's just small talking and not ever pushing forward for a strong union then he's wasting your time, as long as a man doesn't have to FEEL for any one woman he can date MULTIPLE women at a time, if you can't get to his core then you are just another girl that he likes to hang around, the JUST FOR NOW GIRL until the ONE shows up, you can feel a guy and he may even be feeling you but this doesn't mean he has the emotional capacity to give you a great relationship experience.

I'm not trying to discourage women but there are certain emotional tones you have to set up with a man so he can feel bonded to you quickly or its like an uphill battle, you will always be wondering and guessing about his intentions and interactions with you, if you go into it FIRST off establishing an emotional connection the odds are better that he will see you as an important person in his life that will enhance his life.

"You want him to walk around saying to you (and he will) that I love you, I can never see myself with another woman, you are my heart my soul, I cannot live with out you."

what? this is preposterous and very idealistic. two things capricorns resent. at least this one. (but we may be thinking it)

Well you must have not found the right partner to express your emotions to in that manner because I hear these words from my CAP man very, very often and he backs up ALL his words with consistent actions......So, I must have broken through his thinking cap huh?

Rocking, I could be wrong but I think that he is testing you because he is interested in you. You don't have to spill your guts but it's okay to be nice to him, smile when he comes around, let him know when he makes you happy....that you enjoy his company. Open up a little bit or he may think that you're okay with just being physical...As far as conversation, talk to him about what's going on in your day, be yourself...let him make you laugh, I think that he keeps coming around for a reason and he is trying to get you to open up too...just my opinion.

Rocking why don't you INVITE him to open up to you verbally such as if he ask a question that seems to be geared towards a potential relationship, thats your que to be genuine, to be open and most importantly ask questions without pressure being put on it, since joking is your way of communicating then use that to your advantage and ask him a question in regards to his interest in you or what kind of woman he wants as a girlfriend, challenge him in a fun exciting way and just make sure the tone is fun and interesting and not probing.

No don't be sarcastic at his expense, Cap men are sensitive inside, its like your stomping on your own foot, he's obviously making a point to let you get close but instead of you using that opportunity to get close intimately you get immature and sarcastic, he's obviously wanting more emotional connection with you but you get scared and put off by his gestures (this is what most women want!!!).

Your sort of in your own way, your fear is unattractive thus he retreats, so be confident in yourself and he will want to be closer to you, just be open about what you want, he obviously wants to know or he WOULD NOT ask. The very fact that he's moving in on you is your que to balance that out.

I'm not saying get over excited about his interest in you but take it one step at a time and use that to your advantage. Your doing ok, just be more mindful of your approach with him and you may get more than you ever wanted to have.

Need Help,

I'm new of course so forgive me if I didn't post in right place. OK, I'll jump right in.
I'm a 34 year old scorpio female. Lately I have had at least 3 different capricorn men fiercly pursue me.. and when I say fierce I mean they want to pull me away from the croud, monopolize my time and profess very sincere sounding adorations my way. Very over the top things like "when I look in your eyes I get mesmorized" This has happened more than once with each of these men. The problem lies that when I give them an opportunity to date me they turn cold or even cancel or chicken out all together.
Last night I went out on a date with one cappy who I am very interested in and he went on and on about how I was making his heart beat so fast and his palms sweet. It was true because when I held his hand he was clammy as a schoolboy. After our very short date he sent me 3 txt messages of how wowed and enamored he was with me. As a scorpio, this worked on me and started to tear down my walls!!! When I woke up the next morning I had a sinking feeling in my gut and sure enough, I don't hear from him and when he reaches me it is if he has done a total 180. Everything I read looks like scorpio female and cap men and a great match so I'm very confused and these 3 men coming at me with such intensity and then retreating or even rejecting me. Help help help. I don't know whether I'm doing something wrong, putting off a bad vibe or do I just need to give up on cappy men...

Oh girl you scaring the bajeeeezes out of them LOL!!! Capricorn men pride themselves with being in CONTROL of themselves and their environment, your curse is that your able to make him feel a flood of emotions at one time and this makes him RETREAT, he doesn't like to feel OUT OF CONTROL, he's not rejecting you so please don't OWN that complex. Cap men can't live in that loving, lustful emotional place too long, way too draining. I guess you will have to be less available in some way, take it super super slow, feed him YOU in small baby doses, so you can give him time to simmer down and get comfortable with you, don't match his eagerness so it may have to be you that break a few dates, you may have to push away when he's professing his admiration or just avoid that kind of talk all together and another way you can do it is to find a way to kick yourself off that pedestal he put you on (not too much but just a bit so he can relax) by shifting your focus onto him. Stroke his ego but be genuine with it, If he's a great dresser, then give him a bit of praise, show appreciation in some area of his life, such as work. Find that common denominator, work, daning, hobby and shift focus on that so he can feel balanced with you, If he's trying to pull you off into a corner to profess, well you been down that road...don't do it LOL!

Slow down, don't allow him to monopolize your time, don't match his excitement, stay calm and IN CONTROL, if he's texting 3 or more times, just tell him your tired and to get back with you tomorrow, you have to sloooooooow him down and you will snag that Capricorn faster than you think.

baby steps

sorry..dancing *typo*

I wish I had that "curse" lol

LOL

Me too

Thank you so much, LOL the scaring thing makes sense and to make matters worse I am very tall with long legs and that makes it hard for men get past that. The capricorn man I went out with must have said to me at least 7 times in 1.5 hrs that "I'm not intimidated by you" I kept saying good, I don't want to intimidate you. He finaly said maybe if I keep saying that then I won't be. Kinda gave me the idea that he was.... Anyway I really like him and maybe one other cappy. so I will do as you say and not engage in the madness of the momment. tell them to "simmer down now" and see what unfolds. I'm just so feeling something special and I love it when men profess such things to me. I fall for it evertime.
I have alot to offer and I'm not enjoying this problem because it only gets my hopes up and then crushes me when they don't follow through...

tame it down a bit so you can solidify that 2nd, 3rd date and you will have you a great cap man before you know it.

73 - yes! another cappy scorp blend...i'm so excited i think i'll run and hide!

^^^lol...