
Pink Bird
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Posted by AndalusiaBut if he didn't want to give people the wrong impression, why did he bother inviting me—?? He could have introduced me as his friend. Everyone actually asked me how I knew him and how'd we met. I didn't lie. I said we met on match a year ago, but were just friends now. Im not assuming more. But it was strange...
He sounds like a weirdo. One that goes out of his way to make sure no one gets the 'wrong idea' about you two, while simultaneously hinting that there might be something there.
Don't get hooked on his bait.


Posted by netpowerNooo, he's never ever been shy with me. He even made out with me on our first date. But this was the first time I met his friends... and they all knew he invited me because no one else knew me
Wow... thats weird
Does he come off shy when you meet him?



Posted by AndalusiaAgain, why invite me?? It's basically a vacation he invited me on. Plus he knew I had to sleep with him in his tent...
He doesn't want anyone assuming you're together.

Posted by pinkbird03Because he likes you but not enough to date you.Posted by AndalusiaAgain, why invite me?? It's basically a vacation he invited me on. Plus he knew I had to sleep with him in his tent...
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by netpowerNooo, he's never ever been shy with me. He even made out with me on our first date. But this was the first time I met his friends... and they all knew he invited me because no one else knew me
Wow... thats weird
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Posted by netpowerHe was moving tooooo slow and I got impatient with him. I believe I pressured him and scared him away. It was me who ended things with him... he's been a consistent friend though. We've never stopped talking, but no romance since the breakup. I think he knows I've never stopped liking him completely even though I've dated other guys since him.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by netpowerNooo, he's never ever been shy with me. He even made out with me on our first date. But this was the first time I met his friends... and they all knew he invited me because no one else knew me
Wow... thats weird
Does he come off shy when you meet him?
Sounds like a game...what's the backstory?
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Posted by Distilledyea, it's sooooo hard to assume what it is exactly. All the girls that were there had boyfriends with them. One girl worked with the guy but they liked each other. And then there were a bunch of single guys. Umm everything seemed normal. We recently talked about going out for dinner. I sent him a pretty picture of me a week ago.
It can be 3 different ways- he's comfortable enough that you won't embarrass him in front of his friends. Also could have wanted to see how you get along with them.
He may have wanted a female there for reasons unknown (did other guys beings gf's, etc)
He could like you but is not prepared to make it public or make a big deal out of it. Maybe he doesn't want to rush that aspect and have it lead to something before he's ready. Also he could be private and could have sensed or knew people would talk and he went introvert.
You could be a good friend.
Depends on how he's been acting before or after but I would just let things be and not rush.

Posted by LivenLuv
Hmm, I don't know. I remember your story and you really like this Cap. I think you should not talk to him or agree to do a thing with him, at least for now. See where he really stands with you. Because you deserve a lot more love and attention than he's giving you.
Imo, if they really see a future with you, they don't hold back in any way.
My Cap and I were together for a year and a half every single day and night. Then not. And now we're back together. So I understand the feeling of not being able to stay away from someone you feel so strongly about.
Even though he still has the same issues that broke us up, his Mom calls me, we spend all the holidays together. And his brothers kids call me Aunt *insert my name. My kids love him, and I love his son.
I see the same with my Cap sister. She made such a big fuss about bringing home her boyfriend Senior year. They're still together and going strong. They're in there 40's now. They have such a strong bond.
I think when a Cap knows, they know. They will enjoy attention and attraction and feel it's mutual. But there actions are really everything in what the future holds. Don't sell yourself short.
You deserve better than this confusion ❤️

Posted by DistilledYea, you're right. I think inviting me was full of tests. I'm not sure if I passed them all. I'm super girly and never camped, hardly ever hiked, haven't played any of those drinking sports games, ect. But I tried and actually I think I impressed him after I got practice in for two of the games. I was real bad at the beginning!! But then I did awesome. Oh and his friend that he drove up with seemed like he was trying to get to know me. He showed interest in me and I know the cap talked to him about me because this guy knew what I did for a living. Anyways I once said I was tired and this guy said I could sleep in his tent with him even though it's a one person tent!! Ummm creeper. I don't know if the cap heard him or not. He was close. Or saw him up my ass throughout the night. Or if someone told him that morning because of the timing and location, this is most likely. (I could go into more detail) But in the morning after I got up, in front of everyone he happily said good morning directly to me with a big smile on his face...Posted by pinkbird03honestly if you felt you rushed things before I would just stay busy and do you. Let things unfold organic, but don't make yourself too available in the sense of not just emotions but have your life going on too.Posted by Distilledyea, it's sooooo hard to assume what it is exactly. All the girls that were there had boyfriends with them. One girl worked with the guy but they liked each other. And then there were a bunch of single guys. Umm everything seemed normal. We recently talked about going out for dinner. I sent him a pretty picture of me a week ago.
It can be 3 different ways- he's comfortable enough that you won't embarrass him in front of his friends. Also could have wanted to see how you get along with them.
He may have wanted a female there for reasons unknown (did other guys beings gf's, etc)
He could like you but is not prepared to make it public or make a big deal out of it. Maybe he doesn't want to rush that aspect and have it lead to something before he's ready. Also he could be private and could have sensed or knew people would talk and he went introvert.
You could be a good friend.
Depends on how he's been acting before or after but I would just let things be and not rush.
I've gotten to know a cap male the last six months and it's only been recently that he opened up and he just did it out of nowhere in his own. We're pretty involved in each others lives as well and the circle is tightening on that, as- we share the same hobby, some of the same friends, and are both heavily involved in a project/business together.
Regardless what the situation is point is- they are not men of impulsive action but rather see how you fit in their life overall whether close friend or not. They are serious men and take personal things cautiously. They are long term investment men too and don't seem to deal with people on an intimate or personal manner unless that person is a somewhat serious person as well and can think for themselves.
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Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Caps are big on friendship first so it's good you're his friend 🙂Posted by LivenLuv
Hmm, I don't know. I remember your story and you really like this Cap. I think you should not talk to him or agree to do a thing with him, at least for now. See where he really stands with you. Because you deserve a lot more love and attention than he's giving you.
Imo, if they really see a future with you, they don't hold back in any way.
My Cap and I were together for a year and a half every single day and night. Then not. And now we're back together. So I understand the feeling of not being able to stay away from someone you feel so strongly about.
Even though he still has the same issues that broke us up, his Mom calls me, we spend all the holidays together. And his brothers kids call me Aunt *insert my name. My kids love him, and I love his son.
I see the same with my Cap sister. She made such a big fuss about bringing home her boyfriend Senior year. They're still together and going strong. They're in there 40's now. They have such a strong bond.
I think when a Cap knows, they know. They will enjoy attention and attraction and feel it's mutual. But there actions are really everything in what the future holds. Don't sell yourself short.
You deserve better than this confusion ❤️
Well we're not dating. We've only been friends. I've gotten over him, but he does have qualities I love so I think that's why I still come back when I'm not dating anyone else. I don't have expectations. I just surprised he invited me.
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Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Both of you? Wow! Aqua's are super smart. My Mom was always this Aqua low-key genius, lol. I'll have to check her Moon though, But thumbs up to Aqua's ?❤️Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Caps are big on friendship first so it's good you're his friend 🙂Posted by LivenLuv
Hmm, I don't know. I remember your story and you really like this Cap. I think you should not talk to him or agree to do a thing with him, at least for now. See where he really stands with you. Because you deserve a lot more love and attention than he's giving you.
Imo, if they really see a future with you, they don't hold back in any way.
My Cap and I were together for a year and a half every single day and night. Then not. And now we're back together. So I understand the feeling of not being able to stay away from someone you feel so strongly about.
Even though he still has the same issues that broke us up, his Mom calls me, we spend all the holidays together. And his brothers kids call me Aunt *insert my name. My kids love him, and I love his son.
I see the same with my Cap sister. She made such a big fuss about bringing home her boyfriend Senior year. They're still together and going strong. They're in there 40's now. They have such a strong bond.
I think when a Cap knows, they know. They will enjoy attention and attraction and feel it's mutual. But there actions are really everything in what the future holds. Don't sell yourself short.
You deserve better than this confusion ❤️
Well we're not dating. We've only been friends. I've gotten over him, but he does have qualities I love so I think that's why I still come back when I'm not dating anyone else. I don't have expectations. I just surprised he invited me.
Yes and Aquarius moons too!
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Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Aww stop. I'm sure you are. Again do not sell yourself short girl!Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Both of you? Wow! Aqua's are super smart. My Mom was always this Aqua low-key genius, lol. I'll have to check her Moon though, But thumbs up to Aqua's ?❤️Posted by LivenLuvPosted by pinkbird03Caps are big on friendship first so it's good you're his friend 🙂Posted by LivenLuv
Hmm, I don't know. I remember your story and you really like this Cap. I think you should not talk to him or agree to do a thing with him, at least for now. See where he really stands with you. Because you deserve a lot more love and attention than he's giving you.
Imo, if they really see a future with you, they don't hold back in any way.
My Cap and I were together for a year and a half every single day and night. Then not. And now we're back together. So I understand the feeling of not being able to stay away from someone you feel so strongly about.
Even though he still has the same issues that broke us up, his Mom calls me, we spend all the holidays together. And his brothers kids call me Aunt *insert my name. My kids love him, and I love his son.
I see the same with my Cap sister. She made such a big fuss about bringing home her boyfriend Senior year. They're still together and going strong. They're in there 40's now. They have such a strong bond.
I think when a Cap knows, they know. They will enjoy attention and attraction and feel it's mutual. But there actions are really everything in what the future holds. Don't sell yourself short.
You deserve better than this confusion ❤️
Well we're not dating. We've only been friends. I've gotten over him, but he does have qualities I love so I think that's why I still come back when I'm not dating anyone else. I don't have expectations. I just surprised he invited me.
Yes and Aquarius moons too!
lol not me, him. He is smart though!
Ay I have to focus on Mafia now lol. Good luck with your Cap. And if you ever want to talk or bitch about them you can pm me 🙂click to expand

Posted by RindarooIt drives me crazy that I don't know whether or not he approved my interactions with his friends. Honestly I kind of ignored him too after awhile because I felt like he was watching me and I didn't want to become super shy. I was totally myself not holding back and being silly so I'm glad he got to see that side of me. But I found it hard to make eye contact with him and I turned my back to him a few times when I was with the girls. But still, I'm not sure what he thought of me
Being friends with him sounds like a good idea. Hey if it goes somewhere great! Otherwise, you have a good friend.
Sounds like he was comfortable enough with you to bring you as his "date" kinda. To see how you are around his friends too. Maybe he's just really slow moving..

Posted by pinkbird03He's trying to get at one of the other females there OR he is dating someone within the greater friends circle that wasn't there. So he didn't want to appear too friendly towards you so that he can continue to run game.
He did talk to me throughout the night and even fist pumped me I after I actually hit the baseball good in a drinking game. But I mean overall he kept his distance... it was awkward

Posted by RindarooYea I hope so! I had sooo many firsts this weekend. I feel like I pushed myself to try a lot of new things! So if anything, I feel proud 🙂Posted by pinkbird03Don't worry about it. It's all good, I'm sure he saw you were having a good time & getting along with everyone 🙂Posted by RindarooIt drives me crazy that I don't know whether or not he approved my interactions with his friends. Honestly I kind of ignored him too after awhile because I felt like he was watching me and I didn't want to become super shy. I was totally myself not holding back and being silly so I'm glad he got to see that side of me. But I found it hard to make eye contact with him and I turned my back to him a few times when I was with the girls. But still, I'm not sure what he thought of me
Being friends with him sounds like a good idea. Hey if it goes somewhere great! Otherwise, you have a good friend.
Sounds like he was comfortable enough with you to bring you as his "date" kinda. To see how you are around his friends too. Maybe he's just really slow moving..click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptuneEvery female there was either married, about to be married, or it was there first time there and they were with one of his friends. Plus we've always talked openly about relationships. He knows I've kept dating a couple of guys. He on the other hand has told me he hasn't dated or had sex since me. I believe him.Posted by pinkbird03He's trying to get at one of the other females there OR he is dating someone within the greater friends circle that wasn't there. So he didn't want to appear too friendly towards you so that he can continue to run game.
He did talk to me throughout the night and even fist pumped me I after I actually hit the baseball good in a drinking game. But I mean overall he kept his distance... it was awkward
Either way...once again your wasting time wondering if a dude like you. Instead of moving onto a real man who is clear with his intentions.click to expand

Posted by KoniuchaaIt definitely felt like I was being ignored at times, but I also felt like he was always observing me from a distance the whole time. For example, one of the guys asked where I was from and I told him. There was a small group of us at the time. The cap wasn't standing that close to be involved in the conversation, but chimed in to say that I only live less than a mile from him.
Invites you then proceeds to avoid you? Rude

Posted by pinkbird03Ahhh maybe I misunderstood then. If he's just a friend than what are you confused about??Posted by LadyNeptuneEvery female there was either married, about to be married, or it was there first time there and they were with one of his friends. Plus we've always talked openly about relationships. He knows I've kept dating a couple of guys. He on the other hand has told me he hasn't dated or had sex since me. I believe him.Posted by pinkbird03He's trying to get at one of the other females there OR he is dating someone within the greater friends circle that wasn't there. So he didn't want to appear too friendly towards you so that he can continue to run game.
He did talk to me throughout the night and even fist pumped me I after I actually hit the baseball good in a drinking game. But I mean overall he kept his distance... it was awkward
Either way...once again your wasting time wondering if a dude like you. Instead of moving onto a real man who is clear with his intentions.
I'm not wasting my time on him. He's just my friend and will continue to be my friend. I'm just here to talk...click to expand

Posted by SunMoonStarsHe obviously didn't plan on inviting me... I texted him saying happy Friday! What are you doing this weekend? That's when he invited me... but he's been camping before and never invited me
Also, he told you friday night when he was already driving there. Why didn't he tell you before so you could go together? You end up driving yourself there for an hour and a half. That's again, a win/win for him.
Sleeping in his tent..he's a guy 🙂 That's not a problem for him.

Posted by LadyNeptuneBecause we used to date and I ended things with him, but whenever we hang out it's a flirty happy chemistry. So I was wondering if this was a sign he liked me or not. Especially because I never met his friends and this was an overnight trip. But maybe it was just an ego booster and nothing more.Posted by pinkbird03Ahhh maybe I misunderstood then. If he's just a friend than what are you confused about??Posted by LadyNeptuneEvery female there was either married, about to be married, or it was there first time there and they were with one of his friends. Plus we've always talked openly about relationships. He knows I've kept dating a couple of guys. He on the other hand has told me he hasn't dated or had sex since me. I believe him.Posted by pinkbird03He's trying to get at one of the other females there OR he is dating someone within the greater friends circle that wasn't there. So he didn't want to appear too friendly towards you so that he can continue to run game.
He did talk to me throughout the night and even fist pumped me I after I actually hit the baseball good in a drinking game. But I mean overall he kept his distance... it was awkward
Either way...once again your wasting time wondering if a dude like you. Instead of moving onto a real man who is clear with his intentions.
I'm not wasting my time on him. He's just my friend and will continue to be my friend. I'm just here to talk...click to expand

Posted by SunMoonStarsYea, it probably did make him look good. But I'm wondering if the guys were talking to him at all, asking about me and that made him uncomfortable. But if we are just friends, what's the big deal—?? I have plenty of guy friends and they've never acted like that towards me. lol I don't understand Capricorns at all!!
It could be that this was a trip where people brought other friends, and he didn't think it would be a big deal if you came. He probably wanted to show that he has girls around/options. It's a win/win for him - he can test you out, and it makes him look good
If you're interested in more, then you should ask for it. This kind of thing could go on for a very long time with an unsure Cap.

Posted by tizianiDo you think it's the invitation that sends mixed signals?
Just sounds like he's being polite (aside from the invitation).
Posted by pinkbird03It could be because he wasn't prepared to answer their questions and doesn't like being put on the spot.Posted by SunMoonStarsYea, it probably did make him look good. But I'm wondering if the guys were talking to him at all, asking about me and that made him uncomfortable. But if we are just friends, what's the big deal—?? I have plenty of guy friends and they've never acted like that towards me. lol I don't understand Capricorns at all!!
It could be that this was a trip where people brought other friends, and he didn't think it would be a big deal if you came. He probably wanted to show that he has girls around/options. It's a win/win for him - he can test you out, and it makes him look good
If you're interested in more, then you should ask for it. This kind of thing could go on for a very long time with an unsure Cap.click to expand

Posted by SunMoonStarsYea probably! I'm going to let it go. I think I just got excited by the attention, but back to reality! No need to assume anything. Friends is fine with me.Posted by pinkbird03It could be because he wasn't prepared to answer their questions and doesn't like being put on the spot.Posted by SunMoonStarsYea, it probably did make him look good. But I'm wondering if the guys were talking to him at all, asking about me and that made him uncomfortable. But if we are just friends, what's the big deal—?? I have plenty of guy friends and they've never acted like that towards me. lol I don't understand Capricorns at all!!
It could be that this was a trip where people brought other friends, and he didn't think it would be a big deal if you came. He probably wanted to show that he has girls around/options. It's a win/win for him - he can test you out, and it makes him look good
If you're interested in more, then you should ask for it. This kind of thing could go on for a very long time with an unsure Cap.
If you just want to be friends, let him know that.
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Posted by EarthyLeoWell that's the thing. He's always asking to hang out. We usually see each other at least once a week and sometimes two, which is enough for me! I like my space too. He always drives 25 minutes to see me on the weekdays after he's had a long hard day at work because he knows I go to bed before him. Once he even came in his suit because he came directly from work so he wouldn't be too late. Never had sex so it's not a booty call. And he hasn't had sex with her in a month. I wrote the op 18 days ago. They aren't sleeping together anymore. it doesnt totally make sense why he told me, especially because he had sex before we starting getting more serious. I think he was hoping for a 3 sum.... because he told me he showed the girl a picture of me and she said something like that.
To add on, my last comment was not a jab at caps, just guys who act like this in general. Trust your gut.
I'm currently seeing a cap who appreciates me and treats me like a priority, and the connection we have is effortless. So don't convince yourself that this is normal behavior for ___ sun sign. If a dude is being shady and throwing mixed signals at you, don't waste your time. He'll either cut the crap or he's not that into you.
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This one I dated last year. We are still friends and hang out here and there, but it's always just the two of us. Well he invited me camping on Friday night as he was driving there and I told him I was interested and to text me on Saturday. So surprisingly he did and surprisingly I drove an hour and a half to this campsite. It's in the middle of nowhere. No cell service at all. Well I got there and he pretty much stayed away from me the whole time!! I didn't know any of his friends. I was out of my comfort zone, but I became close with all the girls. So of course they got together to find out what was going on with him— They noticed his behavior too... I told them we are only friends. They all said they think he likes me because he never invites girls to the campsite and they had no idea I was even coming. We also discovered this... He told everyone he was going into town (20-25 minutes from camp) to get water. They had tons of water and he didn't bring anything back with him so they were suspicious at the time. Basically he went all the way into town just to text me to come up because that's where there's cell service.
When we do hang out alone, he's super nice and outgoing with me. I've never seen him act this way towards me.
Do you think he likes me or were his intentions strictly friendly?