Desperate & Confused with Cap Guy

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MsImpala66
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13 Years

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I have posted on here before regarding the Cap guy I was talking to/liking so forth. Well we decided to be friends. Well here is where I am confused and desperate for more advice. I don't understand if we have decided to just be friends why he would act jealous at times and caring other times. We haven't seen eachother in months, however, we text just about everyday. He recently went through a rough patch and I had got him a gift, just to cheer him up. Nothing expensive a nice $ 30 watch, I figured he could wear it to church. Well I had it sent to his office to surprise him, unfortunately, he never got it (lucky I had got insurance on it). He suggested to have the new one sent to me and I can then hand it to him. This took me by surprised, this man is always "busy" (yes I feel it's an excuse). So for the past 2 weeks he has made plans to see me but has always cancelled stating he has to work late (he's part owner of a lumber company & this is their busy season). I feel it's an excuse and I told him that, I got fed up this past weekend and told him I am just shipping it to him. He got all hurt and upset stating he's trying and that he will set it in stone for tuesday(this upcoming tuesday) and he isn't cancelling. To be honest I am not holding my breathe but I can't help but be so darn confused by his words. Can someone please shed some kind of light? If he was truly interested he would of made an effort somewhere, I feel this is just a mind game....
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truecap
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Friends is what it is. Friends have things come up. True friends understand when something comes up and don't worry about it. If one of your girl friends kept cancelling on you, what would you think? Probably not put too much thought into it.

You seem to be putting too much care and emphasis on second guessing his actions and it seems that it bothers you too much that he cancels or whatever.

Honestly, I don't think you're ready to be just friends with this man.
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MsImpala66
@MsImpala66
13 Years

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@aquapiscescusp
I have to view things in that prospective. Yeah your right maybe he is feeling guilty that I bought him something and maybe he really doesn't want to meet. Maybe I should just ship it to him make it easier...

@TrueCap
Your right, I never seen it like that before. I guess because we were seeing eachother I don't view him like a normal friend. I do second guess his actions, I feel like he is just stringing me along. Maybe I am not ready to be friends with him yet.

Thank you guys for shedding some light on it for me.