Do guys or cap guys specifically try to make women jealous?

Like texting other people, or talking to the hostess at the bar, or talking to his buddies about having condoms in the car if they "need"?

Sounds like a-hole moves..

I got upset at the texting because I was there, and without me saying anything he immediately said "I'm texting my friends to see what we can do"

The girl at the bar, she gave me drinks bc I didn't like the other ones blah blah (I kept looking away) he says " I think she likes me.."

I said: " then go with her" ... of course be knows better not to go..lol

The condoms.. weird, because him and I have never used any.. (I know we should, I got tested to make sure we are good.. I use birth control)

I've known him for 4 months, and we went on 2 months no sex (I was dying lol)

I wonder if he thinks I'm with him bc of sex... I'm very straight forward about my sexuality, but I'm only like that with people I feel a deep connection with.. and that rarely happens.

The first day I met his friends they asked me if we had sex already... or if I've seen his big d**k. ?

This past weekend one of his friends told me if I'm with the guy bc of his big d**k... ?

Sometimes he gets nervous when I approach him too sexual sometimes, but once we are together he's not shy anymore.

We spent the whole weekend together and did it twice, 1st one was bc we really wanted to have each other.. 2nd one was bc I initiated. the other two days he just cuddled with me.

So.. maybe he's just trying to see if I get jealous to prove that I actually like him?

Were the friends that made comments about his big dick girls or guys?

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Personally I wouldn't make comments like that. The condoms may have just been a joke. The bartender was inappropriate imo. Don't tell him to go to her if that's not really what you want or how you feel.

I'm not sure what it is you're getting out of this whole situation. *shrug* just my opinion though

Well, he's very sweet with me and always takes care of me when we are together.. So he's never been the a-hole type.

The bartender she approached him about the drinks, but every time I was looking at him, he was always looking at me, not even paying attention to the bartender.

I'm just wondering if it has been the case that girls are with guys just for sex... as far as I know he's a good guy, good heart, we talked about being loyal in relationships etc. I think it was mostly because his friend was there, maybe testing me if I really liked him..

I'm not gonna lie but as far as other people have told me I'm very good looking, I'm secured about myself not bc of my looks but bc of my personality. I like him because since the day we met, he didn't seem to like me bc of my looks, so some people wonder why I'm into him. but he makes me smile, he took me out to dance when he doesn't even know how to, and I don't care because just being with him makes it all better 🙂

I got romantic.. haha

(I can't tell this things to him, so I vent here)

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Were the friends that made comments about his big dick girls or guys?

The first day I met his friends, his girl friend said that he looked happy with me and that we seem to get along well. The guys straight up asked if we had already had sex, or if I've seen his big d*ck.. and making joke comments about it.

I'm not shocked or anything about the comments. I just think they are immature.. we are all 29-29. So I just played along with them.

4 months later I see one of his friends again and it was weird because this guy was like doing things to test me. He'd say, you have a nice body, or butt.. I just ignored him. He later asked me to give him a ride to the car, I said for my Cap to take him (they're bff) he said, we'd just walk, it was cold so I said, ok I'll take you and got ready.

then this guy asks my Cap " Do you trust her?"

He said: Yes

I was like " wtf just happened, why is he even asking that"

we get to the car and he says "I think you're hot and beautiful and I'd totally have sex with you.." I immediately said "I wouldnt.. and I like him" he said " ohhhh because of his dck!! of course" I almost laughed but he was so serious so I said " I just like him for who he is..bye" I went back home. I noticed my Cap was upset

I just thought the whole thing was weird

It seems like the whole thing was played out by his friend because I've been seeing him for 4 months and never had this kind of situations.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes, I told him, not everything.. I just said " this guy said that he would fuck me...wth!! " He seemed disappointed and said , he's crazy.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

Yes, I thought I was the only one to have found this weird. But I've been throwing around a lot of judgment lately, so decided to keep quiet. 😐

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I try not to judge either but you can never be too careful Witt your heart.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

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Yes, that's exactly what I told him .. "I know he's your best friend and he was drunk, and I don't know what he knows or doesn't know.. (well I did talk to him when I took him to the car) but I didn't like the way he talked to me that night and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable for all of us"

He answered: "Good job for talking to him, he's crazy"

I feel like he knows his friend is like that and he's very insecure as far as I know, so sometimes I don't think he trusts me. We are moving very very slow.. most of the time I spend with him is with him alone or his cousin, also met his mentor and his roommate, they all like me and respect me, I just think that his friend is an a-hole. He was also trying to fuck another girl while he is married and has kids... my Cap and I were talking to him to make him realize that that's not a healthy relationship if he's doing that, he says is an "open relationship". Cap told me his wife (Also his friend) does get hurt that he does that.

Because I saw how this guy was, that's why I didn't put much thought into it and didn't want to cause issues, I just talked to him straight.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

Yes, that's exactly what I told him .. "I know he's your best friend and he was drunk, and I don't know what he knows or doesn't know.. (well I did talk to him when I took him to the car) but I didn't like the way he talked to me that night and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable for all of us"

He answered: "Good job for talking to him, he's crazy"

I feel like he knows his friend is like that and he's very insecure as far as I know, so sometimes I don't think he trusts me. We are moving very very slow.. most of the time I spend with him is with him alone or his cousin, also met his mentor and his roommate, they all like me and respect me, I just think that his friend is an a-hole. He was also trying to fuck another girl while he is married and has kids... my Cap and I were talking to him to make him realize that that's not a healthy relationship if he's doing that, he says is an "open relationship". Cap told me his wife (Also his friend) does get hurt that he does that.

Because I saw how this guy was, that's why I didn't put much thought into it and didn't want to cause issues, I just talked to him straight.

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Ok yeah his friend could just be a dick. lol I wouldn't be surprised if his friend hasn't scared other women away because of this. I would say just keep my eyes peeled because if he feels the need to act like a "bro" in order to see if you care by reaction it could mean he is a lot more insecure than you wanna deal with. Plus men are idiots I don't think they really know what they do a lot of times but most Caps I know seem to be very cautious of how they come off.

When we were at the club he was always taking me out to dance, hugged me, he met my brother that night too and first thing he said was that he wanted to give my brother a good impression.

On our way there, he played a song which he has played for both of us before, he held my hand and kissed me. Do you think the lyrics have a meaning about us? My ex cap used to dedicate songs to me too. ?

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

Yes, that's exactly what I told him .. "I know he's your best friend and he was drunk, and I don't know what he knows or doesn't know.. (well I did talk to him when I took him to the car) but I didn't like the way he talked to me that night and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable for all of us"

He answered: "Good job for talking to him, he's crazy"

I feel like he knows his friend is like that and he's very insecure as far as I know, so sometimes I don't think he trusts me. We are moving very very slow.. most of the time I spend with him is with him alone or his cousin, also met his mentor and his roommate, they all like me and respect me, I just think that his friend is an a-hole. He was also trying to fuck another girl while he is married and has kids... my Cap and I were talking to him to make him realize that that's not a healthy relationship if he's doing that, he says is an "open relationship". Cap told me his wife (Also his friend) does get hurt that he does that.

Because I saw how this guy was, that's why I didn't put much thought into it and didn't want to cause issues, I just talked to him straight.

Ok yeah his friend could just be a dick. lol I wouldn't be surprised if his friend hasn't scared other women away because of this. I would say just keep my eyes peeled because if he feels the need to act like a "bro" in order to see if you care by reaction it could mean he is a lot more insecure than you wanna deal with. Plus men are idiots I don't think they really know what they do a lot of times but most Caps I know seem to be very cautious of how they come off.

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At the beginning when we first met, it was a business party and he was different from all guys and he never left my side, talking to me, I saw he was nervous and even sweaty, I just kept talking to him, when he later (after some drinks) asked me if I'm an aquarius, I said yes how do you know? he said bc you kept talking to me even though I didn't know what else to say..haha and surprisingly he's a Cap (when my exes and another couple guys who have told me they like me are also caps)

People there thought he was my boyfriend bc id watch how much he was drinking and he was always after me.

I took him home that night bc he had been drinking and we ended up having sex, I was completely sober lol so I just left after he passed out.

He didn't even have my number, and the next morning he texted me ?? I was so embarrassed! BUG MISTAKE!! but I liked him and things just happened. :/

in the first weeks I felt like he liked me bc he would come to my place, and say things like "I didn't go with my friends bc I wanted to see you" but then thru text later he'd say that he has no emotions, that people find him difficult to understand, that he cares about me, he looks up to respect his partner in a relationship. But that girls usually just leave him later on bc he's too busy, and he doesn't get attached to people.. anyway a lot of FYI's and warnings. redflags.

He first said that he doesn't want to rush anything and base our relationship on a friendship and let things flow.

I thought it was the best thing for us too.

BTW, I'm separated, and I have two daughters 13 and 8 yrs old. I'm 28.. So I'm very careful about who I have around me, he asks me some questions about them, their age, what hobbies do they like, things like that make me comfortable that he does see me as something more, I never hid them from him. So, I'd rather get to know him better before getting in a relationship with him.

I'm sure it's the same for him, because if he's with me, it wouldn't just be ME..it's me + 2.

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BTW, I'm separated, and I have two daughters 13 and 8 yrs old. I'm 28.. So I'm very careful about who I have around me, he asks me some questions about them, their age, what hobbies do they like, things like that make me comfortable that he does see me as something more, I never hid them from him. So, I'd rather get to know him better before getting in a relationship with him.

I'm sure it's the same for him, because if he's with me, it wouldn't just be ME..it's me + 2.

Seperated As in not divorced?

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Not married actually.

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Did you tell the cap what his friend said?

Yes I wouldn't sit my hands on this for too long. No I wouldn't stick around if he was making dick moves like that, his friends could have went back to tell him that they mentioned it to you and you didn't even flinch but at the same time what has he told them about you that they think they can talk to you that way? Because I highly doubt he told them he wanted to make you his girl if they felt comfortable talking to you like that. I will really reevaluate who he is to if he has friends like that talk like that to girls.

Yes, that's exactly what I told him .. "I know he's your best friend and he was drunk, and I don't know what he knows or doesn't know.. (well I did talk to him when I took him to the car) but I didn't like the way he talked to me that night and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable for all of us"

He answered: "Good job for talking to him, he's crazy"

I feel like he knows his friend is like that and he's very insecure as far as I know, so sometimes I don't think he trusts me. We are moving very very slow.. most of the time I spend with him is with him alone or his cousin, also met his mentor and his roommate, they all like me and respect me, I just think that his friend is an a-hole. He was also trying to fuck another girl while he is married and has kids... my Cap and I were talking to him to make him realize that that's not a healthy relationship if he's doing that, he says is an "open relationship". Cap told me his wife (Also his friend) does get hurt that he does that.

Because I saw how this guy was, that's why I didn't put much thought into it and didn't want to cause issues, I just talked to him straight.

Ok yeah his friend could just be a dick. lol I wouldn't be surprised if his friend hasn't scared other women away because of this. I would say just keep my eyes peeled because if he feels the need to act like a "bro" in order to see if you care by reaction it could mean he is a lot more insecure than you wanna deal with. Plus men are idiots I don't think they really know what they do a lot of times but most Caps I know seem to be very cautious of how they come off.

At the beginning when we first met, it was a business party and he was different from all guys and he never left my side, talking to me, I saw he was nervous and even sweaty, I just kept talking to him, when he later (after some drinks) asked me if I'm an aquarius, I said yes how do you know? he said bc you kept talking to me even though I didn't know what else to say..haha and surprisingly he's a Cap (when my exes and another couple guys who have told me they like me are also caps)

People there thought he was my boyfriend bc id watch how much he was drinking and he was always after me.

I took him home that night bc he had been drinking and we ended up having sex, I was completely sober lol so I just left after he passed out.

He didn't even have my number, and the next morning he texted me ?? I was so embarrassed! BUG MISTAKE!! but I liked him and things just happened. :/

in the first weeks I felt like he liked me bc he would come to my place, and say things like "I didn't go with my friends bc I wanted to see you" but then thru text later he'd say that he has no emotions, that people find him difficult to understand, that he cares about me, he looks up to respect his partner in a relationship. But that girls usually just leave him later on bc he's too busy, and he doesn't get attached to people.. anyway a lot of FYI's and warnings. redflags.

He first said that he doesn't want to rush anything and base our relationship on a friendship and let things flow.

I thought it was the best thing for us too.

Sometimes I lead with my red flags because I need to know if a person can accept me just as I am with all my flaws before I give them the better parts of me. He's just being upfront & honest with you to see if you can handle it.

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Yeah and I don't see it as anything bad, and I told him once "I like you with all of your FYI's and warnings"

and he has been opening up to me more lately, being more affectionate and being himself with me. He has strong emotions. I've already seen this twice.. Sometimes he just grabs me really tight. He doesn't talk much but I feel a good vibe with him.