HELP! How to know if Capricorn man is interested in you or is just nice because of his good nature?

I think I created this topic before but I don’t think it got posted (it’s my first day here so I may have missclicked something). In any case this one will be very long read. But I genuinely have no idea what to do. So let me give you some information so
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  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    I think I created this topic before but I don’t think it got posted (it’s my first day here so I may have missclicked something).
    In any case this one will be very long read. But I genuinely have no idea what to do. So let me give you some information so you would see where I am coming from.
    I am Pisces, he is Capricorn. We are coworkers, but work in different departments. I am researcher he works in events. So different yet kinda the same work area. He is 4 years older than me (so not by a lot). I am 26 
    This whole weird “dancing” is happening for two years now (granted last year he was just out of long term relationship so it was natural that he was figuring out his life again). Also important note his work hours are absolutely crazy as well as he just bought apartment so he is doing all construction work by himself. So he is absolutely busy as hell… Anyhow…
    Now I will explain my predicament.
    When me and him are together either at work events, or company parties he is like the sweetest person ever. He will run and get me a chair, he will make sure that I always have a drink. During last company party he managed to find me the type of drink I wanted almost in completed darkness. One coworker was heavily hitting on me so as a joke I put my hand on my Capricorns hand (like on the elbow part) and smiling said sorry I will use you as my shield for a bit. He understood that and the moment that coworker would approach he huged me and so on. Later on he basically started doing the same thing even if others would do it. Even though I didn’t asked him to do that. He spend all party with me. He was so “protective” in a good way. That when he and other coworkers decided to go and have a smoke and I said I will go outside for a moment to take in fresh cold air (its very cold in my country during winter) that he refused to let me do it since he said that I will catch a flue. Than finally I said fine I won’t go it’s ok go I will be here, he refused to go himself and stayd with me.
    When some coworkers would make friendly jokes that me and him are couple and so on he never let them know that we are not, and I was the one who would say ohh noo noo no we are not.
    Moreover, we had some very very sweet and almost romantic moments, but then he would turn very playfull and ruin them by messing up my hair (like you would do to a child) and giggling when I would make faces like really wow really?
    After the party I called him to make sure he got home safely (since me and other 3 coworkers live on the same street he knew I will be ok) but he was going home alone. So I called him (it was 3 am by the way) and we talked for good 1 hour until 4 am. He didn’t try to stop conversation and so on, even though he had to go to work tomorrow early in the morning.
    I even sayd thank you for spending the party with me and said sorry if because of me he didn’t get a chance to spend time with others or maybe find some girl. To which he answered: “hey if I would have felt bad or bored I would have “disappeared” or removed myself from situation”. Which is sweet but doesn’t directly say hey I LIKE YOU.
    Now I thought hey maybe he is just sweet person and acts with all females like that. But no.. My other female coworkers actually think he is kinda cold and even bit chickeny (which in my mind seems like complete opposite of what I experience with him).
    Damn one time he even did a cartwheel on the stage after the event kinda showing that he can do it (since the dancer during even was doing them). The only people that were in the room was me and my other coworker who is a man and was doing his own thing. Funny enough that day I talked with my other coworker more (before this). So on one hind I think it was his way to impress me, on other hand maybe he was just being playfull and would have done it even if I would have not been there.

    Ok so why I am here asking? Well… Like I said when we are face to face or talking on the phone he is amazing. But when we are not it’s like I don’t exist for him. He never calls, or writes first. But if I do he answers and is sweet and tries to carry conversation. When I asked him that maybe he would like to meet outside of the work. He said we will see.
    But than once I made a joke that well not to myself never go to your place once you will be done with all the constructions, he made a joke back that shows that no no you should come.

    If I flirt with him he asks me further and so on, but he never shows me his true feelings.
    I am wondering that maybe he is just being really nice because he respects me and so on. Or maybe he likes me but he thinks that he could find something better.
    I am sooo confused. One thing in the past was that I can read people soo fast. 10 min and I can see through them. But with him I can’t. All my relationships ended because I would see through them fast, and would get bored or see qualities that I wouldn’t be able to deal with in a long run. But with him it’s like he is closed book. I am used to being the one who gets calls, or gets texts or gets offers so with him I feel like fish out of the water (no pun intended Big Grin). I don’t know should I continue showing affection or should stop. How to know if I don’t look like creepy obsessed girl?
    And now his birthday is coming up, I have perfect gift in mind, something that we joked about and he would never ever expect to actually get from me. But if he doesn’t like me and I will give him that kinda expensive gift he might feel awkward or be creped out.

    I am sooo confused… Pleaseeee someone tell me what you think. Do you think he likes me? Or not… I just don’t seem to be able to figure him out…
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Also sorry english is not my native language :/ so you will find alot mistakes
  • ladylibra21
    Lovingly Confused, Libra/Scorp Cusp Sun, Merc, Mars, Cancer Moon, Sag Venus
    from CT
    *Hugs* Ugh this is tough I am in a similar situation I feel your pain. Lets just invent a cap-o-feelings meter device!
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by Capri-sun
    It sounds like he likes you and could be interested. Hard to tell for sure.


    Ohhh yeahh... I hate this type of unknown... hrrr..... Big Grin
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by ladylibra21
    *Hugs* Ugh this is tough I am in a similar situation I feel your pain. Lets just invent a cap-o-feelings meter device!


    Ohh god that type of device would be a life saver, or at least feelings saver Big Grin "hugs back" hr.....
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Have you ever told him how you felt?
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Have you ever told him how you felt?


    I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.

    Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that Big Grin (but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....

    Ech...
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Posted by Roana
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Have you ever told him how you felt?


    I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.

    Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that Big Grin (but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....

    Ech...
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    Cautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.
  • daron76
    Cap Sun, Aries Ascend, Cancer Moon, Venus Aqua
    male
    Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.

    However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?

    I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by daron76
    Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.

    However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?

    I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.


    No there is no other women in the picture smile I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them smile But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Roana
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Have you ever told him how you felt?


    I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.

    Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that Big Grin (but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....

    Ech...


    Cautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.
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    Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...
  • piscespoppy
    47 year old Pisces women Aquarius moon, Cancer rising Aries Venus Sagittarius M
    female from Chatham, Kent, Uk
    Aww, he may just be being cautious but he obviously likes you regardless of signs, however where I work there is a cap who behaved very similarly to your friend towards another of my female co-workers and they are now dating, but he has been hurt before, and confided in me a few times before he 'went for it ' with her, she just grabbed him and kissed him one evening out on a works night out, he was confused at first and a little hesitant, but they are taking it steady and both of them seem happy. She is a Libra.He told me once after her kissing him he was out with friends and there were lovely woman all around, but he could only think of her, so wasn't interested in any of them, aww.
    You said he became more sweet after you told him how you feel, so perhaps he needs you to be a little more assertive, I hope it works out for you hun, my son is a cap his girlfriend is an Aries, well no messing about there! She wanted him, job done, they've been together 9 years, they are quite well suited with their placements I found out.
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Posted by Roana
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by Roana
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Have you ever told him how you felt?


    I did and he seemed pleased. As well as became even sweeter whenever we would see each other... But his reaction was always more focused on what I said instead of saying what he likes.

    Once I told him you know the fact that you tease me and irritate me so much is one of the reasons why I like you so much. And he instead of saying what he thinks he said we should figure out what word is to describe that Big Grin (but like in a cute sweet way). I just don't get it. He is interested I think and yet something is stoping him from doing that one extra step....

    Ech...


    Cautious creatures. Mysterious too. I've been trying my best to understand them for awhile.


    Yeah... I know that for the first year he was kinda blocked of from the world in general. Than this year (well last one) he became less causious... Shows extra attention and so on... But sometimes I do feel like he is kinda testing me.. Like he says something and looks for my reaction... I wonder sometimes if because he is so busy with his work and so on he is taking it really slow and just figuring me out little by little. He knows that I am against flings or one time things, so I wonder maybe thats why he is extra cautious. He maybe figuring me out to see if I am person who would be good for him in long term. Because even at work we dont see each other often (like there can be weeks without seeing each other). So when we do see each other he seems very happy. But I always find him kinda evaluating not just when I speak with him but when I speak with other people. And as for some weird universal law there is someone who is from some company and so on showing interest in me. Like once I got flowers from a guy that I didnt even knew, other time guy from some other even planning firm offered me to sit with him and so on. And every time that it happens it's like he lingers next to me more, or tries to talk to me more. I mean he never does that for any other female coworker... So it makes me wonder if he does like me to certain extent... But just not enough...
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    A lot of us girls on here feel the exact same way. They like us, but not enough to want to commit. It's a struggle. Do you wait it out or do you move on? That's your choice, but not a guarantee he will ever want to date. I also feel like I'm being tested a lot. I think it's their way of understanding how we will handle situations.
  • daron76
    Cap Sun, Aries Ascend, Cancer Moon, Venus Aqua
    male
    Posted by Roana
    Posted by daron76
    Sad to say but I still don't think he is. Sounds like a really nice guy and rather friendly but that's about it. You guys aren't even going out on dates or just hanging out alone. Everything you mention revolves around work. The only caveat is that this is at work which always complicates things.

    However, 2 years is a long time to be indecisive unless there is another woman in the picture. Have you ever asked him if he was single?

    I just don't want to get your hopes up, he sounds like a nice guy. And he is probably just that... a nice guy. I know it's hard to believe but we still do exist lol.


    No there is no other women in the picture smile I know that because he went from very very long term relashionship he didn't want anything serious for a long time. And I am not surprised that there are nice guysI meet alot of them smile But the thing is sometimes the way we talk or the way we flirt really is above and beyond the I am just being nice to you. I just can't understand what is stoping him from making that one little step.
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    I guess you're right... you've already waited 2 years, what's another 20? Go for it.
  • Roana
    28 years old female from Lithuania
    Posted by piscespoppy
    Aww, he may just be being cautious but he obviously likes you regardless of signs, however where I work there is a cap who behaved very similarly to your friend towards another of my female co-workers and they are now dating, but he has been hurt before, and confided in me a few times before he 'went for it ' with her, she just grabbed him and kissed him one evening out on a works night out, he was confused at first and a little hesitant, but they are taking it steady and both of them seem happy. She is a Libra.He told me once after her kissing him he was out with friends and there were lovely woman all around, but he could only think of her, so wasn't interested in any of them, aww.
    You said he became more sweet after you told him how you feel, so perhaps he needs you to be a little more assertive, I hope it works out for you hun, my son is a cap his girlfriend is an Aries, well no messing about there! She wanted him, job done, they've been together 9 years, they are quite well suited with their placements I found out.


    Ech... yeah that sounds very very similar... But I have never ever kissed man first, I am the type that shows person that I am interested and so on or kinda "seducing" but I have never actually made that first real step... I already feel like I am steeping out of my own comfort zone with him Big Grin showing that I am interested so directly... God... I don't know how I can be more assertive than just saying hey I like you I would like to meet you outside the work... Big Grin ech... I feel like a teenager
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