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Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?click to expand
i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
Posted by M
"He is currently in a relationship. She's the epitome of his 'ideal' prospect for a wife."Nothing permeates this. Since this is the case, you need to respect that as the life he's chosen.
"I believe that he still loves me. I could feel it. In his eyes, presence, and movements."
Love is not black and white. You could be a special someone to him, that does not equate to someone he's going to jump ship for. If you believe he's still in love with you beyond that, it falls on him to come around. It was, after all, his decision to make the change.
can I requote this for good measure....first post....from a cap man.
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This was very good advice. Which was why I suggested she create a topic on this board.
Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.
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then you've never really loved. You love someone despite all the major flaws they have. Even if they are con-artists or assholes, ect. You love BEYOND flaws, you love everything about them, while everyone else thinks they are pieces of shit.
Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
trying to figure out why, imo, is trying to figure out how to get him to change it.
Some people see it as closure. A learning process. A way to ease the pain. A way to move on.
Not everyone who posts here has an ulterior motive.
I have to repeat I don't want a man who is in a relationship, if I did I wouldn't be on this thread asking for anything, I would simply rely on my action and make things happen for myself, and like my sister said she would never condone me moving in that manner. You seem to have missed that. I had questions, they've been answered, thanks but your services are no longer needed
So my question to all you Capricorns,
Were you ever in a situation when you chose to follow your heart (emotions) with someone you did not see stability or longevity with? Did you decide to take that risk anyway? What prompted you to take that risk?
Another question,
Were you ever in s a situation when you married someone just for stability without feeling any emotional connection to them initially....but grew to love them afterwards?
y
Good question! Been with a Cap fwb for 9 months, hopefully my experience will help you.
Cap men do not normally go for a person that does not have "potential" to turn into more!
For example, if they have built a life with the person first for whatever reason (that person has a good career, they seem to get along fine, have mutual friends, etc.), he may want to pursue love.
Vice versa...if he loves that person, he will want to build a great life...see what I mean..?
They kind of want it all, and will work hard at it 🙂Yes, he has followed his heart when he saw some potential. No, he has not grown to love the person afterwards.
I had a conversation with him this weekend that he should not do that anymore because he has ended up hurting people as a result. He agreed and said he shouldn't have to want to change the person he's with so much, or the other way around because that means they are wrong for each other.Yes, he has taken big risks in love, but very very rare. If you want more details, feel free to PM me.
Thank you I was fwb with a Libra for almost two months once I realized she wasn't girlfriend material I was out of there and she began to think the same way. If it's not serious it's just a game Cap and Scorpio placements say all,or nothing her Venus and Moon were also in Scorpio but I just couldn't do it.click to expand
Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.
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We were together since HS, as we got older we realized we wanted different things, whats so gross about that. What is wrong with you, smh
Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
Her marriage is her business and not yours
so just STOP. Plus, this thread is not about
the Op's ex- husband.
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it IS her business, YES. i'm just adding in MY opinion...SO the fuck what?? You and Tiz seem to agree with eachother so why don't you both get together. Jesus christ. People can't even put in their own opinion even if it's STRONGLY opposing.
Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.
We were together since HS, as we got older we realized we wanted different things, whats so gross about that. What is wrong with you, smh
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I rest MY case.
Posted by lisabethur8
plus she fell out of love from her ex husband ...jesus christ...i hate those types. Did he beat her up? cheat on her continously?? I hate those types...that down the road, 20 -- 30 years from now, they're gonna fall out of love.shit. What the fuck man. If you are gonna do that, don't marry!
it was hard to stop loving my alcoholic, drug addict, ex-con, still in prison ex husband. very hard. even with all his cheating continously...i still loved him. you NEVER stop loving. no matter what.
that love just turns to hate.
then when finally you heal, you can love again. and make better choices.
Geesh Lisa. She was with him since high school. Some people grow up and change. Some don't. When each one in a couple doesn't grow in the same direction, they develop different interests and change gradually into different people. Often times one grows up and the other doesn't. So, yes, people CAN fall out of love. Especially if they got married very, very young.
Posted by lisabethur8
plus she fell out of love from her ex husband ...jesus christ...i hate those types. Did he beat her up? cheat on her continously?? I hate those types...that down the road, 20 -- 30 years from now, they're gonna fall out of love.shit. What the fuck man. If you are gonna do that, don't marry!
it was hard to stop loving my alcoholic, drug addict, ex-con, still in prison ex husband. very hard. even with all his cheating continously...i still loved him. you NEVER stop loving. no matter what.
that love just turns to hate.
then when finally you heal, you can love again. and make better choices.Geesh Lisa. She was with him since high school. Some people grow up and change. Some don't. When each one in a couple doesn't grow in the same direction, they develop different interests and change gradually into different people. Often times one grows up and the other doesn't. So, yes, people CAN fall out of love. Especially if they got married very, very young.
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?? why are you, of all people ENABLING this kind of thing? 😕
I've seen couples marry young from high school and they're STILL married. I don't see them saying to eachother, Hey we're just not....doing it for eachother. lol Especially during mid-life crisis.
Posted by M
"He is currently in a relationship. She's the epitome of his 'ideal' prospect for a wife."Nothing permeates this. Since this is the case, you need to respect that as the life he's chosen.
"I believe that he still loves me. I could feel it. In his eyes, presence, and movements."
Love is not black and white. You could be a special someone to him, that does not equate to someone he's going to jump ship for. If you believe he's still in love with you beyond that, it falls on him to come around. It was, after all, his decision to make the change.
can I requote this for good measure....first post....from a cap man.
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open and shut case...
but oh well, you're right. Different strokes. *shrug*
Posted by M
"He is currently in a relationship. She's the epitome of his 'ideal' prospect for a wife."Nothing permeates this. Since this is the case, you need to respect that as the life he's chosen.
"I believe that he still loves me. I could feel it. In his eyes, presence, and movements."
Love is not black and white. You could be a special someone to him, that does not equate to someone he's going to jump ship for. If you believe he's still in love with you beyond that, it falls on him to come around. It was, after all, his decision to make the change.
can I requote this for good measure....first post....from a cap man.
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I read this, I thought it was great. This is why I'm on this board for responses just like this.
Probably why the Cap man SENSED from her. 😆
thought secretly...jesus christ, i'd NEVER want to be with that woman, knowing her character and needs/wants.
I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.
We were together since HS, as we got older we realized we wanted different things, whats so gross about that. What is wrong with you, smh
Um, I was saying there was nothing wrong with falling out of love. How did you interpret my post?
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Sorry, I forgot to click the quote button, but that was for Lisa
Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
so, now what?
Now to process, deal, and close a much needed chapter
his actions speak louder than words, ladies. that's all. Even if he's not Forthright with telling you straight, his actions speak louder than words.
She's thank everyone for their responses.
(I don't see why the ex-husband is an issue).
This has turned into emotions vs. reality. I always have sympathy for people who post these. At the bare minimum I hope you can be friends with the Cap it sounds reasonable but,it has to almost be agreed upon. At the end of the day you were together a while shouldn't throw all that away.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
She's thank everyone for their responses.
(I don't see why the ex-husband is an issue).
how you treat your ex's is IMPORTANT.
Posted by lisabethur8
his actions speak louder than words, ladies. that's all. Even if he's not Forthright with telling you straight, his actions speak louder than words.
Especially caps with Scorpio placements.
I believe the Capricorns have given great advice in regards to this topic. I'm glad I suggested she create a topic on this board.
Thanks for helping out my sis! 😉
Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.+1
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*
Her marriage is her business and not yours
so just STOP. Plus, this thread is not about
the Op's ex- husband.it IS her business, YES. i'm just adding in MY opinion...SO the fuck what?? You and Tiz seem to agree with eachother so why don't you both get together. Jesus christ. People can't even put in their own opinion even if it's STRONGLY opposing.
Of course you can have an opinion,
I was pointing out that you are off topic.
And the Tiz and I comment is just
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Actually EVERYTHING ties in. Everything. but you can't even see that. Oh well. I see it very very clearly. And you seem to be ADAMANT about me mentioning it. I don't know why. Well Tiz and you have been SINGLE a long ass time ....and he needs to get off that FENCE. 😆
Posted by lisabethur8
plus she fell out of love from her ex husband ...jesus christ...i hate those types. Did he beat her up? cheat on her continously?? I hate those types...that down the road, 20 -- 30 years from now, they're gonna fall out of love.shit. What the fuck man. If you are gonna do that, don't marry!
it was hard to stop loving my alcoholic, drug addict, ex-con, still in prison ex husband. very hard. even with all his cheating continously...i still loved him. you NEVER stop loving. no matter what.
that love just turns to hate.
then when finally you heal, you can love again. and make better choices.Geesh Lisa. She was with him since high school. Some people grow up and change. Some don't. When each one in a couple doesn't grow in the same direction, they develop different interests and change gradually into different people. Often times one grows up and the other doesn't. So, yes, people CAN fall out of love. Especially if they got married very, very young.
?? why are you, of all people ENABLING this kind of thing? 😕
I've seen couples marry young from high school and they're STILL married. I don't see them saying to eachother, Hey we're just not....doing it for eachother. lol Especially during mid-life crisis.
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Because you are reading more into than what there seems to be. You've went way off into another tangent.
All she's wanting is an opinion on why a capricorn man would choose one option rather than another.
I believe her that she is just seeking closure.
Posted by librascale75
Thanks sis, this is truly a rough crowd, with the exception of TruCap, my lordI apologize if I was contributing to this tough crowd.
However, he has made his decision and the more you think about him, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Also, I think you missed capinc's reference to the movie, about a protagonist guy who chose a lady who had more stability, over a lady that he had emotional connection with.
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I didn't miss capinc reference to the movie, i'm definitely going to check it out. I understand a choice was made, only was trying to figure out how that choice came to be, so I will definitely check out the movie and all the responses geared toward my question as a step towards closure. Sometimes unanswered questions makes things a little harder, but I'm glad my sister talked me into posting this thread
lol ok. 😛
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
Reading stories like this make me sentimental _?'?_?'?
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
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douche bags are in style
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
douche bags are in style
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Um, i'm MARRIED to one of those mentioned, and with dominant Leo in the chart. So if you believe douchebag...so be it. LOVING my muffin love douchealicious hubbykins 😆
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
Please don't start attacking. I won't run the other way if I meet guys who are Libras.
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awww really? 🙂 That's awesome. I have nothing agaisnt them honest. I have a libra brother in law. married to an ARIES sister believe it or not..TRUTH!!
he's good to her and vice versa, so it's all good. I was just being honestly observant how it is around here. With all the women groveling over certain signs.
Posted by librascale75
Thanks sis, this is truly a rough crowd, with the exception of TruCap, my lordI apologize if I was contributing to this tough crowd.
However, he has made his decision and the more you think about him, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Also, I think you missed capinc's reference to the movie, about a protagonist guy who chose a lady who had more stability, over a lady that he had emotional connection with.
I didn't miss capinc reference to the movie, i'm definitely going to check it out. I understand a choice was made, only was trying to figure out how that choice came to be, so I will definitely check out the movie and all the responses geared toward my question as a step towards closure. Sometimes unanswered questions makes things a little harder, but I'm glad my sister talked me into posting this thread
Good luck! 🙂
Also I agree with truecap about this board. Be careful how your posts are going to come off. Many misunderstandings happen here. 😢
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Doesn't take long to learn how to word things. I remember my first few months of posting. Whew!!!
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
douche bags are in style
Um, i'm MARRIED to one of those mentioned, and with dominant Leo in the chart. So if you believe douchebag...so be it. LOVING my muffin love douchealicious hubbykins 😆
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I thought your hubby was a Leo instead of Libra.
Posted by librascale75
Thanks sis, this is truly a rough crowd, with the exception of TruCap, my lordI apologize if I was contributing to this tough crowd.
However, he has made his decision and the more you think about him, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Also, I think you missed capinc's reference to the movie, about a protagonist guy who chose a lady who had more stability, over a lady that he had emotional connection with.
I didn't miss capinc reference to the movie, i'm definitely going to check it out. I understand a choice was made, only was trying to figure out how that choice came to be, so I will definitely check out the movie and all the responses geared toward my question as a step towards closure. Sometimes unanswered questions makes things a little harder, but I'm glad my sister talked me into posting this thread
Good luck! 🙂
Also I agree with truecap about this board. Be careful how your posts are going to come off. Many misunderstandings happen here. 😢
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I notice, oh no,smh
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
douche bags are in style
Um, i'm MARRIED to one of those mentioned, and with dominant Leo in the chart. So if you believe douchebag...so be it. LOVING my muffin love douchealicious hubbykins 😆
I thought your hubby was a Leo instead of Libra.
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HUH? you thought my husband is a LEO?
did you read what i wrote while he QUOTED me? i said Leo, Scorpio, and Aries MEN. so choose one of those....and then i wrote down that i'm MARRIED to one of those three. w/ dominant leo in the chart. so basically half half of the three i mentioned. I think you're just messing with me because you aren't that dumb. You're actually quite smart enough and observant enough.
i have to put down..... Virgo males are also in HIGH Demand around here. 😄
Did somebody forget their meds this morning?
Posted by tiziani
Quite happy on the fence for this year, cheers 🙂tripleCap you do have great taste in shoes.
the sad part is...if you were a leo or scorpio or aries male, all the women would be wanting you but you're not....
that's the sad part. As soon as they know you're a libra, they are running the other way 😆
Please don't start attacking. I won't run the other way if I meet guys who are Libras.
awww really? 🙂 That's awesome. I have nothing agaisnt them honest. I have a libra brother in law. married to an ARIES sister believe it or not..TRUTH!!
he's good to her and vice versa, so it's all good. I was just being honestly observant how it is around here. With all the women groveling over certain signs.
Yeah. 🙂
I do prefer Caps, but I'm not groveling over them and I am open to guys from other signs as well. 🙂
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aw that's sweet. I hope you get your Cap man someday and he loves you back. if you prefer capricorn men, then stick to that. No need to white knight.
Posted by CapTenn
Did somebody forget their meds this morning?
lol 😆 i'm pretty energetic today. I don't know why.... 😛
i even finished cooking and cleaning too. Now i'm just having a glass of wine. ^___^
Posted by CapTenn
Did somebody forget their meds this morning?lol 😆 i'm pretty energetic today. I don't know why.... 😛
i even finished cooking and cleaning too. Now i'm just having a glass of wine. ^___^click to expand
I hear ya.
I was like that yesterday.
I was arguing my ass off on here.
Posted by CapTenn
Did somebody forget their meds this morning?
There's definitely some bipolar energy going on around here.
Doesn't take long to learn how to word things. I remember my first few months of posting. Whew!!!
lol, I mean be as concise as possible ... the more holes you leave, the more people will question you, no? 🙂
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Ive definitly figured that out, and I'll have to really keep that in mind,lol
Posted by CapTenn
Did somebody forget their meds this morning?lol 😆 i'm pretty energetic today. I don't know why.... 😛
i even finished cooking and cleaning too. Now i'm just having a glass of wine. ^___^I hear ya.
I was like that yesterday.
I was arguing my ass off on here.
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lmao! omg i saw one of those yesterday. it was hilarious!! 😆 You both wouldn't let go and then finally..... lol
my husband is glad i can have a little fun online w/ you guys when he's doing his work. He just goes, what the hell are you laughing about this time? 😄
Thank you for that. I know he made a choice and the choice was not me, that is hurtful in itself, but to not know why that choice was made was a closure that I was denied and that is torturous so I really appreciate your response
You are very welcome. Happy to help 🙂
I hope you get the closure that you need...what do you think that is?
Maybe it's simply that you don't have the same goals, and she does.
Just want to add that there are 2 times that I know of when my Cap has taken relationship risks...
1st was when he was going through his first Saturn Return. These things happened at the same time: his mother passed away, live in band broke up after years together, and his long distance GF at the time proposed to him. It was an ultimatum. He says he did not love her, but he saw "potential to turn into love". Like a Cap 🙂 he told me what she did for a living when justifying his impulsive decision to get married to someone he barely knew (Chem Eng), and that she was independent and smart.
In fact, he always mentions what his friends gfs or wives do for a living, and is definitely impressed by high paying or exec positions.
He had only known her for 8 months give or take, and saw each other a handful of times when she flew over to visit him from another country. On her 5th visit in the short time they knew each other, she said that she couldn't keep coming over because it was affecting her credibility at work. Asked him to marry her, and he said Yes. He kept explaining how rare it is to him for a woman to propose, and that he thought it could be more. They got divorced 4 yrs later, but seems like he really believed he tried his best.
2nd person is me... he thinks he won't meet another person like me for various reasons. If it were up to him, we would be engaged. I won't let either of us make an impulsive decision though. With me, it's love happening first on his end, and he's working on building a great life. It's risky because he doesn't know much about me, I'm not in love, has to wait 2 years for us to date openly, and there's no guarantee that it will work out.
In each of these cases..it's important to note that there's huge potential, and end goals are very similar. Ie. I don't want kids in the future and he doesn't either.
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She's not going after him. She's not set up that way, and neither am I. I didn't give her that advice.
This is her healing process, finding answers by asking questions. Nothing more. Everyone heals differently. There is no mass formula that's applicable to every individual.