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gemini woman cap man- trouble
***** Use Caution Ahead ******
You are always going to feel this way. Get used to it.
I was married to a gemini for 18 years. *shudders*
It ended in resentment and disaster. The differences grew larger and larger and the years went on.
Yes, use caution.
Then again, it might be different for a gem woman/cap male.
I was married to a gemini for 18 years. *shudders*
It ended in resentment and disaster. The differences grew larger and larger and the years went on.
Yes, use caution.
Then again, it might be different for a gem woman/cap male.
I dated a Gemini and recently almost got involved with another one. I felt so overwhelmed early in the relationship to where I just ended up being in a "neutral" phase and would disappear a lot. I disappeared to really think if I wanted to continue and if it's possible that I could really deal being with that person. I would pop back in to try again but then right away I would end up disappearing again. They both seemed to need me more than I liked and were more dependent than I thought. We didn't seem to moving to the same rhythm.
Posted by champranger
IMO he either lost interest or saw your previous relationship as a safety net ... or just busy with work.
But I think truecap's and capinc's feedback would be more helpful for your case. 🙂
I considered this option as well...but then again the way he behaves when we are together shows otherwise...
The last time I tried to speak with him openly, he shrugged and 'disappeared' for a few days after which he came back saying he misses me, and didn't want to discuss why he needed 'time to be himself'
Posted by GemShimmiesPosted by truecap
You are always going to feel this way. Get used to it.
I was married to a gemini for 18 years. *shudders*
It ended in resentment and disaster. The differences grew larger and larger and the years went on.
Yes, use caution.
Then again, it might be different for a gem woman/cap male.
I'm a gem woman with a cap male. We definitely know how to entertain each other. We have so little with regard to everday activities in common but we compromise for each other. We're finding that we are becoming more and more interested in things the other likes to do. He loves movies, i hate them...but i go. Mine got a bit scared when shit got real but that was it.click to expand
We never had a trouble finding things to do together and talk about as we have very similar interests, edu background...we both like movies, books, nature etc... As I might have mentioned previously... the problem starts when we are not together as we hardly communicate... we have absolutely wonderful time when together (at least i think so, and he seems to enjoy it as much as i do....)
I wouldn't have a trouble not keeping in touch if i was sure about what's on his heart...i am very independent person with my own interests, friends and stuff to do, the problem is only that i am not sure how to get to him and make things clear. As a gemini, i prefer to make things clear, even if it means getting hurt and as far as I know Capricorns are pretty straightforward too, I just don't understand why are we still running in circles as we are old and mature enough not to be playing games...
Posted by eight67530nine
What was the question?
There's no exact question, I just thought I would ask an opinion from people who don't know any of us.
I am confused about what's happening, and am not sure about what I should and shouldn't do. I was just hoping the community might help me out 🙂
Since we're just on the topic of a Gemini and Capricorn, my mom is a Gemini and my dad is a Capricorn. She told me before they never fought, she was always understanding, he would leave for days or months (military), but he'd come back and was really sweet. Then leave and act like he didn't know her (Caps are very focused in work - I know my dad was and still is), but then he started cheating lol So not to say that is every Gem and Cap relationship. Just thought I'd share it lol Caps seem to be very focused at what is front of them... they make the best cheaters lol
I myself am starting to date a Cap for the first time, so I'm a little wary of them myself and in the same situation - somewhat. He is very attentive and very sweet in person, but when we're not face to face he can be very distant. He told me he doesn't want to bother me. I like my space and I respect his space, so having little time to text makes it ideal, but I'm wondering if how I'm reacting is causing him to react a certain way. I have found that I can be very guarded and distant, and I am not as attentive to him in person as he is with me. I actually find it very suspicious lol I like to observe in silence with a big smile ahah scary...
We are supposed to see each other today and go to the Circus, so I will try something new and be sweeter to him to see if that makes a difference, but like you, Caps confuse me. They have a hot and cold demeanor; when air and fire like to keep the passions alive, earth prefers to stay grounded and do things their way - trodding along carefully regardless of the weather. I don't get earth signs at all, but that's what's so intriguing lol stubborn they are... stubborn and immovable... so cute though
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I myself am starting to date a Cap for the first time, so I'm a little wary of them myself and in the same situation - somewhat. He is very attentive and very sweet in person, but when we're not face to face he can be very distant. He told me he doesn't want to bother me. I like my space and I respect his space, so having little time to text makes it ideal, but I'm wondering if how I'm reacting is causing him to react a certain way. I have found that I can be very guarded and distant, and I am not as attentive to him in person as he is with me. I actually find it very suspicious lol I like to observe in silence with a big smile ahah scary...
We are supposed to see each other today and go to the Circus, so I will try something new and be sweeter to him to see if that makes a difference, but like you, Caps confuse me. They have a hot and cold demeanor; when air and fire like to keep the passions alive, earth prefers to stay grounded and do things their way - trodding along carefully regardless of the weather. I don't get earth signs at all, but that's what's so intriguing lol stubborn they are... stubborn and immovable... so cute though
🙂
Also my dad (Cap) gave me lots of advice when I was a kid. He said it all the time, so maybe it will help those who want a future with Caps: be independent, don't ever rely on a man to take care of you, work towards your goals even if you start at the bottom, stand up for yourself, earn respect, don't be poor or else you can't provide for your family, and don't ever get fat or your husband will leave you (lmao)
hope that helps lol
hope that helps lol
Posted by eight67530nine
Just do your thing, be respectful of others and go with the flow. There's no need to rush.
I like this 🙂
Posted by JoanieSagi707
Since we're just on the topic of a Gemini and Capricorn, my mom is a Gemini and my dad is a Capricorn. She told me before they never fought, she was always understanding, he would leave for days or months (military), but he'd come back and was really sweet. Then leave and act like he didn't know her (Caps are very focused in work - I know my dad was and still is), but then he started cheating lol So not to say that is every Gem and Cap relationship. Just thought I'd share it lol Caps seem to be very focused at what is front of them... they make the best cheaters lol
I myself am starting to date a Cap for the first time, so I'm a little wary of them myself and in the same situation - somewhat. He is very attentive and very sweet in person, but when we're not face to face he can be very distant. He told me he doesn't want to bother me. I like my space and I respect his space, so having little time to text makes it ideal, but I'm wondering if how I'm reacting is causing him to react a certain way. I have found that I can be very guarded and distant, and I am not as attentive to him in person as he is with me. I actually find it very suspicious lol I like to observe in silence with a big smile ahah scary...
We are supposed to see each other today and go to the Circus, so I will try something new and be sweeter to him to see if that makes a difference, but like you, Caps confuse me. They have a hot and cold demeanor; when air and fire like to keep the passions alive, earth prefers to stay grounded and do things their way - trodding along carefully regardless of the weather. I don't get earth signs at all, but that's what's so intriguing lol stubborn they are... stubborn and immovable... so cute though
🙂
Judging from what you wrote, it seems that it's a very common thing with Capricorns... I already accepted the situation, yet i dont think its fair that its only me trying to adjust and change myself...
As I was in a long distance relationship for quiet a while, I am used to doing things by myself and I have my own life, yet abstaining from contact with someone just because some person might 'cool off' simply cos i care about him is a bit childish in my opinion....
Posted by JoanieSagi707Posted by eight67530nine
Just do your thing, be respectful of others and go with the flow. There's no need to rush.
I like this 🙂click to expand
I agree ! Will do my best to keep my head clear 🙂
Posted by JoanieSagi707
Also my dad (Cap) gave me lots of advice when I was a kid. He said it all the time, so maybe it will help those who want a future with Caps: be independent, don't ever rely on a man to take care of you, work towards your goals even if you start at the bottom, stand up for yourself, earn respect, don't be poor or else you can't provide for your family, and don't ever get fat or your husband will leave you (lmao)
hope that helps lol
the fat factor - is this the reason why your dad cheated on your mom?
Just be yourself. If you feel the need to say something, say it. If you feel like he needs his space, give it. Do not.. and I mean DO NOT change who you are for this person. If its meant to be, it will be. You are supposed to be next to the person you want to be with, not behind or in front. (Sounds dirty! 😛)
I have been with my Capricorn for years now and we work well. He is Dec. 22 though so he is on the cusp of being a Sag. I call him my Sagicorn, lol! We are very good together.
I have been with my Capricorn for years now and we work well. He is Dec. 22 though so he is on the cusp of being a Sag. I call him my Sagicorn, lol! We are very good together.
Well, looking at your story it looks like the Cap was seeing you as a friend and comforted you just because he felt empathy and just couldn't let someone who felt bad like this by her own. Because even if Cap are said to be distant and cold, they are the ones who feel the most alone Inside. So he just could let you in that state of mind and was suportive. Once he noticed that you were feeling great, then litterally his "work" with you was done, you are better now so he can let you continue your life. BUT you are feeling more-than-friendship and maybe he has just hasn't noticed it or doesn't see you in that way..
Posted by eastwestPosted by JoanieSagi707
Also my dad (Cap) gave me lots of advice when I was a kid. He said it all the time, so maybe it will help those who want a future with Caps: be independent, don't ever rely on a man to take care of you, work towards your goals even if you start at the bottom, stand up for yourself, earn respect, don't be poor or else you can't provide for your family, and don't ever get fat or your husband will leave you (lmao)
hope that helps lol
the fat factor - is this the reason why your dad cheated on your mom?click to expand
lmao!! No this is advice coming from a man (my dad) who has had 5 wives so far ahah he don't know nothing about love ahah
Yeah it's difficult with Caps, but it's their way or no way at all lol my mom was and still is very independent, and he's had many wives, but he wanted them independent, as in a mind of their own, yet still submissive as in a good housewife lol he didn't settle until he was way older though... so Idk... all I know is to go with the flow and if it works out then it does... if it doesn't then it doesn't... don't expect anything more than what he's offering and if he's offering very little then offer the same amount 🙂
I know it's childish and it is unfair that you have to yield... but it is what it is... on to the next journey
🙂
I know it's childish and it is unfair that you have to yield... but it is what it is... on to the next journey
🙂
Posted by VirgoSvengali
Well, looking at your story it looks like the Cap was seeing you as a friend and comforted you just because he felt empathy and just couldn't let someone who felt bad like this by her own. Because even if Cap are said to be distant and cold, they are the ones who feel the most alone Inside. So he just could let you in that state of mind and was suportive. Once he noticed that you were feeling great, then litterally his "work" with you was done, you are better now so he can let you continue your life. BUT you are feeling more-than-friendship and maybe he has just hasn't noticed it or doesn't see you in that way..
Well no, that's definitely not the case cause that's one of the things we discussed. Firstly i never looked for a shoulder to cry on, as I am not that kind of person, and never show negative emotions...therefore, I didn't even tell him my problems until he asked about it... also, he didn't comfort me cause I didn't ask for it in a first place....why did he change his attitude is still a mystery but it might be some sort of a test cause he is not confident that I have feelings for him...
Posted by JoanieSagi707
Yeah it's difficult with Caps, but it's their way or no way at all lol my mom was and still is very independent, and he's had many wives, but he wanted them independent, as in a mind of their own, yet still submissive as in a good housewife lol he didn't settle until he was way older though... so Idk... all I know is to go with the flow and if it works out then it does... if it doesn't then it doesn't... don't expect anything more than what he's offering and if he's offering very little then offer the same amount 🙂
I know it's childish and it is unfair that you have to yield... but it is what it is... on to the next journey
🙂
I agree with you... sometimes playing hard to get and other games is just inevitable...
as with regards to your dad, he doesn't seem like a typical cap tho...as far as i know they don't really get involved with that many women...but oh well, he is a man afterall... 🙂
Gem made me laugh and he was fun. Caps need laughter and fun in their lives, as we are so serious most of the time. I brought stability to his.
The problems we had were core differences.
I wasn't spontaneous enough for him, he was too fly by the seat of his pants for me.
I was too serious, he wasn't serious enough.
I was very money conscious, he liked to spend and thought I controlled our finances too much (someone had to, otherwise bills wouldn't get paid).
I was boring to him, think he got bored with me.
He thought I was controlling, but someone had to make sure things got done.
He had no follow up and was inconsistent, drove me crazy.
He thought I over analyzed everything, which I do. I thought he didn't think things through.
We did enjoy doing the same things, had a lot in common.
We were raised very similarly so we understood a lot about each other.
In a lot of ways, we complemented each other, but our differences led to resentment and loss of respect and things spiraled out of control.
It takes a lot of compromise for a cap/gem relationship.
The problems we had were core differences.
I wasn't spontaneous enough for him, he was too fly by the seat of his pants for me.
I was too serious, he wasn't serious enough.
I was very money conscious, he liked to spend and thought I controlled our finances too much (someone had to, otherwise bills wouldn't get paid).
I was boring to him, think he got bored with me.
He thought I was controlling, but someone had to make sure things got done.
He had no follow up and was inconsistent, drove me crazy.
He thought I over analyzed everything, which I do. I thought he didn't think things through.
We did enjoy doing the same things, had a lot in common.
We were raised very similarly so we understood a lot about each other.
In a lot of ways, we complemented each other, but our differences led to resentment and loss of respect and things spiraled out of control.
It takes a lot of compromise for a cap/gem relationship.
And he thought I was cold and wasn't emotional enough, I felt like he smothered me.
Wanted to throw that out there, too.
Wanted to throw that out there, too.
Posted by truecap
Gem made me laugh and he was fun. Caps need laughter and fun in their lives, as we are so serious most of the time. I brought stability to his.
The problems we had were core differences.
I wasn't spontaneous enough for him, he was too fly by the seat of his pants for me.
I was too serious, he wasn't serious enough.
I was very money conscious, he liked to spend and thought I controlled our finances too much (someone had to, otherwise bills wouldn't get paid).
I was boring to him, think he got bored with me.
He thought I was controlling, but someone had to make sure things got done.
He had no follow up and was inconsistent, drove me crazy.
He thought I over analyzed everything, which I do. I thought he didn't think things through.
We did enjoy doing the same things, had a lot in common.
We were raised very similarly so we understood a lot about each other.
In a lot of ways, we complemented each other, but our differences led to resentment and loss of respect and things spiraled out of control.
It takes a lot of compromise for a cap/gem relationship.
Thank you for the reply... I can actually relate to this in many ways though I still don't find him boring... Despite being a Gemini, and seeking for changes constantly, I enjoy quiet home time too, so we get along in that way... I was actually thinking that perhaps age difference might be something that contributes to our differences too (he is 8 years older)...
I am willing to adapt and compromise (I am like this with most people, especially people i care about) only if i could be confident that he cares too...
ohhhhh so complex 🙂
Posted by truecap
Gem made me laugh and he was fun. Caps need laughter and fun in their lives, as we are so serious most of the time. I brought stability to his.
The problems we had were core differences.
I wasn't spontaneous enough for him, he was too fly by the seat of his pants for me.
I was too serious, he wasn't serious enough.
I was very money conscious, he liked to spend and thought I controlled our finances too much (someone had to, otherwise bills wouldn't get paid).
I was boring to him, think he got bored with me.
He thought I was controlling, but someone had to make sure things got done.
He had no follow up and was inconsistent, drove me crazy.
He thought I over analyzed everything, which I do. I thought he didn't think things through.
We did enjoy doing the same things, had a lot in common.
We were raised very similarly so we understood a lot about each other.
In a lot of ways, we complemented each other, but our differences led to resentment and loss of respect and things spiraled out of control.
It takes a lot of compromise for a cap/gem relationship.
In a lot of ways, we complemented each other, but our differences led to resentment and loss of respect and things spiraled out of control.
It takes a lot of compromise for a cap/gem relationship.
Thank you for the reply... I can actually relate to this in many ways though I still don't find him boring... Despite being a Gemini, and seeking for changes constantly, I enjoy quiet home time too, so we get along in that way... I was actually thinking that perhaps age difference might be something that contributes to our differences too (he is 8 years older)...
I am willing to adapt and compromise (I am like this with most people, especially people i care about) only if i could be confident that he cares too...
ohhhhh so complex 🙂
Posted by GemShimmiesPosted by nngeminiPosted by GemShimmiesPosted by truecap
You are always going to feel this way. Get used to it.
I was married to a gemini for 18 years. *shudders*
It ended in resentment and disaster. The differences grew larger and larger and the years went on.
Yes, use caution.
Then again, it might be different for a gem woman/cap male.
I'm a gem woman with a cap male. We definitely know how to entertain each other. We have so little with regard to everday activities in common but we compromise for each other. We're finding that we are becoming more and more interested in things the other likes to do. He loves movies, i hate them...but i go. Mine got a bit scared when shit got real but that was it.
We never had a trouble finding things to do together and talk about as we have very similar interests, edu background...we both like movies, books, nature etc... As I might have mentioned previously... the problem starts when we are not together as we hardly communicate... we have absolutely wonderful time when together (at least i think so, and he seems to enjoy it as much as i do....)
I wouldn't have a trouble not keeping in touch if i was sure about what's on his heart...i am very independent person with my own interests, friends and stuff to do, the problem is only that i am not sure how to get to him and make things clear. As a gemini, i prefer to make things clear, even if it means getting hurt and as far as I know Capricorns are pretty straightforward too, I just don't understand why are we still running in circles as we are old and mature enough not to be playing games...click to expand
I have the same prblem. We work totally opposite schedules and don't see each other much til my days off of Monday / Tuesday. He often accuses me of texting too much but its literally all we have most times. He considers himself an enigma and says often "I don't have to understand my wife, i just have to love her" and thinks the same applies to me. He definitely does things he doesn't want me to know about. I don't think they're bad, but he wants his own realm of privacy and I'm tryin
Posted by GemShimmiesPosted by nngeminiPosted by GemShimmiesPosted by truecap
You are always going to feel this way. Get used to it.
I was married to a gemini for 18 years. *shudders*
It ended in resentment and disaster. The differences grew larger and larger and the years went on.
Yes, use caution.
Then again, it might be different for a gem woman/cap male.
I'm a gem woman with a cap male. We definitely know how to entertain each other. We have so little with regard to everday activities in common but we compromise for each other. We're finding that we are becoming more and more interested in things the other likes to do. He loves movies, i hate them...but i go. Mine got a bit scared when shit got real but that was it.
But was your cap always like that, or did he change at a certain point?
I can understand that some people are certain way, but when they suddenly change...that's what i don't get....
We never had a trouble finding things to do together and talk about as we have very similar interests, edu background...we both like movies, books, nature etc... As I might have mentioned previously... the problem starts when we are not together as we hardly communicate... we have absolutely wonderful time when together (at least i think so, and he seems to enjoy it as much as i do....)
I wouldn't have a trouble not keeping in touch if i was sure about what's on his heart...i am very independent person with my own interests, friends and stuff to do, the problem is only that i am not sure how to get to him and make things clear. As a gemini, i prefer to make things clear, even if it means getting hurt and as far as I know Capricorns are pretty straightforward too, I just don't understand why are we still running in circles as we are old and mature enough not to be playing games...click to expand
I have the same prblem. We work totally opposite schedules and don't see each other much til my days off of Monday / Tuesday. He often accuses me of texting too much but its literally all we have most times. He considers himself an enigma and says often "I don't have to understand my wife, i just have t
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