Help me understand my Capricorn ex

Im a Libra that recently went through a breakup following a 6.5 relationship with a Capricorn. For the most part things have been good but the last month and a half were rough bc he hadnt made it official and that was weighing on me. I was frustrated bc it felt like there was no progress. I told im I loved him and Ive opened up and given alot of myself but it wasnt recipricated. I could feel him holding back as he didnt show much emotions or shared much about his past. This caused friction and caused me to doubt myself and the relationship. I tried my best to be patient and understanding but he just moved extremely slow

Mid October he ended things. He's ready to have kids within the next 2 years and he doesnt think Im ready for that. He said he wanted to remain friends and he did not love me. Things seemed pretty final and I was ready to move on since I wasnt happy towards the end. There was no communication for a week other than to arrange a meeting to bring me stuff I left at his place, hang out and have dinner. I had plans to bring to his attention several things he did that upset me, made me feel insecure and explain the way I was feeling towards the end. I did that and he called me out on my inability to communicate this with him earlier and some of my faults. He ended up admitting he cared about me and missed me. What? I thought when a Cap ends a relationship, they are done with you and dont look back. This guy was now showing a completely new side with me. I shared something deep from my past and ended up crying and the big shocker is that he cried along with me. This guy has NEVER shown this side to me. He wiped the tears from my face, embraced me, told me I was beautiful and said he trusts me. He has had major trust issues bc of people that have disappointed him in his past which is why he's stayed guarded so for him to say that carried alot of weight. I felt that he didnt fully trust me so for him to say that in the moment felt very significant. Im glad we shared that moment bc we bonded and I felt closer to him than I had in the 7 months we've known each other. It was getting late and he had to drive home, but we shared a long hug and kissed several times. I told him I loved him while he held me. Before the night was done, he asked me out on Halloween, which I accepted.

The following day he thanked me for opening up and trusting him. I apologized for not being able to better communicate with him and thanked him for being there for me. We've since been back to texting every day like we had been when we were dating.

Prior to all of this, he was very detached from his emotions, never really shared how he felt about me, I could feel he didnt really trust me and he initiated the end of the relationship. His actions do not compute with that. What does this mean bc I am very confused. Is he having second thoughts? Or were we both just caught up in an emotional moment? Im not going into our "date" with any expectations as to not set myself up for disappointment

Posted by ellesbelles
Okay....I see....6.5 months.

You are walking straight into a fwb situation...me thinks.

He made it clear you were not what he was looking for....at least he thinks he did.

If you accept no commitment from this point forward.....you know the deal.....at least he thinks you do.

In my experience with caps....six months is usually when the trial period ends and they decide whether you are long term material or not.

If you do not want to be a temporary fix for him until he finds a new person to 'test run'....you have to be very clear about where you stand.

If you dont....expect a lot of mindfuckery in the future.

thanks. After opening up to him, he knows exactly where I stand. I wont settle for less than a commitment if he wants me back. We went out for dinner and a movie on Tuesday and it was great. I didnt expect a serious conversation about us bc he knew I had to get up super early for a long day but without verbalizing it, things kind of feel different. Back to long texting and he was a bit flirtatious with it yesterday. I wasnt happy the last month of our relationship but I feel more at peace and happy with him now that we arent together, if that makes any sense. I think putting everything out on the table instead of holding it in was a godsend. It feels like we are rekindling something and Im fine with taking it slow as it gives me a chance to work on myself. Whether we get back together or not, yesterday made me realize that Im fine with being his friend as well as he is really a good person. Thanks for the reply though!