How to care for a cap woman

Hey guys,

Just wanted to get some info from the caps around dxpnet on how you would want to be cared for. As in, I'm currently involved with a Capricorn lady, we've texted and gotten physical together but neither of us has put a label on whatever this is.

Currently she's going through a period of examinations for her work and naturally she has become very busy and stressed out, which means our communication has been very low recently. I can sense she's stressed but I'm not sure how to just be there for her. I feel like if I message her she might think I'm smothering her, where as if I don't say anything I feel weird because I want to continue this. She told me that normally she doesn't even text other people during this period, and she's been texting me so that's good sign. As a gem I'm always about communication, and I pick up on the little things, such as difference in language/lack of emojis/time between meesages etc., so yeah I'm kinda confused.

I'm not sure where to toe on the line. My normal feeling is to message her and be there but I don't want to come across as smothering her. How would you cappy girls react in that situation, or how have others been in this situation with your cappy girls 🙂

@stillstillwater 😋 help this n!!gga out 😅

haha thanks @yodi

Posted by laclastlyon
haha thanks @yodi

Don't thank me yet 😅 she's savage..

cheers @valleyofNeptune

That's what I'm talking about. I'm definitely doing the less is more, because I understand that she's stressed and busy. And also aware Capricorns are business orientated. I'm just cautious as to whether she'd push me aside for this, and how I can be there but not there at the same time haha

Posted by Yodi
@stillstillwater 😋 help this n!!gga out 😅

lol alright let me see this over here...

So any stressful situation for a Cap is like the worse time to be romantic or try to spend time with them. It's like them against the world and they really need to handle it BUT you don't want to come off like you abandoned her just because she's going through a tough time.

I think best route is to be sweet and considerate without expecting her to text you or try to spend time with you. Like make this about her and that you're there to support her. For example sending her something funny like "don't want to distract you but just wanted to give a minute break with this funny _____. have a good day!"

You know like being there but without asking for her to reciprocate during this stressful time. The fact that she is keeping touch when she normally wouldn't is definitely a great sign. So however you're treating her keep it up 🙂

I know Gems value communication but it's just that fine line of being there for someone vs asking them for their time when they're stressed out.

thanks @stillstillwater

Honestly my plan was to send her a small text like I know you're studying hard but I'm here if you wanna chat etc., and yeah leaving it after that. But I didn't want to come across as smothering even just for a text cause I know how focused caps get when they need to finish something.

Good to know that's what you think aswell 🙂

Posted by laclastlyon
thanks @stillstillwater

Honestly my plan was to send her a small text like I know you're studying hard but I'm here if you wanna chat etc., and yeah leaving it after that. But I didn't want to come across as smothering even just for a text cause I know how focused caps get when they need to finish something.

Good to know that's what you think aswell

yeah that's great. She likes you for a reason. 🙂

@laclastlyon so how did you guys meet etc? What's the back story?

met through mutual friends, started talking and yeah eventually we met up a few times. But haven't seen her recently cause of her work placement exams lol

I want to keep the momentum going lol cause we've come a long way in a short period of time but I'm also about my business so I wanted to tread carefully.

Treat her like dirt

Posted by laclastlyon
thanks @stillstillwater

Honestly my plan was to send her a small text like I know you're studying hard but I'm here if you wanna chat etc., and yeah leaving it after that. But I didn't want to come across as smothering even just for a text cause I know how focused caps get when they need to finish something.

Good to know that's what you think aswell

Messages like "I'm here for you" etc. are way too mushy, giving off a clingy vibe, for a Cap 😄

Something light and funny, like stillstillwater's example would be great.

What are her placements?

yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn

Moon - Libra

Mercury - Capricorn

Venus - Pisces

Mars - Cancer

Jupiter - Libra

Posted by laclastlyon
yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Capricorn
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Cancer
Jupiter - Libra

Ohh, she's probably shy and adorable *heart eyes*

If you really like her - pursue gently, otherwise she'll be turned off. 🙂

Don't worry - after exams she'll be way more chill 😄

Hey guys, update on this situation.

So things have been progressing well, she’s come and stayed with me a few times and we’ve been talking heaps.

I’m kinda keen to take things to the next step and ask her out however I’m not sure as to how serious she is and whether caps have a flirty streak. I know this might sound weird but I’ve noticed that when she sends me snaps, her snap score goes up by 2 meaning it’s getting sent to someone else. I know it’s very pessimistic but I’m not gonna put myself out there with these doubts. Could I be one of a few, or does she mean it when she says I’m the only one she’s talking to?

Also, I’ve heard caps before to be direct. Should I just tell her how I feel or ease into it?

Posted by laclastlyon
Hey guys, update on this situation.

So things have been progressing well, she’s come and stayed with me a few times and we’ve been talking heaps.

I’m kinda keen to take things to the next step and ask her out however I’m not sure as to how serious she is and whether caps have a flirty streak. I know this might sound weird but I’ve noticed that when she sends me snaps, her snap score goes up by 2 meaning it’s getting sent to someone else. I know it’s very pessimistic but I’m not gonna put myself out there with these doubts. Could I be one of a few, or does she mean it when she says I’m the only one she’s talking to?

Also, I’ve heard caps before to be direct. Should I just tell her how I feel or ease into it?

Ease in to it but make progress forward.

Also social media is such a pain in teh ass. You should ignore it because: 1) technology is not perfect 2) you don't know the situation..maybe she's sending a copy to herself..maybe she is sending it to her bff... who knows.

The relationship is too early to consider things like that. Just go with the flow and try to get to know her better and then look out for her actions.

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by Yodi
@stillstillwater 😋 help this n!!gga out 😅

lol alright let me see this over here...

So any stressful situation for a Cap is like the worse time to be romantic or try to spend time with them. It's like them against the world and they really need to handle it BUT you don't want to come off like you abandoned her just because she's going through a tough time.

I think best route is to be sweet and considerate without expecting her to text you or try to spend time with you. Like make this about her and that you're there to support her. For example sending her something funny like "don't want to distract you but just wanted to give a minute break with this funny _____. have a good day!"

You know like being there but without asking for her to reciprocate during this stressful time. The fact that she is keeping touch when she normally wouldn't is definitely a great sign. So however you're treating her keep it up

I know Gems value communication but it's just that fine line of being there for someone vs asking them for their time when they're stressed out.

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I agree with @stillstillwater, we Caps appreciate someone who thinks about us especially in our busiest time..

Same as you would care for a striper: throw money at her or slip it in her braw and panties. She'll take care of the rest (her needs and wants). No 1 $ bills tho or she will question your love. Same as Diddy, most Cap women find 1 $ bills quite confusing...

thanks @stillstillwater, I suppose It's a couple of things that got me thinking that way.

1. I'm a gem, so I'm used to being flighty and playing the field so in a weird way I sort of expect others to do the same. Not that I can say anything about it, but it's easier to recognise it when it's not happening to you. It's just so fishy that she is obviously sending the same snaps to someone else, everytime. But you may be right, might be her BFF or something else.

2. I've been hurt massively by a cancer before, and they 'supposedly' don't cheat or anything and she messed me up good haha so tying it into point 1, I'm always cautious.

Posted by laclastlyon
yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Capricorn
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Cancer
Jupiter - Libra

Flowers

Send her flowers

Posted by laclastlyon
thanks @stillstillwater, I suppose It's a couple of things that got me thinking that way.

1. I'm a gem, so I'm used to being flighty and playing the field so in a weird way I sort of expect others to do the same. Not that I can say anything about it, but it's easier to recognise it when it's not happening to you. It's just so fishy that she is obviously sending the same snaps to someone else, everytime. But you may be right, might be her BFF or something else.

2. I've been hurt massively by a cancer before, and they 'supposedly' don't cheat or anything and she messed me up good haha so tying it into point 1, I'm always cautious.

Nothing wrong with being cautious. We all come with baggage of some sort.

@stillstillwater

very true, it's interesting how that works.

Oddly enough, she's being like super friendly lately - telling me she misses me, lots of emojis, wanting to speak on the phone. Maybe it worked. I like to think she knows I was there for her but not THERE type of thing.

Suppose I'm just always be cautious haha cause now I'm like dammm you're being really friendly, whats up?

Posted by laclastlyon

@stillstillwater

very true, it's interesting how that works.

Oddly enough, she's being like super friendly lately - telling me she misses me, lots of emojis, wanting to speak on the phone. Maybe it worked. I like to think she knows I was there for her but not THERE type of thing.

Suppose I'm just always be cautious haha cause now I'm like dammm you're being really friendly, whats up?

Youre overthinking it! Caps have two modes 1) we're busy and focused on us 2) We want to spend time with you.

When you catch them at 2 you should try to optimize that as much as possible because when they go back to mode 1, that built up history rapport will help make them be more open and giving to you.

Why are you being cautious? You knew she was stressed and all and that she wouldn't be giving you the same type of attention. Your primary goal was to be there for her which you succeeded since she's being nice to you know.

Damn, OP. enjoy it! 🙂 I'm a Cap with a Libra moon too so I wouldn't be flirty/sweet with someone I wasn't interested in especially knowing they liked me. Toying with people is a big no no. She likes you.

Posted by neves

Same as you would care for a striper: throw money at her or slip it in her braw and panties. She'll take care of the rest (her needs and wants). No 1 $ bills tho or she will question your love. Same as Diddy, most Cap women find 1 $ bills quite confusing...

Why is this so accurate? We're pretty self sufficient but some sweet words and cute hugs don't hurt here and there you know lmao

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Posted by laclastlyon

yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn

Moon - Libra

Mercury - Capricorn

Venus - Pisces

Mars - Cancer

Jupiter - Libra

Flowers

Send her flowers

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Especially with a note like , "Congrats on finishing exams" (whatever the stress was..)

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Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by laclastlyon

yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn

Moon - Libra

Mercury - Capricorn

Venus - Pisces

Mars - Cancer

Jupiter - Libra

Flowers

Send her flowers

Especially with a note like , "Congrats on finishing exams" (whatever the stress was..)

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@neves may be on a $ 100 bill or something 😛

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Posted by laclastlyon

yeah, I just sent a text saying if you wanna chat msg me and good luck. It might break my heart if she sends back just 'thanks'.... but whatever I guess. Starting to think cause of the exams she isn't gonna put in the effort.

Sun - Capricorn

Moon - Libra

Mercury - Capricorn

Venus - Pisces

Mars - Cancer

Jupiter - Libra

Flowers

Send her flowers

Especially with a note like , "Congrats on finishing exams" (whatever the stress was..)

@neves may be on a $ 100 bill or something 😛

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I don't get it. 🤨