How to deal with this Capricorn man — Help

I am a Scorpion gal dating a Capricorn man past 1.5 yrs. I am so confused about whether he loves and wants to spend his life with me or not. We met through online dating site. Within 1 month he ws like he wanted to marry me as I for him he said I ws a combo of beauty and brains and he ws so into m. But things were going so fast so I needed time to know him. We discussed and he ws normal and agreed. Later suddenly after 1 week he just stopped talking n withdrew himself. On asking constantly he said he ws not good in relations and we shud b just frendz. I didn't wanted to loose him as we been grt frendz. So agreed to b frendz but he behaved as nothing happened and soon we wre again into it. He said he ws so attracted to me that he cannot think of staying away. Meanwhile I started to help him in his business as well. We spent almost 4-5 hrs daily. He is into sports n we spent good time walking n jogging together and all sports together. Things were fine den after an yr I asked him where we wre heading n to my shock he said we r jus frendz n he can't marry anyone as he gt ambitions to fulfil. I ws angry n he then again disappeared. After a week he called me again n said he doesn't wants to loose a frend like me and misses me n I shud not behave cold with him. I ws adamant this tym as no one kisses n cares n all with frendz. We hd argument n didn't talked fr a month. Again he msgd me n said wanted to c me I agreed as I ws also missing him. But again he is like he wants to b jus frendz. I m so damn confused about him n his behaviour. Plz help

How old are you guys? Sounds like he's immature, like a 16 year old. Oh so afraid of commitment haha

You're just friends. He's told you this over and over.

Nah... I m 29 n he is 31 but dunno y he is so afraid of commitment... 😢
I can't even say dat he is dating another gal cuz he spends lyk everyday 3-4 hrs with me discussing business n our regular workout sessions... But after the latest fight he has withdrawn himself from me....

N All he has to say is that I don't value the time he spends on me dat too over msg... Never says anything to me on face... why he invests dat much tym to make m better person according to him... M really confused how he behaves...

Yeah truecap he says dat to me over n over whenever I ask about future things as he says he doesn't want to b a liability on me... Though once he said I was vry special for him n cannot think of taking his life decisions without me...
I don't understand though we both r well settled in our careers ... But gives me mixed signals... His behaviour is totally opposite... He takes care of my health a lot n everything related to me.. Heck of confusion I hv dealing with him

Well maybe you accept you're friends, and enjoy the friendship. Maybe after 10 or 20 years he'll reveal his feelings for you. Caps are notorious for hiding their feelings, to a ridiculous extent. A female friend of mine used to date a Capricorn, everybody saw them kiss, but he kept denying it. They were like dude we all saw you, we all had our doubts, but now we know for sure, the jig is up! But he would still deny it 😆 😆

So u mean I should move on n dump him ? Well one cannot have that much patience seriously... AtleAst I don't have being a Scorpio I want things crystal clear rather jus imagining... The problem is I love him damn too much ' n he knows this...

According to him, you ARE FRIENDS, no? Therefore you can't dump him. But, you can always find someone else. Scorpios are passionate as helI, and Capricorns even more, but they won't show it. Scorpio needs a little more demonstration. Spend more time in public without him and find your match 🙂

Yeah but whenever we hav fyt he says it's a breakup and we don't have any relationship... but after 2-3 days he comes back n behaves nothing happened ... Only after this recent fyt he is behaving damn weirdo... M not able to understand actually shud Giv in tym n wait as we hv excellent chemistry or shud jus let go off him as he won't change

It's a complex situaiton, cause Scorps LOVE passionate peple, and Caps are truly passionate, but they hide it. It will just take a ver long time to get what you want. Maybe find another capricorn but with more fast-acting things in his chart like Scorpio, Libra, Aries, Gemini, Leo...

Yeah it seems so I've been dealing with him vry patiently n he is tryin to drive me crazy ... Neither he goes nor seems to stay wid dat behaviour... Idiot God knows what he wants ... I've lost my senses in d process darn... '
Ahh only if someone cud gimme clr idea as to whether he is serious or jus tym passing

Really, try someone else. Also, sometimes that will spark some jealousy and he'll get moving, admit his feelings to you and all. But in any case, try finding someone else. You deserve better. He's clearly wasting your time. He probably loves you but he's so slow to admit it, it's just stupid.

Thank you so much for taking so much time for replying and helping me out. He says he loves me a lot and trusts me blindly and honestly I hv told him many times not to trust anyone that blindly and that includes me as well. Whenever he takes decisions without asking me it has happened so far that he later regrets as he goes wrong and suffers loss.
He shares everything. Even wanted to take house on my name but when I asked as to y on my name he didn't respond just changed the topic. But when I asked him that does he sees a future with me he strongly stated no. We can be just frendz . So c He makes me all confused.
can you give some input as to how to make him realise my importance as I feel he has taken me for granted or may be I m wrong in interpreting his feelings. It's a mess you c.

Yeah I am like that either I want or I don't but somehow he happens to change everything. He does things for me I don't deny that but only what he feels comfortable in.
But honestly reading now i m realising I made him do all that to me cuz I was being freely available for him n somewhere lost my worth in d process to keep him happy.
Thanks u making some things clr which somehow I didn't thought earlier. I wished I could have realised a little more earlier instead of wasting my time n love on him... Yeah indeed a lot of things wre missing from his part... I m not saying I was always right but my worth ws definitely more than what he weighed.

No I m not blaming just that I was so confused that what to do. Should walk away or put in effort as we all know every relationship needs input. Moreover he is behaving weird too like usually after argument he talks but this time he is aloof for dat long which makes me question further as was I the only one who wanted to be with him & I being in his life is of no importance. And this time is it really over or again he is behaving stupid like he does always. You c lot of questions but no one to share my feelings with.

Whenever I ask him abt relationship he will show a similar type of behaviour. Will stop talking saying that I can never be satisfied in what I get. I m not praising myself but even if I talk to a stranger for a while they would say that I m a vry sweet n Caring person but he behaves sometimes vry badly for reasons unexplained. He would say we should breakup for no apparent causes. I don't understand do I ask or say something that big. But after 2 days he calms down apologise n starts talking like nothing happened. If you don't ask him anything about relationship then he is fine Infact vry loving and caring. Throw this question n der u can c him changing in wink of seconds. First I used to think maybe some bad past experience that he needs time to assure but now my patience give up. This time when I asked him he again repeated the behaviour. But I ws adamant on either u tell me the status of everything or I m ending it. He thought I ws jus behaving kiddish but when I didn't talked to him fr 3 days den he realised dats it's serious this time. He called to check whether I m over with this ques or not but I didn't give up as I ws fed up of lame excuses n guessing game. Whenever I ask him does he loves me he always say if u can't feel it den there's no point me telling you. I asked him same question so he jus hung up d phone n didn't talked for 4-5 days. Then he called me saying please don't behave cold with him as he can't take it n misses me. I again said dat I do miss him too but don't want to live with just frendz tag shud end it better. He didn't say anything then after 2 days called me saying dat he had met with an accident I ws worried n wanted to meet but he refused to meet saying he is not in state to met n when he wud be fine will c me. I tried but in vain he didn't tell whr he ws. I used to call him every day to know how he ws den again after 3 days he suddenly stopped taking my calls n replying to my msgs. In one final Msg he said he had thought about it n came up with conclusion that as frend I m always welcome but nothing personal. I replied does u get intimate with ur frendz. He got angry saying that I m blaming him n which he cannot take anymore. We didn't talked for 10 days. Then he msgd m dat he wanted to c m n now he is fine. I didn't go but after 1 week of persuading by him I finally went but I didn't got my answer and he is behaving cold again... I don't know what to do... Besides this we never hav fyts or argument...

You may say I start if I ask this question . Omit this question n he would treat u like a queen. But u can't spend ur whole life lyk this. I hope u understand my point...

Yeah u right on that I M indeed out of patience and he did say that he is frustrated. You are right on that too i always complain to him that he should b more expressive and he says to me I shud b patient and not in hurry always. I always want answers n he is like it's not easy to answer straight away. I want things cleared like if he wants me to wait I can but atleAst tell me that he is into me but he is like time will tell n those who want to stay will stay ...
Now I just want to know he is done with me really? How can I find it? Is it that easy to end relationship dat easily for Him? Dat too for no apparent reason... I thought he is jus a li'll more angry this tym though he always say he doesn't get angry but I disagree to that... I can invest tym n wait but only if he gives a green signal but he gives mixed signals n drives m crazy...

I suppose I have my chance again. He called up n wanted to c m. I didn't fight nor dig d graves n jus said yes. On meeting he was jus looking at m With tears in his eyes. I tried to make him laugh n den he ws quite ok in some time. Though I didn't knew myself how to deal with situation. But just wanted to see him happy. He said he didn't visited the cafe since our last meeting though he loves that cafe n v used to visit it everyday. I don't know what goes in his mind . Probably he is even more confused than me...

Thank you I will take care of what you saying as I really want this to work. Hopefully things may work in favour Š

Yes I will try to giv my best Š

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Posted by 711scorpio
Thank you I will take care of what you saying as I really want this to work. Hopefully things may work in favour Š

No problem and remember,work with him,not against him,he's your man,not your enemy. Best of luck!

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Hi I wished to acknowledge you. You know what we finally had heart to heart talk & he pointed same what you had said... And I cud convey him myself in better way... All thanks to you... He said something went wrong between us... So I asked is it my fault or something which I need to change n he replied it's no one's fault... Sometimes u jus need little break to set things n know what we want... He didn't pointed clearly but said I meet gals everyday cuz he deals with such a profession... N said further I jus have feelings for you only... I don't feel for any gal... Something's should jus go with flow... If a person wants to b in relation they would end up being so ... Sometimes a break sets things together.... he said that I understand him but jus I take li'll tym... I m li'll confused was all this he said Ws on positive note or not??
And also he said sometimes one person is not in good mood n on top of other person questions him so now they start fighting on a thing which was not there even...

He said he wanted a break to know things and now he is back. And behaving all normal again after just 2 meeting. Showed indifference and behaved like stranger in 2 meetings and now he is normal him. In fact he is giving more time and doing more things for me whenever he gets time. confused as in he is devoting more of his time on m which he has never done so far. I don't know what is going on his mind. He said let things go with flow cuz when u try to fix things n want that they shud go this way, it's den everything falls apart. Said that he doesn't feels for anyone like he does for me dats y even if I fyt n argue he still comes back. Then he said he wanted to sleep over with me if I'm ok. I know it's my decision but I just don't understand when he jus want to b frendz then y he got feelings. He is not jerk I must tell u. He is vry snobbish kind n hardly talks to people. Only a vry selected bunch. Is he jus time passing? Though once I had said to him out of anger and he didn't talk to m for weeks saying how cn I feel that way for him n he is really hurt. But u only tell if a person wants to spend like hrs daily with u. Share all his day's routine n without dat doesn't sleep even. Wants to get intimate with u n den say oh jus v r frendz. N doesn't wants to commit. Is it I m a fool dat not understanding?

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