yellowsaggitarius
@yellowsaggitarius
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Posted by Vulcansfireo my word i never saw it this way i was so busy thinking about my feelings i forgot hisPosted by yellowsaggitariusAs a Sagittarius myself I can't believe you can be this stupid. Sagittarius are about freedom. He accepted you as you are but you can't handle the fact that he is being himself. It shouldn't deter him from seeing his kid. You're only creating baby momma drama.Posted by magikarpagain double standards here
capricorn are the father of zodiac.so the main reason he still care about you is purely for the children. no lies no games.
if you say father it means somebody who is there no matter what guiding you
or just a father biologically
this cap chose to be himself instead of changing simple things to remain in his kids lives
he chose freedom over responsibility
so i disagree
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Posted by Vulcansfireso this story is turning to a completely different path which i never knew was there right infront of my eyesPosted by yellowsaggitariusAs a Sagittarius myself I can't believe you can be this stupid. Sagittarius are about freedom. He accepted you as you are but you can't handle the fact that he is being himself. It shouldn't deter him from seeing his kid. You're only creating baby momma drama.Posted by magikarpagain double standards here
capricorn are the father of zodiac.so the main reason he still care about you is purely for the children. no lies no games.
if you say father it means somebody who is there no matter what guiding you
or just a father biologically
this cap chose to be himself instead of changing simple things to remain in his kids lives
he chose freedom over responsibility
so i disagree
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Posted by Capri-sunyes your rightPosted by yellowsaggitarius
damn u typical cap
sorry u sound so like him its amazing
ive blocked him and chose to have the ball in my hand only because im afraid he will take advantage
his overseas if he was here he could come see them or pick them up for visits as he usually did
and take away my kids thats alll
seriously am not using the kids to get him
i know it looks like that but am not
another thingis when he use to be a here he use to say ill pick them upjusy for 2 days then he only brought them back after a week
like i like he keeps saying this and changes it later
as a sag i hate this
we can have peace just keep your word
dont play with me just to benefit yourself
lets be civilised adults
You know you can report that to authorities right? I'm just saying there's ways around everything you're saying.
You have to do what is best for yourself & your kids
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Posted by Vulcansfireu dont get it
Stop using the kid to poke holes in their daddy and gain leeway with him. More you deny his rights to his kids, the more likely he'll fight you just to see them. Last thing a kid wants to see is their mother or father fighting. Just because he has a bad attitude with you, doesn't mean the same for them. You can try to make peace with the dude for the kids alone. Their relationship with their father is more important then your relationship with your ex.
Posted by lnana04i dont know any other way to convince urll that its nothing personal
You are being really difficult Ms lady. Not really sure why, but you are. We've given you a ton of suggestions, even said reporting him if he tries to keep them longer, and you make up an excuse of having no energy to go to the authorities. Like wth.
I'm convinced it's all excuses. You seem to want to keep some kind of power over him, and yes...you are using your kids. This is a crazy situation for someone that got what they wanted. Divorce. Like what are you still bitter or upset about?
Posted by Capri-suni wont take the risk i will keep him blockedPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunyes your rightPosted by yellowsaggitarius
damn u typical cap
sorry u sound so like him its amazing
ive blocked him and chose to have the ball in my hand only because im afraid he will take advantage
his overseas if he was here he could come see them or pick them up for visits as he usually did
and take away my kids thats alll
seriously am not using the kids to get him
i know it looks like that but am not
another thingis when he use to be a here he use to say ill pick them upjusy for 2 days then he only brought them back after a week
like i like he keeps saying this and changes it later
as a sag i hate this
we can have peace just keep your word
dont play with me just to benefit yourself
lets be civilised adults
You know you can report that to authorities right? I'm just saying there's ways around everything you're saying.
You have to do what is best for yourself & your kids
if something goes wrong i can report him
but see he said they must visit for a month
what if he makes them stay for a year
like he said he will pick them up for 2 days then 2 days became a week
and i dont have energy to run to authorities and i dont have energy to stress and cry for my kids
u understand my side?
i also love them ill also miss them
i dont mind a month
i dont mind being understanding
but what guarantees that he will be?
will i really put my happiness aside for him?
just to be told no just wait ill keep the kids for a year —
how do i make things right without hurting anybody
From my understanding if you purchase a round trip airline ticket, your kids will need to be on their return flight the day of, otherwise call authorities and report him.
When he was here, after 2 days why didn't you drive to get your kids & pick them up? At what point do you take action?
All I'm saying is make a decision (which you already have) and stop complaining and making excuses.
If you don't want to take the risk of your child visiting his father, stop complaining about the father not being in their life simply because the 2 of you are no longer together.
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Posted by lnana04ok this is one way to compromise
Tell him that they can come for a month if he picks them up because you don't want them traveling alone. Let him know that's the only way.
Posted by Capri-suni didnt drive and pick them up because i didnt wana seem crazy it was just a weekPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunyes your rightPosted by yellowsaggitarius
damn u typical cap
sorry u sound so like him its amazing
ive blocked him and chose to have the ball in my hand only because im afraid he will take advantage
his overseas if he was here he could come see them or pick them up for visits as he usually did
and take away my kids thats alll
seriously am not using the kids to get him
i know it looks like that but am not
another thingis when he use to be a here he use to say ill pick them upjusy for 2 days then he only brought them back after a week
like i like he keeps saying this and changes it later
as a sag i hate this
we can have peace just keep your word
dont play with me just to benefit yourself
lets be civilised adults
You know you can report that to authorities right? I'm just saying there's ways around everything you're saying.
You have to do what is best for yourself & your kids
if something goes wrong i can report him
but see he said they must visit for a month
what if he makes them stay for a year
like he said he will pick them up for 2 days then 2 days became a week
and i dont have energy to run to authorities and i dont have energy to stress and cry for my kids
u understand my side?
i also love them ill also miss them
i dont mind a month
i dont mind being understanding
but what guarantees that he will be?
will i really put my happiness aside for him?
just to be told no just wait ill keep the kids for a year —
how do i make things right without hurting anybody
From my understanding if you purchase a round trip airline ticket, your kids will need to be on their return flight the day of, otherwise call authorities and report him.
When he was here, after 2 days why didn't you drive to get your kids & pick them up? At what point do you take action?
All I'm saying is make a decision (which you already have) and stop complaining and making excuses.
If you don't want to take the risk of your child visiting his father, stop complaining about the father not being in their life simply because the 2 of you are no longer together.
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Posted by yellowsaggitariusJust do it. I'm not sure what fear you are talking about. You will not be around him to have to stay away. Only your kids are leaving. You had your kids by this man, and married him. YOUR decisions. Don't have fear now. Let him be a parent.Posted by lnana04ok this is one way to compromise
Tell him that they can come for a month if he picks them up because you don't want them traveling alone. Let him know that's the only way.
i swear i wana do it
but later my fear hits in
like hell say im crazy they better off with him
this scary fear
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Posted by lnana04this wasnt my decisionPosted by yellowsaggitariusJust do it. I'm not sure what fear you are talking about. You will not be around him to have to stay away. Only your kids are leaving. You had your kids by this man, and married him. YOUR decisions. Don't have fear now. Let him be a parent.Posted by lnana04ok this is one way to compromise
Tell him that they can come for a month if he picks them up because you don't want them traveling alone. Let him know that's the only way.
i swear i wana do it
but later my fear hits in
like hell say im crazy they better off with him
this scary fear
that just wants me to stay away from him
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Posted by Capri-suni didPosted by yellowsaggitariusTell him this thenPosted by Vulcansfireu dont get it
Stop using the kid to poke holes in their daddy and gain leeway with him. More you deny his rights to his kids, the more likely he'll fight you just to see them. Last thing a kid wants to see is their mother or father fighting. Just because he has a bad attitude with you, doesn't mean the same for them. You can try to make peace with the dude for the kids alone. Their relationship with their father is more important then your relationship with your ex.
i said im not using the kids to get my way
im a sag and we are all about truth and honesty
am not lying or manipulating
at the end of the day they are my kids too
and i wana be apart of their lives too
anyside they go they will be without one parent
his side
my side
whats important for me now is my relationshio with my kids im keeping it
i feel he must make his own way to keep his relationship with the kids
he must get off his ass
and come all the way to their country and visit them
not ask me to send them away
if its not about me then dont involve me
dont ask me to do u favours
to get ur kids to u
be a man and do the things urself
dont take them away from me
simply call them visit them
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Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalif i dare to say thatPosted by yellowsaggitariusSounds bipolar.
he has double standards
so thats why i ask
one moment he tells me he cares
the next he curses me and says ill be alone forever
sometimes he texts me and asks why am i still awake i must go sleep
and sometimes he tells me i should take him with to where i travel
and later he shouts me and says i must go live my life
i feel confused
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Posted by yellowsaggitariusYou have to trust he will do the right thing. If not, make energy to contact the authorities. You can't have all this fear in you with solutions that you say you won't have any energy for.Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
how do i know things will go as i thought?
he wasnt mr perfect so i know why i cant trust his wordclick to expand

Posted by lnana04trusting is not an optionPosted by yellowsaggitariusYou have to trust he will do the right thing. If not, make energy to contact the authorities. You can't have all this fear in you with solutions that you say you won't have any energy for.Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
how do i know things will go as i thought?
he wasnt mr perfect so i know why i cant trust his word
Just get all the information you will need...every number, address, etc. Call your kids everyday. You can even let him know of your fears, but let him spend time with his kids. A month seems like a long-time but its not.
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Posted by Capri-sunPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by lnana04this wasnt my decisionPosted by yellowsaggitariusJust do it. I'm not sure what fear you are talking about. You will not be around him to have to stay away. Only your kids are leaving. You had your kids by this man, and married him. YOUR decisions. Don't have fear now. Let him be a parent.Posted by lnana04ok this is one way to compromise
Tell him that they can come for a month if he picks them up because you don't want them traveling alone. Let him know that's the only way.
i swear i wana do it
but later my fear hits in
like hell say im crazy they better off with him
this scary fear
that just wants me to stay away from him
to send my kids overseas oneday
to be apart from them
i didnt ask for a cold man
he could have just been honest about how cold he would soon be
instead of faking being sweet
and as soon as i got pregnant he suddenly becomes cold.
this wasnt my choices.
my choice if ever there be a divorce my kids stay with me thats me
Did he want a kid?
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Posted by Capri-suni told u mr cap had double standards
Caps are bipolar. Surprised you didn't recognize that before getting married and pregnant.
Posted by VulcansfireYeah, she's still hurt.
You keep changing situation. At this point I think all this is BS.
Posted by Capri-sunafter marriage i wouldnt know if he wantedPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by lnana04this wasnt my decisionPosted by yellowsaggitariusJust do it. I'm not sure what fear you are talking about. You will not be around him to have to stay away. Only your kids are leaving. You had your kids by this man, and married him. YOUR decisions. Don't have fear now. Let him be a parent.Posted by lnana04ok this is one way to compromise
Tell him that they can come for a month if he picks them up because you don't want them traveling alone. Let him know that's the only way.
i swear i wana do it
but later my fear hits in
like hell say im crazy they better off with him
this scary fear
that just wants me to stay away from him
to send my kids overseas oneday
to be apart from them
i didnt ask for a cold man
he could have just been honest about how cold he would soon be
instead of faking being sweet
and as soon as i got pregnant he suddenly becomes cold.
this wasnt my choices.
my choice if ever there be a divorce my kids stay with me thats me
Did he want a kid?
how would i know
we were busy i said i might get pregnant
he no listen he did the deed
some months later am pregnant
mr cap dont wana talk to me
im apparently different to him
so he decides to be cold and distant
dont know what he wanted
what he wants
what he will want
Those are usually questions discussed during the dating period smh
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Posted by Vulcansfirei was to the point
You keep changing situation. At this point I think all this is BS.
Posted by Capri-sunok i feel now i done the right thing by blocking him
This is why it is best to have court ordered visitation rights.
If he really wanted to keep your kid he would've took your butt to court and fought for custody of them. Same way you could've took him to court and fought for custody and a visitation schedule if you really had all this fear you speak of.
It wasn't your decision to send your kida overseas? Excuse me, once you say you want a divorce you no longer have any say so in where a grown man chooses to live...you wanted a divorce, everything happening afterwards is a byproduct of the divorce...get over it.
You have your kids all year, what is a month?
I understand you wanting him to come to your country to visit them. Everything else is irrelevant and totally off topic from your originally post, so idk why you didn't just lead with "my ex husband lives in a different country and wants to see the kids, any suggestions"
As far as did you do the right thing? None of us can tell you that. If you feel you did the right thing then that is all that matters.

Posted by Capri-suntheres no new chic
So the real issue is you don't want your kid around the new chick & her kids
Posted by Aquistormeasy to say stuff
You should work something out with him. Like let him have the kids over the summer and then returned before school starts. Kids will have a full summer, you'd get a break and he spends time with the kids. It's a triple win in my book.

Posted by yellowsaggitariusBy your paranoid logic I am surprised your Aqua hasn't hit the hills.Posted by Aquistormeasy to say stuff
You should work something out with him. Like let him have the kids over the summer and then returned before school starts. Kids will have a full summer, you'd get a break and he spends time with the kids. It's a triple win in my book.
u dont know the cap i lived with
when he wants his way he wants it even if he has to lie to benefit
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Posted by Capri-sunim the chic in the far away countryPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-suntheres no new chic
So the real issue is you don't want your kid around the new chick & her kids
his single after 4 freaking years troubling me
about his kids
but lemme not play innocent
i wouldnt want a situation where my kid faaar away by a chic i never even met or a country i never even visited
So why are you posting about him choosing to get a chick pregnant in a far away country?
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Posted by Capri-sunyes he is not originally from where me and the kids are atPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by lnana04trusting is not an optionPosted by yellowsaggitariusYou have to trust he will do the right thing. If not, make energy to contact the authorities. You can't have all this fear in you with solutions that you say you won't have any energy for.Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
how do i know things will go as i thought?
he wasnt mr perfect so i know why i cant trust his word
Just get all the information you will need...every number, address, etc. Call your kids everyday. You can even let him know of your fears, but let him spend time with his kids. A month seems like a long-time but its not.
been there done that
with him
i will keep him blocked
ill invite him to the kids weddings oneday
i just hope he can move on with his life and stop blaming me
or using me to see his kids
he made a choice to make kids with a chic in a country far away
he made the final choice on divorce
he knew oneday he would have to leave
if he was so smart as he claimed why did he marry and make a chic pregnant thats so far away
something is contradicting here
Are you referring to yourself? Is he originally not from where you currently live?
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Posted by Aquistormmy aqua said i got issuesPosted by yellowsaggitariusBy your paranoid logic I am surprised your Aqua hasn't hit the hills.Posted by Aquistormeasy to say stuff
You should work something out with him. Like let him have the kids over the summer and then returned before school starts. Kids will have a full summer, you'd get a break and he spends time with the kids. It's a triple win in my book.
u dont know the cap i lived with
when he wants his way he wants it even if he has to lie to benefit
would be cool having a sane ex
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Posted by Capri-sun4 years agoPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunyes he is not originally from where me and the kids are atPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by lnana04trusting is not an optionPosted by yellowsaggitariusYou have to trust he will do the right thing. If not, make energy to contact the authorities. You can't have all this fear in you with solutions that you say you won't have any energy for.Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
how do i know things will go as i thought?
he wasnt mr perfect so i know why i cant trust his word
Just get all the information you will need...every number, address, etc. Call your kids everyday. You can even let him know of your fears, but let him spend time with his kids. A month seems like a long-time but its not.
been there done that
with him
i will keep him blocked
ill invite him to the kids weddings oneday
i just hope he can move on with his life and stop blaming me
or using me to see his kids
he made a choice to make kids with a chic in a country far away
he made the final choice on divorce
he knew oneday he would have to leave
if he was so smart as he claimed why did he marry and make a chic pregnant thats so far away
something is contradicting here
Are you referring to yourself? Is he originally not from where you currently live?
me and the kids are from here thou
he was only here on business
he met me gave me the looks
banged all his desires out on me
and bang i got pregnant and bang he got cold
& at what point in this story was there a marriage?
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Posted by AquistormGive it some time and she'd be at the Aqua doorstep saying that he disappeared.Posted by yellowsaggitariusBy your paranoid logic I am surprised your Aqua hasn't hit the hills.Posted by Aquistormeasy to say stuff
You should work something out with him. Like let him have the kids over the summer and then returned before school starts. Kids will have a full summer, you'd get a break and he spends time with the kids. It's a triple win in my book.
u dont know the cap i lived with
when he wants his way he wants it even if he has to lie to benefit
would be cool having a sane ex
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Posted by Capri-suni met him in my countryPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sun4 years agoPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunyes he is not originally from where me and the kids are atPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by lnana04trusting is not an optionPosted by yellowsaggitariusYou have to trust he will do the right thing. If not, make energy to contact the authorities. You can't have all this fear in you with solutions that you say you won't have any energy for.Posted by lnana04where is my guarantee?
They still will be staying with you. A month is not forever.
how do i know things will go as i thought?
he wasnt mr perfect so i know why i cant trust his word
Just get all the information you will need...every number, address, etc. Call your kids everyday. You can even let him know of your fears, but let him spend time with his kids. A month seems like a long-time but its not.
been there done that
with him
i will keep him blocked
ill invite him to the kids weddings oneday
i just hope he can move on with his life and stop blaming me
or using me to see his kids
he made a choice to make kids with a chic in a country far away
he made the final choice on divorce
he knew oneday he would have to leave
if he was so smart as he claimed why did he marry and make a chic pregnant thats so far away
something is contradicting here
Are you referring to yourself? Is he originally not from where you currently live?
me and the kids are from here thou
he was only here on business
he met me gave me the looks
banged all his desires out on me
and bang i got pregnant and bang he got cold
& at what point in this story was there a marriage?
I meant before you got pregnant? After? Did you know him while he was in his home country beforehand or you met him while he was where you are on business?
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Posted by VulcansfireIm leaning on that she has ether a water moon or air moon. Most likely Scorp or cancer moon.
What is your moon sign? If you don't know.
Astrotheme.com or astro.com make up a chart and come back to us.


Posted by WynterIsnt that more fulfilling a legal requirement?
Spousal support? Child support?
Those are sure signs.
Posted by Vulcansfirethis is what i saw
What sign is it on?
Posted by Vulcansfirei dont know how to search for what u are asking am not so deep in astrology
What sign is it on?
Posted by Capri-suni had a plan when i started to feel he was going to leavePosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-sunim the chic in the far away countryPosted by yellowsaggitariusPosted by Capri-suntheres no new chic
So the real issue is you don't want your kid around the new chick & her kids
his single after 4 freaking years troubling me
about his kids
but lemme not play innocent
i wouldnt want a situation where my kid faaar away by a chic i never even met or a country i never even visited
So why are you posting about him choosing to get a chick pregnant in a far away country?
that got pregnant
So if you knew that....where did you see this going— Either you knew he'd have to leave at some point or he knew he'd have to leave at some point.
Last I checked it takes 2 to make a baby...& if for some reason things didn't work out one of you should've had some sort of plan in place....
You knew this fact going in that he was from a far away country...at no point did you factor that bit of information in to the decisions you were making?
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Posted by Capri-sunno here it is
So here's the thing, you say you got married 4 years ago. You also say he's been troubling you about your kids for 4 years.
This is why people are saying the story keeps changing...you guys weren't married long?
Then you say he worked in your country 3 years prior to you meeting him...3+4=7....yet he's been telling you what to do & wanting things his way for 8 years....
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damn u typical cap
sorry u sound so like him its amazing
ive blocked him and chose to have the ball in my hand only because im afraid he will take advantage
his overseas if he was here he could come see them or pick them up for visits as he usually did
and take away my kids thats alll
seriously am not using the kids to get him
i know it looks like that but am not
another thingis when he use to be a here he use to say ill pick them upjusy for 2 days then he only brought them back after a week
like i like he keeps saying this and changes it later
as a sag i hate this
we can have peace just keep your word
dont play with me just to benefit yourself
lets be civilised adults