Ignoring Capricorn woman

I got into a misunderstanding with this cap female I've been seeing for 7 months I asked for her number but she wouldn't give it out. So basically the past 7 months the only way to contact her is through her work and she sets all the rules so I finally got fed up and started going out with a different female and she found out about it no sex. After she found out she went crazy and confronted me about it and said I can't believe you did that I said we're not official and you wouldn't give your number so I could see and date anyone. So now we don't talk and every time I see her at work I just ignore her like she doesn't exist because I feel like it's all just games. What should I do next since I really like this girl but she leaves me with no choice need advise thanks.

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Posted by Scorpio86M
I got into a misunderstanding with this cap female I've been seeing for 7 months I asked for her number but she wouldn't give it out. So basically the past 7 months the only way to contact her is through her work and she sets all the rules so I finally got fed up and started going out with a different female and she found out about it no sex. After she found out she went crazy and confronted me about it and said I can't believe you did that I said we're not official and you wouldn't give your number so I could see and date anyone. So now we don't talk and every time I see her at work I just ignore her like she doesn't exist because I feel like it's all just games. What should I do next since I really like this girl but she leaves me with no choice need advise thanks.

Apologize and make it official and she should be willing to give you her number in exchange if she wants this to go anywhere.

When dealing with me, I like a person to show interest in only me, otherwise I don't take them seriously.

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I did that for 7 months all the attention on her but she just kept on refusing to give that number so I'm thinking it's All games but I'll take the advise and apologize if she doesn't give that number I will call it quits won't even say a word.

Posted by tiziani
Is she married?

No she's not married unless she's dating another person that I don't know about then that's the only reason I could think of as to why she wouldn't give her number out.

Move on. 7 months is a long time to go without a simple number, unless she likes you but really don't trust you. It could be all fun and games for her, idk, but I think you are wasting time trying to figure out what it is.

Posted by dolluxe
If you guys have been seeing each other for 7 months why wouldn't she give you her number? She's hiding something. I could be wrong. But that's just weird smh.

I feel like she really is hiding something cause I've been effin generous tolerating that BS excuse for 7 months.

You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

Posted by Capri-sun
What do you know about her so far? Is she recently out of a relationship? Is she interested in dating or a relationship at this time?

She's been out of a relationship for 1.5 years but that's prolly BS as well cause there really is no excuse for not giving out a effin phone number for that long. She came from a broken family and she's the bread winner but still I don't see a reason for not giving it out it's not like I'm asking her to marry me it's just a contact number. The way she reacted after finding out I went out was out of control like she effin owns me and I shouldn't be Seeing other girls possessive ass fk.

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If you guys have been seeing each other for 7 months why wouldn't she give you her number? She's hiding something. I could be wrong. But that's just weird smh.

I feel like she really is hiding something cause I've been effin generous tolerating that BS excuse for 7 months.

OK, what do you mean by "seeing" each other for 7 months? What have you both done in that time beyond talking?

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We been having sex.

Posted by pinkbird03
You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

I'm very easy to deal with really just don't give me BS cause I always try to keep it real but this one is just being difficult and running out of patience.

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If you guys have been seeing each other for 7 months why wouldn't she give you her number? She's hiding something. I could be wrong. But that's just weird smh.

I feel like she really is hiding something cause I've been effin generous tolerating that BS excuse for 7 months.

OK, what do you mean by "seeing" each other for 7 months? What have you both done in that time beyond talking?

We been having sex.

How do you not have her number if you've been having sex?

So you meet her at her job, and you 2 hang out from there?

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We used to work together.

Maybe she doesn't have a phone...?

You've been having sex with her for the last 7months give or take.

Where is this sex happening? Solely at your place?

Posted by Capri-sun
What did she specifically say when you ask for her number?

I'm not ready to give it out I smell BS and that was the 2nd time I asked for it in 7 months so it's not like I'm effin hounding her for it for 7 months.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Maybe she doesn't have a phone...?

She has a phone I've seen it that's why I'm pissed.

Posted by LadyNeptune
You've been having sex with her for the last 7months give or take.

Where is this sex happening? Solely at your place?

Mines not hers.

Posted by Capri-sun
Only thing I can really think of is that she doesn't like talking on the phone and therefore it would be pointless for you to have her phone number. She enjoys seeing you in person.

Even that is a really big stretch so idk.

I would say she isn't interested, but if that was the case then she wouldn't have reacted the way she did after finding out you were seeing other people.

She confusing the eff outta me seriously and it's pretty sad cause I was really taking her seriously cause I don't like wasting time.

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

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What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

As far as people not knowing that we are into them

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Yes but doesn't share responsibility mean more than one person. How is it his fault for not knowing?

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

Lol sorry I switched from "we" to "them". I mean as a Capricorn, I know that I'm pretty bad at communicating affection. I have also been on the giving end of "wtf does this guy even like me" towards a Cap male. Lol I still am. So yeah not the best at communicating affection

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Ok so if you know that you are bad at communicating affection, do you try harder to show it or do anything to work on this weakness?

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Posted by LadyNeptune
You've been having sex with her for the last 7months give or take.

Where is this sex happening? Solely at your place?

Mines not hers.

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Yeah this is all pointing to her already being in a relationship.

She doesn't give you her phone number because her SO goes through her phone. She doesn't invite you back to her place because it would be obvious she's living with her husband/boyfriend/lover.

Most alarming is she has lied to you and fronted like she's single.

There's no relationship if there's no trust.

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

As far as people not knowing that we are into them

Yes but doesn't share responsibility mean more than one person. How is it his fault for not knowing?

That's why shadowcat said we share responsibility or that. We don't communicate affection well, and people don't understand the way we communicate interest. So they start seeing other people, we react, and they don't understand why.

It's miscommunication and misunderstandings from both parties.

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Makes sense! It's probably a good idea to talk about dating other people before just doing it. My relationship has been more open and honest than ever. This guy isn't seeing anyone else and doesn't think he will anytime soon. When we first broke up, he talked about me finding someone else. But it's been good lately between us. Better than ever. It's kind of strange. I don't want to hurt him by going out with this sag I am talking to.

Posted by LadyNeptune
There's no relationship if there's no trust.

You hit the nail in the coffin.

OP, does she have social media? Google her. Find out information.

Well dang, that would be messed up if she was in a relationship but I've never known a Cap to lie about that, or withhold it...at least not a Cap female. I see no reason for it, but it does sound possible. Something is up.

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

As far as people not knowing that we are into them

Yes but doesn't share responsibility mean more than one person. How is it his fault for not knowing?

That's why shadowcat said we share responsibility or that. We don't communicate affection well, and people don't understand the way we communicate interest. So they start seeing other people, we react, and they don't understand why.

It's miscommunication and misunderstandings from both parties.

Makes sense! It's probably a good idea to talk about dating other people before just doing it. My relationship has been more open and honest than ever. This guy isn't seeing anyone else and doesn't think he will anytime soon. When we first broke up, he talked about me finding someone else. But it's been good lately between us. Better than ever. It's kind of strange. I don't want to hurt him by going out with this sag I am talking to.

Yeah with the last guy I expressed to him that I wasn't seeing anyone else, and I just asked that if he was seeing anyone that he be respectful enough to let me know if he got serious with anyone.

I didn't want to know that he was seeing other people because it would've hurt me. So I try not to ask questions that I really don't want to hear the answer to.

Good to hear things are going better for you.

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That was smart to say. It's funny because he didn't ask me if I was seeing anyone right now. I know I mentioned the sag more than a week after the breakup. I really don't think he wants to know. But we are in a better place as long as my emotions don't take over. Do you remember my first complaint about him? You helped me! It was that he was a terrible texter. Nope not anymore. Shockingly we've talked from morning to night 3 days in a row and talked 5 days in a row total this week. It's totally strange! Don't know if I should go on a date with the other guy.

You, Capri-sun are the best helper! I love your ability to logically think through problems. Thank you so much!!!

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You're not the first person this has happened to recently. Where a person likes a cap, but doesn't think the cap is that into them and so they begin to date someone new. Then the cap gets mad and you realize they did like you, but now everything is ruined. Gosh I'm scared to be in the same boat.

We share responsibility for that. Sometimes Caps aren't the best at communicating affection

What do you mean by share responsibility? Yes I agree with them not communicating affection well, but I think they like it when others do.

Lol sorry I switched from "we" to "them". I mean as a Capricorn, I know that I'm pretty bad at communicating affection. I have also been on the giving end of "wtf does this guy even like me" towards a Cap male. Lol I still am. So yeah not the best at communicating affection

Ok so if you know that you are bad at communicating affection, do you try harder to show it or do anything to work on this weakness?

Hahahahahahaha

In romantic relationships? I'm still in the first stages of trying. Before it was always a thing of bring too busy to really worry about that. I'm working up the courage to tell a Pisces guy that I like him. Trying to show my preference for him(people don't always feel special around me, it's hard to tell if I like them more than anyone else).But I realize that I will never stop being busy, so that's not an excuse. I like him, we lie to each other a lot(for entertainment)--although our interactions have been surprisingly lie free, it's fun so why not? So yeah first stages of trying.

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lol awe it's cute though. I hope it works out for you! Keep us updated!!

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That was smart to say. It's funny because he didn't ask me if I was seeing anyone right now. I know I mentioned the sag more than a week after the breakup. I really don't think he wants to know. But we are in a better place as long as my emotions don't take over. Do you remember my first complaint about him? You helped me! It was that he was a terrible texter. Nope not anymore. Shockingly we've talked from morning to night 3 days in a row and talked 5 days in a row total this week. It's totally strange! Don't know if I should go on a date with the other guy.

You, Capri-sun are the best helper! I love your ability to logically think through problems. Thank you so much!!!

You're welcome and thank you! Some days I think I went into the wrong field, like I would've did better studying psychology because I love learning about people and the mind and my gift/passion is helping people.

It's up to you on dating the sag. I see nothing wrong with it since you and the cap are only friends and nothing has become official. He probably doesn't want to know. It sounds like the cap is warming up to you more.

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I definitely think you would have been successful if that was your profession!

I think he is warming up a lot lately. I really thought it would be the opposite especially after I told him how I felt about him.

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What did she specifically say when you ask for her number?

I'm not ready to give it out I smell BS and that was the 2nd time I asked for it in 7 months so it's not like I'm effin hounding her for it for 7 months.

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fuck that. Call her on her bullshit and tell her that she is either in or out. She is bullshitting cause she thinks she has the time to do so. Let her know her time is up.

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What did she specifically say when you ask for her number?

I'm not ready to give it out I smell BS and that was the 2nd time I asked for it in 7 months so it's not like I'm effin hounding her for it for 7 months.

fuck that. Call her on her bullshit and tell her that she is either in or out. She is bullshitting cause she thinks she has the time to do so. Let her know her time is up.

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Yeah I'll put her on the spot if she still fucks it up I'll give a unexpected stinger forreal.