I'm about to go crazy from this Cap man!!

Last August I met a Cap man while on vacation in Florida (I live in IL). He's a lifeguard at one of the public beaches and he had just gotten out of a rocky 3-year relationship with a fellow Cap woman just a few weeks prior to meeting me. I wasn't looking for anyone while I was on vacation, but after a week of this Cappy treating me like a Princess (something I RARELY ever get from men), I quickly found myself falling for him. We met one morning as I was coming out of the water from swimming. I saw that my beach umbrella had blown away in the wind, and then I see this cute lifeguard walking towards me smiling and carrying my umbrella. He helped me re-plant it and began chatting me up. He asked if I would like to hang out with him later that night, and I agreed. That night we walked along the beach making small talk and then he took me out to dinner. He was a perfect gentleman. For the rest of that week, he followed me around like a puppy dog, spending every single day and evening with me, ALWAYS being a perfect gentleman. I was absolutely impressed by this!!! At the end of the week, he admitted to me that he had been watching me from the moment I first stepped onto the beach that day, and when he saw my umbrella blow away in the wind, he jumped at the chance to grab it and use it as an icebreaker to talk to me. On the day I left to return home, he looked so sad & depressed you would've thought his best friend had just died! I was proud of myself for maintaining my space during that week and never appearing clingy or chasing him, which was easy considering I was on vacation and had plenty to do to entertain myself. However, when I returned to my home state, things slowly got ugly. He kept in constant contact with me every single day for 3 months. Honestly, I was shocked that he would hang on so long to a girl he only knew for a week who lived 1,200 miles away. The problem is that I am VERY UNHAPPY where I live. One of the reasons I vacation in Florida is because I want to live there someday. I feel like I truly belong by the ocean instead of stuck in po-dunk town Midwest. It didn't take long for my depression and frustration at being in IL and being away from him to rear its ugly head. That's when I started getting clingy and becoming dependent on his constant contact for my happiness. It caused him to pull two week-long disappearing acts on me during those 3 months, but luckily he always came back around after a week of no contact..

During the month of October, I began to sense him slowly pulling away and losing interest in me. I knew that my unhappiness and clinginess was killing his attraction for me. He began making statements hinting that he just wanted us to be good friends, and I played it off as cool as I could so as not to scare him off. Then one day in mid-November we had an argument. Stupid me was texting him about wanting to go out with my girlfriends and find some hot guys to chat up. I knew that he and I were never a real couple due to our geographical distance, but I was just hoping to see if I could make him a little jealous. I figured if he showed any dislike for me going out to see other guys, then it would mean he still cared. It backfired. His response was —If getting some guys?? phone numbers is your goal, you will most definitely succeed because you are beautiful. But you saying this stuff to me all the time doesn't make me jealous if that's what you??re trying to do.?? So I immediately —saved face?? by playing a little dumb and replying, —No I'm not trying to make u jealous, because I already know you don't want me anymore or care about me anymore. I'm just sharing my excitement with u.?? His response to that was —See, it's not even like that at all??_u think too much about it. You of all people should know that things are never just either/or.?? We went back and forth for a few minutes and I could tell he was very agitated with me. He basically went on to say that he was not interested in me because we wouldn't be able to make each other happy. The very last thing he said to me was —I don't regret one second of anything & I appreciate every second I spent with u, but God??s honest truth we wouldn't be happy for very long. I'm sorry I wasted your time but I am never uninterested in what's next in life. Too much of my life has been stuck dealing with my past. I never meant to have causalities in my pursuit for happiness. You??re a dear friend I have only known for a moment and hope to know even further on.??

That was the very last thing he ever said to me, because I made a fatal mistake at that moment. In true Scorpio fashion, I completely lost it & spent the rest of the day sending him one text after another telling him how much I hated him & how much he hurt me. I hurled the most disgusting, hateful insults at him you could imagine. He never once said a word in response??_not even a —leave me alone?? or a —shut up??. NOTHING. I expected him to immediately delete me from his Facebook after that awful psychotic tirade??_but he never did. In fact, after I calmed down the next day, I sent him a text message apologizing for my behavior, telling him that I had spoken out of anger. He never said a word. A week or two later, I began leaving light, positive comments on his Facebook wall. He completely ignored them??_but he never deleted them. At this point, this was the longest he had ever ignored me & I was starting to get paranoid. I then began a mission to do whatever it took to break his ignoring me & force him to say something to me. I sent him numerous texts, voicemails, and emails asking him to please tell me if he never wanted to hear from me again and that I would promptly delete his number & his Facebook if that was his wish. I figured if he hated me, then he would gladly tell me to F—k off if offered the chance. He never said a word!!! So then I began telling him he should go ahead & delete me from his Facebook friends if he no longer wanted anything to do with me. He & his ex had deleted each other from Facebook upon breaking up, so I expected he would take my suggestion. Shockingly, he wouldn't delete me!!! At this point, his silence & inaction was baffling me. I had never in my life dealt with a man who would not tell me to lose his number & go away or delete me from everything if they no longer wanted anything to do with me. I then began doing little things to see if I could irritate him into deleting me from Facebook or finally telling me to get lost??_just to test him & see how much of this he could take. I began tagging him in status posts so that he would get flooded with notifications whenever someone commented on it. I assumed he would get annoyed with that & either untag himself or delete me. HE NEVER DID!!!

I began getting more aggressive in my demands for him to just be a man & tell me to disappear if he wanted nothing more to do with me. I told him his silence was confusing me & that I needed him to just be straight with me & tell me what he wanted so that I would know whether to walk away or wait this out. NO RESPONSE. Eventually I went into a 2nd psychotic rant & began hurling even worse insults at him just to see if it would piss him off enough to respond & insult me back. He must have the patience of a Saint because he just took the abuse & never said a word! Shockingly, he also hasn't blocked me on his cell phone like some men have. Soooo??_.I have a Cap man whose last words to me were that I was a dear friend to him who he hopes to know for a long time, yet he obviously wants nothing to do with me after the psychotic rage I flew into at him but for some reason refuses to delete me from his Facebook or tell me to leave him alone. WTF—? I honestly have never encountered a man before who would NOT tell me to go away or prevent me from contacting him if he disliked me strongly enough. I had a Cap man a year before this one who immediately told me to F—k off and blocked me from his cell phone & Facebook after going off on him just like I did with this Cap, so why the heck is this one being so extremely passive— Does he have no balls or what—

In conclusion, there has been a turn of events. My dream of relocating to Florida has come true. I??ve been accepted to Graduate School in the town next to his. I have shared this wonderful news with him via text & Facebook, but of course he has ignored it. I have also told him several times that now that I will be living close to him, I do not want there to be any discomfort or drama between us & that I would like for him to please let me know if I should make an effort to avoid him or if we could just be cool as friends. I??ve told him I do not want to have an enemy in my new home, especially him. I have apologized for my behavior & told him that I would like to keep him as a friend in my life if possible. As far as I can tell from his activity & new photos on Facebook, he is not involved with any other women, so I'm pretty sure he hasn't been ignoring me because he found someone else. Another bombshell—I will be returning to FL in 16 days to take care of school business. We WILL see each other because I plan to go back to the same beach we met at. At this point, I have stopped contacting him & I have decided not to acknowledge him when I see him. I have no idea what he's thinking or feeling right now, so I will let him decide whether to approach me or ignore me. His initial attraction to me was VERY STRONG, so I'm waiting to see if my physical sexiness will be strong enough to draw him towards me again. He knows that I am sorry for my behavior & that I am on to happier things in life now. He knows I don't want to have him as an enemy or a stranger. I guess we shall see what happens in 2 weeks, but the suspense is killing me!!! I just want some answers finally as to what happened to him these 3 months that he's been ignoring me.

His natal chart is:
Sun: Capricorn 19.39
Moon: Aries 11.51
Mercury: Capricorn 0.24
Venus: Sagittarius 11.38
Mars: Libra 29.47
Saturn: Scorpio 14.42
Uranus: Sagittarius 11.40
Neptune: Sagittarius 29.43
Pluto: Scorpio 1.57
Lilith: Pisces 3.20
Asc Nose: Gemini 15.27
My chart is:
Sun: Scorpio 12.23
Moon: Libra 7.23
Mercury: Scorpio 9.31R
Venus: Libra 6.17
Mars: Sagittarius 16.58
Jupiter: Libra 1.36
Saturn: Libra 5.15
Uranus: Scorpio 25.02
Neptune: Sagittarius 20.59
Pluto: Libra 22.32
Lilith: Libra 23.53
Asc Node: Leo 15.38

I would hire a bodyguard and buy a gun if I were him. Seriously....you are OBSESSED and probably have scared the piss out of him. His silence is SCREAMING at you but you refuse to hear it because its not in the form you wish. Please, dear girl....LET HIM GO. For YOUR own good. You have destroyed the trust and your continual behavior only validates it. Just cus you say sorry, doesnt mean anything. Repeating the same behavior shows you cannot control yourself.

Don't you think he would eventually figure out that his silence is only making this WORSE?? I've told him many times to just simply tell me flat out if he hates me so that I will know without a doubt and know to delete his number and Facebook. He has given me the Silent Treatment before when I upset him, but he came back. So I honestly don't know if this is a temporary silent treatment or not. He used to have no problem telling me to "be quiet" whenever I got on his nerves, so it would only make sense that he would tell me straight out to F--k Off if he is truly done with me forever. I have read so many other posts on this board about Caps who have gone M.I.A for several months only to reappear later and be fine. Seriously, you have to wonder why he refuses to delete me from his Facebook and continues to let me post on his wall in front of everyone if he hates my guts. NO other man I ever knew would allow that...that's why I'm so confused!! He had no problem telling his ex-girlfriend to drop dead and deleting everything he had of her...am I just too worthless to him for him to even bother blocking me from everything or telling me off??

All he had to do was just tell me "I can't stand you anymore for yelling at me, so delete my number and never speak to me again." And I would have honored his request, as much as it would've hurt. And he knows that. So why let this drag on for 3 months without setting me straight or preventing me from contacting him? That's just...well, cowardly! Is he a glutton for punishment or is he hurting as bad as I am? He once told me before that he is always direct with people and wouldn't avoid them if there was a problem. Well what does he call this?! I guess I'm just taking this so badly because I HATE to be ignored and I honestly wish he would just tell me to drop dead instead of being silent and keeping me on his Facebook and everything else.

No offense but this is one of the craziest/funniest thing ive read on here in a long time lol.

If you're doing all of that over being ignored he's probably too scared to see what would happen if he deleted you lol.

Yes I know I've been acting crazy lately. I don't deny it. I'm a Scorpio to the extreme...I can REALLY go off the deep end and hurt people if they hurt me. Unfortunately I have dealt with a lot of pain in my life, so this is what my defense mechanisms have come to. If someone hurts me, I'll hurt them back 10 fold.

—I don't regret one second of anything & I appreciate every second I spent with u, but God??s honest truth we wouldn't be happy for very long...You??re a dear friend I have only known for a moment and hope to know even further on.?? Capricorns always say exactly what they mean. He figured out very quickly that the two of you would never work as a couple and the actions you describe above prove his wisdom. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He does like you as a person; the evidence of that is in his lack of rebuttal. He is waiting for you to realize your mistake. You provided an ant hill apology to a Mt. Everest offense. Like BGP said, your apology wasn't enough, and with the behavior you followed that up with, there is nothing you can do to change his opinion of you now. You Scorps have the passionate response thing locked up, but your passion is blind. Stop hurling the venomous vomit his way for a bit and look at who is hurting here...in your attempt to hurt him, you are only hurting yourself.

StoicGoat, I agree with you. I cant apologize enough for the horrible way I have acted towards him. The only way I can prove it to him is to just stop trying to talk to him. I will be seeing him in 3 weeks, and I don't want to say a word to him until then. That would probably get his attention, because I haven't been able to go for more than 3 days without texting him. :-/

Hey if he feels uncomfortable with me being there, then that's his own damn fault. I explained to him that my wish to relocate had been granted, and I asked him several times to tell me if he would like for me to make an effort to avoid him down there from now on or if he would be cool about things. He never took the opportunity to give me a response or tell me "Yeah stay out of my way when you get down here." If he can't be a big boy and be man enough to articulate what he wants me to do about him, then frankly I have no sympathy or concern for him. Most women probably would not have the courtesy to ask a guy how they should handle an awkward situation like that, so he's lucky I even tried to work it out with him. "Classy guy" or not, it only takes 2 seconds to respond to a text with "Just stay clear of me down here" or "It's cool, don't worry about it." And keep in mind that this "scared" guy refuses to removee from his Facebook friend list. I've been talking about my upcoming trip and move to FL for weeks now, so trust me he knows all about it. If he hasn't said a word about it, then he must not be that worried or afraid about it. I even have a few of his friends on my Facebook and they aren't concerned about me coming down either...and they KNOW he and I aren't talking anymore. They haven't given me any answers as to what he's thinking or what his intentions are, however. Even a classy guy has limits, and I can't believe after 3 months of this he hasn't told me to "f--k off" or blocked me online or on his phone. Several of my male friends have said they would never let a girl continue trying to talk to them for that long if they hated her! So I'm starting to lose respect for him and think he just has no balls. Does he ever stand up for himself or does he let everyone walk all over him like this? Geez...

Nope, I'm going to do all of my normal activities while I am down there and enjoy myself like I nornally would. I'm not going to approach him; in fact I'm going to totally ignore his ass when I'm there. If he doesn't like it that I'm in the area, then once again that is Not. My. Problem. If he'a really too "scared" of me to stand up for himself and let me know that he doesn't want our paths to cross, then he's an extreme coward. I'm a 5'1" tall 106 lbs little woman...he is a 6'0" tall 200 lbs man with massive sized arms...what the Hell does he think a little girl like me is gonna do to him?? He could EASILY hurt me if he wanted to. A man that size cowering in fear of a little girl is a joke...especially since I have apologized for my outbursts and indicated to him that I don't want there to be any drama between us. He has scolded and cussed at me once or twice before when I upset him, so I doubt he is suddenly scared to death of me. One of his own friends is even setting me up with some surfing lessons at his beach...and his friend KNOWS we had a falling out! So either his friends are inconsiderate jerks who don't care that he's afraid of me, or there is something entirely different going on with him. Some people have said he could merely be playing mind games with me by ignoring me while refusing to tell me to go away or deleting me from his stuff. Yeah I know I've acted like a crazy bitch, but his behavior defies logical male behavior, and several other men have agreed that it's weird. If he hates me now, then maybe he'll hope for me to drown while I'm learning to surf at the beach. LOL

mermaid. Why not think about this guy. Hes just split up with someone and now is being attacked by some psycho stalker how do you think that feels.

And how do you think he feels that a girl who looked nice turned into a monster. I tell you how it makes him feel. It makes him feel worried that when he meets a woman who appears nice he cant trust that and it makes him afraid of women. It makes him want to not have anything to do with women and to hate women. You are making him hate women. And some other poor woman will be the victim of this hatred you put in him. He will lash out at women and it is your fault.

You should grow up seriously

Posted by michellemabelle
You should grow up seriously

Maybe it's HE who needs to GROW UP and learn that ignoring people is a childish way to deal with problems and doesn't work. ??He's 28 years old, not 10. That is NOT how grown adults deal with issues, Capricorn or not. I warned him from day one that I'm not the "angel" he kept referring to me as. I told him early on that I have a split personality that makes me capable of becoming the scariest psycho bitch anyone has ever seen. He didn't heed that warning. The fact alone that he insisted on pursuing someone who told him "I live in Illinois" just shows that he's an idiot who doesn't think. I was kind enough to alert him that I am moving to his area and asked him how he would prefer we handle things in order to save us both from any unexpected discomfort or drama. If he would have responded by telling me "Don't acknowledge me if you see me" or "Stay away from my beach for awhile", I would have obliged him. But instead he chooses to remain silent while keeping tabs on me through Facebook. My friends are right, he's probably ignoring me just to punish me again for blowing up at him and is probably getting an ego boost from ignoring me when I try to talk to him. No more!! I have some hot surfer guys to hang out with while I'm down there and I'm not going to give him the pleasure of rejecting me again by trying to approach him. I'm going to look smoking hot and IGNORE his ass right back. And when his friends and co-workers speak to me, I will be friendly back to them. If any drama arises, it will be because HE does or says something to start it.

lol @CapGal - they'd be headed off to Vegas and married in a weeks time!

Who is he?

@MP: What gives you any indication he's keeping tabs on you through FB? Yeah, I can see that topping his agenda on a daily basis *rolls eyes*.

Oh, and there are plenty of beaches in FL, and the fact that you INSIST on going to the beach he works is rather telling about your state of mind...

This is how I envision it:

Posted by lildol
lol @CapGal - they'd be headed off to Vegas and married in a weeks time!

Posted by MermaidPrincess
Who is he?

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And... she's hooked 🙂

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I would hire a bodyguard and buy a gun if I were him. Seriously....you are OBSESSED and probably have scared the piss out of him. His silence is SCREAMING at you but you refuse to hear it because its not in the form you wish. Please, dear girl....LET HIM GO. For YOUR own good. You have destroyed the trust and your continual behavior only validates it. Just cus you say sorry, doesnt mean anything. Repeating the same behavior shows you cannot control yourself.

yep.

now, ignoring him when and if you see him, while you are stalking the same beach - like there is no other beaches around just proves to him to scaddadle as far away as he can. he probably doesn't answer because there is nothing he can say that would be humane to nutty job you pulled on him. your anger is extreme and you may just appear dangerous to him. I know if you would do that to me, I would run like hell as fast away as I could.

sorry girlie, but you blew it with this man. he's not giving y9ou the reaction that you want. he keeps it cool while you toss and turn with anger and possessive obsession. he's not yours. let him be.

1. I'm not a Pisces, I'm a Scorpio.

2. He refused to delete me from his Facebook even when I suggested to him more than once that he could/should do so. What reason could he possibly have for wanting to keep me as a friend on Facebook if we are now enemies??

3. I'm honestly a stubborn brat. And because he hurt me, I really don't give a f--k if my presence makes him uncomfortable. Just like a Cap, I can hold nasty grudges too. Part of me even HOPES he will feel awkward around me as punishment for hurting me. Why should I care how he thinks or feels anymore?? F--k him!! And if he wants to get in my face and explode, let him bring it!! I'm not afraid of anyone, least of all him. I may be a little woman, but I'm one Hell of a fierce bitch!! A lifetime of abandonment and abuse will kinda turn you into one.

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Posted by michellemabelle
You should grow up seriously

I told him early on that I have a split personality that makes me capable of becoming the scariest psycho bitch anyone has ever seen. He didn't heed that warning.

Nothing like stating the obvious...

Posted by MermaidPrincess

Posted by michellemabelle
You should grow up seriously

He didn't heed that warning.

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So, your behavior is somehow his fault?

Great advice Satori!

He hurt me by pursuing me so hard, then telling me we would always be close friends, and then disappearing from the face of the earth. If he didn't think he could handle a long distance relationship, then he had no business pursuing me in the first place. He's no different than my own biological family and so many others who have suddenly abandoned me. I've dealt with it my entire life. I finally learned not to trust a word that comes out of anyone's mouth, because no matter what they say they WILL eventually leave you at some point. It's inevitable. I'm at the point now where I never want to get close to ANYONE ever again because I know they can't be trusted.

And yes I AM a total bitch. I don't fear anyone. I've gotten in the faces of men twice my size many times before. I just refuse to back down to anyone. Being a bitch is my only method of defense.

I never said it was a compliment. It's just a fact about me. I would prefer NOT to be a bitch, but sometimes it has to be done. Otherwise people will walk all over you.

He can go to Hell for all I care. At least the other men had the balls to tell me to "f--k off" and/or block me on Facebook or their cell phones...which he has NOT done either. Almost makes me think he enjoys the attention or something.

Well then we'll see how much he enjoys pissing me off when he sees me in person again and I totally ignore his worthless ass. And I doubt he'll get any sympathy from his buddies if he chooses to whine because they don't seem to give a shit. One of them is gonna teach me to surf at his beach. LOL

I don't believe its the attention that he enjoys. Caps are extremely calculating and any information whether good / bad / explosive can be used for revenge, if and when they choose. After all, most folks will hang themselves, given enough rope (told to me by my Cappy).

Posted by Notunemotionaljustlogical8
Yeah um, I doubt he cares about you at this point. Sweety what makes you think he cares about you enough to "whine" to his friends. It's all in your head. Anyway, have fun getting yourself in trouble (I doubt he has any patience left). I'm out.

Well which is it?? Is he scared to death of me or is he not even bothered enough to mention it to his friends? You contradicted yourself.

As a fellow water sign girl (a Pisces with a Cap man) all I have to say is you better watch out MP before you are the one on the other end of that that all encompassing legendary Scoprio venomous sting. You are about to jump off a freakin ledge just to satisfy your need to be acknowledged by a man that clearly doesn't want you. LOL Are you one of those women who like to provoke a man to hit or abuse you or any other form of destructive behavior so you can get off? If so, then you keep right on pushing that button or trying to but be warned...as "slow" and patient as a Cap man can be they are nothing nice when they've had enough. So if I read about some chick washed up on a beach in Florida...just saying. LOL Good luck.

He's not done completely though, and that's not to give any hope Mermaid.

I do think he would have deleted her if he was. I agree that he may actually still care about her as a person, and may feel that she has issues, but don't know how to solve them and don't want to lead her on to get more of this behavior in the future.

Mermaid, it does seem that you are putting way too much stock in to how he's reacting to what you do, and completely forgetting your actions/reactions in the process. You are holding him accountable for everything, and not taking a look at yourself. He does not control you, you control yourself and you are loosing sight of that believe it or not. As much as you think his ignoring is weird, and you are analyzing why he's doing it, he can be sitting back thinking your behavior is weird and wondering what the heck can be going on with you. If he deleted you, you act as if it would give you relief, but I highly doubt it would.

You're a psycho stalker to the Nth degree, completely whack-job insane, and you have ZERO hope of ever changing his opinion about THAT. Now he's just waiting for you to get bored and go stalk someone else :c

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Posted by MermaidPrincess
Well then we'll see how much he enjoys pissing me off when he sees me in person again and I totally ignore his worthless ass. And I doubt he'll get any sympathy from his buddies if he chooses to whine because they don't seem to give a shit. One of them is gonna teach me to surf at his beach. LOL

Ha ha, he'll only get another girl twice as hot as you. Can you handle that? lol

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Doubtful. His last girlfriend was NOT physically attractive at all. I was surprised he picked her...especially since she treated him like crap.

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Posted by MermaidPrincess
He can go to Hell for all I care. At least the other men had the balls to tell me to "f--k off" and/or block me on Facebook or their cell phones...which he has NOT done either. Almost makes me think he enjoys the attention or something.

You're absolutely right. The "other" guys cuss and block you cuz their egos are bigger than their peckers. The cap is obvoiusly contented with himself and knows what he wants and he has decided its not you. Nothing you do or say now will affect him in any way so stop degrading yourself in his eyes. Get some dignity! He hasnt blocked you or responded to you as nothing you do or say matters now. You dont dictate the pace or actions of a capricorn, never! Matter of fact, he'll keep this shit up just to annoy the fuck out of you and watch you explode....thinking to himself "what an IDIOT!!"

So please stop this nonsense immediately, for your sake.

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+1 Truer words were never spoken. LOL

Posted by Nefer
You're a psycho stalker to the Nth degree, completely whack-job insane, and you have ZERO hope of ever changing his opinion about THAT. Now he's just waiting for you to get bored and go stalk someone else :c

Yeah you're a dumb fucking bitch. Fuck off. 🙂

Posted by lnana04
He's not done completely though, and that's not to give any hope Mermaid.

I do think he would have deleted her if he was. I agree that he may actually still care about her as a person, and may feel that she has issues, but don't know how to solve them and don't want to lead her on to get more of this behavior in the future.

Mermaid, it does seem that you are putting way too much stock in to how he's reacting to what you do, and completely forgetting your actions/reactions in the process. You are holding him accountable for everything, and not taking a look at yourself. He does not control you, you control yourself and you are loosing sight of that believe it or not. As much as you think his ignoring is weird, and you are analyzing why he's doing it, he can be sitting back thinking your behavior is weird and wondering what the heck can be going on with you. If he deleted you, you act as if it would give you relief, but I highly doubt it would.

Yes Inana, he knows I have issues. We've talked about it a little before and he has talked with me during nights when I was close to having a breakdown. Like you said, he probably doesn't know how to help me deal with them or understand the full scope of them.

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Posted by MermaidPrincess
He can go to Hell for all I care. At least the other men had the balls to tell me to "f--k off" and/or block me on Facebook or their cell phones...which he has NOT done either. Almost makes me think he enjoys the attention or something.

You're absolutely right. The "other" guys cuss and block you cuz their egos are bigger than their peckers. The cap is obvoiusly contented with himself and knows what he wants and he has decided its not you. Nothing you do or say now will affect him in any way so stop degrading yourself in his eyes. Get some dignity! He hasnt blocked you or responded to you as nothing you do or say matters now. You dont dictate the pace or actions of a capricorn, never! Matter of fact, he'll keep this shit up just to annoy the fuck out of you and watch you explode....thinking to himself "what an IDIOT!!"

So please stop this nonsense immediately, for your sake.

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Actually CapGal, he's pretty insecure about himself. He is CONSTANTLY doubting himself and putting himself down. I constantly had to compliment him, and he had a hard time accepting & believing compliments. Typical Cap from what I've read.

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Posted by lnana04
He's not done completely though, and that's not to give any hope Mermaid.

I do think he would have deleted her if he was. I agree that he may actually still care about her as a person, and may feel that she has issues, but don't know how to solve them and don't want to lead her on to get more of this behavior in the future.

Mermaid, it does seem that you are putting way too much stock in to how he's reacting to what you do, and completely forgetting your actions/reactions in the process. You are holding him accountable for everything, and not taking a look at yourself. He does not control you, you control yourself and you are loosing sight of that believe it or not. As much as you think his ignoring is weird, and you are analyzing why he's doing it, he can be sitting back thinking your behavior is weird and wondering what the heck can be going on with you. If he deleted you, you act as if it would give you relief, but I highly doubt it would.

Yes Inana, he knows I have issues. We've talked about it a little before and he has talked with me during nights when I was close to having a breakdown. Like you said, he probably doesn't know how to help me deal with them or understand the full scope of them.

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Yep. You've confided in him, so knowing what he knows he's not going to tell you to "f-off" or be harsh with words or actions, nor is he going to drag himself deeper into this, by responding. You just have to learn a lesson from this and work on doing what you need to feel better about yourself and your situation.

Well he is very insecure about his physical appearance, even though I always told him he is gorgeous. He constantly wonders why any woman would want to be with him. And he often feels discouraged by his long climb towards his goal of getting a Bachelor's Degree. (He is taking classes part time.) I was always more than happy to compliment him and encourage him to keep his eye on the prize and keep working towards his goals. I recently read that encouraging Caps in their goals is something they LOVE, so I'm glad I did that!! It's a shame that I didn't get to share my wonderful news with him the way I wanted to, because he would have been so happy for me. He knows that living in the toxic environment that I do is triggering A LOT of my issues. When he met me in Florida, I was HAPPY, secure, confident, and totally at peace. So it's probably no wonder why he was so infatuated with me when he met me. But as soon as I returned home, I turned into a whole other person again. Maybe someday after I have permanently moved there and have returned to beinf the happy care-free girl he fell for, then maybe he might consider rekindling our friendship. Even if we never date again, I would be happy to have him in my life as a friend. He was a good person to have around to talk to and ask for help. I'm really gonna miss his help when I'm trying to get settled in down there by myself!! :-/

Oh, and he once told me that he is VERY indecisive...that he struggles to make up his mind about things. I wondered if that might be part of the reason why he hasn't blocked or deleted me or told me off yet.

@MermaidPrincess - As a Cap native and having envisioned myself in his shoes, I must say this: You have frightened the man shitless. I thought I shat myself too just from reading your posts in the beginning!

Try to think of it this way, how would you feel if you were fresh out of a bad relationship, you meet someone and all of a sudden they act the way you do towards you, how would you think and feel? If you don't get my point, that is fine, just leave the poor man alone, it's all gone now in this case. Stop wondering why he didn't do this or that, you do not know him, you can't read his mind, you will never known why he didn't do (insert random something action). Let it go.

BigGirlPanties and cowpuncher too have given you excellent input in regards to your post, you just need read it and take it to heart. If you want to ignore input, at least take their input into consideration.

Funny thread.


I cant tell who is more insane. The OP or those of us who try to *reason* with her. Ya can't win with crazy, folks! Now, slowly back away and don't look her in the eye.

You know, calling me crazy or insane isn't going to insult me or hurt my feelings, so don't waste your time. I've already freely admitted that I have lots of issues; I don't try to hide or deny it. You have no idea what I've lives through and I doubt you want to know.

Yeah, I think we gotta get past calling her names.

Mermaid, I've witnessed you go through the motions in this thread. From calm, to being angry, to logical lol.

Scorps remind me a lot of Aquas, especially when it comes to dealing with Caps. And nothing you've written here is too far from how my Aqua mother would deal with her Cap ex. Caps will never really understand all the "motions" but once you calm down and explain why you went through it all, they'll get a better understanding.

I enjoy the calmer side of you Mermaid, and you never know what can happen when you return to Florida. If you go out there with absolutely NO expectations of him, and allow yourself to enjoy your time, then you just never know, but don't look for anything. And If he ever decides to approach you, don't push him away but apologize for your actions and explain yourself and he probably won't be too hard on you. You will have to be 100% honest about everything if you want a friendship or anything else. To understand the emotions we have to understand where they are coming from.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
1. I'm not a Pisces, I'm a Scorpio.

2. He refused to delete me from his Facebook even when I suggested to him more than once that he could/should do so. What reason could he possibly have for wanting to keep me as a friend on Facebook if we are now enemies??

3. I'm honestly a stubborn brat. And because he hurt me, I really don't give a f--k if my presence makes him uncomfortable. Just like a Cap, I can hold nasty grudges too. Part of me even HOPES he will feel awkward around me as punishment for hurting me. Why should I care how he thinks or feels anymore?? F--k him!! And if he wants to get in my face and explode, let him bring it!! I'm not afraid of anyone, least of all him. I may be a little woman, but I'm one Hell of a fierce bitch!! A lifetime of abandonment and abuse will kinda turn you into one.

oy vey..

I think he figured that out ages ago and does exactly what drives you up the wall the most. IGNORES you...

The effort you put into self pity, hatred and self destruction was seen by that guy probably within a short time, too bad that you can't see that he's so done with you, you don't even deserve his response... But he plays with you like with a cat where it's him dictating where this will go.

Frankly, you act like a spoiled brat who didn't get her cake and are having a tantrum like a 2 year old.

Have some self respect and act like a woman should, maybe one day you will find a man who will treat you like a woman not a disposable girl not worth second chances.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
One of his own friends is even setting me up with some surfing lessons at his beach...and his friend KNOWS we had a falling out! So either his friends are inconsiderate jerks who don't care that he's afraid of me, or there is something entirely different going on with him. Some people have said he could merely be playing mind games with me by ignoring me while refusing to tell me to go away or deleting me from his stuff. Yeah I know I've acted like a crazy bitch, but his behavior defies logical male behavior, and several other men have agreed that it's weird. If he hates me now, then maybe he'll hope for me to drown while I'm learning to surf at the beach. LOL

the convo between him and his friend went like this:
his friend: hey, dude, can I fvk her?
him: yeah, she's disposed of, do what you like
his friend: cool, thanks bro, i'll set her up with some lessons, lol
him: do it, just cut her loose after, she's a freak




... just sayin'

Posted by michellemabelle
mermaid. Why not think about this guy. Hes just split up with someone and now is being attacked by some psycho stalker how do you think that feels.

And how do you think he feels that a girl who looked nice turned into a monster. I tell you how it makes him feel. It makes him feel worried that when he meets a woman who appears nice he cant trust that and it makes him afraid of women. It makes him want to not have anything to do with women and to hate women. You are making him hate women. And some other poor woman will be the victim of this hatred you put in him. He will lash out at women and it is your fault.

You should grow up seriously

this,

or he will see his ex all of a sudden in a different light and think he should get back with her, not this stalker here...

Posted by MermaidPrincess
I never said it was a compliment. It's just a fact about me. I would prefer NOT to be a bitch, but sometimes it has to be done. Otherwise people will walk all over you.

maybe, but you failed to see that you have no one to walk beside you...


being righteous for the sake of being right is the stupidest way to go about getting and keeping relationship.

women like you, are very often strong, independent and very lonely.
mark my words. I was there and seen in on both sides. You're off balance and you should work on centering yourself, not bringing out traits in you and spinning them into liabilities as opposed to your assets.

also, no man who wants a stable relationship with longevity to it will ever consider you for a partner until you learn some respect for others and self control. your arrogance is probably the biggest turn off. I bet you have a string of short term relationships which ended just as abruptly, only because the guys figured out sooner than later that this is one hot pot they are not willing to stay in too long. no man wants volatile woman by his side. that's not what they want stable relationships for.