Is it true they never come back? *please help, really heart broken* (Page 2)

Posted by Jazzypiecesofpisces
I do not have children nor have i ever dated someone who had children so I knew sometimes I needed to keep that into consideration as that was an obvious "challenge" (cant think of a better word to say but i dont mean challenege in a bad way) that I needed to overcome. With everything he was dealing with at the time ( which i would say is a lot ) i could see that it was all kind of breaking him down. At one point a couple of months ago I told him that i felt we needed to stop talking for a while because i felt he had too much on his plate and i would only add more stress and in turn be more stressed out. After a month he came back because I guess he missed me (even though he still didnt have it all the way together yet... ) then this "break up" happened two weeks after he came back...

I'm sorry for your broken heart. Time heals, and you will get better. He didn't want to hurt you. They are gentle, and they are firm. I've dealt with capricorn as well, your story describes these cap/sun like a textbook.

Caps ALWAYS have too much, toomuch, toomuch on their plates. They can handle it -- and YOUR stuff, too, simultaneously, btw -- it's what they do. How you fit into his world, is what he may have been trying to find out. They are very sensitive (not touchy, difference) and can pick up on stuff almost better than you can -- that's why he could touch you so deeply. I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think you are the woman he is looking for now. I do believe he loves you as he says. How the type of love he has for you motivates him is what this is about.

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...Also, don't want to dash your hopes but, sounds like he sees value in you and respects you but you aren't the woman he wants right now. I say that because I've been in that situation and its difficult. Best of luck

^This^ is what was my first thought.

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You have no idea how much what you have been saying has given me such great insight and a since of relief. I say that because in the things you are saying you sound just like him... you are saying some of the very things he would say. My bestfriend is also a Capricorn and alot of what you are saying I have watched her do in relationships (despite this im having a hard time relating it to my own life smh) and she has said to me the same things you are saying (difference is she is my best friend and i guess i wanted to see what strangers would say) .

I really appreciate you, honestly. He opened up to me for sure and has even expressed countless times he doesnt like vulnerability and feelings or emotions because he says they are not based in logic and cannot be trusted. He has despite that been very vulnerable with me we. When things would become really deep with the intimacy i could see him struggling with his need to pull away and he would be honest about it. But he always said he didnt want to do me like he has done others and push me away when it got scary. (Although in a way i guess he has). He is truly analytical and practical and does what makes the most sense. I do not have children nor have i ever dated someone who had children so I knew sometimes I needed to keep that into consideration as that was an obvious "challenge" (cant think of a better word to say but i dont mean challenege in a bad way) that I needed to overcome. With everything he was dealing with at the time ( which i would say is a lot ) i could see that it was all kind of breaking him down. At one point a couple of months ago I told him that i felt we needed to stop talking for a while because i felt he had too much on his plate and i would only add more stress and in turn be more stressed out. After a month he came back because I guess he missed me (even though he still didnt have it all the way together yet... ) then this "break up" happened two weeks after he came back...

You're welcome. My experience with pisces has been that you understand us, so trust your intuition on this one. I know it can be hard to look at things objectively, especially once your feelings are involved.

As far as the emotions, I hold things in until I can't take it anymore. Then it usually comes out very awkward. Since he said it once and hasn't been throwing it around from the beginning, I would take him seriously.

Whatever the outcome, I wish you well and I'm here if you need anything.

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After all of your advice affirming for me what I believed to be true in my heart I feel so much more secure about this whole predicament and trusting my intution on this. I know i have said this on every message but I really am grateful for all of your insight. I feel much more grounded in this situation (that sound capricorn grounding energy... always reasonable, always reassuring)..

You are right as the feelings and everything in the moment were really creating such an overwhelming feeling of doubt and fear in my heart about everything. But I know that his intentions were pure and if they werent he wouldnt be the man that I fell in love with. I believe that our relationship was as special to him as it was for me... and I too often felt the timing for both of us could have been better but wanted to keep him in my life as well.. through the relationship we both have learned alot that I hope will help accelerate our growth and (Hopefully) bring us back together in a better space.❤ I will definitely take you up on your offer, and know if you ever need help with a pisces or water sign I am here for you as well.

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Posted by Gemitati
I do not believe man let go woman he loves because he is not good enough for her.

I see it as a cowardly lame excuse. If you love each other - you love trough thick

and thin. And jumping hoops together. How can you let go person you LOVE?

Loves AS A FRIEND. She's pushing for a relationship, he's not comfortable with it.

Which is why he tells her she deserves someone who will love her like she desires.

Heeeey we are both pisces sun aries moon. Anyways he never said he loved me as a friend... he simply said in his last message to me that he loved me too and that he immediately wanted to tell me that the first time I had brought love up. Which was maybe a week before this all happened.

On various occasions in various different ways he said he wanted to be with me. Or he can see himself with me.. we talked about the future often. He said he feels he'd be very happy with me and that I was everything he ever wanted... several times when i became afraid that myfeelings for him were growing well past friendship I tried to walk away but he would in a way convince me to stay... I do think i needed to be more patient with him... and had i known he loved me as well I certainly would have been... i was just becoming afraid because i had all of these strong feelings and didnt want to become hurt down the line if things didnt start moving in a more commited direction.

I think him and I could use a break from each other... but I dont want it to be over for good. He means entirely too much to me for that... he has a lot of healing to do... and quite a bit of fears he needs to work through... i just wanted to know if on his own it was possible we'd get back together...

I ended it the same way. I was afraid and uncertain and didn't want to get more hurt. I also mentioned it two other times prior hoping to see some change. Instead it scared him off. I think you scared him. Hope it wasn't too much this time and he does come back. You need to figure out how to make him feel special and unconditionally loved if you want another chance with him. But for now, I think space is your best friend and he will miss you enough to want to try it out again.

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Thank you for your insight ❤ Im sure he was afraid but it's my hope that with time he will realize the fear isnt worth losing something so special... which will help him to overcome the fear. One thing i am certain of is that he truly knows that I think he is the most amazing man and love him very dearly... I certainly demonstrated that...

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Posted by Aquarius_confused
I went through the same thing. I still love him and we could talk for hours and hours, and this was everyday and I spent every weekend at his house. He did come to mine but it was easier for me to go to his because he didn't get off work till midnight. But yea, they can break your heart in a million pieces. I'm still not done picking them up and it's been 2 years we last had a conversation. Hope he comes back to you just don't do what I did when he did call me 10 months later, answer the phone by saying, " I believe you dialed the wrong number ". Yep I guess I screwed my self on that one. ?

Im so sorry you had to endure that... I really am... please dont beat yourself up you had a right to be upset if it took him so long to come around, especially if things ended on a bad note and you attempted to repair them at the time ... and if he was genuinely interested in starting something back up with you it wouldnt have only taken that little thing to drive him away. At least not for so long... I know this isn't what you want to hear... I do hope that one day you get an answer to all your questions and that one day everything will become clear... I hope one day he will have the decency to at least give you that.

Originally he just told me he was done and completely just kind of cut me off... then after two weeks he finally decided i guess to be decent about it and at least tell me something.... if he hadnt though i would have chalked it up to him being a fake lying piece of crap who strung me along for his own kicks.

Thank you, I'm getting up the nerve to do what I need to do but it seems like I'm all ready to do it then boom fear sets in. I did try to make it work on many differentoccasions and forgave him for something that most women would never forgive a man for but I believed he was truly sorry.

But not I wonder, that is why I got on his phone and got a number to make sure he didnt donit to someone else. Maybe I thought I could help him. Fix him. But I guess love wasn't enough.

My situation is so much different then anyone's on here but I can't put it all down. It would make you shake but I loved him for him and when i told him I didn't like the person that he referred him self to as Hyde he pretty much put Hyde away or back where he belongs. So yes I'm scared to go over because I don't know who I might be faced with. But I have to do it to see the real him and put it behind me. Who knows I might see him and ask my self why in the heck did I waist a year and a half with him and another 2 years wondering so I could move on. I just know in my heart this is what I need to do. Now I just need to find me a big muscle man with me incase it's Hyde that comes out and not the man I fell in love with. Thank you and god bless.

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Well please dont put yourself in danger... he is not worth that... I know its soo hard to think of just walking away without closure...but consider how lucky he is to have someone so dedicated to trying to work things out with him... if he doesnt see it now I promise he WILL see it one day. I was in a relationship with someone who truly did not appreciate me before meeting my cap. And i can tell you that my biggest regret was wasting soo much time on him.. smh had i simply let him go I truly feel that my interactions with mr. Capricorn would have been soo much smooter. But the longer i held on to the old relationship the more damage i did to myself and my self esteem.

Every day that passes by that you allow yourself to feel the pain of "not being good enough" for an explanation you are putting yourself down... and making it that much harder to build yourself back up when you finally do decide to let him go. And just think ... if he just came back tomorrow after all of this... how safe would you feel in the relationship to be yourself? Youd be walking on egg shells every day.... and youd have anxiet attacks every time he disappeared because youd fear it will be for 2 years again...

Really really try to just let him go. I promise he may have seemed like mr awesome (i thought i felt that way about my ex who was a virgo) but when i met mr capricorn i literally thought i was in a dream as he was sooo much better in everyway... and while things are now over and i am faced with letting him go.... at least i now know it means ive either met my match (and he will be back) orr someone even MORE amazing is around the corner... (really hoping for the first one though... lol idk if its a pisces thing but too perfect doesnt seem too appealing to me... ) i do wish you the best no matter what happens...

Please keep your head up and remember you are worthy no matter what happened in that relationship no matter what mistakes you feel you have made.

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Posted by Illuminati
Give it sometime for the negative emotions to go away. Do not contact him unless he contacts you. Meanwhile work on improving yourself, give him 2 months to wok his emotions out. If he comes back you have a better relationship, if he doesn't you are more ready for Mr right

You can reach out casually after 2 months if he doesn't contact you by then. Just give both of you sometime to remove the negative emotions.

Thank you soo much for your sound advice! ❤ I really do appreciate it... i sincerely hope everything will work out because I really do love him. I have no intentions of contacting him but maybe by 2 months I would have changed my mind.... originally i had no angry feelings towards him... but it feels like some are starting to creep in...

It's normal to experience different types of emotions now. Allow yourself to reflect and grow from it. Learn about yourself, what you want and don't want from a relationship. If he does reach out you may respond but don't entertain him if you sense that he is here to make sure you still around only for validation.

It's not easy but you can do it 🙂

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Thank you so much for your very sound advice ❤ I will reflect and try to learn from this.

You are a sweetheart. Unfortunately people mostly take advantage of sweethearts and then weasel out with bullshit explanations. This is to say learn not to be such a people pleaser. Learn to think of you first.

Two cents from a Cap-mooner in a stupid long relationship with a Cap.

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Posted by Gemitati
I do not believe man let go woman he loves because he is not good enough for her.

I see it as a cowardly lame excuse. If you love each other - you love trough thick

and thin. And jumping hoops together. How can you let go person you LOVE?

You can let go of the person you love out of both fear of vulnerability and care for them.

Been in that situation. When I hit a low and everything is out of order, every small mishap or additional problem feels like the grave getting deeper by a foot. Your demons cloud your thoughts and sense of judgement.

As a Capricorn, once at that point, I'm not taking a step forward with shit all if I can't quite predict where it will go, especially if this happens to be something that involves emotions (room for my getting hurt if I screw up).

I've also found myself more concerned about where I'm perception-wise when dating a water sign (people more susceptible to picking up whatever lingers around them). If I'm all bad vibes I feel like I'm more a plague/downer anytime I open my mouth and interact with a loved one, I'll start withdrawing. I want to be with this person and that means I want to make them happy. My problems are my abyss and I don't have to be dragging anyone down there, especially someone I want to give the world to.

If I can't grab a hold of the bad state, the reasons above will make me consider withdrawing from the s/o until I can do better.

On the more insecure/somewhat possessive side of things, if the problems I'm going through include financial issues, I will much sooner try to end things.

Capricorn view of reality is: you aren't worth shit as a partner if you can't support your loved one. No one will forever stay faithful to a pauper. Someone better and more stable will likely come by and whisk your partner away and it'll hurt like a bitch.

The other side of the coin is that the Capricorn is hoping that this is true love and s/o will stay by you through thick and thin.

These two thoughts bounce back and forth in your head like a ping pong ball mid-tournament. The darker the headspace and more difficult the life situation. The former idea wins out while your heart is still hoping for the latter. Fear and need of control step in. You take a breath and pull the plug.

All euphemisms and my 6am brain poetry aside, OP, the idea of him returning is possible if everything gets lined up. But the longer it takes, the less likely as we'll expect you'd likely hate us or not give two shits by that time.

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?? I cannot thank you enough for what you have written here! You brought tears to my eyes. You seem to have so much in common with him in the way you express your thoughts.. He was a Cancer moon and Virgo Rising... almost similar to you. There were times where he would be in a really dark place and he would tell me he didnt want to drag me down with his bad energy.. he said just cause he had a bad day doesnt mean he should drag mine through the mud...

One thing I've learned from Capricorns is that because you all have dealt with so much hardship in life you kind of dont think anyone can truly endure your shit on top of their own... you try to protect your loved ones from having to deal with your shit too... It's really done from a noble place... but it doesnt allow people to truly be there for you the way they would like to... But anyone paying attention can see that it wasnt ever done with the intention to cause pain...

He has told me soo many times that he wasnt worth shit as a partner... he would say look at me.. i dont deserve a girl... i dont deserve anyone to be good to me until i get my shit together...

When he would say that stuff it would break my heart... how could someone i saw as being soo amazing think so poorly of what he deserved..... but i get it... i really do.. especially the oart where you say that you all are thinking of that fact that someone better shall eventually come around and steal your love from under your nose. You all dont really buy into the whole fantasy of love ..

You see things in a more logical statistical manner... and believe it would be foolish to see it any other way... i sometimes felt he was too smart and too logical for his own good... preventing himself from having something good unless he felt he was in a place that deserved that good thing.... because he'd surly lose it otherwise.

I wish there were a way I could show him that I'd stand by his side till the bitter end (that taurus venus... ) ... that there is no one who could come sweep me off my feet that would be even half as amazing ( to me...) as he was... im hoping that giving his space and just letting him go during this time doesnt get taken for abandonment... i hope he understands im simply respecting his wishes.. and trusting that soon his intelligence will bring him back my way when he is in a better place..

He was dealing with some financial issues... stresses of being a single father (mom is not in the picture at alll) and some other issues he was working through in therapy... but when i tell you this man juggles all of what he is faced with with such grace... You'd be hard pressed to know what was really going on.. such an amazing quality....

I hope it doesnt take him too long... i have no qualms about returning myself after some time... however because of a past relationship id much rather stay away because its important for my own slef esteem to know he felt i was worth while enough to come back on his own... lol but im sure if my impatient implusivr aries kicks in that would likely go right out the window.

Thank you soooo much for your post i really do appreciate it ❤

Great manipulator this guy. Chapeau!

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Posted by Jazzypiecesofpisces
**Please read second paragraph for additional information if you so choose **

Hello all, I will try not to make this too long and greatly appreciate all of your help. So the basic question is if a capricorn loves you and only ended things because he felt his life was falling apart and he could not give you what you deserved (he felt he was hurting me and that i deserved better, said he didn't want me to be broken because of him... he said it was out of love because he knew id stick around despite being hurt and feels it would be best if he just let me go) is it possible in your opinion that he will come back?

He has some deep seeded belief that he is a bad person he is currently in therapy trying to work through his issues. He has never truly hurt me aside from little things (like basic stuff a sensitive pisces would be hurt by) but that has only been on two occasions.

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I truly feel as if I met the man I am meant to spend the rest of my life with in this man. When we first met there was an instantaneous mental connection and we literally would talk on the phone for hours (longest 7 hours average 3 hours) . We had so many insane syncronicities. He truly understood me on some very deep soul level that often brought me to tears because it was as if he could articulate for me my emotions better than i could. Anyways this man has gone through alot of very hard deep emotional tramuas in life (trust me when i say this).

From the beginning he let me know he wanted to build a friendship with me before moving to a romantic relationship as he felt that would give him some level of safety. He expressed that he wasnt where he felt he should be in life at the moment (he is also a single father) and at our time of meeting he felt he had a lot on his plate to sort out. So for 6 months we were friends and each others therapists, and motivator and teacher etc. I've never been so close to a man before in my life.

One night in tears he expressed to me that i was everything and that this was perfect and everything he ever wanted and that it was not fair that he should meet me now when he felt his life was falling apart.

Anyways as i began to fall for him i wanted to know where we were headed his response would be that he wanted to be with me but he knew he couldn't focus on me the way that i deserved and focus on his child and himself the way that they deserved at that moment. At about 6 month point when I was sure I had fallen in love with him, I let him know that i knew he was afraid but that i wanted to be with him and understood that he wouldn't be able to give me whatever he felt i deserved. Also that i felt that everything he was doing was amazing and i couldn't ask for more. He seemed to be opening to the idea but still said he felt he wasnt ready. Then a week later he mentioned something that to me indicated he wanted to be together, so i brought it up again which ultimately led to him becoming upset with me and telling me that he was done. I was really taken back by this and i asked him what happened and why he ended it so abruptly (as that was not like him) he didnt answer so I apologized and backed off.

After 2 weeks he sent me a very long heartfelt message in which he said that he loved me (my first time ever hearing him say that) and that he had to let me go. He said that he couldn't begin to thank me for my friendship and all the care and concern I showed and everything I had taught him & that he felt indebted to me and thus knew he had to let me go. He said he never wanted to hurt me and was sorry that he had... he said i deserved someone that could give me the love that i needed deserved and desired. He said he felt i would never make the call for myself so it is out of love that he has done it. He told me that he is amazed at the woman he sees in me and knows that letting me go is for the best and i will always be in his heart.

His message broke me to pieces as I had no idea he loved me... had i known things would have been different. Anyways now it is over... i replied to his message letting him know i loved him as well and how great of a man i know he is and that i respect his need to let go and hope that it wont have to be goodbye forever...

I know this is all out if fear for him.. the last time he opened himself up to love it blew up in his face (he has not been in a relationship since his ex wife).Is it possible that he will come back? If he truly loves me and what we had was as special as i know and felt it was will he hold on to the whole "you deserve better" thing and never come back? Please... someone let me know what you think...

Hi ? I'm a Capricorn myself and if I leave a relationship it will be because I cannot give that man I love what he needs. And it is likely I won't come back either. Please don't take what I'm telling you as me being harsh though. I'm not being harsh I am being honest with you as a Capricorn.

However, I have a tendency to feel very very guilty for not giving a man what he needs so I can sometimes, stay in said r'ship and give (whatever it is), to him, to the detriment of myself and then it ends up with me suffering, which in turn causes me to feel resentment.

So on that note, it is probably better that he left in order to sort himself out, rather than him staying and possibly end up making you feel bad unintentionally. He may come back, he may not. If it was me, I may come back, saying I'm sorry etc.

Hope this helps somehow..

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Thank you so much ❤ it probably is better he left right now to sort himself out.. the things he felt he couldnt do for me really just stemmed from the bad feelings he had for himself because he wasnt where he wanted to be in life... im certain when he feels better about himself he'd feel good enough to give me whatever it us he feels I deserve... and hopefully our bond would be worthwhile to return to for him...

damn free therapy session

You've got an Aries Moon, doll. You'll find a way to get his attention back. It's true you may not want it once you get it, but never doubt that you will. In the meantime be you and live your life. You never know what excitement and joys it holds with others.

Best luck to you.

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I do not have children nor have i ever dated someone who had children so I knew sometimes I needed to keep that into consideration as that was an obvious "challenge" (cant think of a better word to say but i dont mean challenege in a bad way) that I needed to overcome. With everything he was dealing with at the time ( which i would say is a lot ) i could see that it was all kind of breaking him down. At one point a couple of months ago I told him that i felt we needed to stop talking for a while because i felt he had too much on his plate and i would only add more stress and in turn be more stressed out. After a month he came back because I guess he missed me (even though he still didnt have it all the way together yet... ) then this "break up" happened two weeks after he came back...

I'm sorry for your broken heart. Time heals, and you will get better. He didn't want to hurt you. They are gentle, and they are firm. I've dealt with capricorn as well, your story describes these cap/sun like a textbook.

Caps ALWAYS have too much, toomuch, toomuch on their plates. They can handle it -- and YOUR stuff, too, simultaneously, btw -- it's what they do. How you fit into his world, is what he may have been trying to find out. They are very sensitive (not touchy, difference) and can pick up on stuff almost better than you can -- that's why he could touch you so deeply. I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think you are the woman he is looking for now. I do believe he loves you as he says. How the type of love he has for you motivates him is what this is about.

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Watching him handle everything life threw his way was truly amazing to me... he did it with such grace I wish i had that capability. He def could pick on things that i could not (in terms of my feelings) i was also quite good at picking up his moods and shifts... it was almost as if we each did a better job at articulating each others inner thoughts more than we could our own.

You've definitely hit on something about the love he has for me and his motivation. In the beginning he let me know how having me in his life had motivated him to finally go to therapy, start working out, build a website and begin working on some goals he had for his business... Anyways during this time he told me I was everything he always wanted ..... however something happened (something not related to me whatsoever...) and he no longer felt on top of his stuff... and the routine he built for himself and all the direction he had went out the window . . i understand that capricorns are capable of handling a lot... but they aren't indestructible and I dont feel comfortable putting any of his really personal life details on the site but i do feel that what was going on wasnt your typical run of the mill life shit..

I believe after reading through everyones insight that he really didnt want to hurt me or bring me down with his stuff. He felt he didnt deserve someone to be good to him if he couldnt provide for them the way he felt they deserved. He's told me a couple of times that he feels like he doesnt deserve anything good until he gets it together... almost like he was punishing himself or doing that whole "you cant have ice cream until after you do your homework " thing as a way to encourage himself to get his shit together. It was a theme for him to deprive himself and reward himself based on what was going on in his life. Before everything ended he was in the process of getting back into his routine... as he had cleared up a large protion of his issues... however because (as ive said) i had fallen in love with him it was becoming uncomfortable and very anxiety producing for me to be giving so much of myself without a commitment. I understand i could have been more patient... and had i known he loved me at the time I certainly wouldnt have inquired about a relationship... but i truly feel this had nothing to do with me not being what he wanted and everything to do with some pretty deep fears he has. Im certain as time passes he will see it as well...

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Great manipulator this guy. Chapeau!

I dont think he was manipulative at all.

Posted by asha
You are a sweetheart. Unfortunately people mostly take advantage of sweethearts and then weasel out with bullshit explanations. This is to say learn not to be such a people pleaser. Learn to think of you first.

Two cents from a Cap-mooner in a stupid long relationship with a Cap.

Thank you ❤... my previous relationship was with a virgo who did such a good job at taking advantage of me, always making me feel like i wasnt good enough..... and often found ways to weasel out of it all and have me feeling like some awful person who deserved it all and thus id go crawling back... smh. People pleasing is def. An unfortunate trait of mine... Certainly not proud any of it... and how much time i wasted in that relationship.... when i met the cap it hadnt been long enough after my previous relationship so alot of what he said and did in the beginning was met with sideeyes and skepticism... originally didnt believe he could actually really like me... that i could actually be motivating him etc. Only time will really tell me ... but im hoping this isnt a repeat of before. I dont feel like it is... buut im still learning to trust myself and my feelings.

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You have no idea how much what you have been saying has given me such great insight and a since of relief. I say that because in the things you are saying you sound just like him... you are saying some of the very things he would say. My bestfriend is also a Capricorn and alot of what you are saying I have watched her do in relationships (despite this im having a hard time relating it to my own life smh) and she has said to me the same things you are saying (difference is she is my best friend and i guess i wanted to see what strangers would say) .

I really appreciate you, honestly. He opened up to me for sure and has even expressed countless times he doesnt like vulnerability and feelings or emotions because he says they are not based in logic and cannot be trusted. He has despite that been very vulnerable with me we. When things would become really deep with the intimacy i could see him struggling with his need to pull away and he would be honest about it. But he always said he didnt want to do me like he has done others and push me away when it got scary. (Although in a way i guess he has). He is truly analytical and practical and does what makes the most sense. I do not have children nor have i ever dated someone who had children so I knew sometimes I needed to keep that into consideration as that was an obvious "challenge" (cant think of a better word to say but i dont mean challenege in a bad way) that I needed to overcome. With everything he was dealing with at the time ( which i would say is a lot ) i could see that it was all kind of breaking him down. At one point a couple of months ago I told him that i felt we needed to stop talking for a while because i felt he had too much on his plate and i would only add more stress and in turn be more stressed out. After a month he came back because I guess he missed me (even though he still didnt have it all the way together yet... ) then this "break up" happened two weeks after he came back...

You're welcome. My experience with pisces has been that you understand us, so trust your intuition on this one. I know it can be hard to look at things objectively, especially once your feelings are involved.

As far as the emotions, I hold things in until I can't take it anymore. Then it usually comes out very awkward. Since he said it once and hasn't been throwing it around from the beginning, I would take him seriously.

Whatever the outcome, I wish you well and I'm here if you need anything.

After all of your advice affirming for me what I believed to be true in my heart I feel so much more secure about this whole predicament and trusting my intution on this. I know i have said this on every message but I really am grateful for all of your insight. I feel much more grounded in this situation (that sound capricorn grounding energy... always reasonable, always reassuring)..

You are right as the feelings and everything in the moment were really creating such an overwhelming feeling of doubt and fear in my heart about everything. But I know that his intentions were pure and if they werent he wouldnt be the man that I fell in love with. I believe that our relationship was as special to him as it was for me... and I too often felt the timing for both of us could have been better but wanted to keep him in my life as well.. through the relationship we both have learned alot that I hope will help accelerate our growth and (Hopefully) bring us back together in a better space.❤ I will definitely take you up on your offer, and know if you ever need help with a pisces or water sign I am here for you as well.

Thank you 🙂

I apologize for all the other nonsense with the married gem.

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Lol no worries .... i totally agree with your stance in her situation... she should leavr

Posted by Season
You've got an Aries Moon, doll. You'll find a way to get his attention back. It's true you may not want it once you get it, but never doubt that you will. In the meantime be you and live your life. You never know what excitement and joys it holds with others.

Best luck to you.

Thank you soo much for your lovely comment lol us Aries moon always find a way lol. My brain has already come up with several ways that im most certain will work. And sometimes it takes everything in me to not be implusive and carry any of them through... as I know that in most situations I've been faced with I've managed to aries moon my way in to getting what i wanted... however this time i really dont want to have any hand in the process... lol if he comes back i want to know it's because it's real... BUT who knows... im sure if the mood came upon me and i couldnt control the implusive any reasonableness i have now will go out the window. I am in a much better head space now... and feel optimistic about the future (with or without him...((Hopefully with though... i really hate dating)))

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I do not believe man let go woman he loves because he is not good enough for her.

I see it as a cowardly lame excuse. If you love each other - you love trough thick

and thin. And jumping hoops together. How can you let go person you LOVE?

Loves AS A FRIEND. She's pushing for a relationship, he's not comfortable with it.

Which is why he tells her she deserves someone who will love her like she desires.

Heeeey we are both pisces sun aries moon. Anyways he never said he loved me as a friend... he simply said in his last message to me that he loved me too and that he immediately wanted to tell me that the first time I had brought love up. Which was maybe a week before this all happened.

On various occasions in various different ways he said he wanted to be with me. Or he can see himself with me.. we talked about the future often. He said he feels he'd be very happy with me and that I was everything he ever wanted... several times when i became afraid that myfeelings for him were growing well past friendship I tried to walk away but he would in a way convince me to stay... I do think i needed to be more patient with him... and had i known he loved me as well I certainly would have been... i was just becoming afraid because i had all of these strong feelings and didnt want to become hurt down the line if things didnt start moving in a more commited direction.

I think him and I could use a break from each other... but I dont want it to be over for good. He means entirely too much to me for that... he has a lot of healing to do... and quite a bit of fears he needs to work through... i just wanted to know if on his own it was possible we'd get back together...

I ended it the same way. I was afraid and uncertain and didn't want to get more hurt. I also mentioned it two other times prior hoping to see some change. Instead it scared him off. I think you scared him. Hope it wasn't too much this time and he does come back. You need to figure out how to make him feel special and unconditionally loved if you want another chance with him. But for now, I think space is your best friend and he will miss you enough to want to try it out again.

Thank you for your insight ❤ Im sure he was afraid but it's my hope that with time he will realize the fear isnt worth losing something so special... which will help him to overcome the fear. One thing i am certain of is that he truly knows that I think he is the most amazing man and love him very dearly... I certainly demonstrated that...

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I hope so! These guys seem more logically driven than emotionally driven. That makes everything harder!

Posted by Aquarius_confused
I went through the same thing. I still love him and we could talk for hours and hours, and this was everyday and I spent every weekend at his house. He did come to mine but it was easier for me to go to his because he didn't get off work till midnight. But yea, they can break your heart in a million pieces. I'm still not done picking them up and it's been 2 years we last had a conversation. Hope he comes back to you just don't do what I did when he did call me 10 months later, answer the phone by saying, " I believe you dialed the wrong number ". Yep I guess I screwed my self on that one. ?

Good for you many guys who arent ready or mature actually got game on woman. They know how to say the right thing. And lucky this guy was genuine enough to say it so she could move on. She wants him back later, but who would want that because in the process I already know you by being their friends first, and that includes their background in family, friends, and lovers. This also includes if they aren't ready then we stuck it up and move on for someone else to take care of and love. Not love but in love with that person. Good luck.

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I'll be honest... I didn't read all of that. ?

Never come back? Nah that's not true.

They usually do when you no longer care though.

like YEARSSSS later

Lol I saw your thread when I was looking for an answer before asking my own... I swear they move extremely slowwwwwww... but at least not as slow as a taurus

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Posted by Jazzypiecesofpisces
**Please read second paragraph for additional information if you so choose **

Hello all, I will try not to make this too long and greatly appreciate all of your help. So the basic question is if a capricorn loves you and only ended things because he felt his life was falling apart and he could not give you what you deserved (he felt he was hurting me and that i deserved better, said he didn't want me to be broken because of him... he said it was out of love because he knew id stick around despite being hurt and feels it would be best if he just let me go) is it possible in your opinion that he will come back?

He has some deep seeded belief that he is a bad person he is currently in therapy trying to work through his issues. He has never truly hurt me aside from little things (like basic stuff a sensitive pisces would be hurt by) but that has only been on two occasions.

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I truly feel as if I met the man I am meant to spend the rest of my life with in this man. When we first met there was an instantaneous mental connection and we literally would talk on the phone for hours (longest 7 hours average 3 hours) . We had so many insane syncronicities. He truly understood me on some very deep soul level that often brought me to tears because it was as if he could articulate for me my emotions better than i could. Anyways this man has gone through alot of very hard deep emotional tramuas in life (trust me when i say this).

From the beginning he let me know he wanted to build a friendship with me before moving to a romantic relationship as he felt that would give him some level of safety. He expressed that he wasnt where he felt he should be in life at the moment (he is also a single father) and at our time of meeting he felt he had a lot on his plate to sort out. So for 6 months we were friends and each others therapists, and motivator and teacher etc. I've never been so close to a man before in my life.

One night in tears he expressed to me that i was everything and that this was perfect and everything he ever wanted and that it was not fair that he should meet me now when he felt his life was falling apart.

Anyways as i began to fall for him i wanted to know where we were headed his response would be that he wanted to be with me but he knew he couldn't focus on me the way that i deserved and focus on his child and himself the way that they deserved at that moment. At about 6 month point when I was sure I had fallen in love with him, I let him know that i knew he was afraid but that i wanted to be with him and understood that he wouldn't be able to give me whatever he felt i deserved. Also that i felt that everything he was doing was amazing and i couldn't ask for more. He seemed to be opening to the idea but still said he felt he wasnt ready. Then a week later he mentioned something that to me indicated he wanted to be together, so i brought it up again which ultimately led to him becoming upset with me and telling me that he was done. I was really taken back by this and i asked him what happened and why he ended it so abruptly (as that was not like him) he didnt answer so I apologized and backed off.

After 2 weeks he sent me a very long heartfelt message in which he said that he loved me (my first time ever hearing him say that) and that he had to let me go. He said that he couldn't begin to thank me for my friendship and all the care and concern I showed and everything I had taught him & that he felt indebted to me and thus knew he had to let me go. He said he never wanted to hurt me and was sorry that he had... he said i deserved someone that could give me the love that i needed deserved and desired. He said he felt i would never make the call for myself so it is out of love that he has done it. He told me that he is amazed at the woman he sees in me and knows that letting me go is for the best and i will always be in his heart.

His message broke me to pieces as I had no idea he loved me... had i known things would have been different. Anyways now it is over... i replied to his message letting him know i loved him as well and how great of a man i know he is and that i respect his need to let go and hope that it wont have to be goodbye forever...

I know this is all out if fear for him.. the last time he opened himself up to love it blew up in his face (he has not been in a relationship since his ex wife).Is it possible that he will come back? If he truly loves me and what we had was as special as i know and felt it was will he hold on to the whole "you deserve better" thing and never come back? Please... someone let me know what you think...

Hi Jazzypiecesofpisces x

I am guessing you are a Pisces? And heartbroken over a Capricorn?

You very kindly and may I say helpfully responded to my post of me being heartbroken over a Pisces man. I am Capricorn.

So it looks like we are both going through pain as Pisces/Capricorn r'ships, even though our situations are different.

So let me try and help you hopefully x

Speaking as a Capricorn (female), if I loved someone and said 'you deserve better,' I would actually be feeling sorry for myself and also feeling guilty that I wasn't in the right emotional place to be with you. I would also be thinking about you alot.

So it might be that he wishes he was better for you, therefore you may need to first of all give him some time to heal. The hard thing is knowing how much time.

If it was me I would want the person I'm heartbroken over to be waiting for me for when I am better in myself.

Now I don't know how often you see him etc but I would stick around, meaning be nearby but keep some distance and carry on with your life. For me once i see the person i love moving on it makes me want to get back with that person. Hope that makes sense?

Don't expect anything from him as he may take a while to heal. If he likes you enough he may come back.

I only don't come back if it's been a long term r'ship and that person has hurt me.

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I do not believe man let go woman he loves because he is not good enough for her.

I see it as a cowardly lame excuse. If you love each other - you love trough thick

and thin. And jumping hoops together. How can you let go person you LOVE?

Loves AS A FRIEND. She's pushing for a relationship, he's not comfortable with it.

Which is why he tells her she deserves someone who will love her like she desires.

Heeeey we are both pisces sun aries moon. Anyways he never said he loved me as a friend... he simply said in his last message to me that he loved me too and that he immediately wanted to tell me that the first time I had brought love up. Which was maybe a week before this all happened.

On various occasions in various different ways he said he wanted to be with me. Or he can see himself with me.. we talked about the future often. He said he feels he'd be very happy with me and that I was everything he ever wanted... several times when i became afraid that myfeelings for him were growing well past friendship I tried to walk away but he would in a way convince me to stay... I do think i needed to be more patient with him... and had i known he loved me as well I certainly would have been... i was just becoming afraid because i had all of these strong feelings and didnt want to become hurt down the line if things didnt start moving in a more commited direction.

I think him and I could use a break from each other... but I dont want it to be over for good. He means entirely too much to me for that... he has a lot of healing to do... and quite a bit of fears he needs to work through... i just wanted to know if on his own it was possible we'd get back together...

I ended it the same way. I was afraid and uncertain and didn't want to get more hurt. I also mentioned it two other times prior hoping to see some change. Instead it scared him off. I think you scared him. Hope it wasn't too much this time and he does come back. You need to figure out how to make him feel special and unconditionally loved if you want another chance with him. But for now, I think space is your best friend and he will miss you enough to want to try it out again.

Thank you for your insight ❤ Im sure he was afraid but it's my hope that with time he will realize the fear isnt worth losing something so special... which will help him to overcome the fear. One thing i am certain of is that he truly knows that I think he is the most amazing man and love him very dearly... I certainly demonstrated that...

I hope so! These guys seem more logically driven than emotionally driven. That makes everything harder!

For the most part they are. The emotions are there, just logic overrides them.

See you're half way there to understanding them 😉

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I'm making progress! Feels good, but I'd still like to learn more.