CancerLeoDynamite
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Is this Cap retarded or was this a game?
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I'm sorryyyy! 😢
Just ignore him. What are you going to get if you figure it out. He just lacks character, you understood that much before its too late. Think of it all as a bad dream.
Do things to cheer yourself up! 🙂
Just ignore him. What are you going to get if you figure it out. He just lacks character, you understood that much before its too late. Think of it all as a bad dream.
Do things to cheer yourself up! 🙂
Posted by RumiLIM sooo ocd though, like I have to know!! even if the answer only brings me pain haha,
I'm sorryyyy! 😢
Just ignore him. What are you going to get if you figure it out. He just lacks character, you understood that much before its too late. Think of it all as a bad dream.
Do things to cheer yourself up! 🙂
its like picking at a wound or something
I know im my own worst enemy sometimes.
I love my flowers though and I bought myself some lovely herb and made a nice tea.
Thank god I was with my best friend during that call, she immediately smoked me a joint and got me a beer and let me vent.
shes a cap btw
LOVE HER TO DEATH
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
Posted by truecapNope, I told him the first time he hurt my feelkings with tmi id rather not know the details. That if we were to ciontinue seeing other people that was fine by me but I didnt want it thrown in my face.
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
It was totally unecessary of him to be so blunt
Keep in mind he was NOT ending things with me, he wants to keep seeing me, he thought I would wait around for a few weeks til this chick tires of him>
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was needed
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was needed
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteAnd women wonder why men aren't honest with them...Posted by truecapNope, I told him the first time he hurt my feelkings with tmi id rather not know the details. That if we were to ciontinue seeing other people that was fine by me but I didnt want it thrown in my face.
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
It was totally unecessary of him to be so bluntclick to expand
Yes, he was harsh, but he was quite upfront with where he stood. Sure, it hurt you, but you've got to respect he was 100% honest.
My biggest issue is that they lack so much integrity with what they did, he betrayed a friend to sleep with some broad, ew.
Posted by truecapI do appreciate cap bluntness, but his honesty was about the fact that he is a piece of shit, lets not lose sight of that.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteAnd women wonder why men aren't honest with them...Posted by truecapNope, I told him the first time he hurt my feelkings with tmi id rather not know the details. That if we were to ciontinue seeing other people that was fine by me but I didnt want it thrown in my face.
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
It was totally unecessary of him to be so blunt
Yes, he was harsh, but he was quite upfront with where he stood. Sure, it hurt you, but you've got to respect he was 100% honest.click to expand
Its great that hes being honest about it, but hes still being a piece of shit.
I just wanna know what the fuuuuuck
why would a person choose a chick that doesnt want him
did he genuinely think I had such low self esteem id tolerate any of this?
LOL
wtf
just wtf
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHe was honest. He didn't game you, lie to you or string you along. He let you know exactly what the situation was. He gave you a choice to stay or go. Most men wouldn't be so upfront.
Keep in mind he was NOT ending things with me, he wants to keep seeing me, he thought I would wait around for a few weeks til this chick tires of him>
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was needed
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHey hun. He IS a piece on shit. At least you know how much of one and won't waste your time anymore. It's a good thing. You dodged a bulletPosted by truecapI do appreciate cap bluntness, but his honesty was about the fact that he is a piece of shit, lets not lose sight of that.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteAnd women wonder why men aren't honest with them...Posted by truecapNope, I told him the first time he hurt my feelkings with tmi id rather not know the details. That if we were to ciontinue seeing other people that was fine by me but I didnt want it thrown in my face.
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
It was totally unecessary of him to be so blunt
Yes, he was harsh, but he was quite upfront with where he stood. Sure, it hurt you, but you've got to respect he was 100% honest.
Its great that hes being honest about it, but hes still being a piece of shit.
I just wanna know what the fuuuuuck
why would a person choose a chick that doesnt want him
did he genuinely think I had such low self esteem id tolerate any of this?
LOL
wtf
just wtfclick to expand
Posted by truecapI dont think you get what my issue here is.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHe was honest. He didn't game you, lie to you or string you along. He let you know exactly what the situation was. He gave you a choice to stay or go. Most men wouldn't be so upfront.
Keep in mind he was NOT ending things with me, he wants to keep seeing me, he thought I would wait around for a few weeks til this chick tires of him>
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was neededclick to expand
I already knew what was up
I know the rules of fwb
I didnt need him calling to remind me the details
Thats rude, and disrespectful and unnecessary..
We were both seeing other people, this was never a secret.
He didnt need to reiterate it, after I asked him not to give me details about his other lovers.
I didnt need to hear any of that.
it is a good thing and I did dodge a bullet.
my mind is cancering this all up out of proportion right now
I reallllly liked him
ugh
my mind is cancering this all up out of proportion right now
I reallllly liked him
ugh
Posted by dewiklaessen1991I agree with the sentiment, I really do, but I suck at moving on. I know I WILL but its not as fast as normal people
I would not even break a sweat move on their are many fish in the sea
I am actually proud of myself for walking away immediately from this, because believe me in the past I would not have.
Posted by SuperMercurial
Lol capricorns are jerks. Ive never met one that isn't. Its both. He's dumb thats why he's playing a game. A very mean game.
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lol
i was thinking that too like oh man its probably a dumb and mean game>
i cant hate caps tho my bff is a cap and her blunt side is my fave
even this cap guy, I still like everything else about him, really sucks he turned out to lack integrity like that :/
my bff cap would never ever do anything gross like that so i dont think thats a cap thing
I fucking hate dating, it is not for thin skinned sensitive girls like me 😢
Posted by Arielle83yah Im not gonna be this guys back burner anything
Can't you just laugh about it?
I mean he was used by some weak minded woman who would rather have the reputation, as someone who cheated, to end a relationship instead of breaking up using communication instead of dicks.
You're just upset he picked her to unleash his blue balls. She was easy cuz she was gonna bang anyone cuz her priority was to end her relationship.
Essentially you're a victim of circumstance.
You need to find an exclusive friend you can unleash your rough sex on.
Cuz this back burner bs is annoying cuz it will take away your desire.
truly it is his loss cause she did use him and she will lose interest and my pride is hurt beyond belief hed ask her out, shed say no and hed STILL be hung up on her.
mind boggled, and insulted.
OUCH
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteThat's the biggest red flag here. If he treats his friends this way what kinda hell awaits a SO?
My biggest issue is that they lack so much integrity with what they did, he betrayed a friend to sleep with some broad, ew.
Be glad you dodged that sizable bullet!
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteMy suggestion to you is not to do FWB anymore. I don't think you're cut out for it.
I fucking hate dating, it is not for thin skinned sensitive girls like me 😢
Date and wait for sex in the future.
Posted by Arielle83lol^
As a cancer, I honestly never dated. It's not something we're good at. We are good at cooking and fucking. So we are natural gfs/wives etcetera.
Fwb will only work with someone you're real close to and can trust. Don't bother with internet shit because you will get disappointed.
Also, as a single cancer, all I wanted was someone to unleash my freaky side. I'm guessing that's what you're doing. You also need to trust them before you become vulnerable.
Meet someone into that arrangement and maybe outside of ur circle.
I always used to have this fantasy that I'd hook up with some nerd I met in a bookstore and he'd be some closet, unassuming freak.
truth
id love a sexy book store nerd bf for life.
I am not cut out for casual dating
Your pride it's hurt but if he come back to you ..you will take him back .So let the drama, lady queen si and think..you have another relation but you are offended by his honesty..Yeapp.You are dreamming about his choice that he will came to you and he will choose you....Your pride or naivety don't let you to see the truth..But I put the money to pride..
Posted by truecapI'm not youre right but I really want to be.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteMy suggestion to you is not to do FWB anymore. I don't think you're cut out for it.
I fucking hate dating, it is not for thin skinned sensitive girls like me 😢
Date and wait for sex in the future.click to expand
I hope if I just practise ill get better.,
This was my first time trying it out.
I had a lot of fun, and now im hurt.
But I could just as easily have gotten together with him and been hurt some other way so idunno.
I want to see the positive spin on this.
and not feel like I wasted my time.
if I stayed with him id def be wasting my time but I think Im really happy with myself for getting out there and doing somethin I always wanted to try and was too scared to.
Posted by Arkihuh?
Your pride it's hurt but if he come back to you ..you will take him back .So let the drama, lady queen si and think..you have another relation but you are offended by his honesty..Yeapp.You are dreamming about his choice that he will came to you and he will choose you....Your pride or naivety don't let you to see the truth..But I put the money to pride..
Posted by LadyNeptuneagreed!Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteThat's the biggest red flag here. If he treats his friends this way what kinda hell awaits a SO?
My biggest issue is that they lack so much integrity with what they did, he betrayed a friend to sleep with some broad, ew.
Be glad you dodged that sizable bullet!click to expand
I could have forgiven thge back burner thing, because as pointed out he was being honest
but to betray a friend, forsome pussy is vile and i wont have anything to do with someone who would do that.
period.
As a fellow Cap, it's a form of using...for me (or other Caps that can relate) we like to put people in the backburner that we know that likes us...it's sick and insane how we somewhat chase those that we acknowledge that they do not like us....we're insecure assholes. Ignore him
he emailed me and said
I called because you had sent me a few messages, I hadn't gotten back to you, and thought I'd just call you instead of writing a big, long email, and just to chat. I didn't call you to tell you about me and her, it was kind of an after thought, mostly, I told you to let you know why you couldn't come over when you asked to, and to let you know why I had been busy and hadn't gotten back to you sooner. I wasn't trying to hurt you, it didn't even occur to me that would bother you. I guess you were more emotionally involved then I thought you were.
, we hadn't had sex before Saturday. To me we have always been open about who we are fucking, why wouldn't I tell you?
I'm sorry I hurt your feelings, we had some good times together.
I replied drunk and angrily with
lol there is no you and her you moron and there never will be in 3 weeks you'll be on her back baaaack burner feeling like a chump because you won't have either of us.
We did have good times together, we are really really compatible and a you and me would have been amazing but you're too dumb to have kept it.
Who the fuck tells a chick she's going to be put on a backburner?
it's not even the concept of it, I was fine with sharing you (when it wasnt thrown in my face) but to be VERBALLY TOLD I AM SECOND BEST??
and to some vile cheating whore with no integrity at all?
fuck you
I'd NEVER cheat on a partner and especially not as a way to break up with them, and ESPECIALLY NOT WITH HIS FRIEND.
You're both pieces of shit, I am way way too good for you, I have way way more integrity and morals than you obv and far too much self respect to remain with someone who would be so fucking rude as to TELL ME I am on the back burner.
excuse me?
No. I'm no ones back burner bitch.;
not now, not ever.
ugh so embarrassing, I just look like a butthurt maniac now.
I called because you had sent me a few messages, I hadn't gotten back to you, and thought I'd just call you instead of writing a big, long email, and just to chat. I didn't call you to tell you about me and her, it was kind of an after thought, mostly, I told you to let you know why you couldn't come over when you asked to, and to let you know why I had been busy and hadn't gotten back to you sooner. I wasn't trying to hurt you, it didn't even occur to me that would bother you. I guess you were more emotionally involved then I thought you were.
, we hadn't had sex before Saturday. To me we have always been open about who we are fucking, why wouldn't I tell you?
I'm sorry I hurt your feelings, we had some good times together.
I replied drunk and angrily with
lol there is no you and her you moron and there never will be in 3 weeks you'll be on her back baaaack burner feeling like a chump because you won't have either of us.
We did have good times together, we are really really compatible and a you and me would have been amazing but you're too dumb to have kept it.
Who the fuck tells a chick she's going to be put on a backburner?
it's not even the concept of it, I was fine with sharing you (when it wasnt thrown in my face) but to be VERBALLY TOLD I AM SECOND BEST??
and to some vile cheating whore with no integrity at all?
fuck you
I'd NEVER cheat on a partner and especially not as a way to break up with them, and ESPECIALLY NOT WITH HIS FRIEND.
You're both pieces of shit, I am way way too good for you, I have way way more integrity and morals than you obv and far too much self respect to remain with someone who would be so fucking rude as to TELL ME I am on the back burner.
excuse me?
No. I'm no ones back burner bitch.;
not now, not ever.
ugh so embarrassing, I just look like a butthurt maniac now.
Sorry to hear things ended this way. As mentioned, at least he was honest and didn't try to string you along. Maybe he sensed you were falling for him, and wanted to make things "clear". As for how the hell he could betray his friend..idk, but my Cap can hold a grudge for a looong time. You never know what happened between them or their history.
Be thankful you're not wasting more time with him. Caps imo, rarely become serious about a fwb. Even if they do, it seems to take a lot of work on their partner's side.
Be thankful you're not wasting more time with him. Caps imo, rarely become serious about a fwb. Even if they do, it seems to take a lot of work on their partner's side.
Posted by jerseycapricornyeah this is all some crazy insecure game crap
As a fellow Cap, it's a form of using...for me (or other Caps that can relate) we like to put people in the backburner that we know that likes us...it's sick and insane how we somewhat chase those that we acknowledge that they do not like us....we're insecure assholes. Ignore him
I feel bad for him, chasing dreams and fantasies .
Pathetic
Posted by SunMoonStarsHe was falling for me, it was really obvious from the way hed look at me and touch me and all the time he spent on me, my bff saw us together and thought so too (she is also a cap)
Sorry to hear things ended this way. As mentioned, at least he was honest and didn't try to string you along. Maybe he sensed you were falling for him, and wanted to make things "clear". As for how the hell he could betray his friend..idk, but my Cap can hold a grudge for a looong time. You never know what happened between them or their history.
Be thankful you're not wasting more time with him. Caps imo, rarely become serious about a fwb. Even if they do, it seems to take a lot of work on their partner's side.
this came out of left field,
when this chick hed been fantasizing about for the last year decided to use him to break up with her bf.
seriously he is incredibly dumb, he fucked up. He did reallly like me but he was betting on the fact that because I enjoy sex where I submit to him, that id tolerate this shit.
I wont
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteinteresting, he wants to focus more on the other girl and keep you on the back burner haha, wow, talk about keeping his options open
I know absolutely zero about male caps so I am coming to you from the dark, also try to keep in mind I ama n emo cancerleo bastard, and overall fairly inexperienced with the dating world.
Soo a few days ago I posted a thread about a cap guy I'm seeing and the general response was "wow he realllllly likes you'
I get an email the other day from him asking me to turn my phone on so he can call me but I was busy so I just waited to call him from my gf's house a few hours later. I figured he wanted to chat, or ask me over or something.
Anyway long story short he ends up telling me he finally slept with this chick Danielle he has liked for ages, I knew that already, by putting two and two together, no big deal so what? well, the clincher is this broad had a boyfriend, who is HIS FRIEND and she used this as an excuse to break up with him..
MY cap has had feelings for this chick for ages, and asked her to be in a relationship with him, she said no, not evenan open one she ws NOT interested in that with him.
Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner'
to make an already long story short he got quite a mouthfull from me about how I will never be anyones back burner anything, and he was a chump who would never get her and just lost me and probably his friend too.
I don't associate myself with people who lack integrity and cheat and betray friends so that's over and done for me.
I am BROKEN HEARTED
in typical cancer fashion
I bought myself flowers and I know ill get over it
BUT just feel some need for clarification.
wtf was that?
Seriously he was sooooo into me, and he's willing to disrespect that for woman who doesnt want him?
Is he retarded or is this a game?
wtf?
don't settle for being that, an option
he will use you and play it off as being honest and open
now you know
Posted by aquapiscescuspwhat I dont get is I went into this all hey lets jus be casual fwb who sleep with other people and arent seriousPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteinteresting, he wants to focus more on the other girl and keep you on the back burner haha, wow, talk about keeping his options open
I know absolutely zero about male caps so I am coming to you from the dark, also try to keep in mind I ama n emo cancerleo bastard, and overall fairly inexperienced with the dating world.
Soo a few days ago I posted a thread about a cap guy I'm seeing and the general response was "wow he realllllly likes you'
I get an email the other day from him asking me to turn my phone on so he can call me but I was busy so I just waited to call him from my gf's house a few hours later. I figured he wanted to chat, or ask me over or something.
Anyway long story short he ends up telling me he finally slept with this chick Danielle he has liked for ages, I knew that already, by putting two and two together, no big deal so what? well, the clincher is this broad had a boyfriend, who is HIS FRIEND and she used this as an excuse to break up with him..
MY cap has had feelings for this chick for ages, and asked her to be in a relationship with him, she said no, not evenan open one she ws NOT interested in that with him.
Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner'
to make an already long story short he got quite a mouthfull from me about how I will never be anyones back burner anything, and he was a chump who would never get her and just lost me and probably his friend too.
I don't associate myself with people who lack integrity and cheat and betray friends so that's over and done for me.
I am BROKEN HEARTED
in typical cancer fashion
I bought myself flowers and I know ill get over it
BUT just feel some need for clarification.
wtf was that?
Seriously he was sooooo into me, and he's willing to disrespect that for woman who doesnt want him?
Is he retarded or is this a game?
wtf?
don't settle for being that, an option
he will use you and play it off as being honest and open
now you know
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but he started treating me like a girlfriend, and acting like he was falling for me and reallllllly into me so I started to let myself like him.
in our email corrospondance he claims not to have even known I had strong feelings, so trust me when I say I didnt scare him off or anything
he simply just doesnt fancyme as much as I thought
why act like he did tho. he d
continued^
why act like he did tho. he didnt need to
oh well it doesnt matter now does it
why act like he did tho. he didnt need to
oh well it doesnt matter now does it
I know, I can lie so well that nobody can tell. In fact I've been lying to everyone the entire time about who I am. I'm actually a horse with wheels for feet and has a platinum grill.
Girrll, don't let that douche play you for a fool. Cancer's are good at shelling up and it's time to do that and walk away from that idiot. Any man who will tell some woman that he expressed interest in, vice versa, that he's off fucking some other chick - does not respect you. Life is too short to sleep with people who have zero interest in you as a person. Being Capricorn has nothing to do with anything - he's an insecure mental midget. If he's into a chick who sleeps with another man while in a relationship just to end that relationship - that speaks volumes as to what kind of piece of shit he is. You're selling yourself short.
PS: FWB doesn't work. I'm a Pisces/Leo Asc with earth/fire placements - Somebody always gets the feels and it's never mutual. Lols
My BFF is a Capricorn too 🙂 She's my sister from another mister 15 years now!
PS: FWB doesn't work. I'm a Pisces/Leo Asc with earth/fire placements - Somebody always gets the feels and it's never mutual. Lols
My BFF is a Capricorn too 🙂 She's my sister from another mister 15 years now!
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh boy. I feel you and went through a similar situation. He's a retard. Sometimes I feel Capricorns get caught up in things that aren't good for them out of fear.
I know absolutely zero about male caps so I am coming to you from the dark, also try to keep in mind I ama n emo cancerleo bastard, and overall fairly inexperienced with the dating world.
Soo a few days ago I posted a thread about a cap guy I'm seeing and the general response was "wow he realllllly likes you'
I get an email the other day from him asking me to turn my phone on so he can call me but I was busy so I just waited to call him from my gf's house a few hours later. I figured he wanted to chat, or ask me over or something.
Anyway long story short he ends up telling me he finally slept with this chick Danielle he has liked for ages, I knew that already, by putting two and two together, no big deal so what? well, the clincher is this broad had a boyfriend, who is HIS FRIEND and she used this as an excuse to break up with him..
MY cap has had feelings for this chick for ages, and asked her to be in a relationship with him, she said no, not evenan open one she ws NOT interested in that with him.
Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner'
to make an already long story short he got quite a mouthfull from me about how I will never be anyones back burner anything, and he was a chump who would never get her and just lost me and probably his friend too.
I don't associate myself with people who lack integrity and cheat and betray friends so that's over and done for me.
I am BROKEN HEARTED
in typical cancer fashion
I bought myself flowers and I know ill get over it
BUT just feel some need for clarification.
wtf was that?
Seriously he was sooooo into me, and he's willing to disrespect that for woman who doesnt want him?
Is he retarded or is this a game?
wtf?
1. Caps: Holding others to their expectations. Sometimes they ignore reality because they really want something to go the way that it is in their minds. When they expect someone to do or say something, they can ignore what they are really doing... and that this won't change. They need to see things as they really are more often.
2. Caps: When they aren't in touch with their true selves and emotional needs, they are attracted to total losers. Here are the types they fall for most often, but should never give the time of day to... aka, stay away from them, you deserve better!
* Unavailable. This person is unavailable, literally (already in a relationship or long distance or physically not able to be fully in the relationship)
I read your other thread and thought about responding, but didn't want to transpose my experience onto your situation.. But then I read this thread, so fuck it.
His previous actions towards you scream Misplaced Intimacy to me. I went through something similar with the Scorp I dated awhile back. He was going through a divorce/freshly divorced and in no way, shape or form able to emotionally invest in another person (i.e. Me). I think on some level he realized it, but kept trying and over compensating. Needless to say it didn't exactly end well.
IME anytime a guy moves *that* fast, it's usually because he's running - not pursuing.
His previous actions towards you scream Misplaced Intimacy to me. I went through something similar with the Scorp I dated awhile back. He was going through a divorce/freshly divorced and in no way, shape or form able to emotionally invest in another person (i.e. Me). I think on some level he realized it, but kept trying and over compensating. Needless to say it didn't exactly end well.
IME anytime a guy moves *that* fast, it's usually because he's running - not pursuing.
Posted by sweetmaree88me and my bff going strong 28 years now hahaha
Girrll, don't let that douche play you for a fool. Cancer's are good at shelling up and it's time to do that and walk away from that idiot. Any man who will tell some woman that he expressed interest in, vice versa, that he's off fucking some other chick - does not respect you. Life is too short to sleep with people who have zero interest in you as a person. Being Capricorn has nothing to do with anything - he's an insecure mental midget. If he's into a chick who sleeps with another man while in a relationship just to end that relationship - that speaks volumes as to what kind of piece of shit he is. You're selling yourself short.
PS: FWB doesn't work. I'm a Pisces/Leo Asc with earth/fire placements - Somebody always gets the feels and it's never mutual. Lols
My BFF is a Capricorn too 🙂 She's my sister from another mister 15 years now!
Posted by AndalusiaThat makes a lot of sense.
I read your other thread and thought about responding, but didn't want to transpose my experience onto your situation.. But then I read this thread, so fuck it.
His previous actions towards you scream Misplaced Intimacy to me. I went through something similar with the Scorp I dated awhile back. He was going through a divorce/freshly divorced and in no way, shape or form able to emotionally invest in another person (i.e. Me). I think on some level he realized it, but kept trying and over compensating. Needless to say it didn't exactly end well.
IME anytime a guy moves *that* fast, it's usually because he's running - not pursuing.
and being introspective and honest with myself, I was doing the same.
im not mad any more.
Just a little sad and nostalgic.
I was enjoying him a lot and not at all ready for anything serious , I was genuinely enjoying the fwb thing, yes even the part where I probably liked him more than he liked me
but finding out about his lack of integrity ruined everything for me. Just the way he said it, and the details surrounding it.
yuck.
a possibly relevant detail i should have mentioned is several years ago he tried to chat me up, and we talked about the possibility of a relationship etc but at that time I decided he wasnt really what I was looking for and we lost touch>
Fast forward a few years later, and he messages me again not realizing im the same girl.
when we met irl, and were hitting it off I let him know that was me.
I have gained a lot of weight since then (I am completely up front and use recent photos) but he didn't recognise me because of that
immediately after mentioning it he got pretty blunt/mean about my weight.
tbh I laughed it off seeing it for the insecurity on his part that it was, but now Im thinking he played me from the start as some weird revenge thing.
or maybe im a paranoid freak
whatever
I guess I can see how it would blow his ego that I wasnt interested in him until I got fat, but im well on my way to being fit again why the fuck should he have me at my best if he wont have me at my worst?
btw he is NOT fit either, I had hoped we'd get super fit and hot together as a team.
WHATEVER
whatever
I joke about ocd but I actually legit do have an ocd diagnoses, it makes it really hard not to ruminate/obsess about unhealthy shit I should NOT be thinking about.
Posted by Finbuffhaha oh replacing him will be easy I know that, but I am a loyal person so it will take me a while to disengage from the hurt and want to try again.
CLD, 1st of all, it's typical for any man to chase what he thinks is the bigger challenge. It's also normal to be totally secure in FWB if that's what you had defined. The thing you learn over time is, it's relatively impossible to have sex with someone and not become emotionally attached. Some guys can do it, but even most guys can't detach the sex from the emotional. I know I can't. I'd say about 98% of women aren't going to have sex and not realize they will fall for a guy eventually. Consider it a life lesson.
The dumb part was him telling you about the other person, but that email kind of illustrates the fact he isn't the brightest bulb in the box. Like others have said, consider this a "bullet dodged". I personally don't think Cancers and Caps are the best match so in the long run this could have ended in some other way that wouldn't have been any better. Hang in there. I doubt you'll have much trouble replacing him once you forget the damaged pride.
He is not a very smart man, he has actual brain damage (not joking)
I liked that about him lol
My last bf was an aqua with a genius IQ. I am so over that
@elle77
' Sometimes I feel Capricorns get caught up in things that aren't good for them out of fear. '
yah we all do. Its true for all of us unfortunately.
' Sometimes I feel Capricorns get caught up in things that aren't good for them out of fear. '
yah we all do. Its true for all of us unfortunately.
Posted by Damouswell duh but she doesnt want him, so verbalizing it to me was pretty dumb of hm, because in a few weeks time he wont have either of us, or his friend.
He wants the other woman more, obviously.
"Seriously he was sooooo into me"
"Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner' "
^^ Ouch! Sorry you're hurt and hopefully you get over it quickly.
In a fwb situation, this will happen bcuz fwb is meant to be temporary. He was waiting for his opportunity for the one he really wanted, and now that it's finally happened he's going to go after her..even if she declined him.
He treated you well while you were together and he was completely honest with you in the end, evenus if you didnt want to hear the details. You both understood the fwb situation.
I know you started to really like him, but good for you not playing the 2nd fiddle.
"Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner' "
^^ Ouch! Sorry you're hurt and hopefully you get over it quickly.
In a fwb situation, this will happen bcuz fwb is meant to be temporary. He was waiting for his opportunity for the one he really wanted, and now that it's finally happened he's going to go after her..even if she declined him.
He treated you well while you were together and he was completely honest with you in the end, evenus if you didnt want to hear the details. You both understood the fwb situation.
I know you started to really like him, but good for you not playing the 2nd fiddle.
Posted by Damousk well thats really childish, and this guy is 35 soooo.. Really just pathetic of him.
And it doesn't matter much if they don't care back. More of a conquest. Even if you can enchant for her a day.
he didnt lose his virginity until he was 23.
clearly hes just gonna let that direct who he is for the rest of his life as some lame compensation for those years of rejection.
Posted by GreenteaIts not really the second fiddle aspect, of course thats gonna happen in fwb situation,
"Seriously he was sooooo into me"
"Furthermore, to add insult to injury he went out of his way to tell me, on the phone that he would be 'focusing a lot' on this slut of a girl, and I'd be 'more on the backburner' "
^^ Ouch! Sorry you're hurt and hopefully you get over it quickly.
In a fwb situation, this will happen bcuz fwb is meant to be temporary. He was waiting for his opportunity for the one he really wanted, and now that it's finally happened he's going to go after her..even if she declined him.
He treated you well while you were together and he was completely honest with you in the end, evenus if you didnt want to hear the details. You both understood the fwb situation.
I know you started to really like him, but good for you not playing the 2nd fiddle.
There were men I liked more than cap at times,
It was the rudeness of verbalizing it like that
to let me know.. like what?
just be busy and come back in a few weeks, im not stupid, I know why, just go do it.
Idunno hatever im of the belief he is simply too blunt/dumb for his own good.
The MAIN issue is that he has no integrity to betray his friend/sleep with a taken girl.
the back burner thing is more an issue of.. fwb etiquette of which we simply weren't on the same page.
I could have gotten over that.
I really want to be the sort of girl who is okay with something good not necessarily going anywhere.
Yes the Cap is retarded!
Posted by LibraLovesHimlol
Yes the Cap is retarded!
sometimes the simplest answer is the best
Posted by Ktayl117haha yah its toolate I was prettymean and irrationalPosted by truecapI apparently know way to much about cap men and it's disturbing. So I'll try to paraphrase. This isn't out of the ordinary at all for younger caps and she is totally right. 1) If he has liked her forever, he doesn't care. Literally, he will not care about how you or his friend feels. He's wanted this and waited for it for a very long time. Trust me, when I say he'll go after it 100% even if that means he may regret it later. 2) Undeveloped cap men (and probably even developed cap men) tend to have a thing for crazy girls. So if she's nuts that's great, that makes her way more appealing to him. Eventually, they grow up and start going for good girls and stop having a thing for the crazies. This takes awhile? ...I wouldn't wait around for it, is what I'm saying.
Women say they want honesty, but when they get it, they don't like it. Prime example.
Appreciate his honesty and move on.
Basically, this means for you to sort of suck it up and move on. At least for a while. And if you ever want to hear from him again, I would try and handle the situation gracefully... eh, this part might not matter so much. If he likes you enough, he'll eventually rationalize your reaction, whatever it may have been/be. Cap men can surprisingly take a lot?
I mean, it's shitty. Still, I betcha he isn't as great as you think he is in your head. Go date a Virgo and you'll feel better. That worked for me.click to expand
thing is he DOES like crazy girls and I am a crazy girl lol but he liked this girl a long time
hey I get it i really do, Im even happy for him he gets to finally have her and get it out of his system
I figured it worked in my favour in the longrun
i just didnt like him throwing it in my face
and i realllly didnt like finding out she had a bf, who is his friend.
its true hes not all that great
or I shoiuld say he is great aside from the shitty integrity thing, his looks/sense of humour/all that stuff was fantastic, but I can find it again easily.
shrug
this may sound like a lame ego stroke but truthfully, he won't replace me so easily.
sucks to be him,
Told you.
Don't let the delusional fucks here feed you fairy tales, dear. They don't have the motto of "I use" for no reason.
Don't let the delusional fucks here feed you fairy tales, dear. They don't have the motto of "I use" for no reason.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteI bet he knew you were catching feelings. You were here admitting it.Posted by truecapI dont think you get what my issue here is.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHe was honest. He didn't game you, lie to you or string you along. He let you know exactly what the situation was. He gave you a choice to stay or go. Most men wouldn't be so upfront.
Keep in mind he was NOT ending things with me, he wants to keep seeing me, he thought I would wait around for a few weeks til this chick tires of him>
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was needed
I already knew what was up
I know the rules of fwb
I didnt need him calling to remind me the details
Thats rude, and disrespectful and unnecessary..
We were both seeing other people, this was never a secret.
He didnt need to reiterate it, after I asked him not to give me details about his other lovers.
I didnt need to hear any of that.click to expand
I wouldn't be surprised if he pulled this shit to get you to back off/go away.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamI doubt it, he seemed completely clueless about the fact that I had feelings. I was really chill about everything.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteI bet he knew you were catching feelings. You were here admitting it.Posted by truecapI dont think you get what my issue here is.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHe was honest. He didn't game you, lie to you or string you along. He let you know exactly what the situation was. He gave you a choice to stay or go. Most men wouldn't be so upfront.
Keep in mind he was NOT ending things with me, he wants to keep seeing me, he thought I would wait around for a few weeks til this chick tires of him>
I mean I would have if he hadnt verbalised it in such a rude and disrespectful way, he is not the only person I am seeing either, but "i'm busy' is all that was needed
I already knew what was up
I know the rules of fwb
I didnt need him calling to remind me the details
Thats rude, and disrespectful and unnecessary..
We were both seeing other people, this was never a secret.
He didnt need to reiterate it, after I asked him not to give me details about his other lovers.
I didnt need to hear any of that.
I wouldn't be surprised if he pulled this shit to get you to back off/go away.click to expand
genuinely he just liked this girl for a long long time and she finally became available.
simple as that
I'd have done the same
it was never meant to hurt me or push me away but it did.
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I bought myself flowers and I know ill get over it
BUT just feel some need for clarification.
wtf was that?
Seriously he was sooooo into me, and he's willing to disrespect that for woman who doesnt want him?
Is he retarded or is this a game?
wtf?