Is this normal?

I just had a question regarding Cappys.

I've know this Capricorn guy for a few years. I wouldn't say we were friends or anything of that means, he just knew some of the same people I know. Every-time we all hung out he didn't talk much, I even tried to engage in conversation but he never seemed to want to talk. I honestly thought he just didn't really care for me.

Anyhow, I moved away from home about two years ago and all of sudden I received a message via FB about 3 weeks ago. He told me he was coming to the city I lived in to visit some friends and asked if I could provide him with some things to do etc... I of course replied back gave him a few recommendations etc.. then he asked if I would go out with him one day he was in town. I agreed, but didn't think too much of it; however as the weeks have progressed to his arrival he started texting, calling and flirting with me and I'll just say he has made it very apparent that he does not see me as just a friend. He asked me to not only see him that one day I agreed to, but to also stay the weekend with him and his close friends he is visiting and then asked if I would go with him to see his cousin.

Initially, I thought he was just being nice and wanted the company etc... I mean the guy never even talked to me when we were among our same group of friends,plus we don't even live in the same city. But he asked me to go visit him in July so we could go out on the boat and I could me his brother and sister-in-law and nephews. I should also probably state that he will not be coming to visit his friends etc.. until this weekend. So, I am a little taken back at how he is wanting to make plans for me to meet his brother etc...

I mean my ex was also a Capricorn born Jan 2 and it took us forever to meet friends and family like almost a whole year and he was pretty shy, quiet and reserved. This guys birthday is 1/14 and is planning things when we haven't even actually hung out on a one-on-one level, so I am pretty confused. Could it be age? My ex was 30 and this guy is 37. However my ex was the first cap I ever dated and he cheated on me and lied to me, so I don't have a very good history with Capricorns.

So what I am wanting to know is: Is this guys behavior normal? Meaning to plan so far in advance and ask me to meet his brother (who I know he is extremely close to) when we have not even hung out? How would I be able to determine if he wanting something serious or a short summer time fling. Any advi

I'm not really sure, I mean I think he is nice and extremely attractive, but if all he wants is a fling I definitely want to be sure I keep myself emotionally distant. I don't really have to give 100% like I did last time and get hurt. I mean my ex and I were together for 2y, looking to move together, saying I love you etc... and he had another girlfriend the entire time doing the same crap, so in my mind Capricorns are really good at lying and manipulating situations, so I if its just a fling I want my emotions out of the situation. I definitely could see a relationship with the new guy though, we get along very well and I am very attractive to him

I wouldn't think too much of it. He's either really interested (may have had a crush on you and too shy to talk to you) or you're someone he knows in the area and thinks it would be fun to hang out. Go and have a good time. Get to know him.

One thing you should NOT do is have sex with him. Don't be a vacation hook up. He won't respect you if you do.

*Shushes male caps*

The infamous trolling for women in my past online to get some ass because she's already comfortable with the fact that she knows me so she's an easier target to get sex from. I hope he's not doing that but the possibility is strong he is. Very negative outlook I know but I hear so many emotionally drained stories about women getting played this way and it sucks.

Do not see a relationship with him (yet). Don't get that far ahead of yourself, get to know him first.

If I were you I would not meet anyone in his family because you can slip into being comfortable with him so comfortable you'll dropping those panties. If you meet up with him, have a light lunch, no alcohol, no sex and do something light and quick to gauge the situation before deciding to have dinner. Go really slow, go into it with no expectations, keep it light and friendly.

Yes planning ahead is a key Capi trait they can envision the future many times. I used to kinda do it. I learned not to he obviously is comfortable with you now. Cappy's don't waste their time with people they don't like. Unless this guy is lame and can't get a woman that's the only explanation of why he would do this rather early.

Thanks for the comments. I probably should add that I found it a little weird that he had not booked his flight or hotel etc.. until I confirmed I'd that I would hang out, and the one day I initially agreed to ended up turning into 4days of us hanging out and traveling to another city. Thats kinda why I am a little confused, because my ex took forever to ask me to even spend an entire weekend with him. And I am not going to lie and say that I was not thinking about sleeping with him, I mean I haven't had sex in forever and he is extremely attractive and I enjoy talking to him, however he was not aware of my intentions. So I guess sex would be a no no huh? Plus I mean the guy is already planning for me to go visit the following week he is my city, I'm not sure why he would do that if he just wanted to see if he could sleep with me. Why not try when I actually lived in the same city as him? He is just throwing me curve balls left and right, because in my opinion he doesn't really act like a cautious,slow Capricorn.

Not all Caps are slow. for example my Cap cousin has fire in his chart, very social, and has a huge female fan following, charming, attractive etc women love him. He usually moves quick, he's financially well off so he is not against controlling how things are going to go, he plans and he pays but the negative is he dumps em just as fast, not a great quality to have but he swears he's open for a real relationship but his behavior contradicts that.

Something feels not quite right. Commitmentphobic men typically chase a woman hard, it's the love of conquest, they go all out, pull out all the stops complete with bells and whistles.

Time will tell if he's the real deal or not. If you want to have sex then have sex but don't expect a relationship b/c of it.

Yeah exactly his chart isn't pure Capricorn. Not all Caps are slow every situation is different. He waited on you to yes before he booked the hotel BC he doesn't want to waste his MONEY. I don't think it's clear enough he's wooing you just to sleep with you but this is obvious especially with Capricorn's we will charm you with material

Yes we will seduce with social status and what we can provide for you financially and security wise. Caps are smart with who they associate with we aren't social butterfly's but when we do meet people are intentions are usually good.

Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

Posted by truecap
I wouldn't think too much of it. He's either really interested (may have had a crush on you and too shy to talk to you) or you're someone he knows in the area and thinks it would be fun to hang out. Go and have a good time. Get to know him.

One thing you should NOT do is have sex with him. Don't be a vacation hook up. He won't respect you if you do.

*Shushes male caps*

+++1

Have fun, keep us posted 🙂

Posted by WWRunner88
Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

Have yall already had sex?

Sounds like it. We have sex...Sounds recent or present tense. Damn I'm being nosy.

Posted by WWRunner88
Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

I have Cap Sun Sag Ascendant and Virgo moon woo hoo.

Posted by frostey91
Sounds like it. We have sex...Sounds recent or present tense. Damn I'm being nosy.

She starts out as if this visit was going to occur in the future, but then it sounds like it's already happened, now as you said she states "we have sex".

I'm confused on the timeline of everything. Appears she wanted advice on something that has already happened and now is confused on what his thoughts are.

OP, please verify.

Just curious if they were FWB in the past....or had sex on his trip to her city....or haven't met up yet. It matters if she wants good insight.

Good question I'm with you the original indicated no sex at all. Even if it was a mistake it would've been had instead of have which still equates to sex.

OP where you at!

By original post I mean the very first one which is not the "we have sex" one.

Omg her 3rd post and that one but heads... She says we hung out for four days..
I'm emotionally detached I don't wanna get hurt... So sex would be bad right? We're waiting that's it for now.

Runner, we're trying not to make assumptions here, but we are confused. Come back and straighten us out.

Posted by WWRunner88
Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

Are you related to kittenlarouge?

I apologize I've had a hectic day at work. No we have not slept with each other, I won't see him until late Friday night when he arrives. I'm sorry for the confusion. And I appreciate the honesty, but could we please try to make the comments honest and not too rude. I am looking for advice not to be mocked or made fun of. Thanks

And apologize I'm using my smartphone and sometimes the swype texting changes the word, I'm actually wanting to text. And he is not using me for transportation as I offered to pick him up, but he stated he was renting a car, so he will come pick me up because he is a gentleman.

Ok Runner we were just confused at least on my part

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Posted by WWRunner88
Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

Are you related to kittenlarouge?

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I literally when you made that assumption

*literally died

Ok. Cool. Thanks for clarifying. I suggest not to have sex. Keep your dignity. He will respect that. Caps dont like easy.

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Posted by frostey91
*literally died

lol lol lol

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Lol back to you soul sister we have a bond of sorts

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Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by WWRunner88
Thanks I definitely do not expect a relationship out of it because we have sex, but I do know if that what if I go in thinking thats all it is then I will also keep myself a little guarded. I think my ex just did a real number on me, because I normally wouldn't question these things, but when he told me his birthday red flags went up every where primarily because of my ex and the fact that he doesn't act like any of the Capricorns I know. I'm a Sag, with Cap Accendent sign and Virgo Moon, which is probably why I am drawn to Capricorns.

I mean I'm just kinda confused as to why all of a sudden he reached out. I didn't even think he knew I moved to a different state. I mean we are not friends and I was pretty shocked that we where in even FB friends, but he told me he requested me a while back (almost 2y ago) and he didn't think I was enthused because it took me a while to accept. I explained to him that I rarely ever get on FB. So I just find all this behavior odd, especially taking how I flirted with him while a lived there and didn't even talk to me.

I mean I am a pretty good looking girl not to sound cocky or anything and I am very successful. So I would hope he would that material things don't impress me. I like smart people.

I guess I gotta just let this play out... I hate not knowing whats going on ugh!

Are you related to kittenlarouge?

I literally when you made that assumption

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I'm seeing a pattern... Glad I'm not only one?