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Posted by wagtailWhat you say does make sense, dear wagtail! Having read a lot of other posts/replies from you, I was waiting for your answer. Yep, I feel as though he truly loves me, but he's not commitment-ready!
This is one of my fave pairings - depending on other planetary aspects.
Personally, I feel it's a strong and true connection... However, with no experience of LDR I can't really advise specifically sorreh.
Hopefully someone can come along and dissect a little moah for you 😎
Just FYI tho, a cap generally says what they mean and mean what they say. 'Commitmentphobe' has been said, I would take it seriously and consider investing my time and energy elsewhere until he actually said the words 'commitment ready'
Lol, it's so difficult to stop thinking of him! I'll try to divert myself as much as I can. But then, sigh, he'll sense that and be back with his innocent face! To add to the confusion, I've invited him to come over on my birthday (21-Aug) and he's agreed. Wonder what will happen then.
Thanks a ton for your response, buddy! 🙂
Posted by InLoveWithLifeI just feel that in this particular pairing (the feminine Leo and the masculine Cap) It's an opportunity for the man to really step up and do the pursuing, something a Cap really does well! Even if it seems a bit slow and steady!Posted by wagtailWhat you say does make sense, dear wagtail! Having read a lot of other posts/replies from you, I was waiting for your answer. Yep, I feel as though he truly loves me, but he's not commitment-ready!
This is one of my fave pairings - depending on other planetary aspects.
Personally, I feel it's a strong and true connection... However, with no experience of LDR I can't really advise specifically sorreh.
Hopefully someone can come along and dissect a little moah for you 😎
Just FYI tho, a cap generally says what they mean and mean what they say. 'Commitmentphobe' has been said, I would take it seriously and consider investing my time and energy elsewhere until he actually said the words 'commitment ready'
Lol, it's so difficult to stop thinking of him! I'll try to divert myself as much as I can. But then, sigh, he'll sense that and be back with his innocent face! To add to the confusion, I've invited him to come over on my birthday (21-Aug) and he's agreed. Wonder what will happen then.
Thanks a ton for your response, buddy! 🙂
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this works for both because his masculine energy really isn't shy about going for what he wants and Leo women can be so receptive to men who act like men traditionally do!
So when it works it really works, but only if he is the sole or most aggressive initiator - in this case - not because we don't know exactly what we want as well, but because if he doesn't want the same thing it will never happen between these two.
It's a rare case of Leo only getting what she wants if he wants it too lol 😆
Anyway it's always a case by case basis, so hopefully you'll get some other perspectives- I could be completely off base
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.
Oh gawd.
Alexander Hamilton and Eliza Hamilton were a Cap male Leo female couple
Posted by wagtailLol! When I discuss it with like-minded people, I feel much better! Thanks for the response, dear friend. I'll just maintain a distance, give him some time and see where this goes. If he expresses his willingness to commit, it's a win-win; if not, I'll at least get to move outta the confusing situation and be free! 😄Posted by InLoveWithLifeI just feel that in this particular pairing (the feminine Leo and the masculine Cap) It's an opportunity for the man to really step up and do the pursuing, something a Cap really does well! Even if it seems a bit slow and steady!Posted by wagtailWhat you say does make sense, dear wagtail! Having read a lot of other posts/replies from you, I was waiting for your answer. Yep, I feel as though he truly loves me, but he's not commitment-ready!
This is one of my fave pairings - depending on other planetary aspects.
Personally, I feel it's a strong and true connection... However, with no experience of LDR I can't really advise specifically sorreh.
Hopefully someone can come along and dissect a little moah for you 😎
Just FYI tho, a cap generally says what they mean and mean what they say. 'Commitmentphobe' has been said, I would take it seriously and consider investing my time and energy elsewhere until he actually said the words 'commitment ready'
Lol, it's so difficult to stop thinking of him! I'll try to divert myself as much as I can. But then, sigh, he'll sense that and be back with his innocent face! To add to the confusion, I've invited him to come over on my birthday (21-Aug) and he's agreed. Wonder what will happen then.
Thanks a ton for your response, buddy! 🙂
this works for both because his masculine energy really isn't shy about going for what he wants and Leo women can be so receptive to men who act like men traditionally do!
So when it works it really works, but only if he is the sole or most aggressive initiator - in this case - not because we don't know exactly what we want as well, but because if he doesn't want the same thing it will never happen between these two.
It's a rare case of Leo only getting what she wants if he wants it too lol 😆
Anyway it's always a case by case basis, so hopefully you'll get some other perspectives- I could be completely off baseclick to expand
Posted by ladylibra21Lol! I wonder if we'll make it to the book of successes or if we'll make another 'goofed-it-up' pair! 😉
Alexander Hamilton and Eliza Hamilton were a Cap male Leo female couple
Jokes apart, hoping for the best, my dear friend. 🙂
Posted by VirgieneI wonder if they understand themselves, Virgiene! (I mean this as a silly little joke, but even this, he'd take seriously! Lol!)
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.
Posted by ParisianCappyTrue??..Posted by InLoveWithLifewe are the bestPosted by VirgieneI wonder if they understand themselves, Virgiene! (I mean this as a silly little joke, but even this, he'd take seriously! Lol!)
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.click to expand
Posted by ParisianCappySure! 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifewe are the bestPosted by VirgieneI wonder if they understand themselves, Virgiene! (I mean this as a silly little joke, but even this, he'd take seriously! Lol!)
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.click to expand
I would not do a long distance relationship with a capricorn like I've done with two cancers...
Posted by ForeverlovemeYes that's true. I just think if the cap is acting distant in a long distance relationship, that's too much of a challenge for me. My relationship in person is about 100% better/preferred than it is via Internet and phonePosted by pinkbird03Caps are a safe ldr bet solely because of their loyalty
I would not do a long distance relationship with a capricorn like I've done with two cancers...click to expand
Dear Foreverloveme,
Thank you for your response, dear friend! Well, we knew each other only for a month or a little more than that. We come from different backgrounds, diff cultures, and even or mother tongues are diff. But throughout the first month, he used to chat with me day and night; he'd ask me a lot of questions, and give me regular updates on what all he's doing, how he's feeling, etc. There are many guys who flirt with me, but only in this guy's case, I didn't/couldn't think of it as flirting! He expressed his admiration and love for me in the form of a few poems which he posted on his blog and he'd sent me the links. I wrote a poem for his last poem expressing my love (we did it subtle ways and he was very happy to read mine). A few days later, he said, "I love that attitude of yours". And as I pushed him, he happily (not unwillingly) admitted that he loved me. I said I loved him, too. I thought this is how he'd be for life - friendly, open, loving, expressive and gentlemanly.
But from the next day there was no contact; things had changed upside down overnight! I was both worried for him and also hurt, so I went to see him. It was a surprise for him (which he later admitted that he didn't really like as it disturbed his plans). Then he spent as much time as possible with me and he was very loving! He said things like he'd never leave me, that he loved me, when we got intimate. From the next day, cycle started again! And as you know, we Leos throw tantrums when we're mad/ignored by the ones we love, because it makes us feel taken for granted. So lots of fights, continuous cycles. In the mean time, he planned to come here once, but he said his heavy workload didn't permit him to.
Now, just a month ago, he finished his submission and he took up a job. At this same time, I was invited for a wedding there by a friend. So I left, he'd planned to see me and spend 2 days with me; but due to circumstances like bus strike, we got to spend only 2 hours and he just took me outside to a lake nearby. He continued to stare at me with a broad smile on his face and made a few loving gestures. This is all I have received from his side so far to convince myself that really does love me.
Otherwise he's just distant. If I mirror him, then he comes back to me. Cycle again! So far, there's been no opportunity for me to go to him for any practical help, so I don't know what he'd do if I did.
When I casually said, "take up a job at my place" and he said that he doesn't like living here. He gives me no idea about his future plans. He's so tight-lipped. I don't think I can move over to his place, because I'll soon be doing my master's here. He doesn't seem to show as much interest in my life as he used to. But if I show any sign of moving away, or even think of ending it, he somehow senses it and comes back (he'll be sweet, but won't get into any serious talk!). What does all this mean— BTW he's 30 and I'm 27. Does he love me? Help, please?
Thank you for your response, dear friend! Well, we knew each other only for a month or a little more than that. We come from different backgrounds, diff cultures, and even or mother tongues are diff. But throughout the first month, he used to chat with me day and night; he'd ask me a lot of questions, and give me regular updates on what all he's doing, how he's feeling, etc. There are many guys who flirt with me, but only in this guy's case, I didn't/couldn't think of it as flirting! He expressed his admiration and love for me in the form of a few poems which he posted on his blog and he'd sent me the links. I wrote a poem for his last poem expressing my love (we did it subtle ways and he was very happy to read mine). A few days later, he said, "I love that attitude of yours". And as I pushed him, he happily (not unwillingly) admitted that he loved me. I said I loved him, too. I thought this is how he'd be for life - friendly, open, loving, expressive and gentlemanly.
But from the next day there was no contact; things had changed upside down overnight! I was both worried for him and also hurt, so I went to see him. It was a surprise for him (which he later admitted that he didn't really like as it disturbed his plans). Then he spent as much time as possible with me and he was very loving! He said things like he'd never leave me, that he loved me, when we got intimate. From the next day, cycle started again! And as you know, we Leos throw tantrums when we're mad/ignored by the ones we love, because it makes us feel taken for granted. So lots of fights, continuous cycles. In the mean time, he planned to come here once, but he said his heavy workload didn't permit him to.
Now, just a month ago, he finished his submission and he took up a job. At this same time, I was invited for a wedding there by a friend. So I left, he'd planned to see me and spend 2 days with me; but due to circumstances like bus strike, we got to spend only 2 hours and he just took me outside to a lake nearby. He continued to stare at me with a broad smile on his face and made a few loving gestures. This is all I have received from his side so far to convince myself that really does love me.
Otherwise he's just distant. If I mirror him, then he comes back to me. Cycle again! So far, there's been no opportunity for me to go to him for any practical help, so I don't know what he'd do if I did.
When I casually said, "take up a job at my place" and he said that he doesn't like living here. He gives me no idea about his future plans. He's so tight-lipped. I don't think I can move over to his place, because I'll soon be doing my master's here. He doesn't seem to show as much interest in my life as he used to. But if I show any sign of moving away, or even think of ending it, he somehow senses it and comes back (he'll be sweet, but won't get into any serious talk!). What does all this mean— BTW he's 30 and I'm 27. Does he love me? Help, please?
Posted by ForeverlovemeLol! 1. I'm a LEO. (You must be aware of all the positive qualities of Leos.)Posted by InLoveWithLifeYou don't sound convincedPosted by ParisianCappySure! 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifewe are the bestPosted by VirgieneI wonder if they understand themselves, Virgiene! (I mean this as a silly little joke, but even this, he'd take seriously! Lol!)
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.
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2. We Leos make friends with anyone easily and we love to tease them! Yep, we're playful, fun loving, and love making fun of our friends. We don't mind being teased back, in fact we love it, as long as one doesn't cross the limits.
3. By now, you must have also made out that we're great at bragging, just like how we top in all other activities, too.
Now tell me, who's the best? 😉 😛
Posted by pinkbird03Sigh! I understand, but I haven't felt this kind of a connection with anyone else. Time will tell me what's best, I guess.Posted by ForeverlovemeYes that's true. I just think if the cap is acting distant in a long distance relationship, that's too much of a challenge for me. My relationship in person is about 100% better/preferred than it is via Internet and phonePosted by pinkbird03Caps are a safe ldr bet solely because of their loyalty
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Thanks, Pinkbird03! 🙂
Posted by ForeverlovemeThe truth is bitter, especially for non-Leos, I know. 😉 Want some cough syrup, dear? 😛Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by ForeverlovemeLol! 1. I'm a LEO. (You must be aware of all the positive qualities of Leos.)Posted by InLoveWithLifeYou don't sound convincedPosted by ParisianCappySure! 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifewe are the bestPosted by VirgieneI wonder if they understand themselves, Virgiene! (I mean this as a silly little joke, but even this, he'd take seriously! Lol!)
most of the posters here don't understand capricorn guys.. Including me,.
2. We Leos make friends with anyone easily and we love to tease them! Yep, we're playful, fun loving, and love making fun of our friends. We don't mind being teased back, in fact we love it, as long as one doesn't cross the limits.
3. By now, you must have also made out that we're great at bragging, just like how we top in all other activities, too.
Now tell me, who's the best? 😉 😛
CAPRICORN *cough* 😛click to expand
Posted by ForeverlovemeYou think he cares for me a lot? Well, same here. I care for him so much too, and that makes deciding things more complicated, if you understand what I mean. Well, thanks for speaking up for him, he's so tight-lipped that I really worry if there's something else that's worrying him and wish I could be there by his side. Hmm... Now how will I know if he loves me or not? I feel like a blank page on which drunken emotions scribble their signatures! Thanks a ton for your help. Much appreciated. If there's anything I can do for you sometime (except saying that Capricorns are the best because Leos don't lie 😛 ), please lemme know. Cheers! 😄
Does he love you? I can't answer that with certainty.
I can tell you, him writing you poetry means your on his mind & as you already mentioned is a good sign.
What stood out to me from your post was when you went for the wedding & plans changed he still made time for. It wasn't as much as planned, however he still showed up.
Imo he cares for you a great deal. I think he might feel that you're pushing him a little bit, that's why he'll disappear the next day & some of the reluctance you mentioned. We like to move at our own pace.
He probably doesn't like arguing & wants to see you happy, that will cause some of us to shut down as well because it's kinda like what is the point (damned if we do, damned if we don't)
The leo I have experience with was very nice, I just didn't see the long-term relationship potential.
Foreverloveme, The last time he wrote poems for me was 6 months ago. No love poem or not much on his blog after that; only general stuff. He claims to be too busy (sometimes I agree, sometimes I don't; I just think that cute little rat is trying to run away from this wild cat!). One of my friends also told me to make sure if his parents would agree. I'm trying to ask him that, but he's too cautious to answer even simple questions like "what are you doing?" (I receive one word texts or some vague answers). I don't want to pressurize him. But on the other side, I can't wait blindly; I can't imagine him saying years later, "because of these reasons, blah blah... We'll end this."
But we've had lots of fights and both of us have said the "we'll end this" line politely, and surprisingly, we get back.
Once I blocked him b'coz he misunderstood my posts, thought i said something against him; he did feel bad, i realized a few days later and unblocked him n sent him a request. He was too rigid and accepted it only months later. A few weeks to one month later, when i was upset because he did not spend enough time with me, he sent me a few messages to which i acted rigid. Lol! Guess what? The next morning he blocked me! (I claim to be kiddish, but sometimes i think his heart is softer than mine; i really do like him a lot even if his actions hurt me.)
What does all this mean—
But we've had lots of fights and both of us have said the "we'll end this" line politely, and surprisingly, we get back.
Once I blocked him b'coz he misunderstood my posts, thought i said something against him; he did feel bad, i realized a few days later and unblocked him n sent him a request. He was too rigid and accepted it only months later. A few weeks to one month later, when i was upset because he did not spend enough time with me, he sent me a few messages to which i acted rigid. Lol! Guess what? The next morning he blocked me! (I claim to be kiddish, but sometimes i think his heart is softer than mine; i really do like him a lot even if his actions hurt me.)
What does all this mean—
TrueFantasy,
Glad to know you think this is a good match. Yep, even I feel so. I tell him "we've more similarities than meets the eye". Initially he disagreed, but then he was 'kinda' convinced! 😉
No, dear. I don't know any other placements; he claims to hate all this astrology 'BS' as he'd call it (probably b'coz he's afraid of falling for Little Leo? Lol!) And I know only my moon sign other than our sun signs and that's Scorpio. 🙂
Glad to know you think this is a good match. Yep, even I feel so. I tell him "we've more similarities than meets the eye". Initially he disagreed, but then he was 'kinda' convinced! 😉
No, dear. I don't know any other placements; he claims to hate all this astrology 'BS' as he'd call it (probably b'coz he's afraid of falling for Little Leo? Lol!) And I know only my moon sign other than our sun signs and that's Scorpio. 🙂
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It means you both are in your feelings and playing games. Neither of you want to be hurt. If I block a person & unblock them it's only because I have feelings for them, no other reason. We can ice people out with the best of them & ignore someone completely no problem.
This is why I say watch the actions. If someone tells me they're done & comes back, I take that as a sealed deal & I stop causing problems & doubting, they had the opportunity to leave & chose not to (that's just my twisted mentality so take it however you want)
Do you think a change in approach might help, like instead of fighting being more supportive as you mentioned?
I agree with you on that coz that's how my brain functions too - why's he still in touch if he really wants to go?
I try to be supportive; in fact, even complete strangers feel very comfortable with opening up to me and sharing with me their secrets, fears and weaknesses, and I give them my shoulder and do my best to make them feel better.
But you know caps, right? He thinks opening up might make him vulnerable. I just don't want to force him to open up, but waiting blindly is also tiring!
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@inlovewithlife
Leo seeing a cappy
You both have to " break " your walls , it's a two way street.
It's not an easy match....will it ever be....maybe in time
If you want this guy, you'll have to work on your patience
you'll have to be content with what he's given you so far
you're fire, he's not, he's practical ...
the cycle you speak of...it's challenging...when it happens. ..it's your "me" time
let him be, he's not doing it to hurt you, focus on you
lionesses are usually independent anyway
Not the easiest match but speaking for myself it has been the most rewarding & genuine
They're no nonsense & have loyal hearts
You'll have to value actions instead of words ....words are easy anyway
Don't believe the stereotypical bs when caps love you they make it known
they'll apologize & they won't let you go.
Otherwise find yourself an aries....or a leo ?
Ah! Thank you, leowww! Feeling good. It would be better if he gave me a clear yes or no and also acted in accordance with his own word. But he's confused and confusing me too!
Yeah, I'm gonna take a break and concentrate more on my own life and my social circle... But the cycle! Aarrgghhh!!! Lol!
Lemme see, I'll wait for as long as I can... Thanks for your response! 🙂
Thank you, ForeverLoveMe, that's what I'm trying to do. (It's just that both of us have been in what we call failed relationships in the past, so trust comes along with the doubt bros and sisses!) These sites online confuse me - if he loves you, he'll make you a priority (I don't even seem to be on the list!), if a Cap loves you really, they'll open up to you (he hasn't...), once they say they love you, you can be sure (but this fellow is confusing, sometimes, he calls it off after some misunderstanding)!!! But I'd still like to think and believe that he loves me. I will try to be strong, dear, and imagine things are fine for a set period.
Lol, easier said than done, as I think of him so often! Thanks a ton for being there! 🙂
Lol, easier said than done, as I think of him so often! Thanks a ton for being there! 🙂
Posted by ForeverlovemePosted by InLoveWithLifeWell you might be further along than you think lol
Thank you, ForeverLoveMe, that's what I'm trying to do. (It's just that both of us have been in what we call failed relationships in the past, so trust comes along with the doubt bros and sisses!) These sites online confuse me - if he loves you, he'll make you a priority (I don't even seem to be on the list!), if a Cap loves you really, they'll open up to you (he hasn't...), once they say they love you, you can be sure (but this fellow is confusing, sometimes, he calls it off after some misunderstanding)!!! But I'd still like to think and believe that he loves me. I will try to be strong, dear, and imagine things are fine for a set period.
Lol, easier said than done, as I think of him so often! Thanks a ton for being there! 🙂
It took me 6 months to tell my long distance crush I love him, I felt it sooner. I didn't tell him until I could no longer handle keeping it bottled in.
Priority yes meaning he makes time for you. Not necessarily that he will drop everything he's doing for you.
I open up when I'm comfortable. The arguing isn't helping with the situation of getting him to open up. It does the opposite because he feels he has to put walls back up to protect himself. The more you argue, the more he'll pretend to not care & just shut down & get distant.
In early stages I call things off too, 1) it sets boundaries, respect them or I'm out. 2) defense mechanism I know what I want & if we're not on the same page then why waste each others time, it's not worth arguing over I'd rather just leave
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The problem is that I have similar values. You don't respect me? Then you mean nothing to me!
I want it all (love, care, trust, sharing, understanding, and effort mainly) to be MUTUAL. If you can't/won't give me what I deserve, then I don't care even if you die!
Lol! The way he uses silence as his defense, I use my anger and words. I just don't want our misunderstanding to kill a good relationship. I hope he gets this point.
Posted by ForeverlovemePosted by InLoveWithLifeWell you might be further along than you think lol
Thank you, ForeverLoveMe, that's what I'm trying to do. (It's just that both of us have been in what we call failed relationships in the past, so trust comes along with the doubt bros and sisses!) These sites online confuse me - if he loves you, he'll make you a priority (I don't even seem to be on the list!), if a Cap loves you really, they'll open up to you (he hasn't...), once they say they love you, you can be sure (but this fellow is confusing, sometimes, he calls it off after some misunderstanding)!!! But I'd still like to think and believe that he loves me. I will try to be strong, dear, and imagine things are fine for a set period.
Lol, easier said than done, as I think of him so often! Thanks a ton for being there! 🙂
It took me 6 months to tell my long distance crush I love him, I felt it sooner. I didn't tell him until I could no longer handle keeping it bottled in.
Priority yes meaning he makes time for you. Not necessarily that he will drop everything he's doing for you.
I open up when I'm comfortable. The arguing isn't helping with the situation of getting him to open up. It does the opposite because he feels he has to put walls back up to protect himself. The more you argue, the more he'll pretend to not care & just shut down & get distant.
In early stages I call things off too, 1) it sets boundaries, respect them or I'm out. 2) defense mechanism I know what I want & if we're not on the same page then why waste each others time, it's not worth arguing over I'd rather just leave
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The problem is that I have similar values. You don't respect me? Then you mean nothing to me!
I want it all (love, care, trust, sharing, understanding, and effort mainly) to be MUTUAL. If you can't/won't give me what I deserve, then I don't care even if you die!
Lol! The way he uses silence as his defense, I use my anger and words. I just don't want our misunderstanding to kill a good relationship. I hope he gets this point.
@foreverloveme
She brings up a good point about caps being loyal. But how do you know when he's reached that level? Is it before or after he's in a committed relationship?
She brings up a good point about caps being loyal. But how do you know when he's reached that level? Is it before or after he's in a committed relationship?
Posted by pinkbird03Good question, dear! I don't understand that either! With their silent-most-of-the-time nature in relationships, mixed signals, and hot-and-cold behaviour, how are we ladies supposed to know what they really feel?
@foreverloveme
She brings up a good point about caps being loyal. But how do you know when he's reached that level? Is it before or after he's in a committed relationship?
And if we confront them, even politely, they find the easiest/safest answer, or give some vague answer and disappear! Phew! Being a straight forward, honest person, I find it very difficult to deal with this kind of behaviour! Ups and downs!
Posted by ButtWipeThanks for reading the post and leaving comments.Posted by rockyroadicecreamI like that slang you just used.
Oh gawd.
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Posted by ForeverlovemeYes see I'm okay with not talking to mine every day now because I know he likes me and it doesn't bother me. We talk 4-5 times a week. Plus, hes gotten a bit better with texting me more when we do talk. (I complained to everyone about this awhile ago)
A lot of people are looking for consistent communication which is fine. My personal thing is if he continues to come around. That could mean everyday, every other day, once a week...you ladies have to determine what you're willing to accept & tolerate.
If it isn't something you like & you've addressed it & see no changes then leave.
Pinkbird03 seems to have the most stability with her cap
We're pretty direct & he should be telling you either with words or actions what he wants, we just have to listen closely.
Also varies depending on which stage of life he's at.
I do see this simple fact being one of the few differences between my relationship and others.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeYea, Well one thing I said to mine that I think made the biggest difference is, "I don't trust you. Can I trust you? (Yes) I still don't trust you" I didn't say anything else. I think that affected him the most because they know trust is extremely important in a relationship and I do believe they want to be good boyfriends. I definitely saw changes from this.Posted by pinkbird03Good question, dear! I don't understand that either! With their silent-most-of-the-time nature in relationships, mixed signals, and hot-and-cold behaviour, how are we ladies supposed to know what they really feel?
@foreverloveme
She brings up a good point about caps being loyal. But how do you know when he's reached that level? Is it before or after he's in a committed relationship?
And if we confront them, even politely, they find the easiest/safest answer, or give some vague answer and disappear! Phew! Being a straight forward, honest person, I find it very difficult to deal with this kind of behaviour! Ups and downs!click to expand
Plant a seed and watch it grow as they say. Lol you should try this one
Pinkbird03, I haven't said exactly that (because hurting someone can hurt me even more!) But I've explained to him that I feel bad when he plays on and off. The problem is always this - he comes really close and says or does the sweetest things (without me having to ask for it) and when I'm convinced he's the one, he vanishes; and after days or weeks or no contact (the longest being 12 days, while he would communicate with others and have time for books, TV shows, newspapers and drinks), when I convince myself to walk away from him as he'd continuously ignore my texts or give 'hmm', 'okay' replies, he'll pop right up and do things that I like! Lol!
Recently, he's responding better, like more frequently and not ignoring my texts for days, but now I've come to doubt whether it is because of love, or simply because of respect (I give him respect and make sure I get the respect I deserve, or I'll go cold for days, n he'd be hurt)!
Recently, he's responding better, like more frequently and not ignoring my texts for days, but now I've come to doubt whether it is because of love, or simply because of respect (I give him respect and make sure I get the respect I deserve, or I'll go cold for days, n he'd be hurt)!
Posted by InLoveWithLifeWhy are you so worried about him being in love with you? That word seems very important to you.
Pinkbird03, I haven't said exactly that (because hurting someone can hurt me even more!) But I've explained to him that I feel bad when he plays on and off. The problem is always this - he comes really close and says or does the sweetest things (without me having to ask for it) and when I'm convinced he's the one, he vanishes; and after days or weeks or no contact (the longest being 12 days, while he would communicate with others and have time for books, TV shows, newspapers and drinks), when I convince myself to walk away from him as he'd continuously ignore my texts or give 'hmm', 'okay' replies, he'll pop right up and do things that I like! Lol!
Recently, he's responding better, like more frequently and not ignoring my texts for days, but now I've come to doubt whether it is because of love, or simply because of respect (I give him respect and make sure I get the respect I deserve, or I'll go cold for days, n he'd be hurt)!
Dear Foreverloveme, Pinkbird03, and Leowww, here's what happened!
Feeling more confident after talking to you sweet ladies and another good friend (who's always been insisting that I give him some time, but also make sure that he knows that I will leave if he won't commit), I pinged him this morning telling him what I genuinely felt for him - "I missed you a couple of days ago", "no matter how many times we fight, tell yourself that we love each other", and such. He did respond, yeah, the usual emotionless, bland responses.
My friends always insisted on confronting him and getting certain things clear before proceeding further because being in the grey zone was sickening for me. So I also asked him some questions - "Please be honest. Honest answers won't hurt me; it's hiding the truth that hurts me. Do you see a future for this relationship? Will your parents agree? Apart from our differences, are there any outside factors that worry you? Above all, do you want to be with me in future?"
(He's said 'I love you' twice, made some really sweet gestures when we met; implied that he loves me in many subtle ways; but both of us have also decided to end this a few times. Even if we got back, I was always in the grey zone area most of the time. He's not straight forward and open like me.)
Today he asked me, "can I respond to your questions over the weekend?" (Dragging things and saying 'busy' is another one of his profound talents)
So I said, "okay, sooner the better".
To which he said, "I have previously suggested that we end it." (At this point, I got furious because he NEVER gives a clear yes or no; even if he says something, his actions would contradict that!)
So I said, "Because you're mentioning that again, I'll take 'no' as your final answer. Cheers! All the best!"
If he doesn't want to commit, he should say a firm 'No'. If he is willing to stay, he should say a strong 'yes'. Why always diplomatic, vague, and confusing—
I bet he'll come back and cycles will continue! Ladies, I'm SICK!!! I don't want to hurt him even a little, but at the same time, I can't put up with all this waiting in the grey area like an option!
What should I do? Please help me!
Feeling more confident after talking to you sweet ladies and another good friend (who's always been insisting that I give him some time, but also make sure that he knows that I will leave if he won't commit), I pinged him this morning telling him what I genuinely felt for him - "I missed you a couple of days ago", "no matter how many times we fight, tell yourself that we love each other", and such. He did respond, yeah, the usual emotionless, bland responses.
My friends always insisted on confronting him and getting certain things clear before proceeding further because being in the grey zone was sickening for me. So I also asked him some questions - "Please be honest. Honest answers won't hurt me; it's hiding the truth that hurts me. Do you see a future for this relationship? Will your parents agree? Apart from our differences, are there any outside factors that worry you? Above all, do you want to be with me in future?"
(He's said 'I love you' twice, made some really sweet gestures when we met; implied that he loves me in many subtle ways; but both of us have also decided to end this a few times. Even if we got back, I was always in the grey zone area most of the time. He's not straight forward and open like me.)
Today he asked me, "can I respond to your questions over the weekend?" (Dragging things and saying 'busy' is another one of his profound talents)
So I said, "okay, sooner the better".
To which he said, "I have previously suggested that we end it." (At this point, I got furious because he NEVER gives a clear yes or no; even if he says something, his actions would contradict that!)
So I said, "Because you're mentioning that again, I'll take 'no' as your final answer. Cheers! All the best!"
If he doesn't want to commit, he should say a firm 'No'. If he is willing to stay, he should say a strong 'yes'. Why always diplomatic, vague, and confusing—
I bet he'll come back and cycles will continue! Ladies, I'm SICK!!! I don't want to hurt him even a little, but at the same time, I can't put up with all this waiting in the grey area like an option!
What should I do? Please help me!
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by InLoveWithLifeWhy are you so worried about him being in love with you? That word seems very important to you.
Pinkbird03, I haven't said exactly that (because hurting someone can hurt me even more!) But I've explained to him that I feel bad when he plays on and off. The problem is always this - he comes really close and says or does the sweetest things (without me having to ask for it) and when I'm convinced he's the one, he vanishes; and after days or weeks or no contact (the longest being 12 days, while he would communicate with others and have time for books, TV shows, newspapers and drinks), when I convince myself to walk away from him as he'd continuously ignore my texts or give 'hmm', 'okay' replies, he'll pop right up and do things that I like! Lol!
Recently, he's responding better, like more frequently and not ignoring my texts for days, but now I've come to doubt whether it is because of love, or simply because of respect (I give him respect and make sure I get the respect I deserve, or I'll go cold for days, n he'd be hurt)!click to expand
I don't think you get what I mean, dear. I don't want the L-word said very often, but how would you feel if you said "I love you" and he wouldn't respond for days? And the messages that follow seem to be name's sake/courteous replies? Especially if all this happens after some argument that he doesn't spend any time with you when he has time for so many other activities? Some sort of a positive response would make you feel good, right?
But when I act distant after all this, he'd come back and say something sweet or would respond to some old message and say 'OK' to some old question to simply carry out the conversation now!
Posted by pinkbird03Yes, dear. After 6 months or so, he's slowly moved from ignoring my texts to responding better. But they seem like cold responses and I'm made to wonder if he's doing all this just to return the respect and for courtesy's sake! Lol, maybe I should hire a mediator! Even if I did hire one, that person might die moving back and forth between two polar opposites - Leo and Cap! 😛Posted by ForeverlovemeYes see I'm okay with not talking to mine every day now because I know he likes me and it doesn't bother me. We talk 4-5 times a week. Plus, hes gotten a bit better with texting me more when we do talk. (I complained to everyone about this awhile ago)
A lot of people are looking for consistent communication which is fine. My personal thing is if he continues to come around. That could mean everyday, every other day, once a week...you ladies have to determine what you're willing to accept & tolerate.
If it isn't something you like & you've addressed it & see no changes then leave.
Pinkbird03 seems to have the most stability with her cap
We're pretty direct & he should be telling you either with words or actions what he wants, we just have to listen closely.
Also varies depending on which stage of life he's at.
I do see this simple fact being one of the few differences between my relationship and others.click to expand
Posted by Foreverloveme
A lot of people are looking for consistent communication which is fine. My personal thing is if he continues to come around. That could mean everyday, every other day, once a week...you ladies have to determine what you're willing to accept & tolerate.
If it isn't something you like & you've addressed it & see no changes then leave.
Pinkbird03 seems to have the most stability with her cap
We're pretty direct & he should be telling you either with words or actions what he wants, we just have to listen closely.
Also varies depending on which stage of life he's at.
Dear, he doesn't share anything about his future plans, career, job, etc. with me. So I don't how confident he feels about himself and if he's convinced with his progress. So I don't know. I have to always make assumptions and that drives me crazy, sweetheart! Hope you understand.
IDK about LDR but my Leo cousin is married to a Cap! They are so cute together.. so much in love 🙂
But, sis is cancer moon/Virgo venus/Taurus mars
Bro-in-law is Virgo moon.. forgot his venus/mars ..sorry : D
...depends on your synastry.
But, sis is cancer moon/Virgo venus/Taurus mars
Bro-in-law is Virgo moon.. forgot his venus/mars ..sorry : D
...depends on your synastry.
Posted by leowwwHe has said ily twice or thrice. When we meet personally, he's all sweet. But while chatting, I'm made to feel like a stranger half the time!
@inlovewithlife
But you know how he feels... He's told you he loves you.
There's a difference between doubt and not being told ily enough.
Now if you have reasons to doubt how he feels that's another story.
How can you love someone and not share anything about your past/present/future plans with them, not even bother to know how they are and what they are doing, ignore them for days, and not answer even one call or return any other, say that you're always busy while you have time for work and so many other activities like reading, writing, reviewing books, etc.? I can't act like that when I love someone, so I get all these doubts! Is that wrong?
Posted by RumiLSweetheart! I don't know you, and I don't know about our Venus, Mars, Moon stuff either! But a sweet or positive reply is any day sweet. Thank you for your time. 🙂
IDK about LDR but my Leo cousin is married to a Cap! They are so cute together.. so much in love 🙂
But, sis is cancer moon/Virgo venus/Taurus mars
Bro-in-law is Virgo moon.. forgot his venus/mars ..sorry : D
...depends on your synastry.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeI think he wants to wait until the weekend to give you a well thought out answer. I think you should wait to hear what he says before you end it.
Dear Foreverloveme, Pinkbird03, and Leowww, here's what happened!
Feeling more confident after talking to you sweet ladies and another good friend (who's always been insisting that I give him some time, but also make sure that he knows that I will leave if he won't commit), I pinged him this morning telling him what I genuinely felt for him - "I missed you a couple of days ago", "no matter how many times we fight, tell yourself that we love each other", and such. He did respond, yeah, the usual emotionless, bland responses.
My friends always insisted on confronting him and getting certain things clear before proceeding further because being in the grey zone was sickening for me. So I also asked him some questions - "Please be honest. Honest answers won't hurt me; it's hiding the truth that hurts me. Do you see a future for this relationship? Will your parents agree? Apart from our differences, are there any outside factors that worry you? Above all, do you want to be with me in future?"
(He's said 'I love you' twice, made some really sweet gestures when we met; implied that he loves me in many subtle ways; but both of us have also decided to end this a few times. Even if we got back, I was always in the grey zone area most of the time. He's not straight forward and open like me.)
Today he asked me, "can I respond to your questions over the weekend?" (Dragging things and saying 'busy' is another one of his profound talents)
So I said, "okay, sooner the better".
To which he said, "I have previously suggested that we end it." (At this point, I got furious because he NEVER gives a clear yes or no; even if he says something, his actions would contradict that!)
So I said, "Because you're mentioning that again, I'll take 'no' as your final answer. Cheers! All the best!"
If he doesn't want to commit, he should say a firm 'No'. If he is willing to stay, he should say a strong 'yes'. Why always diplomatic, vague, and confusing—
I bet he'll come back and cycles will continue! Ladies, I'm SICK!!! I don't want to hurt him even a little, but at the same time, I can't put up with all this waiting in the grey area like an option!
What should I do? Please help me!
Perfect example@op on you didn't use astrology or know that it isn't working out. So astrology somewhat flawed don't you argee?
Posted by ParisianCappyHey you.Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428i agree
Perfect example@op on you didn't use astrology or know that it isn't working out. So astrology somewhat flawed don't you argee?click to expand
Posted by ForeverlovemeGuess you're right... But when I'm alone, I get negative thoughts like he's not sharing any of his views with me because he doesn't want to! I feel as though he's avoiding me at times...Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by Foreverloveme
A lot of people are looking for consistent communication which is fine. My personal thing is if he continues to come around. That could mean everyday, every other day, once a week...you ladies have to determine what you're willing to accept & tolerate.
If it isn't something you like & you've addressed it & see no changes then leave.
Pinkbird03 seems to have the most stability with her cap
We're pretty direct & he should be telling you either with words or actions what he wants, we just have to listen closely.
Also varies depending on which stage of life he's at.
Dear, he doesn't share anything about his future plans, career, job, etc. with me. So I don't how confident he feels about himself and if he's convinced with his progress. So I don't know. I have to always make assumptions and that drives me crazy, sweetheart! Hope you understand.
Sounds like he's still figuring himself out
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Once, all this frustrated me so much and I told him "every time I come to you offering you my innocent love, you treat me like some dirt that's sticking to your shoe! Enough!"
After this, once he guiltily said "I can't give enough for this relationship, so I don't think it will work..." Then I calmed down (sensing that he was hurt) and explained him how much I loved him and even sent to him a pic of an old Coke bottle (that's the first thing he bought for me, so I preserved it for months! Silly, ain't I? Lol)...
Then a few days later, he seemed to show more interest (when I planned my 2nd meeting) and he said "I thought this would be an opportunity for us to talk and see if things would work out!"...
I told you how the 2nd meeting's plans got affected by bus strike and such... Cycles again. And now, I've posted the latest update. Darling, what does all this mean? Am I refusing to be patient with a genuine guy, or am I wasting my time on someone who's treating me like an option? Please, dear... Help me!
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I don't really believe in all this astrology thingy! But I'm amazed by how my characteristics and his are almost the same as what the astrologers say about Leo and Cap!
Perfect example@op on you didn't use astrology or know that it isn't working out. So astrology somewhat flawed don't you argee?
I am still continuing the discussion here not b'coz of any beliefs on the subject but because I find some really kind, understanding, sensible and wise women who give me good advice. 🙂
Posted by pinkbird03Yes, dear. I've waited for months, so a few more days won't kill me. But if he's gonna start playing those cycles again, then I'll go mad! (Probably, like the astrologers say, impatient, fast-paced, expressive Leo and patient, slow, reserved Cap are not compatible? 😢 ) Hurts, sis!Posted by InLoveWithLifeI think he wants to wait until the weekend to give you a well thought out answer. I think you should wait to hear what he says before you end it.
Dear Foreverloveme, Pinkbird03, and Leowww, here's what happened!
Feeling more confident after talking to you sweet ladies and another good friend (who's always been insisting that I give him some time, but also make sure that he knows that I will leave if he won't commit), I pinged him this morning telling him what I genuinely felt for him - "I missed you a couple of days ago", "no matter how many times we fight, tell yourself that we love each other", and such. He did respond, yeah, the usual emotionless, bland responses.
My friends always insisted on confronting him and getting certain things clear before proceeding further because being in the grey zone was sickening for me. So I also asked him some questions - "Please be honest. Honest answers won't hurt me; it's hiding the truth that hurts me. Do you see a future for this relationship? Will your parents agree? Apart from our differences, are there any outside factors that worry you? Above all, do you want to be with me in future?"
(He's said 'I love you' twice, made some really sweet gestures when we met; implied that he loves me in many subtle ways; but both of us have also decided to end this a few times. Even if we got back, I was always in the grey zone area most of the time. He's not straight forward and open like me.)
Today he asked me, "can I respond to your questions over the weekend?" (Dragging things and saying 'busy' is another one of his profound talents)
So I said, "okay, sooner the better".
To which he said, "I have previously suggested that we end it." (At this point, I got furious because he NEVER gives a clear yes or no; even if he says something, his actions would contradict that!)
So I said, "Because you're mentioning that again, I'll take 'no' as your final answer. Cheers! All the best!"
If he doesn't want to commit, he should say a firm 'No'. If he is willing to stay, he should say a strong 'yes'. Why always diplomatic, vague, and confusing—
I bet he'll come back and cycles will continue! Ladies, I'm SICK!!! I don't want to hurt him even a little, but at the same time, I can't put up with all this waiting in the grey area like an option!
What should I do? Please help me!click to expand
Posted by InLoveWithLifeyou're welcome.. you're very kind :-)Posted by RumiLSweetheart! I don't know you, and I don't know about our Venus, Mars, Moon stuff either! But a sweet or positive reply is any day sweet. Thank you for your time. 🙂
IDK about LDR but my Leo cousin is married to a Cap! They are so cute together.. so much in love 🙂
But, sis is cancer moon/Virgo venus/Taurus mars
Bro-in-law is Virgo moon.. forgot his venus/mars ..sorry : D
...depends on your synastry.click to expand
Earth and fire just needs to have the right balance without astrology play. It will be harder for easy for earth to befriend fire. They are magnetic together, as far as compromise and support it has to a right mix.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hey you 🙂 ..how have you been? : D
Earth and fire just needs to have the right balance without astrology play. It will be harder for easy for earth to befriend fire. They are magnetic together, as far as compromise and support it has to a right mix.
Posted by RumiLI am lovely just been resting and working same Ole and you?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hey you 🙂 ..how have you been? : D
Earth and fire just needs to have the right balance without astrology play. It will be harder for easy for earth to befriend fire. They are magnetic together, as far as compromise and support it has to a right mix.
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Posted by ForeverlovemeThank you for being honest, dear. I may come and bug you again because you seem to be one the few people who understand as well as care. At any point, if you find that annoying, please tell me so openly. Thanks a lot... I'll try to move on (but in my heart, I feel he'll come back; if he does, I don't know how to deal with him!)Posted by InLoveWithLifeI personally think it's best that you move on. I know it hurts
Dear Foreverloveme, Pinkbird03, and Leowww, here's what happened!
Feeling more confident after talking to you sweet ladies and another good friend (who's always been insisting that I give him some time, but also make sure that he knows that I will leave if he won't commit), I pinged him this morning telling him what I genuinely felt for him - "I missed you a couple of days ago", "no matter how many times we fight, tell yourself that we love each other", and such. He did respond, yeah, the usual emotionless, bland responses.
My friends always insisted on confronting him and getting certain things clear before proceeding further because being in the grey zone was sickening for me. So I also asked him some questions - "Please be honest. Honest answers won't hurt me; it's hiding the truth that hurts me. Do you see a future for this relationship? Will your parents agree? Apart from our differences, are there any outside factors that worry you? Above all, do you want to be with me in future?"
(He's said 'I love you' twice, made some really sweet gestures when we met; implied that he loves me in many subtle ways; but both of us have also decided to end this a few times. Even if we got back, I was always in the grey zone area most of the time. He's not straight forward and open like me.)
Today he asked me, "can I respond to your questions over the weekend?" (Dragging things and saying 'busy' is another one of his profound talents)
So I said, "okay, sooner the better".
To which he said, "I have previously suggested that we end it." (At this point, I got furious because he NEVER gives a clear yes or no; even if he says something, his actions would contradict that!)
So I said, "Because you're mentioning that again, I'll take 'no' as your final answer. Cheers! All the best!"
If he doesn't want to commit, he should say a firm 'No'. If he is willing to stay, he should say a strong 'yes'. Why always diplomatic, vague, and confusing—
I bet he'll come back and cycles will continue! Ladies, I'm SICK!!! I don't want to hurt him even a little, but at the same time, I can't put up with all this waiting in the grey area like an option!
What should I do? Please help me!click to expand
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