Make your way up the mountain cappies (Page 4)

Does anyone think I should call up this cappy girl and see what's going on?

Posted by BlackMamba
She has all the power in the world and her lazy azz does nothing but eat bon bons all day!

I guess different strokes for different folks I don't respect useless ppl.

lmao!

they are ROYALTY.

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She has all the power in the world and her lazy azz does nothing but eat bon bons all day!

I guess different strokes for different folks I don't respect useless ppl.

She does not have any power. William and Kate do a ton of charity work as part of their royal duties.

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i'm guessing is that, they have COOKS and BUTLERS, and laundry maids, and people who buy their food, and clean their toilets,

and all they have to do is get up and clean their teeth, and change into something beautiful while waiting for the deliciouis breakfast croissant and eggs easy side up. and a side of toast.

and make sure they are there for dinner at 7pm sharp, because Queen elizabeth is punctual. lol

an emtpy table at the royalty dining table.

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Posted by HappyCapper
@OP
We are all very different when it comes to that. Imo, you need to pay close attention to her signals - that's the only way.

Must say I got a little worried about your "I think adding her to my life would help me be more successful." comment. Very business like. But I may have misunderstood, so instead of jumping to conclusions, I'd like to ask you what you meant.

"Do y'all make good traditional wives then?"
No. Some may, but definitely not all. I'd say most women in my culture do not - they prefer to work outside their home and share the household duties with their spouse.

a) I was talking about inspiring me to achieve success. I think a good relationship is one where a woman can inspire a man and a man supports a woman towards success. Atleast, I like to think so. It sounds a bit business like since I am a moon in Capricorn an d quantify success in material gains.

b) That was a joke with Truecap about traditional wives since she was talking about traditional gender roles. Read the context ladies!

I hope I have now allayed your fears about my dark, ulterior motives? 😛

Making a Cap woman into success. Good luck! If they get the more successful guy they stop being about their personal success. They're great clingers!

Case in point the new princess of Cambridge

She's a good wife, I don't have a problem with a woman like that.

I expect class and good poise, the Duchess of Cambridge has both.

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but yeah i agree, she is a good wife and mother. heehee.

I am sure that the royal family is immensely interesting but this thread wasn't started for that. Please start a separate thread to discuss that so that I can have a few reasonable caps give me some useful advice. Thanks!

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I am sure that the royal family is immensely interesting but this thread wasn't started for that. Please start a separate thread to discuss that so that I can have a few reasonable caps give me some useful advice. Thanks!

ok.

didnt mean to get you upset.

i saw that and went with my gut instinct to post and say what i felt about it.

i'll know in the future not to mess in your topic.

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I am sure that the royal family is immensely interesting but this thread wasn't started for that. Please start a separate thread to discuss that so that I can have a few reasonable caps give me some useful advice. Thanks!

ok.

didnt mean to get you upset.

i saw that and went with my gut instinct to post and say what i felt about it.

i'll know in the future not to mess in your topic.

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I am not upset and I am also open to talking about the royal family and politics. Just not on this thread, I am still trying to figure out the right course of action with this girl. She hasn't done anything wrong but also hasn't been very talkative or responsive.

Just ask her whatever is on your mind. She is the only person you can get answers from, and thats the only way you can know what your next move is.

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Posted by Caplove
Did you ask her a question though? Sometimes when people just make statements via text I don't respond because I think.. "well there's not much for me to say back." Then I just don't respond.

No, I didn't really ask her anything. I was like hi, good morning....have a good day, whatever. I think that usually merits a good day yourself.

But I see your point of view, I do the same. Plus last week, I have her this big spiel on conserving energy and responding only to important messages. What does she do, turn around and practice it on me. Goddamn wymin....

This is the NY dating scene, I cut her some slack usually. Too many douchebags in suits and women just don't know where they stand.

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Hi friend lol.. I happened to stumble across your post. I'm wondering if this is where it went wrong. Can you elaborate on the spiel you gave her and was she contacting you more before you did this?

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Posted by truecap
I read some relationship research that when men are allowed to do things for women, the man is more likely to develop feelings for her. Such as if he is allowed to pay for dinner, or to open doors for her, or to take her places, fix things for her. Men like feeling appreciated and useful and they like feeling needed by their women.

This is what I am talking about, if I am not allowed to do any of the things you mentioned how am I adding any value into the lady's life? It's not that I don't have a personality or a sense of humor that I am trying to make up with money. I just like to feel that I am doing something nice for her and she feels appreciated.

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You should do all of these things it will mean a lot to her (she may not show it or get upset because she doesn't feel like she earned it). You have to provide her with a way to reciprocate so she can feel like she's earned it. Drop hints of the things you love so that she has a way to provide them for you. If she cares for you she will remember it, study it and try to become an expert on it just to make you happy.

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Did you ask her a question though? Sometimes when people just make statements via text I don't respond because I think.. "well there's not much for me to say back." Then I just don't respond.

No, I didn't really ask her anything. I was like hi, good morning....have a good day, whatever. I think that usually merits a good day yourself.

But I see your point of view, I do the same. Plus last week, I have her this big spiel on conserving energy and responding only to important messages. What does she do, turn around and practice it on me. Goddamn wymin....

This is the NY dating scene, I cut her some slack usually. Too many douchebags in suits and women just don't know where they stand.

Hi friend lol.. I happened to stumble across your post. I'm wondering if this is where it went wrong. Can you elaborate on the spiel you gave her and was she contacting you more before you did this?

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Hey! We were talking about people sending inane emails mostly in the work context. I said I only reply to important messages and send out only a few important emails or messages a day. I also told her that it was a waste of energy to respond to every single thing because most messages don't mean anything. I didn't think she would take that as a cue to stop responding to me!

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Posted by truecap
I read some relationship research that when men are allowed to do things for women, the man is more likely to develop feelings for her. Such as if he is allowed to pay for dinner, or to open doors for her, or to take her places, fix things for her. Men like feeling appreciated and useful and they like feeling needed by their women.

This is what I am talking about, if I am not allowed to do any of the things you mentioned how am I adding any value into the lady's life? It's not that I don't have a personality or a sense of humor that I am trying to make up with money. I just like to feel that I am doing something nice for her and she feels appreciated.

You should do all of these things it will mean a lot to her (she may not show it or get upset because she doesn't feel like she earned it). You have to provide her with a way to reciprocate so she can feel like she's earned it. Drop hints of the things you love so that she has a way to provide them for you. If she cares for you she will remember it, study it and try to become an expert on it just to make you happy.

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I can only do anything if she talks to me or sees me, at the moment I fee cut off. I haven't seen her in a month (granted I was travelling a lot and have been out of town for the past 2 weeks). But I thought she would alteast text me to see how I was doing or whatever, nothing, not a word. I think she doesn't care about me as much as I do about her. It's kind of sad, we are both decent people and I thought we had something going. Maybe she started seeing someone else.

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Posted by truecap
I read some relationship research that when men are allowed to do things for women, the man is more likely to develop feelings for her. Such as if he is allowed to pay for dinner, or to open doors for her, or to take her places, fix things for her. Men like feeling appreciated and useful and they like feeling needed by their women.

This is what I am talking about, if I am not allowed to do any of the things you mentioned how am I adding any value into the lady's life? It's not that I don't have a personality or a sense of humor that I am trying to make up with money. I just like to feel that I am doing something nice for her and she feels appreciated.

You should do all of these things it will mean a lot to her (she may not show it or get upset because she doesn't feel like she earned it). You have to provide her with a way to reciprocate so she can feel like she's earned it. Drop hints of the things you love so that she has a way to provide them for you. If she cares for you she will remember it, study it and try to become an expert on it just to make you happy.

I can only do anything if she talks to me or sees me, at the moment I fee cut off. I haven't seen her in a month (granted I was travelling a lot and have been out of town for the past 2 weeks). But I thought she would alteast text me to see how I was doing or whatever, nothing, not a word. I think she doesn't care about me as much as I do about her. It's kind of sad, we are both decent people and I thought we had something going. Maybe she started seeing someone else.

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I know for me, when I disappear it usually is because I have a lot on my mind and too many things going on. When I'm upset or stressed, I can't even hide it and I feel like I bring others down. So, I feel like if I talk to anyone I'll bring them down too. Maybe she's going through some stuff right now and it has nothing to do with you at all. If that's the case, trust me she's feeling bad for being non responsive and also thinking about you. You really do sound like a great guy, so I don't see how it could be you that is the issue.

What I would do is say something like, " I like you and I have been trying to communicate, but it seems you're not being receptive. So, I will let you be and if you ever want to talk you know how to get a hold of me"
that way you're showing her you still care, but you will let her come to you.

Posted by NostalgicCappyI know for me, when I disappear it usually is because I have a lot on my mind and too many things going on. When I'm upset or stressed, I can't even hide it and I feel like I bring others down. So, I feel like if I talk to anyone I'll bring them down too. Maybe she's going through some stuff right now and it has nothing to do with you at all. If that's the case, trust me she's feeling bad for being non responsive and also thinking about you. You really do sound like a great guy, so I don't see how it could be you that is the issue.

What I would do is say something like, " I like you and I have been trying to communicate, but it seems you're not being receptive. So, I will let you be and if you ever want to talk you know how to get a hold of me"
that way you're showing her you still care, but you will let her come to you.

Ok, it looks like I may have overreacted a bit. I actually spoke to her a little earlier. She was excited to hear from me and we are making plans to see eachother soon.

I also clarified with her what's the best medium to connect with her. I let her know I like to talk occasionally and don't like long silences. I was whatsapping her and she doesn't use that much, and she said, "omg you must have thought I was ignoring you".

I don't know if I should just tell her next time that I want to get to know her better to stop this sort of drama. I just don't want to rush into anything.

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Posted by NostalgicCappyI know for me, when I disappear it usually is because I have a lot on my mind and too many things going on. When I'm upset or stressed, I can't even hide it and I feel like I bring others down. So, I feel like if I talk to anyone I'll bring them down too. Maybe she's going through some stuff right now and it has nothing to do with you at all. If that's the case, trust me she's feeling bad for being non responsive and also thinking about you. You really do sound like a great guy, so I don't see how it could be you that is the issue.

What I would do is say something like, " I like you and I have been trying to communicate, but it seems you're not being receptive. So, I will let you be and if you ever want to talk you know how to get a hold of me"
that way you're showing her you still care, but you will let her come to you.

Ok, it looks like I may have overreacted a bit. I actually spoke to her a little earlier. She was excited to hear from me and we are making plans to see eachother soon.

I also clarified with her what's the best medium to connect with her. I let her know I like to talk occasionally and don't like long silences. I was whatsapping her and she doesn't use that much, and she said, "omg you must have thought I was ignoring you".

I don't know if I should just tell her next time that I want to get to know her better to stop this sort of drama. I just don't want to rush into anything.

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That is awesome, I'm stoked for you guys! 🙂

Yes, I would tell her that you would love to get to know her better, and leave it at that. You're not rushing anything by saying that, you need to get to know each other better for it to go anywhere anyway, Now that you have discussed the best way to get a hold of each other there should be more consistency in her correspondence with you. If she was excited to hear from you, she is definitely into you and feeling it.

Posted by NostalgicCappyThat is awesome, I'm stoked for you guys! 🙂

Yes, I would tell her that you would love to get to know her better, and leave it at that. You're not rushing anything by saying that, you need to get to know each other better for it to go anywhere anyway, Now that you have discussed the best way to get a hold of each other there should be more consistency in her correspondence with you. If she was excited to hear from you, she is definitely into you and feeling it.

She is still a bit blase about all this and I am obsessing more than I should obviously being a Cancer. I want to see her once a week and communicate at a reasonable level (nothing crazy like 100 messages a day, maybe like 2-3 times a week). If I can achieve that I will be more comfortable.

I think that is a reasonable request, and is a good place to start. The thing with Capricorns is that we always feel most comfortable when people let us come to them, and it helps us to warm up to you. Now that you know she doesn't use that "whatsapping" thing and you have established the best form of communication, if she still seems non responsive then that is something to be more aware of.

I can't stress this enough though, you have to try to be patient. Look at your conversation you had with her earlier as a *new beginning*, so to speak. She's excited to hear from you, that is such a good sign. Pace yourself and let this happen naturally. I will tell you that through this relationship, you will learn a lot and it is worth it once you know you both are on the same page.

Posted by NostalgicCappy
I think that is a reasonable request, and is a good place to start. The thing with Capricorns is that we always feel most comfortable when people let us come to them, and it helps us to warm up to you. Now that you know she doesn't use that "whatsapping" thing and you have established the best form of communication, if she still seems non responsive then that is something to be more aware of.

I can't stress this enough though, you have to try to be patient. Look at your conversation you had with her earlier as a *new beginning*, so to speak. She's excited to hear from you, that is such a good sign. Pace yourself and let this happen naturally. I will tell you that through this relationship, you will learn a lot and it is worth it once you know you both are on the same page.

So you're saying move at her pace and keep making her come to you. I don't mind going on 50 dates before we agree we like eachother, I am a moon in Capricorn I move slowly.

But my Sun and Venus in Cancer want reassurance she is not treating this trivially and realizes there is some seriousness to this.

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I think that is a reasonable request, and is a good place to start. The thing with Capricorns is that we always feel most comfortable when people let us come to them, and it helps us to warm up to you. Now that you know she doesn't use that "whatsapping" thing and you have established the best form of communication, if she still seems non responsive then that is something to be more aware of.

I can't stress this enough though, you have to try to be patient. Look at your conversation you had with her earlier as a *new beginning*, so to speak. She's excited to hear from you, that is such a good sign. Pace yourself and let this happen naturally. I will tell you that through this relationship, you will learn a lot and it is worth it once you know you both are on the same page.

So you're saying move at her pace and keep making her come to you. I don't mind going on 50 dates before we agree we like eachother, I am a moon in Capricorn I move slowly.

But my Sun and Venus in Cancer want reassurance she is not treating this trivially and realizes there is some seriousness to this.

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Yes, move at her pace and let her come to you more, but also make sure that you just let her know that you are there. We need reassurance that you are there and will be, when we are ready to come to you. When you say that you "want reassurance that she is not treating it trivially and realizes there is some seriousness to this", it sounds like you are more invested in this than she might be yet, or maybe she is but she's not ready to express that to you. Try not to think about how serious she is taking it for now, and just go with the flow. She will let you know one way or another. We appreciate people that understand that we need their patience in letting us "get there", more than you know. We also make up for it and the rewards are worth it.

Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I see where you're coming from when you say that but I just generally find it hard to do that. I have tried it in the past and my mind goes all scrambled.

Posted by NostalgicCappy Yes, move at her pace and let her come to you more, but also make sure that you just let her know that you are there. We need reassurance that you are there and will be, when we are ready to come to you. When you say that you "want reassurance that she is not treating it trivially and realizes there is some seriousness to this", it sounds like you are more invested in this than she might be yet, or maybe she is but she's not ready to express that to you. Try not to think about how serious she is taking it for now, and just go with the flow. She will let you know one way or another. We appreciate people that understand that we need their patience in letting us "get there", more than you know. We also make up for it and the rewards are worth it.

I am just going to keep communicating and persistently ask her out to do things with me. That's the only way I can show reassurance that I am all there.

The patience part is good advice, I need to show her that I am good for the long haul. I get it, that's the Saturn influence on your sign.

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Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

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I can't do it, I can only deal with one person at a time.

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Posted by NostalgicCappy Yes, move at her pace and let her come to you more, but also make sure that you just let her know that you are there. We need reassurance that you are there and will be, when we are ready to come to you. When you say that you "want reassurance that she is not treating it trivially and realizes there is some seriousness to this", it sounds like you are more invested in this than she might be yet, or maybe she is but she's not ready to express that to you. Try not to think about how serious she is taking it for now, and just go with the flow. She will let you know one way or another. We appreciate people that understand that we need their patience in letting us "get there", more than you know. We also make up for it and the rewards are worth it.

I am just going to keep communicating and persistently ask her out to do things with me. That's the only way I can show reassurance that I am all there.

The patience part is good advice, I need to show her that I am good for the long haul. I get it, that's the Saturn influence on your sign.

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YES, that is perfect. Once we know you're in it for the long haul, that is when we will come to you. That is if she likes you for sure and is considering you for the long haul, which I would not be surprised if she was. I think you got this, 🙂

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Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

I can't do it, I can only deal with one person at a time.

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Perfect answer, incandescentcancer

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Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

I can't do it, I can only deal with one person at a time.

Perfect answer, incandescentcancer

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I am traditional like that. A man should only covet one woman at a time.

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Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

I can't do it, I can only deal with one person at a time.

Perfect answer, incandescentcancer

I am traditional like that. A man should only covet one woman at a time.

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Well then, she is a lucky girl isn't she? You're a good one. Don't worry, I think you'll do just fine.

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Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

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RED FLAG: It is absolutely fair. and your telling him its okay to be sneaky cancers are only known to do this when they don't truly love the other person. For most women this is where trust is broken. He gets caught, she finds out because he cant let go of the other person, now he's got two bad relationships and instead of happily ever after he ends up with drama and despair.

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Posted by BlackMamba
Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

RED FLAG: It is absolutely fair. and your telling him its okay to be sneaky cancers are only known to do this when they don't truly love the other person. For most women this is where trust is broken. He gets caught, she finds out because he cant let go of the other person, now he's got two bad relationships and instead of happily ever after he ends up with drama and despair.

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Don't worry, I am not going to do it. It's not my style anyway. 🙂

OMG at least some Cancers do care 🙂
I have dated a capricorn and besides he was male he showed that he was into me...he called, texted, came, asked me out every single day - so I knew that gut really LIKED me.
I'm not sure it works the same way for ladies, maybe she's still considering and insecure... You could wait out as she might be not ready however badly she wants it. So maybe it's not a home run for her, she understands she has to work on the success etc. but feels insecure whether you're right for her. Until she doesn't do sth, she may not know what to do with you in a relationship.
As you said there's STILL little investment from her side... IDK. You have to decide youself whether keep on and wait out OR get your fire back and lose the fantasy.
The right person is the person who chooses you and makes it clear.

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Keep dating others

I have to agree with this, and I hate saying that because the girl is a fellow Cap, but it's not fair to you to put all your eggs in one basket, if you don't know that she is doing the same. Just don't tell her, if you do decide to date others.

RED FLAG: It is absolutely fair. and your telling him its okay to be sneaky cancers are only known to do this when they don't truly love the other person. For most women this is where trust is broken. He gets caught, she finds out because he cant let go of the other person, now he's got two bad relationships and instead of happily ever after he ends up with drama and despair.

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I'm sorry I forgot they were in a committed relationship saying I love you and all that jazz. He owes her nothing, and vice versa, they have not established anything. First off, second: She has been sporadic with her communication to him and that's not fair . I'm only looking out for him. The reason I said not to tell her if he does decide to date other people is because if I liked someone and they told me they were going out with some chick, I would lose interest right then and there, just because too many fish in the sea to feel like you have to compete. With that said however, if she's not delivering the same effort as him in this, then why should he devote himself to her fully? Again I hate saying it because she's a Cap, but if it were me and someone wasn't showing me mutual interest, I wouldn't allow them to make me look like a chump. It takes two, and he can't make it happen on his own. So, I hope that she will treat him with more respect and show the interest that he deserves, then all will be good anyway. It's admirable that he doesn't want to talk to anyone else. and that is his choice. I just had to make a point. Are you a Capricorn "CapTivating" ? Just out of curiosity.

its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

@ NostalgicCappy @CapTivating - I am not going to add one more person into this mix, because I can't and don't want to deal with more emotions.

I just want to see where this goes but I do think I need to be a bit more lighter and less invested into this, I ultimately don't want to scare her away. If this means staying friends for a bit longer, maybe that's the way to go.

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its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

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its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

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yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

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@ NostalgicCappy @CapTivating - I am not going to add one more person into this mix, because I can't and don't want to deal with more emotions.

I just want to see where this goes but I do think I need to be a bit more lighter and less invested into this, I ultimately don't want to scare her away. If this means staying friends for a bit longer, maybe that's the way to go.

lol don't mind us we were just having a moment. Sounds like a great way to go.

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its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

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Us Caps sure are stubborn sometimes, huh 😉

Don't mind at all. I'm from San Clemente, in Orange County. Where in Cali are you from originally?

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its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

Us Caps sure are stubborn sometimes, huh 😉

Don't mind at all. I'm from San Clemente, in Orange County. Where in Cali are you from originally?

lol just a little 😄...but I came from San Luis Obispo up past Santa Barbra and then I lived in the bay area for a while. I do have family in Anaheim that's also in Orange County right?

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Oh wow, that's so cool. San Luis Obispo is a nice area. Yes, Anaheim is in Orange County. It's actually only about 30 minutes from me. 🙂

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3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

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I will, ultimately I won't stand for disrespectful behavior.

That said, I was communicating with her using a platform she doesn't use. The problem is that she still is not initiating anything and that I cannot tolerate forever.

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Posted by CapTivating
its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

Us Caps sure are stubborn sometimes, huh 😉

Don't mind at all. I'm from San Clemente, in Orange County. Where in Cali are you from originally?

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Oh you guys are stubborn alright.

I was in Cali a couple of times in the past 6 months. I was in San Clemente in July, it's awesome.

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its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

Us Caps sure are stubborn sometimes, huh 😉

Don't mind at all. I'm from San Clemente, in Orange County. Where in Cali are you from originally?

Oh you guys are stubborn alright.

I was in Cali a couple of times in the past 6 months. I was in San Clemente in July, it's awesome.

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Small world, that's so cool. Yeah, I love San Clemente. If you ever come back down here, you should let me know. 🙂

Posted by HeartWho cares who initiates? There are no roles or rules.

Usually I have to go first. My Mars likes to conquer.

It's about knowing that you're wanted as well, it's not about initiating. I don't mind initiating 10 times if she initiates atleast once.

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Me - Successful, Sun in Cancer and Moon in Capricorn
Her - Elegant, classy, Sun in Capricorn and Moon in Cancer

I think adding her to my life would help me be more successful. We are going on our third date. She never initiates and I need to ask her out all the time, is this a common thing? When I am with her she is full of laughter and happiness, we talk about a ton of things. Is this cappy interested in me? Ask if you need more info~

Make sure you have money.

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I am not worried about it.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

I will, ultimately I won't stand for disrespectful behavior.

That said, I was communicating with her using a platform she doesn't use. The problem is that she still is not initiating anything and that I cannot tolerate forever.

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When we're interested in someone we put in effort, even if small if that's all we have, no matter how busy we get. We wouldn't want to lose a good thing.

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Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by Greentea

Posted by incandescentcancer
3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

I will, ultimately I won't stand for disrespectful behavior.

That said, I was communicating with her using a platform she doesn't use. The problem is that she still is not initiating anything and that I cannot tolerate forever.

When we're interested in someone we put in effort, even if small if that's all we have, no matter how busy we get. We wouldn't want to lose a good thing.

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What do you suggest? How can I find out?

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Posted by NostalgicCappy

Posted by CapTivating
its ok and yes I am a Capricorn. I just think you missed the point where he's been trying to contact her with the wrong medium. He's not been texting her phone when she found out, she said "you must have thought I was ignoring you". No you are right they are not committed they are still trying to work through their communication difficulties. No one knows how she truly feels at this point, but if she were to find out about another woman we all know how she will feel. you said it your self you would loose interest. So solely in my opinion I feel he should get through the communication difficulties before he goes adding some one else to the equation. Sorry for red flagging your post.

Trust me, I totally understand about not talking to other women as I am the same way when I'm into a guy. But, that's also when they are receptive and showing the same interest in me. I did tell him last night that now that they have established the communication channels, to look at it as a new beginning. I also said, that him saying he wasn't going to talk to other women was perfect. So, I see your point for sure, just hope you see mine too fellow Cappy, 🙂

yes I sure do 🙂 and I'm glad we agree lol I know just how a fellow cap can be when it comes to proving her point! if you don't mind me asking which part of California are you from. I always get a little home sick when I meet people from there.

Us Caps sure are stubborn sometimes, huh 😉

Don't mind at all. I'm from San Clemente, in Orange County. Where in Cali are you from originally?

lol just a little 😄...but I came from San Luis Obispo up past Santa Barbra and then I lived in the bay area for a while. I do have family in Anaheim that's also in Orange County right?

Oh wow, that's so cool. San Luis Obispo is a nice area. Yes, Anaheim is in Orange County. It's actually only about 30 minutes from me. 🙂

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Awesome! its really nice to meet a cap from Cali..

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Posted by incandescentcancer
3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

I will, ultimately I won't stand for disrespectful behavior.

That said, I was communicating with her using a platform she doesn't use. The problem is that she still is not initiating anything and that I cannot tolerate forever.

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It is kind of odd that you've been on 3 dates and she doesn't call at all. Does she think your just hanging out?

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Posted by incandescentcancer
3 days not a word, no response to a text message.

It's quite possible that she's busy and I can understand that fine.

But this is exactly what makes Cancer jittery, we expect to hear back. Atleast a one liner......

Is she going to do this all the time?

We can get oblivious to things, especially when we're buried into our work. But if she keeps doing this, let her go, she's not that into you.

I will, ultimately I won't stand for disrespectful behavior.

That said, I was communicating with her using a platform she doesn't use. The problem is that she still is not initiating anything and that I cannot tolerate forever.

When we're interested in someone we put in effort, even if small if that's all we have, no matter how busy we get. We wouldn't want to lose a good thing.

What do you suggest? How can I find out?

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I don't wamt to come off sounding bad. When someone just sends me a text that doesn't merit a response, i would probably respond (unless I domt know what to say) because I want to keep his interest. I may not respond right away but I will soon enough, its either im busy at the moment or thinking of a response. . If I don't like or have any interest I will just look at the text and go back to whatever I was doing and not put another thought to it. If I like somone, I won't forget.