My capy still with ex??

Please help with ur opinions! Its been exactly 1 year since weve met during a course at work (not in where i live) He came on strong and told me last relationship ended 3 years ago. We spent 3 weeks chatting non stop and then he came to my country when we updated our Facebook statuses to in a relationship without specifying each other cause we both didnt want people at work to know. He said he will not make me feel we r in a distant relationship cause we will keep talking every night on video and we will keep mewting. After 1 month, we met in turkey. Then he bought me a ticket to spend new year with him and his family. Then he came one month after to my country, and then a month after we met again in turkey. Then we met again a month after in spain. Always 4 days except in spain for a week and always with his family. When i went to Switzerland where he lives, i found a chat with a girl that i read all. Almost every day. Nothing out if the ordinary that looked like friends talking and sometimes setting activities to do together, like going to ikea so he buys furniture, reserving a dinner with friends etc. i noted her name. The same day, i saw that she whatsapped him many times and one of the times she sent him what she was eating. He said shes just a friend in italy showing him a dish she likes. After i did my investigations when i came home, i found out that she is his ex. Early at the beginning of our relationship i told him i don't accept being friends with exes and he said he feels aorry for her she lost both her parents in a car accident, he pitties her and he helps her when she needs anything and its happens like every 2-3 months.. then i watched Facebook and realized it was her birthday when he said he was going to another friend's birthday. I confronted him and we went silent despite i told him how hurt and angry i am for he hid it from me. After 1 week he told me theou message he loves me and never lied to me and he needs distance. After 5 days he messaged me saying i love u as if nothing happened and promised we talk the next day. We did and he denied being in constant contact with her and that when they meet its by coincidence so i faced him with what i read in skype and he said u didnt read any i miss or love u so why making a big deal out of it. I told him i dont him to contact her and he said shes a friend and did nothing why should he and that he does not loke being told what to do.. we argued a lot why should he stop contact and that i feel disrespected and that my peace of mind should be his priority etc and then he said ok he will cut contact but im kind of sure he said that to shut me up. Then he went angry for not trusting him saying if i dont trust him it means were over! That he loves me and doesn't want to lose me. He accused me of extreme jealousy even though I repeated im fine with having female friends but not fine with being friends, this close, with an ex. Then we bith tried to break the ice knowing im hurt and not at peace. Today he updated me about his work issues and told me the names of the friends hes foing out with for lunch which he didnt tell me the names before (since he was going out with her).

I am unable to digest that he lied to me. Why would he lie? Why this closesness? I told him whos more important and he said me, yet he cant cut contact?!! Hes been refusing for months to put a Facebook picture for us yet at one point he told me when i visit him, whenever i want, he will introduce me to her and ill be fine with her.

He also lied to me about her name, what she looks like and i dont know why i have a feeling he also lied about when they broke up. I know that he loves me. Im sure of it, but i also trust my gut when i feel hes not over her completely and they still sleep together..

Can anybody help me decode his behavior? Should i tell him I can't trust him anymore? He feels offended if i dont!! Wtf!! What shouyi do? Im so hurt i can think logically.

I want to add he always bought my tickets to meet him. Me on the other hand inalways for him gifts. He always paid for our dinners, lunches, everything..

I signed up to say tread carefully dear. Recognize the flags that are there and decide if this is what you need in life.

Damn cardinal signs smh. Keep it real.

He most likely will not stop contacting her. He may tell her what's going on with the two of you, but he probably won't cut contact especially if she was in his life before you.

If you don't feel comfortable, know he lied, and think he is probably sleeping with her then try to let him go. He's not going to change his behavior especially not if he's defending it.