Confusing

How can you tell if a cap man is into you? I met one amazing guy who I seem to also like a lot. Being a Libra I have no problems expressing my feelings and likes towards him, but he is so strange and hard to read. My bigger concern is their loyalty. How loyal these folks are? I am talking about a guy who I think has his shit together. Very successful and has an amazing soul. The day we saw each other he couldn't stop holding me. He says he wishes he can hug me everyday (we don't live in the same country but he comes to his home country,where I live, quite often). I have a lot to say about him, but I really have a hard time to understand him. Can someone relate such situation w a cap, and what are their turn ona/offs?

Libra :*

You're questioning cap loyalty.....well, caps are known for loyalty (to people who have proved worthy and have earned it)

This is what happened. I texted saying maybe its the best if we stop talking to each other bc there are moments when I feel unwanted and pushy and I am none of that in my nature. He texted saying he is very busy with his life atm and asked if we can talk about that issue whenever he has more time as he doesn't want me to feel that way. I didn't reply anything yet. We have seen only once, he is amazing IRL and he also told me many times if we lived closer to each other I'd have him every night. The night we met he was staring at me all the time. Talking pics of me, especially my legs. I think I have a big crush on him and I can't imagine sharing him w other woman. He is 28 and I am 25. He is very successful and is becoming a public person. All over the news atm. A lot of girls comment him, like his photos, and etc... Bothers me people... Maybe its my fault for falling for someone like he is.

Loyalty is not even an issue with Caps, I know that much.

Yes I can relate. Sometimes I question whether my cap likes me. He basically told me he's still talking to me and going on dates. That's usually a sign that he's interested in me. Like sure, it's obvious when he puts it that way. But I think us girls like being told and shown how much they like us on a daily basis. I wouldn't expect too much from a cap. They can be great bfs though. You just have to have a lot of patience and understand that they love a little different than how others do. For example, they like space. So don't be too needy.

Don't they get colder and loose interest if you also withdrawal?

Dont play games to "test" where his mind is at. He'll be loyal as long as you are and as long as you keep him interested. Dont be needy, keep at looking you're best, feeling you're best. Don't show weakness. Be proud.

Sorry to answer original Q, in my experience, they show in practical ways. They will do things to make your day to day life easier. Not in a way others may do it for just anyone because thats how they are. I like their humble ways of loving. I dont like overly shows of love and affection, thats easy. I notice the little things. They have this way about them its as if they are "rewarding you" lol.

I actually think it's the main reason people try to come back after the relationship is over. Oftentimes, they'll attribute it to themselves thinking that the credit must go somewhere lol..and that things will continue to magically fall into place for them when time slowly reveals that it won't.

Spot on!

Posted by Libra2909
Don't they get colder and loose interest if you also withdrawal?

They might! But I didn't say stop talking to them. I basically mean don't be a stage five clinger. Don't move faster than they do. They like to feel like they have some control over the relationship.

Posted by Libra2909
This is what happened. I texted saying maybe its the best if we stop talking to each other bc there are moments when I feel unwanted and pushy and I am none of that in my nature. He texted saying he is very busy with his life atm and asked if we can talk about that issue whenever he has more time as he doesn't want me to feel that way. I didn't reply anything yet. We have seen only once, he is amazing IRL and he also told me many times if we lived closer to each other I'd have him every night. The night we met he was staring at me all the time. Talking pics of me, especially my legs. I think I have a big crush on him and I can't imagine sharing him w other woman. He is 28 and I am 25. He is very successful and is becoming a public person. All over the news atm. A lot of girls comment him, like his photos, and etc... Bothers me people... Maybe its my fault for falling for someone like he is.

So you've only met up once?

Too soon to expect that much loyalty. I wouldn't expect exclusitivity until a minimum of 3 months.

What is wrong with people—

Seriously.

One date and you expect way too much.

It takes time to get to know someone well enough to even know whether you're compatible, if they have the qualities you want, whether they have a good character, etc. It takes time to build a foundation.

Why do so many people expect anot instant relationship? It just don't happen like that.

Geesh.

Oh and for the record there is absolutely nothing confusing about this situation.

You don't know each other yet. You have only spent one time together in person.

Allow time to develop a relationship.

Don't expect too much too soon.

At this point you owe each other nothing.

Chill. Otherwise you will be appearing desperate and needy.

I also think I expect too much from him. He promised we will see each other again but he didn't make it. He said he had a lot of things to do as he had a promotion going on. He apologized many times for that and said he will make up and we will talk about the things that bother me. I think I never met someone like him before and I have never felt that way as when I was with him. That night when we met, he couldn't take his eyes off me, his hugs were so long lasting and he was in the real sense of the word "admiring" my appearance. He was texting me a lot after we met saying he wishes he had me every night with him, but now he is different. I messaged him asking how is he doing, he replies normally, he is sweet again, but not as before. Plus he is all the time online on that stupid fb. All kinds of thoughts pass in my head. He asked me for patience one day... Maybe I should back off a little.

Thoughts?

That is also what I say...

I think he keeps in touch with a lot of girls as he was all over the news here and yeah... Girls are waiting for something like that. But I will never trade for any of those who talk to him. I have very high qualities, but now I am fucked up bc I happened to like him more than he likes me. 😢 it bothers me a lot sometimes, like its even hard to explain it. Sometimes I want to delete everything and moveeee on. But then I say, what if he is honest and he is testing me and similar... Then what?

All I know is I don't like mind games and I am always straight forward. If I don't like someone I let them know, so they don't waste their time.

Posted by Capri-sun
If he didn't like you, I doubt he'd be engaging in any conversation.

Having someone like you more than you like them does not guarantee success.

If you are straightforward, ask or express to him how you feel & why you feel that way.

Imo it sounds like things are still new between you 2.

If his profession and women being attracted to him is going to be a problem possible consider if this is even the kind of guy that you want to be with.

Agree with everything u said. Once I wrote him a message saying I no longer want to keep in touch bc this is going nowhere, I was expecting a cruel reply from him, but it was the opposite.he texted saying just bc he doesn't have the time to reply on my text doesn't mean he ignores me. ( I don't know how he has no time when he is all the time online) and he feels bad if I also feel bad. You know, he Is that type of person who u can't figure out where he stands at. For example I liked talking to him, I wanted to see him, we met, everything was brilliant and I know I like him and that's it. I clear with my emotions.

And u know what? This social media is such a crap. Imagine, u get obsessed by watching is he only, if he is u ask yourself why he doesn't reply, blablabla... Modern generation, we are so fucked up.