Question for Capricorn men - Am I crazy?

I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

A Capricorn will only spend his precious, hard-earned money on someone he truly cares for.

did you guys talk about gifts before hand? Like asking if there is anything you want for xmas? Not really an excuse, but its the only thing I could think of. Sorry.

Sweet Jesus that is just so wrong .. U have every right to feel the way u do. I'm so sorry he did that to u :/

Cheap bastard .. Hey it's the truth!

That's annoying. Did he know you were getting him presents?

I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

I hate gift giving because if I do and they don't like it. It will crush my rising spirit. Like okay next time no next time.

He's a guy, not a mind reader. He's a guy, he doesn't know any better. He's simply a typical guy. Stop having such high expectations for him. 90% of men are like this.

My ex for 11 yrs (Also Cap) rarely gave me gifts or flowers etc. When he did, he would give me something I do like. We were together for 11yrs, I don't think anyone would be with someone for 11yrs and not care. I didn't really care about the gifts. He used to say that is not that he doesn't think about giving me something, it's that his mind is mostly at work and working to provide the best for us. He barely remembered people's birthdays, but he was very good at his job.

I always have him gifts..for 11 yrs straight lol his bday is on Christmas day and I still got him 2 🙂

It just depends on how you see it, and I believe you should talk to him but don't be upset about it, just ask him that you wanna know why he didn't think of giving you something.

Okay think like a guy, and then sex and food. Keep it simple.

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

My ex cap would not buy me gifts because he said that he never knows if I really like it. The few things he has gotten me on his own (&friends) (jacket, sweater and camera) they usually don't fit me LOL but I'd just exchange the size. What he mostly did was if I wanted a purse, shoes, car, anything, if he can afford it, he wouldn't mind give me the money for it.

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

1. They generally say that you earth signs get along well with each other. But I'm a Leo who's ended it with a Cap and my experience is this - I seriously hate him for what he made me go through! (That includes boring, stingy, silent treatment, passive aggressiveness, frequent misunderstanding, lying, and Cheating at last! He was involved with someone else, too!)

2. In my case, it was the opposite. Exciting in the earlier stages and then continuously on and off. Sickening hot and cold behavior.

3. One thing that I share with my Taurean friend is that both of us are really generous to the ones we love. Also we take love very seriously.

But with this Cap fellow, one of the top most disgusting traits is that he was super stingy, not only with money, but like the astrologer in some site had said, in all forms such as effort and emotions!

He'd hardly ever do anything to express his love for me, and when I'd get pissed off and leave, he'd come back and act sweet as though he did nothing wrong.

He put me through these cycles for nearly one whole year till I found out that he was cheating on me. That was enough to break it and walk away and now I'm really glad and relieved.

Go by your gut and don't get overly attached till he proves to you that he takes you seriously, too.

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Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

My ex cap would not buy me gifts because he said that he never knows if I really like it. The few things he has gotten me on his own (&friends) (jacket, sweater and camera) they usually don't fit me LOL but I'd just exchange the size. What he mostly did was if I wanted a purse, shoes, car, anything, if he can afford it, he wouldn't mind give me the money for it.

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If someone did the same to me, just giving the money, I'd gladly call him 'ex'! 😉

Posted by Aerazo

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

My ex cap would not buy me gifts because he said that he never knows if I really like it. The few things he has gotten me on his own (&friends) (jacket, sweater and camera) they usually don't fit me LOL but I'd just exchange the size. What he mostly did was if I wanted a purse, shoes, car, anything, if he can afford it, he wouldn't mind give me the money for it.

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My father who is not a cap btw always gives me money to buy my mom presents for every holiday. He also sometimes gives her money and she picks out her own gifts.

1. A lot of guys don't like to go shopping

2. They have absolutely no clue what to buy

3. A lot of guys don't want others to buy them gifts because half the time they don't really like what u got them. Do you really think they get excited about clothes? Or random nick nacks? They only love gifts they pick out for themselves usually. Not all the time of course.

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

Oh dear. So you guys did talk about gifts. Aaaaannnd he told you how this was gonna play out. As in; "He said he didn't want me to get him anything".

To make it worse, you were kind of confusing when you said; "I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal". That "no big deal" makes it seem as if the exchange (gifts) wasn't that important to you either. Again, I agree that he should have gotten you something on principle but, this is your first xmas together, right?

I know you are upset right now but, given your version of events, this seems to be a legitimate misunderstanding. You guys can work through this, with a little less pride/ ego and a lot more communication.

Posted by Capri-sun
1. Give without expecting anything in return. You gave him gifts because it was important to you (not because it was important yo him as he asked you not to get him anything)

2. Since it is important to you, and you are hurt by it a)express this to him for future reference or b) move on with your life

3. The money example someone gave, I can understand that because I work to provide. That means if you specifically say you want something or want to go somewhere and I can afford it, then it's yours. I tell my kids this. (Leo doesn't like this - that's part of why I say thread carefully with leo/cap/any other fire sign dynamic)

4. He asked you not to buy him gifts & you make more money than he does. He might feel emasculated. Men want to be respected above being loved (what women want) so by buying him gifts after his request for you not to was being disrespectful of his wishes.

Now take my last point + your feelings and you have a miscommunication and 2 people who are both upset and neither of you understand why the other is upset. That's why some people are saying communicate and talk about it.

The scorpio I was talking to last year forgot my birthday. And I politely told him after the fact. I guess it just doesn't affect me as much because I've gotten use to it. My brother & best friend forgot the year before. Now if you take a step back and look at things in the grand scheme of it all to some people that is important and a deal breaker to me, i know I can call my brother and friend at anytime of the day/night and they will be there for me.

It's up to you how much importance you put on the exchange of gifts on Christmas :-/

My personal opinion, it's not that serious. You have to do what's best for you and you have every right to feel the way you do, and if you don't want to talk about it with him then don't. Even talking to him about it doesn't mean that he will buy you something out of obligation either.

It sounds like you two are incompatible and have different expectations.

Hey, I didn't mean to hurt anyone.

As I see things, a gift isn't a gift. It isn't money. It's the effort one puts for their loved ones. So I'd always appreciate anything that someone gives me. If it doesn't suit me, it'll remain in a corner reminding me of their affection. Yes, I'll give them something that I think would suit them best and also apologise while giving saying "I'm sorry if you don't like it" and so far, nobody's told me that they got anything exchanged or they didn't like it.

I agree with no. 4 of what you say. I get it. If I were in her place, I won't take it this seriously as I'm a giver, but make faces playfully and demand that I be given a small treat or something. Neither can I take it too lightly because I'll see that as cheap, plus my affection not being returned would kinda hurt me.

It was through little fights and making up (he'd write poems for me to cool me down) that he and I got closer, but then you know...

It kinda hurts a bit now...

I think ditching him completely would be too dramatic. If it were me, I would be petty and give away his presents and never get him another one, but still keep him around.

Is he selfish with anything else?

Like his time or his love to you?

I dated an immature Cap for 2 years and if anything, that was one thing he was good at...gift giving. I think you should say something. Just be cautious of your delivery.

But Taurus and cap is my OTP —

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Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I mentioned in passing that I got him something, but that it was small and not really a big deal. He said he didn't want me to get him anything. I said that I already did get him something and that he may not express affection by giving gifts, but that I could not imagine not giving him something for Christmas, as that would be ridiculous. I do make more money than he does, so I did not buy him lavish, high priced gifts but instead bought him practical gifts. Although he does not make a tremendous amount of money, I think you can always find room in your budget for a candle, a scented lotion, or something small to show that you know and listen to the person you are with. If you can pay for weed, you can afford a gift - is the way my mind works. The thing is, it is a subject that I don't think I can even talk about with him. What does someone say? I'm crushed that you didn't even care enough to get me a gift? What is the point? If he buys one after I'm a sobbing mess, it is an obligatory "Here, take this and just shut up already!" gift. I don't want that. I have learned from this site to pay more attention to actions than the words. I just didn't know if I was being petty.

My ex cap would not buy me gifts because he said that he never knows if I really like it. The few things he has gotten me on his own (&friends) (jacket, sweater and camera) they usually don't fit me LOL but I'd just exchange the size. What he mostly did was if I wanted a purse, shoes, car, anything, if he can afford it, he wouldn't mind give me the money for it.

If someone did the same to me, just giving the money, I'd gladly call him 'ex'! 😉

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Not necessarily, I honestly have seen couples where the guy buys expensive jewelry and perfumes, handbags, etc to his girl or wife and still cheat on her.

So I think that the gift thing doesn't really make a guy less likely to cheat or love you more.

It also depends on the type of girl.. Cap men I believe like women who take good care of themselves and they will be glad to give her what she wants as long as she knows what she wants. My case is a bit complicated bc I'm picky.

Now, I'm talking about all of the 3 cap men I've dated, they have all been the same way, and I don't mind it. I did say that sometimes they do give me gifts, but usually there's something wrong lol

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

Gift giving was not discussed. 3 Christmas gifts is way too many gifts for a guy you've been dating less than a year.

When we women move too fast and get overly excited and anxious over a man we tend to over give and over share.

You made this super awkward by doing too much.

You put him in this situation when it could have been avoided. Don't give gifts unless you've discussed it first but if you do give gifts without discussing it first then don't expect reciprocation.

Just to share a bit about my situation since Christmas just passed.

I started talking to a Cap in September, he took care of me in every way possible, I'd buy drinks to have at home when he came and he always tried to pay me back lol I'm a giver, so I don't mind spending money on someone I care about.

In November he took over a legal case I have and we have to be distant now bc of the Atty/client relationship.

I got him a gift for Christmas/his bday (26th), I got 2 bow ties (buy one get one free lol) not cheap bow ties though, but I know he likes to wear them now, one with American flag for inauguration day (let's not talk about political preference) I know he will wear it.

I never asked him if he got me something bc I'm not expecting a gift, I'm thanking him for the way he treats me and for working on my case.

I told him I got him something and he said "Thank you, thats so sweet of you"

I haven't been able to give it to him yet, we have both been super busy.

I never got mad that he didn't say he got me something, and even for telling him ahead of time, im.not expecting something either. If I got him a gift it was to show my appreciation. He shows it in a different way.

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Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

Gift giving was not discussed. 3 Christmas gifts is way too many gifts for a guy you've been dating less than a year.

When we women move too fast and get overly excited and anxious over a man we tend to over give and over share.

You made this super awkward by doing too much.

You put him in this situation when it could have been avoided. Don't give gifts unless you've discussed it first but if you do give gifts without discussing it first then don't expect reciprocation.

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Regardless you should give gifts without expecting one back. In regards to being cap a gift exchange needs to be discussed beforehand to minimize disappointments lol when I give gifts its usually like what do you want..this? Ok let's go get it..I Dont like giving suprise gifts to picky people it makes me feel like even if they Dont like it they are going to act like they do and vice versa. I'd rather give you want you want

Is he selfish with anything else?

Like his time or his love to you?

(I don't know how to cut and paste questions/answers) He really isn't selfish. Whenever I want to see him, he drops what he is doing and always accommodates my schedule. We usually see each other about once a week. We message each other every day, but he isn't verbally expressive about his feelings. I am ok with this, but he has to put up with me when I am verbally affectionate. Like after sex when I have that love high, I never shut up. LOL. I wonder if other Taurus women are this way too....

In hindsight, I should have asked to talk about this before Christmas. Some of the comments here are really helpful I thought Christmas was pretty obvious, but I learned the hard way that it isn't everybody's favorite holiday. I have never had a boyfriend not give me a gift for Christmas before. So I was hurt when he didn't. When we talked about it, he went ballistic and practically broke up with me. Fortunately, I think before I fire, and he fires first, asks questions after. I let his messages settle for a while and then I asked questions and asked if this was a possible misunderstanding and could we try to understand the other person's perspective before we travel to the point of no return. It took about 10 hours of messages back and forth, (because every issue was then thrown into the mix...arg!) but I think the storm has passed.

Thank you everybody for all your selfless help. I swear dating a Capricorn man is like riding a rollercoaster sometimes. Lots of heart pounding, up and down moments.

Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
Is he selfish with anything else?

Like his time or his love to you?

(I don't know how to cut and paste questions/answers) He really isn't selfish. Whenever I want to see him, he drops what he is doing and always accommodates my schedule. We usually see each other about once a week. We message each other every day, but he isn't verbally expressive about his feelings. I am ok with this, but he has to put up with me when I am verbally affectionate. Like after sex when I have that love high, I never shut up. LOL. I wonder if other Taurus women are this way too....

In hindsight, I should have asked to talk about this before Christmas. Some of the comments here are really helpful I thought Christmas was pretty obvious, but I learned the hard way that it isn't everybody's favorite holiday. I have never had a boyfriend not give me a gift for Christmas before. So I was hurt when he didn't. When we talked about it, he went ballistic and practically broke up with me. Fortunately, I think before I fire, and he fires first, asks questions after. I let his messages settle for a while and then I asked questions and asked if this was a possible misunderstanding and could we try to understand the other person's perspective before we travel to the point of no return. It took about 10 hours of messages back and forth, (because every issue was then thrown into the mix...arg!) but I think the storm has passed.

Thank you everybody for all your selfless help. I swear dating a Capricorn man is like riding a rollercoaster sometimes. Lots of heart pounding, up and down moments.

Good! Not just that he's a cap. you are a Taurus and you also have some flaws that could contradict his views, or he might not even think of it as a big deal, which is why you get upset and cry. is not that he doesn't care, it's just that his priorities in a relationship may not be gift giving, but support to you instead. you just have to see how he shows his appreciation towards you and how you want to deliver your appreciation to him. They don't have to be the exact same way.

Just be patient if you really like him.

How was he over valentines day? Your birthday?

It's not so much the gift or amount spent but the thought behind it. Did he take you to your favorite dinner spot or plan a more elaborate date when you saw him on the 1st?

It could be he's not into xmas and giftgiving. I wouldn't take it too personally. Look instead to how he treats you throughout the rest of the year and if he comes up lacking its time to reevaluate.

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I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

Gift giving was not discussed. 3 Christmas gifts is way too many gifts for a guy you've been dating less than a year.

When we women move too fast and get overly excited and anxious over a man we tend to over give and over share.

You made this super awkward by doing too much.

You put him in this situation when it could have been avoided. Don't give gifts unless you've discussed it first but if you do give gifts without discussing it first then don't expect reciprocation.

I don't think it's too much at all, if it's the right guy he would have loved them.

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3 gifts is too much for one guy who hasn't bought one gift for her. It's the equivalent of telling a man I like you MORE so I give more, so he gives her zero gifts and she felt rejected and that should make him feel like a selfish prick and I'm sure he did. This situation could have been avoided if they had better communication between one another.

Posted by Capri-sun
Or seriously just chalk it up to incompatibility & find someone who buys you gifts.

This....

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Or seriously just chalk it up to incompatibility & find someone who buys you gifts.

This....

Women are boring

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From your point of view why are we boring?

I can see why you are hurt.

How does he treat you otherwise? When you do things, who pays? Who's place do you go to? Etc.

Maybe he's one of those people who don't want to get into the habit of exchanging gifts? It would be a turn off for me tbh, but it depends on you.

I'd pull back and watch how he treats you. Don't get him a gift for the next occasion unless you don't care if you get one back.

My Capricorn's thoughts (I typed as he was talking):"If almost half of your relationship has been misunderstandings and need for patience, that's going to be half of the relationship.

If you made it through four months of misunderstandings and moments of patience, then you have to be able to talk to him. Right?"

My (Aries) thoughts: Capricorn men are not good receivers of gifts. They are humbly touched and thankful to the max, but they can't help but think "I should have been the one to get her presents." Talk to him. I have yet to face anything with my cap that wasn't made better through communication.

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Posted by TrulyTaurusWoman
I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

Gift giving was not discussed. 3 Christmas gifts is way too many gifts for a guy you've been dating less than a year.

When we women move too fast and get overly excited and anxious over a man we tend to over give and over share.

You made this super awkward by doing too much.

You put him in this situation when it could have been avoided. Don't give gifts unless you've discussed it first but if you do give gifts without discussing it first then don't expect reciprocation.

I don't think it's too much at all, if it's the right guy he would have loved them.

3 gifts is too much for one guy who hasn't bought one gift for her. It's the equivalent of telling a man I like you MORE so I give more, so he gives her zero gifts and she felt rejected and that should make him feel like a selfish prick and I'm sure he did. This situation could have been avoided if they had better communication between one another.

The equivalent of saying "I like you more?"

After 9 months or so we're either past the "trading" stage and or I'm out, otherwise what's the point?

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9 months is very early, it's still the getting to know one another stage. Many relationships do not survive the holiday season under the 1 year mark.

She did what she wanted to which is give and he did what he wanted to do which is not give. He didn't hurt her deliberately her expectations hurt her. Had she not gave him anything she would never have had to endure pain.

If he's been a great boyfriend then work through your feelings and stay with him but if he's been a selfish uncaring apathetic prick through out the 9 months then move on.

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I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what we have, but now I'm crushed. Christmas came and I gave him 3 gifts that I thought I had put a lot of thought into on December 22nd before my vacation. He barely said thank you which really hurt my feelings. I went out of town with family and returned January 1st and when we were together, no gift and no card from him. I didn't tell him, but my feelings were hurt. I couldn't imagine not giving someone I feel this close to a Christmas gift. There is no way to bring this up to discuss it because in my mind, he had to ask himself, "Do I get her a gift?" and then made a conscious decision not to give me a gift. So Capricorn men, please tell me if you see something I'm not. Because, at this point, if I don't make your Christmas list, I'm moving on. 😢

Gift giving was not discussed. 3 Christmas gifts is way too many gifts for a guy you've been dating less than a year.

When we women move too fast and get overly excited and anxious over a man we tend to over give and over share.

You made this super awkward by doing too much.

You put him in this situation when it could have been avoided. Don't give gifts unless you've discussed it first but if you do give gifts without discussing it first then don't expect reciprocation.

I don't think it's too much at all, if it's the right guy he would have loved them.

3 gifts is too much for one guy who hasn't bought one gift for her. It's the equivalent of telling a man I like you MORE so I give more, so he gives her zero gifts and she felt rejected and that should make him feel like a selfish prick and I'm sure he did. This situation could have been avoided if they had better communication between one another.

The equivalent of saying "I like you more?"

After 9 months or so we're either past the "trading" stage and or I'm out, otherwise what's the point?

9 months is very early, it's still the getting to know one another stage. Many relationships do not survive the holiday season under the 1 year mark.

She did what she wanted to which is give and he did what he wanted to do which is not give. He didn't hurt her deliberately her expectations hurt her. Had she not gave him anything she would never have had to endure pain.

If he's been a great boyfriend then work through your feelings and stay with him but if he's been a selfish uncaring apathetic prick through out the 9 months then move on.

Can't agree with 9 months being very early to be giving a few gifts to someone. Had she not given him anything she wouldn't have found out that he's the type to get uptight about such things. Don't think she did anything wrong at all.

Agree with the latter statement though.

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9 months is early 9 years is long.

As adults how we behave in a relationship will determine if we can make it or break.

In this particular situation the first 4 months was riddled with misunderstandings. The next 5 months was great but then these pesky things like holidays popped into the situation.

Dude did nothing wrong. She did nothing wrong but her expectation to receive a gift has caused her pain, not him.

We don't agree, agree to disagree, so let's move on shall we...