This is how my Cap shows Love, Jealousy & Emotions

My Cap is 1/17 with his moon in Cap, Venus In Pices and Mars in Scorpio!

My Cap is a true goat, he is slowly moving to the top of his mountain. He sets goals and he will not let anything stop him from reaching them, he is currently working towards his 3rd degree...his Masters!

He doesn't check out like he did when he was younger! Every now again he will leave to visit his parents farm, never gone more then 3 days, but during those 3 days, he makes mo contact with me, ive learned to just let him be, and deal with what ever he is fighting with in his head! Ive learned to that it may not even be about me, when goes away, usually hes thinking about school, money, job, i just always let him know that when he decides to come home i will be here waiting for him

My Cap really does need his space and alone time, and i give it too him!
When he gets moody or too deep into his self, i will go find a old halloween mask, and come back and prank him....it works...he snaps out of it, and laughs with me!

And yes Caps are very emotional, my Cap is very, very sensitive too, but they dont show it, over time my Cap has opened up to me, and he is still after all these years taking layers off and showing me more of his self, and btw no Cap will ever show u this side unless he trust you 200% . ( or least my Cap want)
I know my Cap trust me....he told me one night, in a nonchalant way, that im the only person he trust! WOW!

I can tell you how my Cap shows love, Jealousy, and emotions! Yes, Caps get Jealous...just have to know how they express it....they hide it so well!

My Cap rarely never, ever says he loves me, but he shows it in "action"

If a cap is giving you his time, doing things for you...mine does does little things, like making dinner for me, and having it hot and ready when I get home from work, making sure my car has oil, air in the tires,rubbing my feet, if im sad about something he goes out of his way to cheer me up, once he put on some old Bugs Bunny cartoon's to get me to cheer up, he say's OURs and US. My Cap isn't really a gift giver, and when he does give a gift it is very practical, my Cap gives love, and gifts through his actions!

I know when my Cap is being possive and Jealous....took me years to figure this out, but oh yes they get very jealous and mine can get possive!
Here's how my cap shows it.

he starts to put me down, and picks a fight with me, calls me nasty names (stupid, dumb, unintelligent)goes on a rampage, B* $ @HI

about EVERYTHING, going through our house throwing stuff around, he just gets really,really nasty when he is jealous. For years I could not figure out why he would out of no where be so hateful to me....then I had a AHAH moment, I called him out on it one night when he started going into jealousy mode...he went dead silent, grabbed me and hugged me! Kind of a strange reaction, maybe I'm the first person that ever figured this part of him out! IDK

The way he looks at me, can't really explain the "look", his eyes will glaze over, I will catch him staring at me almost like he is mesmerized by me....my Cap NEVER tells me Im Beautiful, pretty, sexy, hot....nothing, but he doesn't have to...I know he thinks Im all of those things, by the way he looks at me, when we go out, he "secretly" watches me from afar, observing my interactions with others!

He constantly touches me...my face, nose, arm etc...he will walk past me sometimes and kinda give me that glazed eye look, and coolly rub my leg or arm really soft!

He mumbles and talks to him self all the time, when he starts to talk under his breath, but just loud enough for me to here he is usually saying "I lOVE YOU",and your beautiful when he talks to his self, that is his way of working out problems in his head that is bothering him! , ??_—
You have to really pay attention to Caps, they want to express what they are feeling at that moment, and my Cap has a hard time doing those things out loud, so he does the things I said above!
If a Cap wants you around them, then you will be and they will be the ones Initiating!

Me and my Cap are 1st Loves, we were 13 and 14 when we met, we are 44 and 45 now, and for the last 34 years we have been on again and off again...this go around we have been together 3 yrs and live together.
And like a fine aged wine gets better with time, so have we!

Btw, I'm Libra sun, Virgo Moon, Scropio Venus, and Gemini Mars!

PS...My CAP LOVES THAT I "GET" HIM!

Where did I type that he beats me down? I never said he beats me up!! This right here is why I'm getting sick of DXPNET, because of crap like this, ppl like you take something and try to twist it around! I have never in my life seen so many negitive people on one site!

Posted by IllaLupus
I'm sorry but you've said he beats you down and calls you names? How is that showing love? Think about it.

My mars is in Scorpio and wow he really has no self control, if he's throwing things around and breaking shit. That's why I control my instinctual urges when I'm upset, I'm not cleaning up a tantrum mess. I'm also a libra...

Someone should never let their S.O beat them down to if their nothing, and you says its because of jealousy?

This really just pisses me off! I read post after post from ppl searching for answers on Capricorns, and never do I see where anyone will give them a straight answer! Wanted to share my experience with those looking for answers, maybe shed a little light on why Caps can appear so aloof and confusing. Then people like you, want to take something out of contex and twist it all around! My god if I would of known shit comments like this was going to be made, I should of added that his jealousy side is a rare occurrence, and when he throws things around, he does it when he's alone, and that he's not breaking shit, I should of added, that it was the damn mail pile on the counter, and a basket of freaking laundry that he "threw around"! And yes ma'am he does scoop so low, and acts like a child with the name calling, and yeah that is bullshit on his part...but does it make him a abusive person? a bad person? no it doesn't, we all show jealousy in different ways!

I didn't write this post for a damn therapy session, so move along!

Yes you did!

"he starts to put me down, and picks a fight with me, calls me nasty names (stupid, dumb, unintelligent)goes on a rampage, B* $ @HI about EVERYTHING, going through our house throwing stuff around, he just gets really,really nasty when he is jealous."

BIG RED FLAG!

The only thing RED here is my hair _—
Pen to paper is like a bad text message, things are wrote or texted out, and the writer or the sender is saying it one way, and the reader or receiver reads it another way!

Posted by stillwat3r
Hey jkc, thanks for sharing. That was really insightful esp for women dating caps and don't realize the ways caps show love (through action mainly).



As for the jealously thing, i wonder if it's his mars or hes just that comfortable w you.

When i get really insecure and sensitive i want to do those things but always just in my head (minus the name-calling, not my thing).

And welcome to the cap board, Januarycappie. Nice to finally have more chilled out caps.

I'm thinking maybe it is a little of both.
For some reason or another he starts feeling scared and insecure, think he starts feeling like I may leave him, and this is how he reacts to what he's feeling, IDK just a thought!

And I can't help but to think that it has a lot to do with the fact he has commitment issues, he has never married, and has no children...I'm actually the first woman he has ever lived with! And honestly I really don't think it is him really being afraid of commitment, I'm pretty sure it's because no other woman has been patient enough with him, Caps move slow in relationships, they (he) has to quard his heart, and think over all kinds of crazy things, kinda like trying to figure out how to get the rubexs cube linded up, and once he does get it lined up (in his head) the woman grew tired of waiting, and thinking he wasn't interested because of his aloofness and hot and cold temps!
I'm proberly the only one that has patiently waited on him, and he knows it, so anything that might arise that he feels threathing by, he starts to trip at the thought of losing me!
I've loved him my entire life, and that's why I waited....patiently....for him! ??_—

Also for all you ladies confused by wondering if he is interested, I can't speak for other Caps, but with mine.....(speaking of this last time we started dating again, and before we moved in together) He never went more then 3 days without contacting me, sometimes I would iniate it first or he would, during the 3 days, sometimes I would let the 3 days pass and not communicate with him, when he would finally contact me all I got was HEY, lol so I would reply back SUP, and that would be all that was said. If he is wanting to spend time with you, and asking you to "hangout" then he is properly interested in you. And don't trip if it takes him 10 hours to reply, stop analyzing things, this is normal, he's busy or u just said something or told him something and he doesn't know what to say or how to reply back to it, my Cap STILL does this to me!
Have your own life, and don't sit around waiting on him. Don't push him into commitment, or rush him to changing his status, don't pester him about the L word, it might take him a few years to say it, and just because he doesn't, don't mean he doesn't ....remember ACTIONS speak volume!

I appreciate this post!

I am in the beginning stages of dating a cap and I can definitely see that he shows his appreciation of me through his actions. Total gentleman. I got lucky cause I also get some words and compliments too. =)

Thanks for sharing OP!

This is so true jkc3, thanks for shedding some light on Cap guys
I definitely see similarities with my Cap who has a birthday VERY close to yours.

Posted by JanuaryCappie

Posted by lildol
BIG RED FLAG!

No Offense but you misunderstood her. Also, if your so into studying Cap astrology, maybe you should be a bit open minded. Everyone expresses their jealousy differently. And she's on the money about Cap. Especially with the (making sure the car has oil lol ) I'm happy for her and her husband 34 years ?!?!

let's say we were dating and we were at a restaurant. The waitress is very pretty and when she serves us, she's more attentive to me. She walks over and smiles at me. How would you react?

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There is no excuse for name calling, belittling and throwing things!

As for your example, that's what waitress' do, smile (or should, anyway)! I wouldn't think twice about it, probably wouldn't even notice.

SO true op thanks for sharing. but throwing things part doesn't apply to either me or my cappy and on calling name part he is too secure with you

Posted by jkc3
Where did I type that he beats me down? I never said he beats me up!! This right here is why I'm getting sick of DXPNET, because of crap like this, ppl like you take something and try to twist it around! I have never in my life seen so many negitive people on one site!

Beating down can be done with words. He calls you names, puts you down....

I don't know if that is an example of jealousy. Perhaps he's just different from me.

When I'm jealous, I will be MORE possessive and make a point via body language or eye contact to let the other woman know this is my man (scorpio venus though) and sometimes snide remarks will come out, but they're not attacking words, more sarcasm than anything. I will wall up a little, shut down the emotions, don't know if that would be considered aloof, but I suppose other people will take it that way.

All that said, different people handle jealousy differently. I would pay attention and observe to see if there is anything for him to be jealous about versus not to make sure these are his actions of jealousy.

jkc3, I hear you girl. My Cap has threatened to throw something before, and called me names when he's jealous or frustrated with my lack of feelings for him. He'll say "I love you...cold b**ch*. Now it sounds mean but truth is I've never said the L word back to him after over 1 year of him saying it. Sorry, I just don't think those are words to be said lightly.

When mine gets jealous, he get highly critical. For example, if a guy is hitting on me he'll get possessive but at the same time blame me. Guy "how's your night going?", Me "fine thanks" and turns away. My Cap will say, you shouldn't have answered him at all, you're encouraging him.

Too many women seem to let men belittle them making excuses for their actions (in this thread alone)... it's unhealthy and sets presidence for future abuse in the name of "love"