A choice to make

Hi,


This is my first time posting

I have a major choice to make and I don't know what to do. I've been involved with an Aries guy but we end up fighting 80% of the time. 10% is no communication and 10% loving. We have kids together so i've been hanging on not wanting to leave him.

Then I'm crazy about Mr Cancer - met him 5 years ago... He is such a gentleman but i don't know if I can trust him with my heart. As much as me and Aries argue such a lot, I'm so afraid of leaving him for Mr Cancer and then Mr Cancer is not trustworthy. He told me he is in love with me, but i've heard from others that he's a player. I'm not a skank but I've been seriously involved with Mr Aries for 12 years but i've been casually fooling around with Mr Cancer for two years now. I've never gotten involved with anyone else since Mr Aries.

Our charts are as follows:

Me:
Sun Gemini
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Cancer
Venus Cancer
Mars Gemini
Rising Leo

Mr Aries:
Sun Aries
Moon Pisces
Mercury Pisces
Venus Pisces
Mars Aries

Mr Cancer:
Sun Cancer
Moon Saggitarius
Mercury Cancer
Venus Gemini
Mars Virgo

what choice is there? One relationship isn't working and the other is a diluted state of mind.

Hi,

Mr Aries and I have gone for numerous Counselling sessions and it helps for a bit but it goes back to the way it was. I guess it's time for me to do a complete re-evaluation of my life - minus Mr Aries and minus Mr Cancer - and figure out what I need. Afterall, my life does not revolve around a man.

Thx so much for the responses

OMG I feel so fickle - Mr Cancer comes along and he just sweeps me off my feet *rolling my eyes at myself*

Taking your advice Trolltrain.

By the way... I made a mistake on my chart. I am a Cancer Rising not Leo

I will chip in from my side of the fence. The side where the parents stayed together "for the kids."

I remember having a sleepover at a friend's place one weekend (I guess I would've been about 10 or eleven) and thinking "Wow - this place is incredible! The adults aren't screaming at each other and I didn't get belted before I went to bed."

If you are fighting all the time (or most of the time) with Mr Aries then that doesn't sound like a very nice place to be.
If Mr Cancer is untrustworthy you don't want that in your life either.

Don't let your Cancer Rising lead you into compromising the happiness you deserve.


You were born with the only butthole you will ever need.

We've been for numerous counselling sessions and things would work for a few weeks - 3 months tops and then everything goes back to the way it was. My daughter will be 7 on 17 March and my son is 5.

if you met your husband right now..and the situation is that you NEVER met him ...could you fall for who he is at this moment? and who you are now?

No I would not fall for him at all...

He is conniving, manipulative and very deceptive. The reason why I fell for him in the first place was my own stupidity and naivity - he lied from the word go which I thought at the time was typically male. He went and found out all my likes and dislikes in order to win me over. Way afterwards his true persona came out. Now I knew this for years but all along I've been staying with him because I would feel sorry for him. I sometimes think it is so pathetic of me to put myself in a situation because I do not want him to get hurt but I get hurt in the process.

In the beginning it was the fact that he was earning way less than me. Then it was the kids... Now he's unemployed for quite a few months.

At the end of 2010 we split up but i took him back because he had nowhere to go.