Dating a gemini man?

I recently relocated and during transition met a very prominent attorney who offered to introduce me to people in order to acclimate me to the area? I gladly accepted his invitation (not knowing anyone) We met about two and half months ago. During my relocation he begged me to meet up with him,..and I reluctantly agreed! Well, my brand new 2008 car broker down and I asked him to come get me and he told me he did not have a car— He then asked if we cld reschedule..I said, "Heck No", and proceeded to tell him I need a man that has my back! I was going through a lot of stress at that time and I took it out on him....After I settled in I called and he agreed to go out again?

I have been traveling a great deal..and finally settled in about 3 weeks ago...he has been very pursuant in wanting to date. We have been out on 4 dates and I having lost my Dad a month ago was feeling week and little vulnerable, which does not happen often (Stubborn Scorp)...Decided to accept his advances...(very aggressive gem) . The intimacy was great! and he he tells me he loves me and wants to get married...not to me,,just in general...Keep in mind that he has been a player for the past 10 years, and has supposedly reformed...now I like monogamy and since we have been intimate...I am not in a hurry to go out and meet others..even though I have only known him for short while, but he rarely introduces me to anyone in his immediate circle or work peers. We know some mutual acquaintances, but never as a couple? He does not hide me..he likes to take me out, ball game, dinners, client meetings, but never any of his friends!! I have been to his home and he even asked if I wanted to leave some things. I do not think he means it! Although, he finally introduced me to one of his clients...and it went well..funny the guy he introduced me to I had met at a fund raiser about two weeks ago...and he tried to pick me up! LOL!

I smell game! But, he is growing on me..and I love to flirt...the question is ...Do you think he could doing a pay back for the way I treated him in the beginning of our friendship! And I thought Gems are so mental why does his conversation seem to be so flat and limiting...all he focuses on is us being together, marriage or where I am, what am I doing..when we do speak...He is always busy being a managing partner at his firm...that I get! This is so unorthodox for a gem, I am sexy, but dang I have a pretty sharp mind..too! and I do need mental stimuli!!

BTW..I did ask ask him why don't you talk about yourself..your family..and he proceeded to give me a brief synopsis...And I told him I would like to get you know you better...he says in time..but he talks in general terms...wait till my friends see you...they will say here's another one! eeeeek..Have I been reduced to a trophy girlfriend!

I think he does like me, but he does not know how to deal with me..he says I am so different..maybe we should be friends...until we get to know each other better...duh! we are friends..I am a challenge and I need to be challenged! He actually asked me to text him my address and home number tonight..so that he can track me! it was a joke..i hope..and yes he does not know this information....and he wont till I am ready..and he reveals more of who he is and if his intentions are honorable!

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hmmmm this smell's of player all over it to me. Be careful with him. Make him work. If he isn't going to put in the work, keep moving. A man that really wants to know you is going to bring you into his life, not keep you on the outskirts, looking in.

Gemini men are odd, but one thing i know, is if they want you.. they damn near stop at nothing to get you.

Wish i had more to contribute, but gemini men are a totally different creature then us females, and they can be professional womanizers. but if you can capture and "break" one. I have reap'd the fruit of that. and it was great if i had really wanted it.

Recommendation: move on now before you get too emotionally invested.

Baby grrl,

thanks for your feedback..I was beginning to wonder...this site is usual so responsive..I think your right..I made the mistake of sending an email friday..thanking him for intro to business associate and asked if all was cool..and then I told him I would like to speak to him soon! aaaaaarrggh!

Keep in mind..he did not call all weekend....His response Today, via e mail was I'M REAL BUSY SWEETY..I WILL CALL YOU LATER..THANKS" (3 DAYS AND A FEW DOLLAS SHORT!) Lost my momentum with gem---showed him a weakness---with my asking is everything alright! Oh! well...when he calls..iI plan to ignore..if I take call I will let him know that we have moved into the friendship mode....Man Down! If he asked when can I see you I will pause and say..I will let you know! If he calls again..then game on--if not it's a wrap! Gobble--Gobble!

I still think he has some unfinished play in him..too!

Damn my typing is screwed tonight. Playing card and drinking. Anf tryong to type not a good combo lol

They love games, i would keep it a challenge. They usually don't want anything to come easy. If you're still diggin him play the game back, play hard to get from here forward.

But i still say run. lol. if he isn't ready, you will be in for some heart ache.

Scorpion lady..not sure how to read your hidden messages—

something is fishy.


my boyfriend is a gemini and he pursued me shamelessly when we first met. he found every stupid excuse imaginable to talk to me everyday. he would email me random trivia he leared from reading snapple caps, he would text me cheesy jokes, literally ANYTHING! i didn't meet his friends for about a month because at that point he was still taking me out on dates every weekend plus at least once during the week. he also had two jobs at the time (a full time job and a bartending job) so yes, he was busy but i never felt like i was waiting to hear from him or that he didn't have enough time because he was after me so bad haha. he's a much better communicator than i am in general though. i maintain that if a gemini is not actively communicating with you then it's a bad sign (they've got Mercury working with them afterall!). i think your instinct about this guys player side is spot on

"i maintain that if a gemini is not actively communicating with you then it's a bad sign "

This is gemini law.

I agree..most do like constant communication! I may be bit intimidating, but no excuse...! Once I initiated contact he has reached out! especially when I told him that I was going to Barbados on vacation! LOL! Happy Thanksgiing...to all!

Girl RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Gemini men are very charming and persistant to get what they want in the beginning. After that they'll dodge and forget about you just like that. I was married to a gemeni player and had to endure his cheating habbits and emotional abuse for 7 years. I finally got enough and left. He then tried to get to me like how he did when we first met, but I didnt buy into it. I refused to give in. Thank GOD I didn't because it's only been less than a month and he's already persuing another woman. I don't regret leaving him but I do regret not leaving him sooner!

Once a player always a player. Gemini men are witty and know how to get women. Don't be fooled by his charm.

Thanks ladies I give up...He is an idiot..He has been telling me all along a lot of women like him..and I have competition....I think he just likes variety?

Thanks ladies I give up...He is an idiot..He has been telling me all along a lot of women like him..and I have competition....I think he just likes variety?

trobin939.. forget him!

OMG, he's so full of himself. Once my gemini ex told me that if i was "too jealous" about how he "looks" then i shouldn't have married him... im like seriously? WTF?!?!?!??

Maybe he needs a lot of women chasing after him in order for him so that he won't be so insecure about himself?

"I think he just likes variety? "

Of course he does. Gemini men get bored very easily. They need freedom and are usually not consistent when it comes to contact. They are the life of the party every where they go and dont have a problem attracting females. They take pride in the fact that so many women want them and will jump at their every beck and call. Just keep him at a distance for now, let him do all the calling and start dating others. Personally I dont know what you want with him if he doesnt have car. Just my 2 cents.

"Maybe he needs a lot of women chasing after him in order for him so that he won't be so insecure about himself?"

Women chase Geminis. So be the one who doesnt and mess up his world.

Georgia Peach....very true about rocking his world...A good night sleep always provides me with a different perspective!...and I cant wait to go to LA....I have quite a few colleagues out there and plan to have a ball! Even if he says that Wednesday is a good time..I will ignore him? and move on....drop this zero and get with a hero!

Georgia Peach....very true about rocking his world...A good night sleep always provides me with a different perspective!...and I cant wait to go to LA....I have quite a few colleagues out there and plan to have a ball! Even if he says that Wednesday is a good time..I will ignore him? and move on....drop this zero and get with a hero!

Just a lil background ladies......We moved into this mode cause of my scorpio temper..I went off on him...he made a lot of comments prior about women and how I need to step up my game,,(always some ego crack...I have too much self esteem ..I kneed to dumb up, since there is a 10 to 1 ratio) and it eventually manifesed into a reaction that really didn't warrant me going off...anyway he immediately said, lets be just friends after incident and he needed space a week or two..me being stubborn and spoiled didnt like that plan..I wanted closure (Not Really) just like being on top!

Anyway...we exchanged a few texts with me stating I want to give him his things and him trying to desperately avoid seeing me (I am his Krptonite).anyway he asked if I could wait till next week or he could mail..if that was ok. I then suggested I drop it at his concierge cause I was leaving for LA this week! He said, have fun! Ouch..anyway I took out the big guns and I said that I would like to take the edge off before I leave wink! wink!..his immediate response, was when? I said Wed eve..I had a 9:00 am flight Thursday! I really wanted to see if we had anything left, and to take the edge off! LOL! I know he has a special thing for me! I don't know why. but he is weak when he sees me...and I think he is in love, yes, he told me, but I also see it in him!

I still think he has options and he is fighting...I hope he finds what he is looking for, but he has been a player for a long time and Karma is Mother! Funny when we were seeing each other..he said things like ...if you come over you have to stay overnight..,,You just can't come over and just leave! Just because he played himself I wont take advantage! He still may back out! Thanks Ladies-- It is a wrap!

I think Georgiapeach is right about girls chasing after him! and with you... by not chasing him he's chasing you because you're not giving in right now you're still giving him a good "chase" i think gemini men in general like it when girls play hard to get... i bet the instant you become clingy he'll back off...


argh! he is most definitely NOT IN LOVE... just INFATUATED for the MOMENT until he gets to know u more then he'll get BORED and DASH AWAY...

Nah, he could be in love. We fall in and out of love. Is it a deep and cultured love? No. But when we are in it, we mean it. It's just when your out of sight, we kinda forget. Then we see you again, and it's like oh yeah. But if you can stand the test of time, and make us fall deep. That's different. Then, you almost can't get rid of us lol.

It sounds like he is so used to being pursued and wanted, having so many options, it's created a monster. If you play the cards right, and do as i think it was Georgia Peach that said it, don't be like the rest and fall over him. Make him chase you. You might be suprised. IF you have triggered something in him and you are special to him, then believe me, he will pursue. But he will be slick about it so beware.

Good luck!

Ladies...drum roll...not only did he ask me to the play and dinner wednesday...he texted at 3:00 telling me his law firm has an extra ticket at their table for oner more and it wld be a great networking venue for me if I cld make it..well I did and I was flawless..he said he decided to give me another chance..LMAO..This time I told him to make sure he does not remind of al the women he has chasing him,...He laughed and said he would not! He said that I looked fabulous and impressed him and his partner..he wanted me to come over..I cld not I had to get home to my son..I told him I cld treetrunk him..,he said that was ok..he wanted to make love and he would wait until I cld stay—?

Do I smell weakness or just more game— He had planned to spend the week doing things with me..but when I went off on him he got scared?? I thought he had other plans...cause he was trying to avoid me?? BUt, I geuss he was just freaked, and was avoiding this krptonite?? I REALIZE ITS TEMPORARY..but I will not fall into his lair?

For Gemini men its always a game for them, they love a good challenge and will not back down from it. Even if you date other people they dont care and will still come after you, even when you dont give a damn about them. They dont get it until you are over them and have gone on with your life. I believe with Scorps when its a done deal its a done deal. Scorps are known to be possessive and Geminis will never allow someone to fully possess them unless that person has the ability to give them freedom. That person has to be someone who has their own life and be totally independent of them. No clinginess allowed for the most part. That person has to have an air of mystery. Geminis get bored easily. They are not creatures of habit. They need someone who can love them for exactly for who they are and not expect them to conform. If these type of things dont come natural to you then it will be a little harder to snag this guy. Not saying you cant do it, just saying it will be more work for a Scorp than it would say an Aquarius or a Saggie who general

Im a Virgo sun Scorp moon Gemini rising(so I feel ya with the temper thing) and I have experience with two Geminis and for both of them it took me walking away and staying away for long periods of time and going on with my life. Both of them had no issues with getting women. And the reason why I quit each of them was because of other women. And when I saw each of them again they both wanted to get married. But each time I had already moved on and wanted no parts of them. I am close to one of the Geminis cousins (whom he is very close with) and she told me everytime she sees him he talks about me to this day (we met and were together as teenagers 20 years ago but have only been in contact for the past 3 years as friends). Six months ago I made him promise to never call me again because of his selfish ways(long story) and he cried on the phone. And he was the one also to tell me that many women have thrown themselves at him (He is good looking and finer than hell). The other I just quit answering his calls and texts. And I actually saw him a year ago while hanging with a mutual friend who brought him along even though this friend knew I didnt want to be around this guy and I treated him with such despise, but it did not deter him and it made me grow even colder. Both of them hurt me to my heart and I made them pay. I am not saying its right or wrong, I am just saying that is how it is for me.

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generally love their own freedom and can be independent of their partners.

GeorgiaPeach, your post above is amazing, and so scarily accurate. To keep a gemini man, you have to play hard to get. It drives us fucking insane. Don't give in to a gemini man. I've been with many before and the reason that we're drawn to each other is because I * never * give in to them, I'm constantly changing myself and I think they enjoy the chase. Made the mistake of getting clingy with my latest one, after about a year of flightiness, and the moment I did.. he ditched me. Gone. It hurt terribly but the last thing I would ever dream of doing is calling him. I know that he hasn't tried to contact me because we haven't seen each other in a while.. and I know for Gems when someone tends to fade from our lives, we forget about them, move onto something else.

But I'm seeing him tonight, oddly. I hope it hurts him to see me - so different to how I was int he last days of our relationship. I feel more confident, sexy and self assured about myself than I ever did in the last month with him. He ruined me, even as a gemini lady who is used to the games. For one moment I just let myself slip.. But I think that's all I want. Last week (other post will indicate this) I was furious.

They need women like air. It's hard not to take it personally, if you're involved with them. The sudden movement - from making you feel like you're the only one alive - to just another notch on the bedpost is difficult to deal with.


It is hard to get over them, or detach from them because they make it seem like they're the rarest treasures on earth. But all is not what it seems on the surface, with fun sexy Gemini. The men I've gotten to know (extremely hard) are usually a giant bag of nerves, with no idea what they want and massive insecurities. We're very dark people on the inside.

Possession scares the hell out of us as does trust. Not with trivial things, but I think its the trusting someone to refrain from judging our odd behaviour.

Keep him on his toes! Don't let him take control of this thing!

I guess thats how I hooked my gem....I didnt play hard to get I just wasnt interested at first. He called me and called me and called me. He wooed me with so much charm I was eventually hooked. But I guess I am one of the lucky ones....I have a good husband and he is gemini.

Back to life and Georgia Peach..You ladies really seem to know your gemini men! Unfortunately, it has not been all positive...but I wish you guys better days. FIrst and foremost I would like to thank you..for your insights. Well, lucky for me...I'm just not that into him...I was open to getting to know him...Well, after a great few days..we parted as friends, and he said ...Im going to save you from self...and close this chapter..then he says don't call me I will call you? Then I love you and I had a great time! He did admit he was scared...but we have fears—

YOU GOTTA LOVE YOU GEMS.....I think you need to hold your breath and just exhale after the relationship is over! LOL!

"if gemini is supposed to be so intelligent, then why can't they make up their minds? "

Learus, them being intelligent has nothing to do with them making up their minds. They get wishywashy when someone is trying to make them commit. It does scare them. So you have to back off and allow them to make that decision or at least make them think they are. lol

So true..he said to me that he was scared...? and I asked of what--no reply? He seems to want more, but as he said I have been doing it this way for so long...I dont know how to do it any other way? Oh! well...we have not spoken since Thursday...and I will not call--and I believe the curse has been lifted!!! Cause I have no desire to see him or speak to him!!!! ITs officially been five days!!


Life moves on and so does Ms. Scorpio....LMAO!

"So you have to back off and allow them to make that decision or at least make them think they are. lol"


That's hilarious GeorgiaPeach!

I just want to reiterate, from my view point at least. We are gatherer's of information, however, we do not study what we gather. Unless of coarse it's something we are really interested in. But just because we like to gather the information, we don't necessarily like to make decisions. Decisions = committment = that time is locked in and we are stuck.

What if a better sale is on next week?
What if something more fun comes up?
What if it doesn't fit right?
What if it taste bad?
What if the mechanic is really trying to screw me?
What if another plummer is better?

Blah blah blah.

See, this is why i love my man so much. He is a strong man, he will make decisions and i don't have to stress it. I harvest all the information for my bull to make a well informed decision. When i get nailed to have to make a choice, i stress. Even if its for dinner. Then i have the irriating feeling of, damn i bet That sandwhich would have tasted better than this! LMAO

"See, this is why i love my man so much. He is a strong man, he will make decisions and i don't have to stress it. I harvest all the information for my bull to make a well informed decision. When i get nailed to have to make a choice, i stress. Even if its for dinner. Then i have the irriating feeling of, damn i bet That sandwhich would have tasted better than this! LMAO"

lol BG

My thought on backing off....Is cool..but if it is only for a few weeks..to just go through this all over again..No Thank you! I will pass...Is that how gem men behave...consistently inconsistent? Do they come back knowing---or is until the next challenge comes his way?? When do they just go away!!! LOL

If you got that "good - good" they may not EVER go away. They may simmer down, but will be there lurking and waiting.

The one Gemini i humored but we just... well it was me, he was so like me, that i saw him more as the brother than a potential for a relationship. He was awesome though. i knew him forever and watched him play women like i played men. We would talk about it.. blah blah.. when I told him i'm sorry but i'm not into you like that.. girl he still lurks around. He always keeps in touch. never speaks out "us". But - he made it clear to me a long time ago, if i EVER want to come to him, he will be there. I tested it out a while ago, and sure enough, even though he is with a woman... he came RUNNING.

So no, i think they usually come back if you put it on em'. they don't forget. They just go searching and looking for the next woman that does it to them. Hoping to finding someone to handle them.

I'm not an expert on male gemini's though. Tha'ts just my experience with them.

Yeah! Baby Grrl! Got the good good, but with some gems..you know they like to sike you out just to get what they want..I know its good, but he cld be just hyping to play out some sort of fantasy-- (Did I mention that he has a slight weight problem_ ) Hee! hee! Everything should be good good to him! I like him for other skills he has ...LMAO!