First timer on gems **lengthy**

Im used to dealing with Cancer men.

But this one is for you Gemini men this time!

It's your debut! Lol kidding.

I met this Gem on tindr - I know my first mistake. But I did it as a gag and ended up talking to him. We talked for months and we lived in the same town and all. But the problem with us is that we never got a chance to meet because things would come up. It got tricky and ended up in a petty conversation about thinking eachother is fake and phony.

I wanted a relationship back then. It was almost 2 years ago.

Fast forward to now. I'm in such a good place with myself I own a business I have a house and a car and I'm an independent Leo woman.

I've recently become open to a fun fling for the weekends. I'm

Not about no relationship right now.

This dude calls me up like 10 months after and just randomly wants to meet me. I have the night off so I agree but I stalled for like 2 hours because tbh it wasn't that serious to me. But ole boy was blowing me up if I didn't text back within like 2 mins.

We meet and I'm automatically comfortable with him likethere were no nerves.

We hit it off and he flirts and he's super cool and he's all talking about he wants me to be his girl and I'm just not up for commitment right now so I laugh it off knowing that I ain't about to be serious, thinking that he's a guy so he should be fine with this casual thing I'm wanting. I didn't communicate that so he keeps talking about dating me.

The end of the night comes around and we made out a few times but didn't go too far. We plan on hanging out that next weekend.

Then we discuss boundaries and kind of what we're looking for. He's talking about a relationship and then he's like

"But I'm gonna be honest I'm a flirt. I mean I'm in some DM's (direct messages) and I'm flirty." And he laughs.



FIRST of all, I never mentioned even being with him officially. But my response:

"Well relationship-wise, that's a deal breaker for me because that's not cool at all."

And I giggle and I don't get offended by it.

Then he laughs like it's a joke.

Then I repeat myself again.

"Yeah, that's totally a deal breaker"

And I laugh it off.

AND THEN he's like

"Okay have a good night"

And literally walks back up the driveway with a straight face and that's the end of it.

I laughed in disbelief on my way home cause it was sooo weird. Hahaha

All I wanted was FWB and it doesn't make sense that if got complicated.

Can someone enlighten me plz? Lol

Also I'm still not even mad lol if anything I'd still like to establish this little fun thing with no strings. Any suggestions on how/if I should convey this to him? Is he too finished with me to get this going?

He's super fun and I'm looking for him to be an outlet of sorts lol. That probably sounds bad.

I think he wanted some DM/flirting/whatever (with you) in addition to fucking. Gems like talking, sexting, etc....your refusal was a deal breaker for him, which explains why he left immediately.

If you keep thinking he wanted a committed relationship...other he was dumb, or you were unable to communicate with him properly. He may not get your sarcasm yet....you could have screamed "Bazinga!" when you saw him leaving 🙂.

Thanks everyone for the input.

I thought we were kind of going into an agreement to go towards a FWB type of thing buttt it got confusing lol no worries honestly. It confused me more than anything about the adrubt goodbye haha.

Now that I look at it, it was way too much drama for sure.

Again. Thanks everyone!