Gemini WOMEN,

So duchess, even if your partner loves you to bits and hasn't done anything to lose your respect you simply lose respect?

Geminicandle - ugh don't you just hate when that happens? And the more you want to be away from them the more they want your attention to the point that you feel like you're suffocating?!

I agree with everything you said, except the last point. When you care about someone marriage or not, I think you should always try to see what went wrong and how you can fix it, or if you should at all. Relationships used to be so disposable to me but now I feel like there will be temptations obstacles and curveballs thrown your way to test the relationship. It's up to you how you handle them. I'd like more lady Gems prespectives.

I see what you mean. Agree completely. You just can't have feelings for someone you don'y even respect. By that point there's really nothing to salvage.
I'm glad you've never had your "spark is gone" moment and hope you never do.

How do you know you are falling out of love?

I pretty much wake up one day and decide I can't ever have sex with the guy, ever again. And that's it. I've had a few very long term relationships and this is how they have all ended, I still have a form of love for the guy, but the passion has gone and it will never come back for me. The only way to revive it would be for me to leave and not see the person for at least 10 years.

Is it frequent?

Yep, happens every time, every relationship.

What do you do to try to revive the fire that once was?

There's no reviving it, once it's gone, it's gone and if the other person is going to try and beg and hold on to me it just makes things worse for them as I will become mean and rude to try and push them away. Infact the more I am into a person at the beginning of a relationship, the more I despise them at the end. Funny thing that!

Posted by cakereshkigal
How do you know you are falling out of love?

I don't really fall out of "love". It just becomes another form of "love", the humankind of love. I can hate someone for months, but can't avoid love especially if we shared something once. Firefly in the darkness.

Is it frequent?

No.

What do you do to try to revive the fire that once was

We'd both have to try to make it work. I'd be honest on what I need to improve on and ask for feedback. Avoid bringing up the same old crap and fighting over it.

I like this answer

Posted by Gemsandsugar
How do you know you are falling out of love? Is it frequent?
What do you do to try to revive the fire that once was

Honestly, I know when I'm falling out of love when I'm around the person and I feel nothing. It's like being in a drug induced coma. All the feelings stemming from dopamine, conditioning, hormones, arousal, contentment, peace of mind and connection go poof.....and total numbness takes over.

I've experienced this one time. So I guess for that I should be grateful. However, to this day, I still look back and wonder WTH? For me, it was an incremental thing. I hang onto people I love. But when the foundation corner cracks, it's time to move on.

Gemini64
"Honestly, I know when I'm falling out of love when I'm around the person and I feel nothing. It's like being in a drug induced coma."


Hahaha ohh yes I know this feeling so well 🙂