Gems and games

I agree. My ex tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but he says he has to be alone now and focus on his career and himself. What do you suggest I do in this situation.

Posted by ellehr
I agree. My ex tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but he says he has to be alone now and focus on his career and himself. What do you suggest I do in this situation.

Be understanding, give him his space and say nice supporting words 🙂

I can't say I ever had/have an issue with this... my actions match my words. So, I let my actions speak louder than my voice.

I guess while growing up, my gem father showed me how not to be.

Posted by gemittarius
Gems, do you think it's annoying when people think you're playing games to people; like playing hard to get, or playing meaning-is-opposite-to-spoken, when actually you don't? I mean, I may like people, even love them, but there are times I just want to shut them out, just because I feel like being alone and need to focus on thinking how to deal with my stuff or having my train of thoughts. And when I tell them to leave me alone, some won't, some give me extra attention instead, and some others think I want to be chased. Are those things happen a lot to you too fellow twins? And do you find it's tiring how people mistake your action and act opposite to your expectation?

I understand what you mean.

I'm often misunderstood cause I take in consideration everything, therefore it's hard for me to have strong opinions about people and judge them. That is mistaken for flakiness.

I know exactly what I feel and think about people, I get the vibe immediately, but very rarely judge cause my brain always finds something to justify them (though they can really get on my nerves at the same time).

It's hard.

That's why I avoid people. Too much work, very little understanding.

And yes, I'm called unreliable too.

ex. Someone calls me, I'm not in the mood for talking, we have a brief chat, and I tell them I have to go.

They ask if I'd ring, I say Yes.

Cause eventually, I will, but it might be in a week or a few years.

They get offended and call me unreliable cause I didn't ring them in a certain time span that they considered to be acceptable.

I could say No, I won't ring, but I hate being rude (and dishonest, because eventually I will ring them).

As I said before, it's hard. I can't win (and I stopped to care).

I'm just not interested in catching up regularly, and people call that flakiness, etc.

Im all for constructive talks, solving problems, I'm there if you really need me, I can spend hours helping you on something, but hate to just talk for the sake of catching up.

So, I avoid that, and spend my time knitting.