Getting back a Gemini? Story Ahead! (Page 2)

Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough and treating her like trash.

Btw: over the past week she been displaying her affection to her new boyfriend on Instagram by placing the following caption: "Taken" followed by diamond ring emoji. Now when she kept calling me and texting me this past Thursday, the caption was gone. Now as of yesterday the caption is back on along with a picture of them both. Haha.

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Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough and treating her like trash.

Btw: over the past week she been displaying her affection to her new boyfriend on Instagram by placing the following caption: "Taken" followed by diamond ring emoji. Now when she kept calling me and texting me this past Thursday, the caption was gone. Now as of yesterday the caption is back on along with a picture of them both. Haha.

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Thanks to modern technology rings can be posted even if there is nothing nearby!

You know that right?

Posted by Schenker87

Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

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I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

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Posted by Schenker87

Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

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He does love her. Have you ever been with Gemini? 😉

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Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

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Thanks spur. We both did have some great times together and when we were great, we were amazing. But when we were bad, we were bad.

I do miss them both, how we used to be in good times but after all this it just shows me a different side of her.

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Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

He does love her. Have you ever been with Gemini? 😉

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No I tried dating a few, one we never really talked enough to know anything. The other one was being very deceptive. She eventually opened all her lies what she was hiding because she knew I wasn't that stupid. At that point I knew she wasn't the one for me. Was too much dramma. She had 4 kids or something. I was fine with the kids, but she wanted more and I only knew her for days. Still sleeping with the EX Husband. Messed up situation I didn't want to get involved in. So it never went past there. I do usualyl get along with Gemini's though. Easy conversations.

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Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

He does love her. Have you ever been with Gemini? 😉

No I tried dating a few, one we never really talked enough to know anything. The other one was being very deceptive. She eventually opened all her lies what she was hiding because she knew I wasn't that stupid. At that point I knew she wasn't the one for me. Was too much dramma. She had 4 kids or something. I was fine with the kids, but she wanted more and I only knew her for days. Still sleeping with the EX Husband. Messed up situation I didn't want to get involved in. So it never went past there. I do usualyl get along with Gemini's though. Easy conversations.

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Hahah! 4 kids and you dated her? You must be helloova guy!!!

Yep finding good Gem is like finding a real gem. Lol

Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Oh please! You should know more at your age! Leave man alone. He needs to get rid of memories of this b!

Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Oh please! You should know more at your age! Leave man alone. He needs to get rid of memories of this b!

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Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Oh please! You should know more at your age! Leave man alone. He needs to get rid of memories of this b!

You need to start taking some pills. Really.

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I am! If I didn't you would be in a hospital right now!!! Lol

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Posted by spur
I don't understand some replies on here. She is the problem not him. No one is perfect, but that woman wants control of everything. a Man slave....That's not a relationship. If you really love someone you give them the time they need. replace him like he is a piece of property? Okay then, if that's how you love then you don't know what love is.

That woman is looking for $ $ $ nothing else. Get married have kids, divorce and cash in. That is it. She is a con artist. Move on. She is trying to manipulate you, and it is failing hard. That is why she is asking if you're okay, because she knows it's not working. So now she is trying to appeal to your emotions.

I bet you if you tell her your fine. She will start talking to you like everything is okay, and start pulling on your heart strings. Anyone wanna place bets?

It's really sad for the child though. 😢

Thanks for your input. The thing that really hurts me the most is the child. I really do love him so much and tried to do the best I could considering it was my first time being in that situation. Of course, it was easier to know that when we first became involved he was only 6 months old (his father passed away before she realized she was pregnant) so it felt better to know that there wasn't another man involved in the child's life. It would only be me.

It really pains me to know that I was there for the kid for his first steps, first ice cream, countless weekend trips and then so suddenly to find out someone else took my place. My friends say I could do so much better but it just irks me that no matter how much I was there for the child, I was just quickly replaced in a matter of weeks (or days, who knows).

I'm trying to be humble when I say this - cause I can't stand people who are conceited but I've never had any problems approaching women, finding dates, getting over women and my friends always have told me that I have options to choose from but this is the worst I've ever felt as a result of a breakup. I've never cried over anyone until now and it's cause of the child. Considering how attached to me he became I can't believe a mother can just move on so easily and just bring another guy to the picture.

She tells me I never gave her her place in the relationship. That she felt like I was ashamed of her for not introducing her to my family. However, I never was ashamed of her, I just needed time! I was always willing to help her grow as a person and always help her seek better things in life. Of course I was never a pushover, I challenged her many times and if she said something I didn't necessarily agreed with I would easily voice my opinion. She clearly wasn't used to that. And cause of it she blames me now for never appreciating her enough.

I think you also have your own answer here too. You don't really love her either. Your only attachment is the child. Which is a great thing, but that is not a reason to be with someone either. It is hard, but your friends are giving you good advice. You can do so much better. A guy that makes six figures needs to keep his eyes open, his mind open. Don't let your emotions or your junk decide who to be with. They will cloud your brain from thinking things through.

Women ignore me when they know how much I make haha. I look successful I walk successful. I just haven't made it where I want. So money can really make it hard for you. Easy for you to find women. To be honest this holds more weight than your looks. ( How you dress, how your hair is etc.)

So yes I am not surprised you have no trouble finding women.

There is always two sides, if you expressed waiting for her meeting your family. It is just basic respect for her to wait. That is something you deserve to have.

He does love her. Have you ever been with Gemini? 😉

No I tried dating a few, one we never really talked enough to know anything. The other one was being very deceptive. She eventually opened all her lies what she was hiding because she knew I wasn't that stupid. At that point I knew she wasn't the one for me. Was too much dramma. She had 4 kids or something. I was fine with the kids, but she wanted more and I only knew her for days. Still sleeping with the EX Husband. Messed up situation I didn't want to get involved in. So it never went past there. I do usualyl get along with Gemini's though. Easy conversations.

Hahah! 4 kids and you dated her? You must be helloova guy!!!

Yep finding good Gem is like finding a real gem. Lol

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Yeah but 4 is my limit. LOL

Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Sounds to me you have reading problems, he clearly said he would when he felt right. Why bug the guy until he does what you want? because that is manipulation. The fact you can't admit that probably means you personally haven't come to terms with yours. There is something called boundaries. Learn them. Might serve you someday.

Or something more cheesy... Rome wasn't built in a day.

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Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Sounds to me you have reading problems, he clearly said he would when he felt right. Why bug the guy until he does what you want? because that is manipulation. The fact you can't admit that probably means you personally haven't come to terms with yours. There is something called boundaries. Learn them. Might serve you someday.

Or something more cheesy... Rome wasn't built in a day.

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I am wondering which city WAS built in one day? Any?

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Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Sounds to me you have reading problems, he clearly said he would when he felt right. Why bug the guy until he does what you want? because that is manipulation. The fact you can't admit that probably means you personally haven't come to terms with yours. There is something called boundaries. Learn them. Might serve you someday.

Or something more cheesy... Rome wasn't built in a day.

I am wondering which city WAS built in one day? Any?

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Wasn't the earth built in 7 days or 8 ? haha

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Posted by spur

Posted by juliette
Op you are a bit of a hypocrite. You gladly accepted to be in her family, while refusing to just introduce her to yours. If you ask me she was more than patient. You send an awful message that you were actually playing house with her when you felt that is convenient and fun, but backed off when you were supposed to take responsibility for your actions.

If you wanted to be a slower pace why did you become a part of hers son life—

The rest of the story is bs. You want her but ignore her, she "loves" someone else but keeps contacting you.

Sounds to me you have reading problems, he clearly said he would when he felt right. Why bug the guy until he does what you want? because that is manipulation. The fact you can't admit that probably means you personally haven't come to terms with yours. There is something called boundaries. Learn them. Might serve you someday.

Or something more cheesy... Rome wasn't built in a day.

I am wondering which city WAS built in one day? Any?

Wasn't the earth built in 7 days or 8 ? haha

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Let me find my Book!

***UPDATE: first of all thank you to everyone for their comments/thoughts on this topic.

I decided to take a 2 week trip around Europe for my birthday and went along with a buddy from college. Throughout my trip, I thought about her and our situation, so I shared my story with my friend who provided some insight. He could tell I loved her so he insisted if I really wanted her back, I should try, but first with a sincere apology about what was done and what could have been better.

Keep in mind that since she moved on, the only way shes communicated with me has been through a messaging app (so as to not reveal her number) since her BF changed her number. She contacted me through this app twice before a few weeks back. Anyways, since we last texted, she did tell me that would be the last time I would hear from her since she would be deleting the app and would no longer speak to me behind her boyfriend's back. Therefore, I wasn't sure if she would ever read my text.

The first message to her after some weeks of not communicating was a sincere apology. To my surprise, she responded after an hour in which she agreed that I did not do enough for her and that everything was about critizing her and how she felt I took her for granted. She went on to tell me that she had been dreaming about me lately and that that was the only reason she downloaded the app. She went on a rant, texting me 10 messages straight on how she did so much for me yet I never cared for her much. All I did this time was just be more sympathetic and agree that I could have done better. She admitted that she also did wrong by moving on quick but that she needed someone to love her the way she hoped I could love her.

She wished me a happy birthday and I thanked her for it and said our byes. 10 minutes later she texts me that I deserve someone who is a college graduate, with the same level of work experience as me, etc. I sent a really clear message that finding the right person to growth with and drive/motivate each other is key and everything we've accomplished together has been great. It's about finding the right person to share them is what makes the misery enjoyable. She agreed.

**The lines of communication were open.

A week later, I texted her in the afternoon (morning in the US due to the time difference) and to my surprise she texted me back immediately asking "why am I up so early". Before a response could be made she also asked if I was with anyone cause she dreamt of me being with someone. I told her I wasn't with anyone but that I was sick with a cold. She then of course proceeds to advise me to find someone like her who will take care of me like she used to, however, that it will be hard, she says.I agreed. She asked if I was talking to anyone but I said I didn't want to rush into anything so in other words, I wasn't. She proceeded to keep bringing up how she felt and how bad I treated her, so I apologized again. I didn't do much to text other than just read and confirm that i could have done better.

She mentioned that she was only speaking to me cause I was very special to her and her sons life so she wanted to remain friends, though her boyfriend is very afraid that she would leave him for me and therefore he's gone through her phone to delete the hundreds of pictures we've had together - however - confirming that she still has them in her computer. We kept texting bit and throughout the conversation she kept focusing on how I treated her.

3 hours later she calls me to see how I was with my cold. Since it's been some time we haven't spoke over the phone, I took the chance to tell her she was making a mistake and how she knows deep in her heart that she still loves me. She didn't say anything but just listened (even when I told her that i know she's settling). I promised to send her pics for her son (who I was very close to).

Upon sending her my most recent pictures in Paris, she immediately said that I looked very happy which she seemed to be surprised about. Seconds later, she asked who I was with, who took the pictures even to mention that she knows i must be having sex, considering how good i was in bed. Even though i said that i kept thinking about her and haven't been ready to move on, she stayed on this topic for a while, claiming that i was such a ladies man and therefore can't picture me alone. I expressed to her that she could think whatever she wanted but since i already lost her, what point was there to lie.

We went on to talk about the baby and I sent her pics which she was grateful for and told me that our times together we're some of the best times of her life. We left on a positive note.

**Everything seemed to be working.

I got back to the US and reached out to her with my an attempt to see if we can meet. She immediately texted me that she needed to tell me something...that she was getting married and will be moving in with him soon.

Not really a surprise after everything but still shocking considering they've only been dating a month and a half and everything else's mentioned before in my first post.

I didn't respond to her message which prompted her within minutes to text me a series of messages of how I was being immature for not responding. An hour later she called me to talk (which I wasn't available to pick up) texting me saying she hoped that we could remain friends and treat each other with the same "sweetness" we always had with one another.

Since i never did respond, she then texted again stating that she understands and respects my decision to not respond but that "we" would have never worked out but that she had hoped that i wouldnt hold a grudge as she has indeed suffered a lot throughout our relationship and was "very committed in us, body and soul, to make me happy and love me forever".

I never responded to her. My friend is confident that she's settling with this other guy and she still must have feelings for me but at this point has made her decision and is hoping to remain friends in case her plan to marry doesn't work out.



Gemini's what is she doing exactly??

What a trainwreck 😄

What now.......is she going to let her "fiance" waiting at the aisle?

You are such a talented writer, Schenker....I enjoyed reading your story. Maybe you would like to publish someday?

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You are such a talented writer, Schenker....I enjoyed reading your story. Maybe you would like to publish someday?

You must be joking! I'm a horrible writer!

Sarcasm or not, thanks for your input 🙂

Im sorry to hear it came down to this. Only sorty because it seems you really liked her and you are hurting. But not totally sorry because you deserve better.

Be glad you tried, you made the effort. Thats all you can do.

I might be wrong but it seems she keeps her options open just in case. I go back to what I said before, Im sure she was in touch with the other guy while you were still together "just in case". Because she is on a getting married mission. It is not about you or the other guy, it is about securing a husband.

Hope you enjoyed Europe!

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Im sorry to hear it came down to this. Only sorty because it seems you really liked her and you are hurting. But not totally sorry because you deserve better.

Be glad you tried, you made the effort. Thats all you can do.

I might be wrong but it seems she keeps her options open just in case. I go back to what I said before, Im sure she was in touch with the other guy while you were still together "just in case". Because she is on a getting married mission. It is not about you or the other guy, it is about securing a husband.

Hope you enjoyed Europe!

Thanks and yes the trip was nice!

Especially Lisboa!

Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.

Posted by EveryOunce
Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.

Wow. Curious, are both kids from the same father? Thanks for your input.

she was heart broken and felt that you didn't accept her. a gem watches, internalizes then explodes. every word or action of the other person will be assigned some type of meaning....

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Posted by EveryOunce
Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.

Wow. Curious, are both kids from the same father? Thanks for your input.

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Two different fathers. The first one is a taurus that loves her til this day and raised both boys as his own. We all love him and hoped she'd someday marry him but she never gave him a second chance.

The second guy was not active in his sons life and died of a heart attack. She is a sweet person despite the things she has gone through. No man has ever been able to tame her and any engagements were short lived.

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Posted by EveryOunce
Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.

Wow. Curious, are both kids from the same father? Thanks for your input.

Two different fathers. The first one is a taurus that loves her til this day and raised both boys as his own. We all love him and hoped she'd someday marry him but she never gave him a second chance.

The second guy was not active in his sons life and died of a heart attack. She is a sweet person despite the things she has gone through. No man has ever been able to tame her and any engagements were short lived.

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Crazy