Have you ever cheated on your partner?

Question for EVERYONE!!!!!

Have you ever cheated?

Why do you think you cheated?

Do you belive that once a cheater always a cheater or can a person change his/her ways?

Do you still cheat now?

I cheated when I was in high school...

hey, i was only like 15 or 16 and I had 2 boyfriends but only one i had sex with and the other one was...just there

But i was young, naive, and thought that being a "player" would be fun for once in my life so I did it, not caring about whose feelings I was hurting

I regret it because now, i'm karma's bytch....

I was the same way I used to cheat when I was in high school. I havent cheated on anyone since I was 19 now.

I have been cheated on several times. So yes I do know what it feels like! Not fun.

I have learned my lesson and I have changed myself for the better..

Let me correct myself I actually thought about it and its been alot longer then that. I was around 17 the last time I cheated.

I've never cheated. I feel really bad when I even LOOK at another man the wrong way while I'm involved. If I ever get a wandering eye, I figure it's time to leave the relationship. Luckily, I've never had to dump someone because another guy came along. All of my break-ups were because of something stupid the other person did, or simply because I wasn't feeling them anymore.

I have been cheated on before. It didn't even hurt me. I wasn't sexually active with the guy, and at that point in my life I had the whole 'love sucks' mentality anyway, so I just kept moving with the wind. He and I are still friends today, but I'd never date him again.

"I feel really bad when I even LOOK at another man the wrong way while I'm involved."


lol, GEMiune .. my man wouldn't know what to do with you 🙂
He probably has fantasies about a woman who would gouge her eyes out for him, lol.

My philosophy is .. if I still have vision and breathing .. I'm looking, and if he's hot enough, I might even crane my neck to see his ass as he walks by.

Looking is NOT cheating... Touching is.

If you cant look where is the fun. Men look all the time. Respectful men do it descreatly. LOL

"Looking is NOT cheating... touching is."

VERY true. When I look at a man and just think he looks nice, that's fine. But when I look at a man and start thinking about things I should only think about with my s/o I feel bad, its like mentally cheating. I know for SURE that men look, and that's fine with me as long as its not in my face. Then we get into a battle over disrespect lol. But that's just my way. I don't feel comfortable in a relationship with a wandering mind. That's not fun to me.

But there's definitely nothing wrong with LOOKING. It's all the thinking that comes along with images that gets the Uh Oh ball rolling lol.

Gemini is observing.

Tet whats wrong with observing— 🙂

I observe all the time.

people might think diffrently....i find it good actually. I show interest this way.

Tet- If your with someone and your observing to get anothers attention. Sometimes that would be considered cheating or just plain leading them on. And thats not nice. It takes alot of courage or liquid balls, for someone to approch another.

Aight...here's a question for yuh...

do you consider going to a strip club while in a relationship, cheating?

Not if you are open about it.....

When I was dating my ex cap I went to the male strip club a couple times and mostly if he went which was never he would take me with him.
But we were always open about it. if it was a problem it would be addressed correctly.

Do you think its cheating?

... O_o I knew I shouldnt have read this. naa I dont think thats cheating. (altho I would be slightly upset if my partner went to a "Male Strip club") Forchenetly, I don't (and never have) dated anyone old enough to get into one. Or maybe I'm just not qualified to answer that. lol

mmm....Nah

but the question "Did he get her number, or did they take it further than what it was suppose to be?" will be in the back of my mind....

but i'm always expecting the worst so...

I do that to. Hope for the best but expect the worst. It doesnt hurt as much when you have already thought of it happening.

Getting numbers is definitly intent to cheat so ya that would definitly piss me off....

Joe the bull- When you are old enough to get into the strip clubs dont get mad if they go to a make strip club every woman has to experience it at one point in there life. It is fun......

Give and take..... 50/50 thats how a relationship will last a life time...

my partner should know me better.

well i m not a democrat... strip club. I think is a nonsense...but went to table dance last week because of a friend who is a addict.

I cheated on guys i wasn't really into.
But never cheated when i was happy and in love.

I cheated on guys i wasn't really into.
But never cheated when i was happy and in love.

I have cheated before in my younger days & I did it one because I could get away with it & two because it seemed there is much harder to be loyal to someone forever than it is to betray them.
I don't believe that once a cheater, always a cheater because cheating starts in the mindset. If you're 17 and cheat on 5 girls that doesn't mean when you're 53 you'll be an adultress. It depends on why you cheat. Some people cheat because they live by the "what one person won't do for you, another will" creed, while others might cheat out of revenge. I know personally, I cheated on my ex in high school because I thought he was cheating on me, but couldn't prove it. So to make myself feel better just in case I was to later find out he was being unfaithful, I cheated on him so that the pain wouldn't hurt as much & so that I wouldn't feel as guilty. And then, you've got the people who cheat just because that's all they're used to doing & these are generally the people that will always "have it in them" even if they find the love of their life.

BUT...I do believe that once you've cheated, you'll always have it IN you, especially if you're tied down to one person. The first time you cheat on someone it hurts the worst because it sets the scene for the rest of the relationship (The FIRST cut is the DEEPEST) & if forgivenss keeps a relationship together one person might cheat again just because they know their partner isn't going anywhere & another person who cheated might not do it again just because they are through taking risks).

Cheating goes way beyond TOUCHING. Yes, the obvious kissing, touching, & having oral or regular sex are the normal forms of cheating most cheaters carry out. BUT there is also EMOTIONAL CHEATING. For example, some men won't actually HAVE sex with another woman, BUT they might be emotionally attached to other women, which in my opinion is MORE dangerous.
For men, it seems like their relationships are less likely to work out when they are emotionally attached to another woman while in a relationship. But for women, we are the most angry when we've found out our man has a SEXUAL attraction to another man. Alot of men have told me that they weren't as mad when they found out their mates had sex with another men (after all, to alot of men sex is just sex & to them is no form of love) but when men cheat on their women, they want more details on the sexual attraction between her boyfriend and another woman

Alot of women don't realize that EMOTIONAL CHEATING (no touching) is just as bad as Physically cheating, and here's why. When a guy is with you & he's thinking about or fantasizing about another woman, it's only a matter of time before "something" happens, it just depends on what it's going to take. It's no different than a woman hooking up with a man who just got out of a relationship. He may be with the new woman but emotionally he's still hooked to his ex, which makes infidelity 10 times more likely to happen in his new relationship. Myspace.com & facebook.com are good examples of emotional cheating. Women are constantly investigating & realize that their men are emotionally cheating on them, writing to other women (regardless of whether or not they've met & actually had sex) & what bothers them so bad is that if the THOUGHTS are there, it's only a matter of time until the ACTIONS are there

Kry7 You are one very smart person and absolutly right.... I have experienced this thyp of emotional cheating and that is the part that hurts because in the end your the one that suffers giving everything to one person to find they are still talking to their ex gf. It takes a long time to regain trust after that..... 3 years and I was still insecure. I wont do that again to myself..

sometimes even mentally thinking of someone is worse than the actual act...

Been married 15 years to a wonderful man. I truly believe he is my soulmate.

No, I have NEVER cheated nor would I. Our marriage is far from perfect; we have our challenges as all couples do. And yes, like most red blooded women, there are some men who turn my head just as I know there are some women who turn my husband's head at times. But that's ok. It's human nature. As I told my husband, you can look but you can't touch. It's almost become a joke for us. When we said our vows back on July 17, 1998, we meant them.

Never cheated. I've been cheated by my first girlfriend so I realized very soon how painful it was and that I would never do that to anyone. I broke up with her and 5 years later she's still wanting to get back to me only understood what she lost when I jumped off. It's not just because of the sign but also because of experiences and values so when I'm with someone I'm faithful but for example right now that I'm single and after being for 5 years in serious relationships with that Cancer cheater (7 months) and with a Virgo girl (4 years and 2 months) I just want to flirt and have fun without compromises.

Nope, I've never cheated. Matter of fact, I can honestly say I don't even LOOK when I am truly in love. It's not a matter of forcing myself not to look, I simply don't notice any other men, my eyes are focused on the object of my heart.

Never..though Ive been cheated on and tossed aside like a used tissue.

I think Im too considerate emotionally to do something I know would hurt someone I care for.
I know the pain and anguish of being replaced, I cant do that to someone.I guess Im too nice.

Another reason why I dont allow myself to cheat, is because when I truly love someone I am extremely loyal and Im afraid that if I cheat I will love my partner lesser and lesser and I dont want that.

if a Gemini cheats on you, they never loved you in the first place. We dont cheat those we love, we will protect and fight for them with our lives.

I cheated once. To my last longterm ex of 4 years. We were semi distance (only saw eachother one weekend a month during the school year) but during the first 3 years I was fine, I didn't even think of another guy. The last year not only was communication slipping when apart, but when he would come in town he wouldn't want to do ANYTHING. He didn't want to be intimate with me, he would act like sex was a chore and maybe we could do it, "If I did all of the work" (his words). I also couldn't remember in a year he had not asked me go dutch on ANYTHING...minus my b-day and x-mas...


I told him how I felt multiple times, at least 6x during that year and even said the words "I'm thinking what it would be like to be with other guys" Nothing changed.

I got a little drunk one night and it happened. I broke it off with my ex the very next day and I told the other person I never wanted to see them again. Yes, I did put myself in the situation but I also had been drinking and after the movie I had told him I wanted him to take me home and he said I had to wait until the morning. After pushing him away 10x, I finally gave in. Too sleepy, drunk, and fed up.

There were other reasons why I broke up with my ex, but that was the main one. I felt I didn't deserve him, although he will never know that part.

I was physically and emotionally sick. I cried myself to sleep, would throw up constantly, nervous fluttery stomach. The thought of telling him and see his face in pain tore me up inside even though I didn't tell him and had already broken it off.

I was 22 and it was really the only person I had ever dated longterm and since high school.

Would I do it again? NOT IN A MILLION YEARS. It's normal to feel attraction to other people, but I would never put myself in another compromising situation...not even one on one interaction with the OS except in select situations (my longterm platonic friends, I had band practice etc today). And if I keep having thoughts like that, I would leave. Also, no more long distance relationships.

I do NOT believe "once a cheater, always a cheater." I think it depends entirely on the situation.