How long would a gemini man takes to get engaged

I'm a gem woman, so I dunno if my opinion would matter.... But, I was ready after about 2 years... I had to be sure this was it. Lol!

He, being 26, might not be ready for that kind of commitment. Now that I'm married, it not much different than just a relationship commitment, but it's more "permanent". Something I think a gems NEED to be ready for.

Hope this helps... 🙂

The Gem men I know that are married were in relationships for at least 2-3 years before they proposed to their wives.

So what he told you sounds about right.

My ex husband proposed after four months.

Way too fast.

Thank you everyone for your helpful inputs 🙂

And yes, I am a little insecure as I'm elder to him by two and a half years so I wanted a confirmation like official engagement .... I have no problem in marrying him later on .... but if after 2-3 yrs he leaves me or gets bored or finds another girl then I'd be left out in my 30's .... so these thoughts disturbs me inside.

I do trust him, his sincere nature & love ... but still gemini is an air sign & have a (bad) reputation of moving away fast ...

How would I know if he is actually seeing me as 'the one' ? I mean any behavioral signals ?
Please share 🙂

I didn't get married until this year. I'm almost mid 40s!

I don't regret it. Any of it. I still have another 40 years to enjoy life with him! I'm happy! 🙂

I understand you and I don't see it the same way, but just live and enjoy what you do have with him. Enjoy the moment. Life is too short not to.

I feel like I know gemini pretty well. I have lots of family and friends gems. So my take is you never want to push that button because if you do it will take you 10 steps back. Gems have to feel your solid and not controlling. If you are trying to push that button they will do the opposite. I don't always see gems being well put together to make the decision. Sometimes if you provide a secure environment that feels like home they get comfy. In a nutshell the gemini wants to do it when he/she wants to do it. They hate feeling smothered or pressured to do things.

I had a gemini female friend who used to like hanging with her Scorpio bf, but he started throwing the love bomb and it drove her crazy and she pushed him away. Most gemini women I know are not sentimental. She said she was dating f***ing cinderella. lol Again that smothering feeling.

Another thing if you are dead set on getting married and he won't do it, maybe he is not the guy for you. Don't ever compromise your values. You could tell him look marriage is something that is important to me and I don't want to waste any more precious time. I don't think this working for me and be firm on it. He may change his tune but if he doesn't than you will know he does not feel solid, safe, and in love with you. Sometimes the truth is not always pleasent.

If anything I know about gems they respect someone who stands up for themselves and their beliefs.

Whatever happens good luck.

Posted by Aliaa

.... but if after 2-3 yrs he leaves me or gets bored or finds another girl then I'd be left out in my 30's ....

wow .... it amazes me how shallow and immature people are.

You sound like you want an arrangement, rather than a loving man who believes you are special enough for him.

Posted by TokerX
Is this still going? Lol. 🙂 Ok I'm going to add some more: Gemini will settle down whenever it feels like it's gotten everything out of single life that it can (the like no regrets thing) and whenever it feels stable (financially, mentally, emotionally, whatever...).

^What he said. There has to be many layers of assurance, comfort, proof and security to convince us and that doesn't mean telling us what we want to hear. We can tell the difference. While you may think us Gems are the ones who sweet talk and tell you want to hear, you would be surprised how secure we need to feel before we can consider something serious like marriage. If you find one that doesn't take as long then chances are they are grounded by more than usual earth or water signs that makes them feel more grounded in their decision.

Posted by Aliaa
Hello friends, I just want to know if you are serious about your relationship how long would you generally take to get engaged ?
I'm a Pieces woman, and my Gemini guy is very happy and committed to me for about 9 months now, but when I asked him to get engaged he postponed it for like 2-3 years which made me little upset. He is 26, has a stable job, living on his own then what's the reason may be to not get engaged by an year, we can get married later on ...
Please share your views guys,
Thank you

He is too young to make that decision just yet. You need to consider that maybe he feels like he is just only established in said career and this is just the beginning. It's too soon to tie the knot and he may be too immature. I found throughout most of my 20's I was not ready for even a serious relationship. I was getting my career established and finding myself during that time and had many ups and downs, so it was a very unstable time and pushing it into the marriage realm only would have raised the commitment factors and increased much unneeded stress. I personally don't think marriage should be considered until you are in your 30's especially with air signs. It takes us a while to make up our minds what we really want out of life. It can take a while to settle down, especially if we feel our plans are not going well as we wanted them to. After that is said and done, then we ultimately have to consider what we really want out of life, find what love really is, feel grounded that we know that we know you are what we want and who we want to be with, FOREVER. If he is only now 26, and you were pushing him to marry you at 23 you were rushing things way too soon. When I was 23 I was into drinking, drugs and night life -having fun. That may not be him but he is still not ready and honestly, 9 months in the grand scheme of things is not very long. Why the need to rush. Enjoy each other. He wants to be sure.

Posted by Lust
Why rush? Married is full of responsibility: financially & emotionally. He is only 26, what if he fells bore with you 1 year later, and crave for another woman? than he will have to go through divorce thing. Divorce is more expensive than married.
It's only 9 mo and you already ask for engagement and getting upset too. Wouldn't you want a man to ask you instead? A woman sounds desperate when getting upset after asking a guy to marry her and he says not now.
Gemini uses logic, Pisces is very emotional being. So try to put his thought into a perspective instead you only want to satisfy your emotional needs.
To answer your q: gemini (or any air signs) like to think long and hard before getting married. It's all about logic, does it make sense to marry or know. Felling is important but not sooo important if you know what I mean.

Love how the reasonable deduction comes from a fellow air sign. She nailed it! 🙂