How to win a Gemini's trust or friendship back?

Let's just say I dated a Gemini guy and I messed up with a really huge lie that ruined our relationship. This relationship was back in the 7th and 8th grade so I was a kid, insecure, and most importantly very immature. I??ve told him the year after that event that I was sorry and he has forgave me, but like two-three years ago we stopped talking because of me not keeping contact basically. Lately I??ve been thinking about him so I added him on Facebook (he accepted the request) and now he is doing small talk with me...but then again it was a pretty random request. I don't necessarily want to win him back to be my boyfriend but I definitely want to move forward from the past. I don't want to be remembered as that young girl because I??ve changed a lot. So my question is how do I show him how much I changed and how I am worth being a friend? I wouldn't mind to start over a relationship (because I still have some feelings for him) but I believe friendships come first more than anything else and that is not my main goal anyway. Plus maybe we are just better off being friends if things don't kick off then that is alright I have no problem with that, but I really do miss him being in my life because we did have a lot of good moments.

I'm an Aquarius girl with a Scorpio Moon and my rising sign is Libra.


I would like to add that this is not a pride thing and I want to be his friend again, so in the end I rather be a friend then nothing.

I don't know your gemini friend..but let me say from my personal experiences and perspectives..

when I say that I have forgiven someone then I do really mean it..
it could mean either, though, of the following:

1. I indeed did forgive you and would like to reconsider starting a new.

2. I have forgiven you...but probably forgotten about you as well..in the process..i.e., you don't mean much to me any longer..so well..it that sense, the process of forgiving you happened but in the exchange of it...all possible ties are cut and I am not interested to pursue any further relationship (be it romantic, platonic, friend-ish) with you.


I have a few people who have once betrayed me..but it doesn't equal to 'I'm going to be friends with them again and develop something which used to be between us before the incident(betrayal, here)'
It could be purely that some person do not mean much to me so I can afford to keep them in my life...but at certain distance...doesn't mean that I will be unfriendly towards them or will not talk to them..
yes, I will even talk to them and joke around them, have some laughs with them..but that's that & all


forgive & forget...
the latter part is somewhat tricky..
the forget part could be.. forgetting about the deed itself (betrayal, lie, &.)
or could be..forgetting about the person who did the deed (along with the deed)


I cannot say with certainty since it's from own my experiences..but just hang around a bit and observe..it seems including me..gems are not really kind of people who string someone along..their behaviours will speak truth and volume

it's hard for me to hold grudges towards people for a long time..so better chances that your gem has forgiven you truly as he said himself..but beware of the forgetting part..if you wish to push things forward with him..more than a friendship

I'd reach out to him and first apologize for not staying in touch the past few years, invite him to coffee to catch up and go from there. Baby steps, you need to put those feelings from years ago aside to find out if you guys can even be true friends again. Then figure out if you have anything to try to build off of.

Since he accepted your apology the year after things happened no reason to bring it up almost 10 years later. Your 21... 7th/8th grade you where 12? If he didn't want to have contact or was bitter, he wouldn't have accepted the request.

My ex used to say "forgiven, no problem, its already forgotten". But, he would always throw it up in my face later on. He has a cancer moon, though, and that might be why, but no, he never let bygones be bygones.

I think you dont mention the past and continue to build the friendship from this point on. Of course, if you feel the need to address it you can bring it up lightly. Like start a remebrance game with him such as remember when so and so did this....then he brings one up. Go back and forth on a few more, then "remember when we were kids and I told you that stupid lie"...